Ian Weldon isn't a regular wedding photographer...in fact, he's not a wedding photographer at all.

The documentary photographer turns his lens to the pomp and pageantry of weddings without lining people up for traditional pictures.

"I didn't choose and underbelly of society and I didn’t choose social injustice. I chose Weddings, full of people and character and laughter and happiness and sadness and dancing and drinking, and Love," wrote Weldon on his website.

Weldon's book "I Am Not A Wedding Photographer" is now available for everybody who likes to see couples keep it real on their special day. Peep these Instagram highlights for his greatest hits.

1. The most glamorous wedgie.

2. Dads at weddings = dads at the mall.

3. Happy British people with happy British teeth.

4. The cream of the crop.

5. "I do...maybe."

6. Ya burnt.

7. It's a treat to see a bride eat.

8. What a drag.

9. When was your last confession, my son?

10. The circle of life.

11. All we are is dust in the wind.

12. Is this a toast or a roast?

13. Keeping it real.

14. Bootylicious.

15. Is that a hand in your pocket or are you happy to be getting married?

16. An unfortunate photobomb.

17. Paparazzi.

18. Ouch.

19. Multitasking.

20. Hair care.

21. Which way?

22. There is such a thing as too much confetti.

23. My attitude exactly.

We all make mistakes on the job sometimes. But these design fails, found in the Reddit community "crappy designs," take messing up on the job to a whole new level. Either the people who designed these things were drunk, high and/or asleep on the job, or they are evil geniuses who are trolling us all. Either way, the results are hilarious.

May I present 31 things that were really, really, really badly designed:

1) This bus that is looking at you.

2) This bookshelf for people who hate books.

3.) This shirt that belongs in prison with Jared from Subway.

4.) This nature magazine that hates nature.

5.) This post-gender bathroom set-up.

6.) This bleak ad for a graduation photographer.

7.) This ad for plus-size leggings that's never heard of plus-size models.

8.) This pizza parlor that forgot 9/11 is not a tourist attraction.

9.) This "security" gate that doubles as a ladder.

10.) This sliding door company that didn't take advantage of the staff discount.

11.) This mug that wants to help you rise and go blind!

12.) This poster that wants you to die dangerously.

13.) This bathroom stall for fans of pooping publicly.

14.) This mug that is NSFW and also not safe for drinking.

15.) This ad for a restaurant that might need a bigger apostrophe.

16.) This movie theater bathroom situation.

17.) This evening "dress" that you can never escape from.

18.) This single blind in a gynecologist's office.

19.) This hungry, hungry toilet bowl.

20.) This fatness center that is actually a fitness center, which is a lot less fun.

21.) This more-accurate-than-intended church sign.

22.) This nightlight to help kids be more afraid of Minny.

23.) This vaccination mascot suit that could turn smart people anti-vax.

24.) This reminder to keep your options (and butthole) open.

25.) This mirror-on-mirror crime.

26.) This reminder that order is everything.

27.) This ad for a university that promises to transform your life in all kinds of unexpected ways.

28.) This sh*tty bathroom design.

29.) This ominous sign.

30.) This Winnie the Pooh backpack.

31.) This anti-gay ad for gay pride.

Racism is so embedded in American systems that even having a name considered "black" can affect your job prospects. It's an awful bias to look in the face, but those affected by it don't have the privilege of ignoring it.

This racially charged name bias can present a deeply complicated decision for parents of black children. Do they strategically pick a name that will hit the top of resume piles to set their kid up for success? Or do you stick to your cultural convictions, all bigots be damned?

In a recent post on the Am I The *sshole subreddit, a black mother-to-be shared how she doesn't want to give her son a "black name" because she's afraid it'll make his life harder.

"AITA for shutting down "black" names because I think it'll make life harder on my kids?"

OP kicked off the post by sharing that she is mixed race (half black and half white) and her husband is black. They aren't positive about the gender of the child yet, but have been butting heads about potential boy names.

"My husband and I are having a baby. I'm mixed race, half black and half white. My husband is black. We don't know the gender yet but my husband prefers names that most people would call black names for boys. Names like Trayvon, DeVonte, Marquis, etc."

OP grew up with a name tied to black culture and has felt the ways it influenced people's perceptions of her, while her husband has a very generic name often given to white men.

"I grew up with a name that is tied to black culture and hated it for most of my life. I go by a shortened form of my name professionally (i.e Dee for Denaisha) because I have seen how people react to my government name. I am sure I have been passed up for jobs because of how people perceive my name."

Because of their different experiences, OP wants to pick a more generic boy name, while her husband believes racism will exist no matter what - so might as well give their son something culturally strong.

"My husband has a name more commonly used for white boys (i.e Jake). He wants a strong black name for our son because he never had that and believes that giving him a "white" name to avoid racism isn't helping anyone. I don't disagree but don't want to use our son as a test dummy to change that."

Both of them can understand each other's perspective, which makes the decision making process even more difficult. This is, of course, why the opinions of Reddit are requested.

"This has become a battle. I know that we both need to agree on a baby name but AITA for writing off all black names?"

Acatinmylap suggests they do both.

"NAH. You both have perfectly valid points. Why not give him one as a first and one as a middle name, that way they'll both be his legal names and he can make his own choice when he's old enough to understand."

AeternusDoleo also suggested choosing a generic nickname.

"That or give him a name that can easily be shortened. IE "Marquis" can just become Marc. This is quite common, Bartholomew becomes Bart, Charles becomes Chuck, and Richard becomes... well, the butt of many jokes."

"It is true that there is a bias against those half-french names, but it isn't so much racial as that it is cultural. When you can't even pronounce the name, it gives the feeling there'll be communication issues with the person. This isn't a concious bias. But yea, agree with Acatinmylap, you both have valid points and should both agree on something."

womp-womp-rats suggested they name him after a historical black figure with a relatively fluid name.

"NAH. Both have valid points. Maybe suggest a name that has a strong association with proud, powerful and inspirational black figures but that isn’t (for lack of a better term) “definitionally” black? Like maybe Nelson or Martin or Malcolm or Desmond or somesuch?"

PM_UR_FELINES suggested they compromise with a French name.

"Could you agree on a French name? Many “traditionally black” names are French in origin (eg: Monique, Andre) If not, consider pulling the “I lived this” card. He didn’t experience having one of these names, but you did. It sucked, and you don’t want that for your child."

"Also, offer the middle name. You can even CALL your child that name, but they will still have a legal name that isn’t as controversial. NAH."

Luckily for both OP and her husband, there are a lot of great possible compromises they can make so that neither of them feel

"And she loved a little boy very, very much—even more than she loved herself."

-Shel Silverstein

Raising boys is messy and hilarious just like this list. If you have sons, you will definitely relate to these spot on memes about the struggles and joys of being a boy mom.

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Tim Tam talked again, and I regret to inform you that your ancestors are "sh*tty" people.

Fox News and Toothpick You Forgot To Remove Frm Your Sandwich That Pokes The Top Of Your Mouth When You Take A Bite Tomi Lahren gets paid to spew vitriol about people of color. Her latest hot take is that immigrants who journey to America fleeing persecution are "sh*tty parents," which is bad news for the pilgrims and the Founding Fathers.

"If you traipse your kid 2,000 miles in dangerous conditions you're not only a criminal, you're a shitty parent," Tornado said of the Central Americans seeking asylum on the southern border.

Truly savage for a self-righteous Christian to drag the Virgin Mary like that. And Moses. And Joseph in both the Old Testament and the New.

A collective dunk on the callous approach to human suffering is the national pastime for everyone who is capable of empathy.

Chris Evans, Captain America himself, called out Timmy's "complete lack of sympathy, respect, and general awareness."

Tauntaun replied and quoted Barack Obama, who we are told is the devil, except when it comes to his conservative immigration policies.

You heard it here first: Tomi Lahren thinks that Barack Obama is good.

The thing about the internet is anyone—literally anyone—can use it to express their opinions. There's no vetting process. There's no paperwork required. No preparatory education. All of these unfounded opinions are just spewed out there into the universe. And sometimes the very worst opinions are the ones that get the most attention, i.e. when racists criticized the black Little Mermaid or when men explain to women how periods work.

A recent example of a bad opinion going viral is brought to us by a guy named Hunter Drew who labels himself as a "patriarch." Reading his bio and just a few of his tweets lets you know right away this is a guy whose opinions should be taken with about a million grains of salt. Nonetheless, his recent tweet about ten things women should do to "be a better mother" got under the collective internet's skin.

His list reads:

- Be feminine

- Wear dresses

- Don’t hit your kids

- Enforce boundaries

- Be physically active

- Don’t tease your kids

- Cook your family’s meals

- Don’t call your children names

- Do not get drunk in front of them

- Show up to their games *& cheer*

It's pretty clear this guy's opinions come from a place of sexism and anger at women and it should come as no surprise he recently posted a photo of a MAGA hat that reads "Make Women Great Again." As many pointed out in the replies, his tweet also reads as a pretty thinly-veiled list of complaints about his own mother. It's important to remember that this sexist bearded dude was, at one point, a scared, sad, neglected little boy. But he's a man now, so it's definitely fair game to @ him and his god-awful opinions. And that's what thousands of people did.

The list was quickly "ratio'd" with thousands of responses roasting and skewering this guy and his sexist attitudes towards women and motherhood.

Here are some of the highlights:

(Unfortunately, it's not a joke, unless it's a satirical long-con—in which case this is the most dedicated troll of all time!)

Many are noting that he probably had a pretty sh*tty childhood and past.

While others are pointing out that you don't get to give advice on being a mom unless you are one.

And others are offering their own much better parenting advice.

Even Patricia Arquette has weighed in.

Good work, the internet! Hopefully this guy gets the lesson and therapy he so clearly needs. But let's be honest, he's probably just going to ignore these replies, put on his MAGA hat and go shoot some squirrels—but first he'll give them a lecture on how to be better squirrels.

People are losing their sh*t over Jessica Simpson's daughter's hair color, because we don't have anything more important to worry about.

The brouhaha is taking place over on Instagram, where everyone's fourth or fifth favorite 2000s pop princess and current favorite discount shoe designer posted a photo of her cute daughter, Maxwell Drew Johnson, 7. Maxwell is rocking some new purple tips on the end of her hair.

Jess herself says in the caption that the tips were "inspired by the Descendants." She's not talking about the 1977 California punk band or the 2011 Hawaiian George Clooney/Shailene Woodley film. She's talking about a Disney film where everyone looks like the Lost Boys from "Hook."

The Descendants' Instagram account appreciated the free spon, for what it's worth (and it's probably worth a lot... Jess should have locked down that #ad money before posting!).

But other than that, the criticism came fast and hard. One person criticized the shoe mogul for putting her daughter "out there for all the wrong reasons," which seems more like an indictment of parenting on social media.

Another concern-trolled about her hair quality — despite the fact that Maxwell has miles and miles of undyed hair on her head and can snip off the purple tips any time. As someone who basically dunks her head in a gallon of bleach every three weeks, I assure you this is basically the tamest dye job in history.

This lady's comment sounds like the text your boomer parent sends you alongside a photo of a jury duty notice:

All in all, people had negative opinions and weren't afraid to share them.

One lady even criticized the hair dye itself.

But for every negative comment, there was a positive one. Plenty of people stood up for Jess and told the haters to eff off.

Even Jessica Simpson's mom, who you may remember from standing around in the background of "Newlyweds" in a Juicy tracksuit, got in on it.

So there you have it. And regardless of what the haters say, Maxwell Drew's net worth is still probably higher than all these commenters combined.

"Hearty laughter is a good way to jog internally without having to go outdoors."

-Norman Cousins

Get your morning workout on by laughing at these utterly random memes. Those 6-pack abs are just a few (thousand) laughs away.

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On Wednesday night, the second group of Democratic candidates took the CNN stage in Detroit, Michigan for night two of debates.

Wednesday's debate featured the likes of Joe Biden, Kamala Harris, Bill de Blasio, Jay Inslee, Andrew Yang, Cory Booker, Julián Castro, Tulsi Gabbard, Kirsten Gillibrand, and Michael Bennet. Much like Tuesday night's debate, the second night was a packed stage with hardly enough time to pass the mic to all the contenders, but there were still some notable moments.

For one, when Booker began his opening statement protesters interrupted with a chant "Fire Pantaleo" - a chant directed at De Blasio for not firing the cop who killed Eric Garner.

Yang earned himself applause and meme status when he called himself "opposite of Donald Trump, an Asian man who likes math."

Gillibrand also fed countless tweets when she said the first thing she'd do as president is "clorox the oval office."

And apparently, Biden asked Harris to "go easy" before the debate due to their obvious headbutting during the first debate. She did not go easy. In fact, she was far from alone, due to his status as former Vice President, Biden was the common target for all of the candidates. To make matters worse, his ending plug for his website came out like a series of numbers, an indecipherable code that people immediately roasted.

Since tweets are truly the real cliff notes of our time, I have gathered some of the funniest tweets about night two of this week's debates.

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The choice to have children is a complicated one.

Some people know immediately when it is the right time for them to start a family while others go back and forth wondering if kids are worth giving up the freedom to stay out until 3 AM singing karaoke on a Tuesday.

Having children completely changes your life, your routine, your home, your freedom, and your finances. They're a lifelong responsibility and that responsibility shifts and grows from changing diapers to walking them down the aisle to helping them with their own children.

Many people advise that if you're not sure about kids, you probably shouldn't have them. However, because there's such a limited window on the time when we can have children, some people worry that if they don't have them, the regret will haunt them. Life isn't fair!

So, when a recent Reddit user asked, "Older couples that decided to not have children... how do you feel about your decision now that years have passed?" the answers were definitely interesting. While you usually hear parents say things like "I can't imagine my life without my kids," or "I've never loved anything more than my kids," it's not as often you get to hear couples who chose not to have children confidently say they have no regrets...

1. This is wise, "Oenonaut."

For my spouse, I can only say that they have physical and psychological issues that they've mentioned that they'd rather not pass on to a child.

For myself, I've always said that while I'm occasionally afraid that someday I might regret not having children, that's not the same as wanting children, and that's an important difference to me. I have my own reasons to believe I'd probably not be a good parent.

Yeah, we both get concerned sometimes whether anyone will be arsed to care about the sole survivor once the other's gone or incapacitated. But this thought is the result of our decisions, not a basis for changing our minds about having kids, which we will not. Having kids or not is no guarantee that you’ll end up cared for or not anyway, though it does probably move the needle on your odds.

2. Being a good parent is key, "Metatron_Fallen."

I'm not a couple, just a person. I've been in lots of relationships and was married twice. I would not have made a good parent. Regret sometimes I wasn't born into a different life, but given the cards I was dealt... I think I made the right choice in that department and have no regrets.

3. Zero regrets! "MoiraCousland."

My husband & I are in our 50s & have been married 19 years. We both grew up with abusive dads, were the “smart kid” in the family, got the hell out ASAP, worked our way through college & made something of ourselves before meeting & getting married. A lot of common ground & we’ve built a strong, rock-solid marriage.

We considered having kids, but after working so hard on healing from the childhood abuse & escaping the cycle of poverty we grew up in, we decided long ago that just the two of us was enough. We still consider ourselves a family and we’ve been really happy with our life together. Our home is peaceful & that’s the thing we care about the most.

If I had to choose now, knowing what I do, between becoming a mother & having the marriage & home life I now enjoy, it’s absolutely no contest. Zero regrets.

4. It IS normal to not want kids, "piskie."

We've been married twenty years. We are both 50. Neither of us wanted to bring children into our family.

I spent a WONDERFUL afternoon with my 16 year old niece yesterday. We talked about her boyfriend, picked blackberries and discovered a woodland clam [fingernail mussel] living in a mud puddle [vernal pool] in the woods, which we named Fred. It was magical. I just adore her.

Not having kids is just as normal as wanting kids, I've always felt.

5. Adventures are key! "grahag."

Been married for 21 years and initially we tried to have kids but found out that it was going to be hard to do. Wife was heartbroken at first, but I was somewhat relieved. It's a lot of responsibility and your life changes to accommodate a child.

Over the years, wife has actually said a few times that she was glad we didn't have kids because we couldn't have had the adventures we did. I feel like it was the right choice and we're better off due to not having kids. We love our life and are continuing our adventures now in our 50's and we're starting to make plans for retirement.

6. Relying on the robots is a great plan, "Doctorjimmy."

I go back and forth. My SO has some significant mental health issues and I know that I would be alone doing much of the emotional labor of raising a child, and I know I'm not really capable of doing it alone. Sometimes I worry very much about what I will do when I am old. I'm an introvert and dont have many friends and am not overly likable, so I assume I will be alone. I just hope that there are some kind robots to take care of me, and that I'll die before the robots turn on us.

7. Yup! "pterelas."

No regrets. Not everyone wants them, and if you're not sure, it's best to hold off. Having ambivalent (or worse) parents does a real number on a kids self esteem.

8. This is adorable, "dailydonuts16."

I have a professor at my university who has been married to his wife for 50 years, and they have no children. He calls us his children and always talks about how he and his wife are inseparable. He's a really eccentric and energetic guy, even in his 70's. He gives out candy to the entire class before every lecture he gives.

He seems like he truly loves life and has no regrets about not having any children.

9. Finding the right person is so important, "shapeofthings."

I wanted them but never met the right person. I'm REALLY glad I didnt have any of my previous partners- they would either have made terrible mothers or we just did not make for a healthy couple.
I have the perfect partner now, and she did fall pregnant, but we lost the baby to Dandy Walker syndrome. Getting a bit too old to try again now. I am very upset that I will not have children, but I don't regret not having children with anyone but my current partner.

10. You have to know your limits! "RaspyToZen."

I’m 60 now, been married for 29 years. God did not provide me with the proper temperament to raise children. Have never regretted our decision to be child free. We’re good 👍🏻.

11. A+, "Intersectaquirer."

My wife and I have been married for 12 years - I am 36 and she is 40, so, yeah, likely not in the cards. It is a reality that, while tough, I am slowly learning to accept.

I realized that as a guy, I always look at having kids with rose-colored glasses - ball games, working on my classic car with them, dad jokes, the fun stuff. That's easy for me as it's not my body and sacrifice. My wife is not on board and it's her body and I love and respect her too much to force her hand. If either one of us are not 100% ok with a major decision, we don't do it, end of discussion.

I look forward to spoiling my nieces and nephews and spending more time with my wife and continuing to make our world about us, forever.

12. Gotta have that mommy gene, "MoonieNine."

I'm a 49 year old female and have never regretted my decision to not have kids. I think I've always been missing the mommy gene. I like not having the responsibilities and obligations (and expenses!) that go along with having kids.

13. F*cking up another human accidentally is a definite fear, "modernchic1977."

My husband and I have been together for 27 years, and we originally said we didn't want kids. Then we thought we should have some, and tried for a decade with no luck. So we had a serious talk, and decided we didn't really want them after all, and stopped trying. Now that the pressure is off and we both feel nothing but relief, we are enjoying life so much. It's wonderful to just be selfish without having to make excuses or feel resentful and be able to travel on our own schedule and make decisions that just impact us. If we could have had kids naturally, no harm, no foul, and we would have loved and accepted them, but it didn't happen, so no worries. And we also don't have to worry about f*cking up another human accidentally. Life is good, and we have the finances and resources to take care of ourselves. The only negative is that we are both the end of the line for our genetic ancestors. But that doesn't seem like a good enough reason to try the crazy fertility treatments beyond what we already did.

14. EXACTLY, "toppup."

Every kid I don't have is like $186,000 I don't need to make.

15. Do what feels right! "jjz."

I always thought I'd wake up one day and be clucky and ready to start a family. That day never came and I'm pushing 50 now so I've missed my chance.

I sometimes wonder if I made a mistake not having kids but its not something i really regret.

On the plus side, I am looking at retiring with a 6 figure income at 52, regularly donate and do charity work. In-fact I am looking at starting my own charity at the end of the year to dedicate more time to when I retire.

In some ways not having children has/will allow me to help more people than just my immediate family.

My suggestion is do what feels right, either way its a big decision that only you and your partner should make.

16. Well done, "dalek_999."

Mid-40s, married for 22 years. No regrets. We’re both extremely happy - we have a great marriage, fulfilling jobs, money (and time) for all the fun things we want to do, and as much travel as we want (currently on week 6 of a 7 week road trip). I have never felt a lack in my life for not having children, and have always felt that having children would be detrimental to my happiness. I’m sure it’s great for those that actually want kids, but I’ve never been one of those people.

I also have around 16 nieces and nephews, so we get to sort of experience that whole "having a kid" thing for a week or two at a time...and then send them home, which works out perfectly.

Our two cats and one dog are as close to having kids that we will ever have, and trust me - that’s about as much responsibility for someone else’s life as we should be given. I love our pets, but having a dog has very firmly shown me that it’s a good thing we never had kids.

The "Am I The Asshole?" forum is the modern day equivalent of going to a priest for Confession, even as the Hot Priest from Fleabag has inspired many to fantasize about the Confession Booth. Rather than seek absolution from a clergyman (and therefore, god), people seek absolution on Reddit, and their stories are fascinating to peek into.

The latest scandalous, allegedly real tale comes from ReadyMaintenance, who is concerned whether they are an a-hole for telling his or her brother that he was product of an affair.

Here's the backstory:

My mom discovered my dad was cheating when I was 15. They divorced, my dad married the woman who was then-pregnant with the child they had conceived through the affair. Over time, my momforgave them and I did too. I’m not all buddy buddy with my step-mom but I don’t hate her like I did when I was a teenager. I also love my brother that came from that relationship to bits and pieces. He’s now 20, I am 35. We are very close, despite our age gap. He had no idea of what happened to cause his conception or his parents getting together.

The kid is either bad at math, or doesn't spend time thinking about his parents doing it. It's probably the latter.

Now it was discovered that the brother's mother—and the original poster's stepmom—was cheating on their dad.

Recently, it came out that my step-mom has been having an affair. It was very public, very nasty and overall just very dramatic. My brother is so upset and was constantly at my place, ranting about how his mom was so terrible and "how could she do this to Dad? Why was Dad staying with her?" He was a mess and I was trying to console him. After a few visits he asked why I was so calm. I blew it off and said "Well, she’s not my mom" and he said "Yeah, but it’s your dad." I said he could handle himself. He pressed saying from the minute I found out, I didn’t seem surprised. I just ignored him and tried to go on, but he was being pushy. He brought it up over a few days and started asking if his mom had cheated in the past, I said to ask her. He said she wouldn’t discuss it. I said, ask Dad then. He won’t either. "Fine, then let’s discuss something else." No, he wanted to know. After a week at least of him not letting the subject drop, I finally told him. I said I didn’t know if she had cheated on our dad, but that she had helped my dad cheat on my mom. I didn’t add that’s how he was conceived, I didn’t put in a timeline (he doesn’t know when my parents divorced so he won’t be able to put it together). I said, it was all in the past. He said clearly not, as she was still doing it.

The brother seems to be taking it in stride, but now their dad is super angry.

My dad is pissed at me, saying I had no right to say it. I said he wouldn’t stop asking and it’s not as if he has a squeaky clean image of his mom right now as it is. My brother’s not even mad at my dad right now, just his mom and I have been trying to convince him to just calm down and talk to her.

Was I an ass for exposing this?

Reddit Court has adjourned, and the majority opinion is that ReadyMaintenance is innocent of assholery.

Judge yourturnAJ with the majority opinion (1,200 upvotes):

[Not the Asshole] Your dad cheated on your mom with your stepmom, and your dad is surprised that his shitty choice is coming back to bite him when his new wife (the stepmom) is revealed to be having an affair? Essentially, history just repeated itself. You are nothing other than a person stuck in the middle of adults acting like children. Nothing more, nothing less.

When a commenter accused the poster of being "a-hole adjacent" for "laying the bait," they added some context.

"My brother started the entire conversation by asking why I was calm, then asked if it had happened before?" ReadyMaintenance wrote. "Should i have pretended to be shocked?"

It's a shame that the sibling had to step up and do what the boy (well, 20-year-old's) parents wouldn't do. Their dad had two decades to address it on his own terms, but when an adult is asking, it's better not to lie.

The verdict: NOT THE ASSHOLE.

A 27-year-old woman recently took to Reddit to share her moral quandary: her 16-year-old little sister wants to have a "coming out as straight party." The woman emphasizes that she would've been "happy and supportive" if her sister was LGBTQ. The problem: she's not.

The teen claims that her intentions are good and that she is trying to "destigmatize coming out" and do her part as a "LGBTQ+ ally." But since she's straight, her big sister finds the whole concept "insincere and disingenuous."

Big sis writes:

I am 27f, my sister is 16 (almost 17). She lives with our parents and has always been very .... Lively ....

She announced a month ago that for her birthday in July she was going to have a "special" celebration. She and I have always been close, so I pumped her for more details. She eventually admit it was a "coming out" party.

Normal I would have been happy and supportive, but she had been dating the same guy since she was 13, so I was confused. Was she coming out as Bi? Trans didn't make sense because she has always been a girly girl, but I guess not impossible.

Her little sister wants to keep the "coming out" aspect of the party a "surprise," but the woman found out the truth from the teen's best friend. She finds the whole idea "attention-seeking and stupid."

She continues:

She wouldn't give me details. It was "part of the surprise". It's 3 weeks before the party, and her best friend and I are talking (I get that for some people, it's weird that I'm close to my sister's friends. But she is also very close to mine, we're just one of those kinds of families. Despite our age gap, we are both very close), and she lets me know that this party is actually a "coming out as straight party". I instantly became completely enraged, I thought it was so insincere and disingenuous. It just all came across as very attention-seeking and stupid. I told her best friend as such, and her best friend immediately got angry with me for not seeing that it was my sister's job as an lgbtq + Ally to do her part and destigmatize coming out ....

The woman cites her age (10 years older than her sister) as a possible explanation for their divergent opinions on this issue.

Apparently the reasoning is that if "everyone" were to have a coming out party in their teen years, then "eventually coming out won't be such a trauma" for LGBTQ+ teens.

She writes:

So here's where the part of our age Gap comes into play, I know that I am 10 years older than her, so sometimes I'm not totally "with it", but this seemed super disrespectful to me for what people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, everything else have to go through .... The way it was explained to me though is that by everyone having a coming out party between the time that they are 16 and 18, eventually coming out won't be such a trauma for those who have "alternative sexualities".

The woman wants to let her sister know that "what she's doing is wrong" and "taking advantage" of the LGBTQ+ community. But the sister's BFF said her lack of support would be a "major bummer" for the teen.

She writes:

Her best friend has asked me to please not talk to her about it because she's super duper excited about the party and having her sister not support her would be a "major bummer". I feel like it's my job to let her know that what she's doing is wrong and taking advantage of a community that historically has been super duper taken advantage of .... But that doesn't seem to be the way that her friends are taking it. Am I in the wrong?

So she turned to Reddit to find out if she's "in the wrong." She also clarified that she knows her sister is "trying to help":

just to be clear, I love my sister. I know that if she is sincere about this, she's doing it with a "woke" attitude and she really does believe that what she's doing is to help. If I'm NTA, I don't know how to convince her that she is, cuz I sincerely think she is trying to do her best.

The majority of commenters agree with the woman that her teen sister's "coming out as straight" party is a bad idea.

InvincibleChutzpah, who is queer, sums it up nicely:

NTA [Not the A**hole]

I’m a queer woman and her straight coming out party is the dumbest, most obnoxious thing I’ve ever heard of. She’s treating this like it’s a fun party. It’s not. Coming out is f*cking terrifying because you risk a lot every time you do it. There are literally children who are homeless because they came out to their bigot parents. I live in a conservative southern state, there are coworkers who I know I can never come out to because of the hate and filth they could reign down upon me. Coming out to the wrong person could literally ruin my career.

Coming out is not a singular event. Every time a new person enters my life, I have to decide whether it’s safe to come out. New boss? When they ask about my husband, do I tell them I actually have a wife? My parents best friends invited me to a birthday bbq next month, I know their conservative family will be there. Do I bring my wife and hope nothing happens?

I come out every day of my life. I stay in the closet every day too. Her party minimizes a very serious part of LGBTQ existence to a college age boozefest. I see what she’s trying to do, but she’s doing it the wrong way.

Tell your sister that if she wants a true “coming out” experience, she needs to prepare for people to criticize and demean her. Welcome her to the real world where coming out of the closet isn’t sunshine and Jell-O shots.

And PeachesNCake writes:

Everyone has a cringe memory from when they were 16 years old that will haunt them forever. This party will be hers.

You should probably tell her what you know. Her friend just doesn’t want to be in trouble for telling a secret, but whatever. Tell her “straight pride” antics, like straight pride parades, are usually done by people who are anti-gay and most people are going to misinterpreting her joke. If she is in fact anti-gay, that’s a whole different conversation. (Edit : sorry, I reread and it doesn’t seem like she is anti-lgbtq)

If you want to be more subtle, you can say something like “look at this weird thing I just read about”... and show her an article criticizing straight pride parades. She might take the information better from a neutral source instead of her buzz-kill big sister (I’m also a buzz-kill big sister)

TheGlennDavid agrees, while trying to keep an open mind:

NTA [Not the A**hole]

The f*ck is this? You can't "come out" of closet you've never been in, especially when you're "coming out" into the thing that everyone assumes you are anyway. No. This is just "I saw coming out parties on Instagram and I WANT ONE TOO"......Ally my ass.

Edit: I tried to imagine this in a not stupid way and this is what I came up with.....

If everyone who was straight "came out" as straight, it would normalize "declarations of sexuality" which would reduce the sense of "otherness" that the LGBTQ feels and remove the idea that heterosexuality is the "default" setting.

I still say it's dumb.

In a utopia, no one would have to "come out" of the closet, because there would be no closet. But in the non-utopian world we live in, heterosexuality is still considered the "norm" and most people who fall in the LGBTQ spectrum still face a different set of pressures and experiences that straight people wouldn't understand. So for this girl to co-opt the "coming out" experience at this point in history is more disrespectful and self-serving than productive and helpful, as many commenters eloquently pointed out.

Straight women have already taken over pride parades and gay bars. And now they also want to take "coming out"? Please, nobody mention this idea to Taylor Swift.

LinkedIn can be a pretty weird place...

While it's mostly used for networking and job searches, sometimes people treat it like Tinder. Or, in this young woman's case--a roast battle?

Stephanie Suarez, who works for NASA, was minding her own business being a space genius...

...when a monster of a man, an engineer at Chevron, decided to message her on LinkedIn.

Tattoos and fun hair colors no longer prevent people from getting jobs in certain fields. This woman is clearly qualified and gainfully employed--why would he feel the need to attack her style? Does having dyed hair prevent her brain from solving NASA's scientific problems? Nope.

Also, "a waiter from Midtown?" Is being a waiter a huge insult because most restaurants won't hire you unless you're conventionally attractive. This is insulting, classist and problematic on so many levels.

Lucky for us, Suarez continued to tell us what happened when a woman asked why he started the conversation with a demeaning neg:

This guy's LinkedIn flirting game is so weak. Why would you insult someone and then bother to throw in the "Sorry. Just being frank?" YOU'RE NOT SORRY, DUDE.

Of course, the internet was there for Stephanie.

She even did some sleuthing:

Great job, Stephanie! Keep being the fabulous STEM woman you are.

Our bodies are wondrous meat machines that allow us to live beautiful and terrifying lives, but they are also a bit gross at times. Even the most lucky among us have been betrayed by our leaky bodies at one point or another, maybe it was a stray whiff of gas during the silent pause of a first date, or a badly timed sneeze on a packed out train.

Whatever the circumstances, it never feels good to be reminded that your body is essentially a collage of weird bacteria colonies battling over whether you get to suffer or thrive.

In a recent post on the subreddit Am I The *sshole, a man shared the unfortunate story of how he pooped his pants at his brother's wedding, and the emotional fallout that has followed.

"AITA for sh*tting myself at my brother’s wedding?

Not a sh*t post, a post discussing sh*t yes, but not a sh*tpost. God I wish it was."

OP's tragic story all started out as his brother's beach wedding, where he felt cramps come on but miscalculated the severity.

"My brother proposed to his girlfriend of a few years last year, the wedding was 2 weeks ago. Ceremony was held on the beach, we planned to move to a hall just up the road we had booked for the reception afterwards. Before the ceremony formally started I felt rather unwell and had cramps in my stomach, this is when I realized I needed to sh*t."

He figured all would be fine, because he could drive home after the ceremony to do his business and head to the reception.

But mostly, he didn't want to use the gross beach bathrooms even though his girlfriend urged him to.

"Not a big deal, I can hold a sh*t in. After about a minute of these cramps I was in a fair bit of pain and both my dad and my girlfriend who I was sitting next to advised me to go to the toilet as there was still a few minutes until we started the ceremony, and my brother would wait for my anyway. I didn't want to go into one of those public toilets on the beach as they're normally filthy, I would just wait until the ceremony ended, then drive back to my place which was about a 5 minute drive, then head to the reception hall."

Unfortunately for everyone in the basic vicinity, OP was not able to hold in his sickness, and it made a loud smelly scene during the ceremony.

This was, of course, followed by a sprint of shame to the public bathroom he previously avoided.

"It was obvious I was in genuine pain and discomfort and they kept telling me to just use the public one, I really f*cking wish I had. The ceremony started, and less than 10 seconds after the officiant started speaking, I had a huge fart I needed to let out. You know when you try to let a lot of gas out gradually and silently? This worked for a second, and then I convulsed from my stomach pain, and violently shat myself. Everyone within a couple metres heard it, and smelt it, and after a few seconds everyone knew what had just happened. I was gagging and sprinting towards the toilet trying not to vomit from the thought of what I had just done."

OP stripped down out of his clothes and attempted to clean himself in a beach shower, before his girlfriend whisked him away to the house where he could shower and change before returning to the ceremony.

The groom, being a loving brother, patiently waited for OP to return before continuing with the vows. But this made the scene a bit more awkward, since it was obvious who they were waiting for.

"I took all my clothes off, tried my best to clean myself and just sat in a cubicle and cried for a few minutes. I had no idea what to do. Girlfriend drove me home and I had a shower and got some new clothes on, it had been 30 minutes now and they still hadn't started. Me and my brother have a very good relationship and he wasn't passing any judgment, and refused to start without me there. As soon as I was there I sat back down and no-one looked at me, just pretended it didn't happen."

While OP's brother completely understands how merciless bodies can be, his new sister-in-law and her family are now livid at him for tainting the ceremony.

"The ceremony went well from that part forward, and we went to the reception. His now wife and her parents were giving me dirty looks and I just went home straight away and cried some more. Later that night received a bunch of angry texts from his wife and her parents, and my own father. Telling me I had completely ruined the wedding and that I was disgusting and should have gone beforehand. My brother's wife is constantly upset that her wedding will forever be remembered as 'that wedding where my brother in law sh*t his f*cking pants'. She hates me for it."

OP had no idea it was going to happen, but now regrets not excusing himself earlier when he was told to - before the ceremony started.

"I have not sh*t my pants before, this is not a common thing for me so no, I did not expect that stomach cramps meant I was going to sh*t myself. I should've gone to the toilet beforehand but I didn't want to hold up the ceremony, AITA?"

ZeusMN85 doesn't blame OP for what happened.

"NTA. The only asshole here is your literal asshole for failing you when you needed it most."

The-Confused-Won thinks OP is a bit to blame, since he didn't excuse himself earlier.

"I disagree. OP is a bit of an *sshole. He should have either used the public restroom or excused himself and went home to use the bathroom if he knew he was in pain. The bride's anger is justified. I'd be so mad if this occurred during my wedding because weddings are expensive and be about the couple. You made their special day less about them and more about your incident. Guests are going to remember your incident more than any moment of the wedding."

pansyleaf1 thinks OP is the *sshole since the whole scene could've been avoided if he'd sucked it up and used the public bathroom.

"YTA? I think? If you knew you were in THAT much pain you should’ve sucked it up and just used the public toilet. It would be one thing if it was out of nowhere, but you knew you had to go bad and were even told to and that they would wait for you. Don’t chance it next time"

RunningTriSarahtop doesn't think OP was an *sshole, but does think he should do something nice to make it up to his sister-in-law.

"You’re certainly a bit of a dumb *ss. If you’re feeling sick go, gross bathroom or no. Stubborn doesn’t beat diarrhea."

"I’m so sorry. I feel so bad for you and for everyone at the wedding. I don’t know how to vote for this one. His wife sort of sucks for being nasty but I do feel bad for her (worse for you, but still bad for her). Her parents suck for involving themselves."

"Apologize really nicely as you would for disrupting a wedding- you were sick and didn’t mean it but still, apologize. Buy them a really nice dinner out. Maybe offer to pay for a few prints from their wedding photographer? A way to focus on nicer memories?"

paper_based_girl thinks it was all totally avoidable.

"YTA. Holding your sh*t in and refusing to go to the bathroom until you sh*t yourself is something a toddler does, not a grown *ss man. You so easily could have avoided this situation, and you made the situation uncomfortable for everyone involved."

Whether OP was in the wrong or not, it's clear that at the end of the day this was a sh*tty situation for everyone involved.

"We provoke a shark every time we enter the water where sharks happen to be, for we forget: The ocean is not our territory - it's theirs. "

-Peter Benchley

Happy Shark Week, everyone. It's a yearly televised reminder that the water is a terrifying place. Stay shark bite-free by diving into these hilarious shark memes from the comfort of dry land.

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Going to the bar is meant to be relaxing, but when creeps abound a drink to let off steam can quickly turn into an escape room situation. Most people who've worked the bar circuit have spotted their fair share of creepy dudes who ignore a woman's body language and harass her until happy hour is trauma hour.

Luckily, some bars have adopted the "safe word drink" policy, where patrons can order something from the bar that acts as a code word. For many bars, the safe word drink is an "angel shot" which lets a bartender know the customer needs intervention, a ride home, or feels unsafe near whoever is haranguing them. Other bars have their own safe word drinks, one bar in London came up with its own code word which was to "ask for Angela."

In most cases, a bar's safe word drink is posted in the women's bathroom, with "angel shot" being the most commonly known by bartenders across the board. In a perfect world, we wouldn't need any of these safe words, but sadly that is not the reality so it's essential that more bars take these precautions. While a majority of creepy bar run-ins happen to women, there are also times when men are in harm's way and need an escape route, as evidenced by this post.

In a recent Reddit thread, bar staff shared the times they've witnessed a customer order a safeword drink to deescalate a creepy situation and it's yet another reason to tip big.

1. Jeff-Van-Gundy helped a man smoothly get away.

"I used to bartend and do front desk at a hotel. One of my regulars was in for the week, real nice guy, very friendly and happily married. We also had a cuckoo bird lady staying with us that week. She was decent looking but def had crazy eyes. They were both at the bar and they were talking for a while. Him being a nice guy, he didn’t want to outright blow her off I guess. He stops at the front desk to say what’s up and we talk for a bit while the girl is just standing behind him."

"He shoots me a look that says get me out of this situation as he starts walking towards the elevator. Once she gets in the elevator I called him back to ask a question about Detroit because “I was going there next week.” He got off the elevator but so did she. Then I told the lady there was a problem with the card she had on file (there wasn’t) and he slipped away. He called me thanking me a few minutes later."

2. Gewitwel helped protect a man from getting drugged.

"Here one from Eindhoven, Netherlands: I was working for a smaller bar with a mixed crowd, for both men and women we had safedrinks (women: virgin tequila, men: virgin vodka) in total I saw these ordered 2 times."

"The one that sticks with me the most was for Christmas eve, this night we had mostly Gay guys hanging around in the bar and some students. After a while of the students (S) got a lot of attention of one of the gay guys (GG) (hand on leg, a lot of too personal questions, touching ass) and told he was straight and not interested. This got the bartender that overheard this on alert end he put a napkin on the bar near where he was sitting with a red exclamation mark, so all staff new something was up."

"S goes to toilet and GG orders a round of vodka shots, bartender didnt see S so poured the order and placed it on the bar. S comes back and GG tells him to "help him empty the glasses" S starts drinking and suddenly looks very paly and sweaty, as soon as the vodka is dome GG smiles and walks to toilet. S looks worse by the second and asks for virgin vodka, at this moment two of the bartenders get him to one of the other bars owned by my boss and call an ambulance."

"The rest of the crew created a diversion for GG as soon as he came from the toilet, telling him S left for a phone call. Ambulance noticed S seemed to be drugged, GG was drinking something else by then (watered down cocktails without him even noticing) and we alerted the police, who found 4 tubes of GHB on him. In the end GG was arrested and S rushed to hospital."

"Edit: Whoa, didnt expect this many reactions. Here some answers: -This was indeed on stratumseind, the bars in question unfortunately do not exist anymore. -We called it Virginxxx because at this time (around 2008-2010) we never expected it to be used so much, later we even changed the name every 3 months. -GHB is officially a medical aid, later rape drug which is too easy to produce at home, this makes control over it even harder and the drug only more dangerous."

3. jmh4006 knows the look.

"I used to work in a high quality seafood restaurant as a chucker. There were never any safewords but there were a lot of telling looks. People behind the bar hear a lot of your conversations, they usually know whats going on before you do. I've had to escort more people than my job required off of the premises. Look at the bar staff in the eyes and slightly shake your head and we know."

4. Nitrosol has the "ask for angela" campaign at their bar, but believes it needs better training.

"I work in small cocktail bars in Sydney, Australia, prime date night joints. We have something called 'ask for angela', where the idea is you just ask the bar staff if Angela is working tonight and that'll be the hint to keep an eye on things or even call a cab. I've only had one customer, man or woman, ever use it, a nice younger guy on a date with an older gentleman. The issue was threefold."

"A venue at the time had quite a few backpackers on working holidays that were completely unaware of this protocol, we had a lovely Chinese girl who went by Angela working that night, and that the date was going poorly in such a fashion that to the untrained eye, it looked like two work acquaintances having a drink. There was that little chemistry between them."

"Apparently the order gentleman followed the younger in the bathroom and copped a feel, prompting the ask for angela. It was a huge runaround to be honest. It took quite a while for a native English speaker to tune into the argument behind the bar where Angela was explaining that she had no idea who this guy was. So eventually he got some help."

"He ordered two cocktails at the bar, as de if Angela was working tonight, saying she made them the best. We ended up ordering an uber for him while he feigned an emergency, and brought their drinks out in time that the older bloke sorta felt obligated to stay and finish them, just as his uber arrived."

"Unfortunately a lot of bars have joined the ask for angela campaign (it's government sponsored), posted the signs in their ladies rooms, and called it a day. No staff training. This is because it puts you on a government list of 'safe bars' and, well, nobody can give up free publicity. Very disappointing. I also believe it needs to better extend to men on poor dates as well, I rarely see the posters in men's rooms, just unisex and ladies."

5. CratesofPlates protected a couple.

"Not quite the same but I worked in a coffee shop on a busy high street this year and had a similar sort of thing happen. We noticed one customer had come in, ordered, and sat opposite the counter, which meant that he was staring at me and my other female colleagues for about 30 mins straight. We wondered if he was high as he didn't seem aware of himself, but his gaze was following me as I walked up and down the counter, which was about 8m long."

"We then closed and the customers sitting inside left, including a very nice, young couple who walked up the street away from the shop, as did the weird guy. About 10 minutes later, the couple came back to the door, which we had locked, and knocked, saying they'd left a phone behind. They came in and told us that the man had followed them for 10 minutes towards their home. So they came back to hide."

6. Gibbo151 helped get a few rapists charged.

"Worked in a pub in Ireland as a bouncer. Not a common thing here to have the 'get me outta here' shot. So no signs or that but there was some Facebook post calling them angel shots that did its rounds. Girls would say they've to go to us and we'd know. No code words or shit."

"Anyway one night I'm doing my thing in this nice bar, and a guy approaches me in front of a group of friend being a bit boisterous from a fancy restaurant across the road and he says he needs an angel shot. So we let them in but I hold him there 'questioning his ID' as his friend make fun of me and him as I'm 22, this guy was maybe 35ish and I was a "kid telling a man no". So they hang about for him (so I can't ask him what's up) I tell him no he's had too much tonight, I hail a taxi down and he pretends to resist getting in so I basically pick him up and carry him into the taxi. He throws me €50 into my jacket pocket discreetly and the taxi goes off then. Nothing big."

"2 days later I'm working again same bunch of guys from the restaurant come over. The angel shot guy isn't there."

"3 days later angel shot guy comes but very early and explains it all to me. Turns out his friends where doing coke (all professional people) and a girl was raped in the bathroom. He said at first she wanted to have sex with one of them but then two guys came in, then she wanted out and couldn't, this guy tried to interject but couldn't and then felt uncomfortable and didn't want a part of this so wanted to leave but was told if he did they'd hurt him and the reason they all returned 2 days later was his going away drinks that he didn't attend (obviously). The guys where then charged like a month later? Can't find public info on it anymore."

Only time I ever had to use the 'get me outta here' shot."

7. cspence14 had to separate a flirting session gone south.

"I worked in a nightclub that was popular with the gay community for a couple of years, we didn't have a safe word but one night there were two guys clearly hitting it off they were flirting and having a great time. After a couple of drinks one of the guys was clearly being very forward and touchy, the other was not enjoying this and had withdrawn. He attempted to walk back to his friends but the first guy wasn't having this and pulled him back. In an attempt to get out the guy started vigorously shaking his head anytime one of the bar staff walked by."

"After this happened a few times we realized something needed to be done and spoke to the guy that was being all forward and explained that we didn't think the other guy wanted to stay at the bar with him. He got aggressive then and started screaming at us because how the fuck would we know what the guy wanted; although it was blatantly obvious. Eventually we got security down to escort the guy out of the place so that the guy who had been trying to get away could go back to his friends, have a good night and not have to leave"

8. little_bookwolf96 smuggled a 19-year-old to safety.

"Only had one incident of a man using Ask For Angela (UK safeword scheme). Gay kid on a bad date. His date had been extremely overbearing and even having to witness it from the bar was extremely uncomfortable. We smuggled him into the kitchen and out the side door while his date went to the bathroom and called him a taxi. Date came back from the bathroom, asked where the kid was, I just went "dunno". Date started getting aggro with me, so supervisor ended up throwing this guy out by the collar."

"It honestly doesn't get used enough, by either men or women, especially here in the UK. It absolutely sucks, especially when you as a bartender can't really legally do much or you risk not only your job, but the bar's reputation."

"Edit: Just for clarification, the victim was 19. Legal age of drinking alcohol in UK is 18. So yes, he is still technically a kid."

9. Wrest216 found out the true colors of one of the regulars.

"So I'm a line cook, not bar staff, but at my last job, we had cameras in the bar area (cash register) and i was talking to our night bar gal. She said a guy had asked for a taxi because he felt dizzy and disoriented, and didn't feel safe, his GF was chiding him , BUT it turns out it wasn't HER that spiked the drink! The cameras caught the guy NEXT to this couple, putting something in his drink, for HIS GF, and he screwed up which one, because they both had the same drink!"

"So, two couples, one guy accidentally doses a guys drink by mistake!!. The girl for the dosing guy left without him (apparently he was impatient when it wasnt working). THE WORST PART? We thought he a was cool guy, he was a regular. They caught him next time and called the cops and showed the tapes and last i heard he was being charged with attempted sexual assault....
Edited for a bit more clarity"

10. MrOddbodd had to throw out a group of women.

"Yep, I work in a nightclub in a small city in England in Lincolnshire and I once had a guy who seemed to only recently turn 18 ask if Angela was working (Ask for Angela is a UK scheme that helps prevent violence, sexual assaults and date rape). I knew about the Ask for Angela scheme and immediately I brought him into the glass wash room. Turns out there were a bunch of lasses encouraging this one lass into seducing him, grinding up on him, trying to kiss him and groping him. This apparently continued even after the man had walked away into other parts of the nightclub after showing and saying he wasn't interested."

"I had reported this to my supervisor who was a little hesitant at first but eventually called the bouncers into the back room too. We explained the situation to them. Now these guys are basically 200-300 pound tanks who you would expect to joke about this and tell this guy to man up and enjoy it but to my surprise, they took it seriously as well."

"They managed to track down this group (5 women including the one who was doing the grinding) and they escorted all of them out of the building. Meanwhile, a taxi had already been prepared by my supervisor and the taxi firm was literally down the road, so it didn't take long for it to arrive. I escorted the man through the back stairs that continues down to the stock cellar but leads off to the side exit of the building near the bins. A taxi was parked just outside."

"It would be a rare occasion when someone uses "AskAngela" where I work, let alone a man so I'm really glad that all of the staff took it seriously and helped as much as they could."

11. Defoler's neighborhood bar serves the "Neph."

"My old regular bar had a drink called "Neph" (Need escape please help, not really the name as it is another language, but that is the idea) which was not on the menu.
If you order it, they call you a cab, and one of the waiters will wait next to the toilet, allowing you to pay your half there and let you in to the back so you can leave unnoticed.
It was available for men and women alike to get out of bad dates (though they will not really let you use it to skip on your date)."

"They didn't advertise it really, but regulars knew it existed.
They would also actively offer someone that drink if they feel their date is going to the wrong place."

"I saw a man being offered it once when his date was verbally abusive to him.
And a woman whose date was so arrogant and creepy and talked down on her.
Never actually use it myself. I actually thought it was relatively common in most neighbourhood bars to have this type of "drink"."

12. ForlornKaiser's friend helped a man escape an awful drunk.

"I haven't done it personally, but a friend had it happen to him who is a bartender. He was finishing up his shift when a man walks up to him, asking for a safeword drink (I forget what he said it was called, might have been the Angela drink?) and said he wanted it on the rocks."

"Friend just said "Yeah, sure," and helped him to the taxi. Just as the man got in the taxi, the woman he had been there with came running out towards the taxi and yelled profanities, calling the man she had been with "fucking white trash" and "he'll never amount to anything" and some shit like that."

"Last I heard, she was banned from that bar (and several others) while the man who got help became a bit of a regular."

13. warehouseclosing has listened to a lot of stories.

"I have been manager of a night club in Holland for 1.5 years. We got good night out trainings. This is a training that helps you recognize when someone is getting sexual harassment and/or assaulted and how to react to the situation. We would put up the good night out posters all over the venue. So if we miss it, people know they can trust the staff and tell us."

"Because it is hard to really recognize this in a night club we had more people that would go to the bar and ask for help. They would just tell us, we had no safeword. If this happened I was called and I stopped with everything I did and started helping this person."

A LOT can feel as harassment. So we would always take it seriously. First I would try to take them off the dance floor and backstage so I could sit down and hear their story. After that I would always ask them if they want to press charges. If not they could point the person that was harassing them to me and I would kick them out. If they want to press charges I had to call the police and also try to find the harasser and hold them until the cops arrived.

"This would not happen a lot, maybe once every 1/2 months. Still to much but for a night club it could be a lot worse. If someone tells you they are getting harassed always take it serious. He/she already feels ashamed and had the balls to tell you about it."

14. I_CAPE_RUNTS was helped by a Chilis employee.

"Not an angel shot...but last week I had to meet my abusive ex wife to talk about some things regarding our kids(I’m a male). I insisted that we needed to meet in public so she begrudgingly agreed to meet at Chili's. Throughout the entire meal, she was being mean and hateful and cruel to me...but she was also quiet about it. I wasn't crying or anything(on the outside anyway). She was just being overly threatening and quiet to me. At a point during the lunch, our waiter thankfully positioned himself behind her and mouthed the following words to me: "Are you okay?" I kind of shook my head no because I was afraid of leaving when the time came."

"We paid the check and were about to leave when the manager appeared with the waiter. The manager stood between my ex and myself and told her, politely, that she needed to leave on her own. Before she could become belligerent, the manager explained to her that he had called the police and that she needed to leave immediately. He then asked me, quietly, to have a seat and wait. They brought me another drink. The cops showed up quickly and made sure my ex had left. They walked me to my car and then followed me home to make sure I was okay. Not an angel shot, but these workers were angels to me. They paid attention to a terrifying situation and helped me more than they will ever know."

15. normanbeets had to calm down a regular with an inappropriate crush.

"I'm a lady bartender in the first decade of my career. I've yet to see this happen with a guest; we did have to ban a single mom who was obsessive about one of our male staff."

"She would come in and try to cute her way into getting his schedule/phone number/car description from other staff. She'd wander around the building looking for him, meanwhile her young sons run around the restaurant going fucking nuts. If she found him, she would stand there until he agreed to go out with her again. She's verbally abused some of our youngest staff and routinely stiffed on her tabs."

"Becky, stop drinking and driving with your kids in the car, you fucking loon."

Match.com released its annual Singles in America study, and it has fascinating insights into what it means to be, well, a single in America.

Dr. Helen Fisher and Dr. Justin R. Garcia studied over 5,000 singles all across America the beautiful (and smart and funny). It covered five major topics: Young Singles, Women, Love, Dating, and Sex.

Here are the most interesting and surprising takeaways.

Who said romance was dead? 63% of millennials and 70% of Gen Z want to "find romantic love."

Only 11% of Gen Z and Millennials say that they date casually.

One third of millennials say that their financial situation has held them back while dating.

Send nudes? 38% of young people have sent naked photos, and 52% have received them.

According to the study, only 19% of women message first on dating apps (!!!). 75% of men say that they are cool with being approached first.

The average straight person, male or female, has 5 sexual partners in their lifetime.

Half of all singles have created online dating profiles.

57% of single men and 61% of single women say that they "carefully evaluate" a profile rather than just swipe through it.

Only 35% of respondents said that they've been ghosted.

51% of men say that they have been acting differently because of the #MeToo movement, while 14% of overall singles say that the movement has made dating more challenging.

49% of single people "want to achieve happiness with themselves before they begin to date."

39% of singles say that they have fallen in love with somebody they weren't initially attracted to.

The United States of Breakups:

The state with the most breakups per person, with a whopping 8, is New Hampshire.

The cities with the most breakups per person are Washington D.C. with 7 heartbreaks and Austin, Texas with 5.

Read all the findings (with fancier graphics) over at the Singles in America website.

Tomi Lahren is a professional troll conservative commentator who often spews hateful rhetoric from her perch at Fox News, where hateful rhetoric gets to be called "news." Saying offensive things is basically her job description.

But recent comments Lahren made about Senator and Presidential hopeful Kamala Harris were considered too offensive even for conservatives. Multiple conservatives, including Fox Nation host Britt McHenry, called her out. And Tomi Lahren is not above apologizing for her wrongs—when the people who pay her might get angry.

“Kamala did you fight for ideals or did you sleep your way to the top with Willie Brown?” reads Lahren's tweet, which references Harris’s relationship in the '90s with Willie Brown, the California Assembly speaker who went on to become mayor of San Francisco.

This tweet was so sexist it offended her contemporaries, which is no small feat.

“Do you have any idea how damaging this is to women who’ve actually been sexually harassed, assaulted or demeaned in the workplace?” McHenry tweeted back at her. “How much this weakens our own gender, regardless of partisanship. My goodness.”

Other conservatives called her comment "completely inappropriate."

Lahren has not deleted her initial tweet, but she did apologize today, kind of, claiming that she used the "wrong choice of words."

Her apology has been met with a lot of pushback from the left, including people who are pointing out that her recent comments about migrant parents were far worse. And those people didn't get an apology.

Others are pointing out that she only apologizes when money is involved and/or when other conservatives call her out.

Nice try, Tim Tams.

"The best way to appreciate your job is to imagine yourself without one. "

-Oscar Wilde

Sometimes, all the positive quotes in the world can't make suffering through a day at your job any less painful. We all agree that work sucks. Another thing we can all agree on is that memes rule. These bad boys (and maybe some wine) will help get you to Friday. The weekend is coming. Hang on people.

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Someone recently asked Reddit: What is your "guess I can't go into that store ever again" story? I once avoided the entire West Village for years out of shame relating to my past drunken behavior. So I can empathize with these 20 people who embarrassed themselves (or were embarrassed by someone else) so badly in a store, restaurant or other establishment that they decided to 86 themselves for life.

Once you read these, you'll probably agree that avoidance of these establishments is the best option. There are some kinds of shame that time can't erase.

1.) Dickcheese_McDoogles can't go back to the public library.

Not a store, but a public library.

We're at the counter, and the librarian is scanning the books we've selected. She was… generously sized.

My little brother, 4 or 5 at the time, tugs my mom down to whisper something in her ear. He was rather new to the concept of whispering

He put his hand up to shield his lips from the librarian. Despite all this, he says - - about the librarian - - at standard speaking volume:

"Hey mom, y'ever notice how FAT that lady is?"

Mom tried to play it off by saying something akin to "he thinks it's okay to say it to others 'cause he says it to me".

But my mom's not fat.

It did not work.

We used to go there every day when my mom didn't want to have to hire a babysitter to watch us during the summer. She'd bring us to her office, and let us walk across the street to the public library to play games on their Windows-Vista PCs, or just read books. She'd always come to pick us up when she was done with work.

She started looking for babysitters soon after.

2.) JWo1f28 was chased out of a store.

I tripped up over my shoelace and crashed into a shelf and broke it... the manager chased me out of the store

3.) Col_Walter_Tits was mortified by a sloppy drunk.

Went on a first date with this girl to a new restaurant in town. She proceeded to get sloppy drunk and made a huge scene. From the classic could not control the volume of her voice to insisting on trying to show me and some other gentleman nearby what kind of underwear she had on while loudly insisting that’s she’s a “good girl” though. The server we had seemed to get that I was not a willing part of this but I was so mortified there’s no way I’d ever go back.

4.) wxwhybother sh*t themself in 7/11.

This is a fond memory.

Moved downtown to our "University" area. Got myself a sweet deal on a cheap, ghetto as f*ck studio. The kind that get rented out to poor students next to the area homeless shelter. 2006, rent is only 300 a month, and im not in school... Too busy being "punk rock" and making just enough for a roof and partying. Paradise.

One week in, I go to a show, get completely sh*thoused, and stumble back up the hill to either get more f*cked up, or pass out at home. I decide to stop at the 7-11 directly across from my building, ya know.. Snacks. I grab everything my impulses and lack of inhibition tells me to and im about to pay for this garbage and be on my way. Set my things on the counter and politely introduce myself to the cashier, as she is ringing up my last couple things, without any kind of warning or rumbling before hand, i am in excruciating pain, right in my gut. A split second flashes by, I clutch and clench my legs together. I gasped "bathroom"? To her. It was too late 5 seconds ago.. I try to take a step and bam! My bowels unleash with not only an ungodly sound from my ass, but a simultaneous yelp as if I were a chihuahua that had just been stomped on. I swear I have never been so suddenly sober without a cop being involved. I have shorts on, i look down, and just liquid sh*t down the back of my leg, into my boots, and starting to puddle on the floor.

I just ran. No change. No Snacks. No words. I lived at that spot for almost 2 years. Never went back, and never even walked across their lot to get anywhere. I would walk the same way around that place to avoid it every day.

I feel terrible.

5.) SendEldritchHorrors peed in a toy store.

I pissed all over the floor of a toy store when I was a toddler. My poor dad was mortified, but the staff were very nice about it.

The store's closed now, which really sucks. I don't think I actually remember the name of the place.

6.) greenlavitz sweat all over the hairdresser and that's not the worst part.

I used to go to the same haircut place since I was in kindergarten until I was in my teens.. One day I go for a haircut and get this new, fairly attractive woman. As she's starting I start to sweat. Now sometimes when I was younger my head would get really hot and my head would sweat when I was in put on the spot sometimes (anxiety I guess, no idea, but it's mostly gone away thankfully). Usually a few drops of sweat will roll down my face when this happens, but not today.
It was like someone was standing over me slowly pouring a bottle of water slowly over my head. It just kept going and going. Eventually the girl mentions "wow, you must be really hot". I'm already very nervous, and blurt out the first thing that pops into my head, "ya, it must be because you're pretty. I'm not sure why this is happening, you're pretty but it's not like you're that pretty".
So pretty much as soon as the last words are leaving my mouth I start asking myself, why in gods name would you say that. Now I'm even more embarrassed and I have to sit through a haircut feeling like an idiot, a drippy wet idiot.
Actual surveillance footage of me as the haircut was finishing.
I spent the rest of the haircut praying for it to be done quickly or for a meteor to come through the ceiling and put me out of my misery. The girl handled the rest of the haircut like a god damn pro, no idea why she didn't just kick me out. She finished, I paid, gave her a huge tip, and now I drive farther to get my haircut done somewhere else.

7.) YoungConor can't go back to Target.

I sat on a target shelf and the entire row of shelf’s crashed down onto the ground

8.) kevn3000 needed to find a new barbershop.

Do barbershops count?

Decided to get a haircut whilst having a cold. Sneeze and farted at the same time. Never went back.

9.) internetmexican caused chaos at a coffeeshop.

I'm at a coffee shop, have a glass of coffee in front of me, filled to the top. That sh*t is almost over flowing. I raise my hand to get the waitress' attention because I want to order something else. I accidentally wack the sh*t out of the glass, this sends it flying across the room where it hits the waitress on the thigh and gets coffee f*cking everywhere. felt bad, so I left and never went back.

10.) brp banned themself from Pizzeria Uno for life.

When I was a kid, my family went to a Pizzeria Uno and before the food came I went to inspect the plumbing.

They had those sinks where you press down on the knob and the water would flow, with the knob slowly raising back up before it would turn off after 20 seconds.

I used my fist and hit the top of the knob and the thing just popped off and a huge geyser of water was erupting nonstop. Me and another kid were in there, we looked at each other and just bolted from the bathroom.

I got back to my seat and just sat there silent. Then my mom went to use the bathroom, and when she came back she told us this story of how there was a pool in the bathroom hallway and the manager and an employee were in the men's room slipping and sliding trying to shutoff the water.

My whole family was laughing at the story, but I just sat there silent. They asked me what's wrong and I told them it was me that did it.

They never fail to mention it every time we drive past a Pizzeria Uno, even now 20 years later. I've never stepped foot in one since then.

Edit:

Since a lot of people are asking, "inspecting the plumbing" was a joke my family made when I'd go to pee at a restaurant. I'd usually be a glutton about free drink refills, and would always have to get up and pee mid meal, so my family always joked I was obligated to inspect the plumbing at every establishment.

11.) Batkratos's girlfriend misread the room at Tire Kingdom.

My girlfriend fist bumped the clerk when he was actually reaching to grab a paper we had just signed.

Anyway, we dont go to that Tire Kingdom anymore.

12.) turkey_bar saw their waiter's dick.

Not a store but a mexican restaurant.

I went to use the bathroom, it was one of those single occupancy rooms with a locking door. Well the door wasn't locked and due to what I can only describe as the worst timing ever I saw none other than my waiter's dick. I was kinda shocked so I looked up and we made eye contact for a second. I just went back to my table and didn't say anything for the rest of the meal, even as my friends were asking what happened.

I eventually told them and it's now one of my "classic" stories. But yeah, I can't ever go back.

13.) sugarcuberyan gave himself a golden shower at the PC store.

When I was much younger, about 9-10, I went to a large PC store with my Dad, who wanted to ask a technician about an upgrade. Before we left the house my Dad asked if I needed the toilet first, which I said no to. Predictably, on the way I started feeling like I needed to pee, but knowing that I had only 5 minutes earlier told my Dad I didn’t need to go, I said nothing.

We got stuck in traffic for about 30 minutes and the need was becoming urgent. But I thought to myself I’m a big boy now, I can handle this, I’ll just go behind the store when we get there.

Nope.

So when we pull up I pretend to my Dad that I’m going to look at the games at the front of the store and he could find me there when he was done, so he walked off to the back of the store where the technicians desk was. I took my chance and snuck out to execute my master plan. Little did I know that the rear car park of the retail centre was being used for some sort of event, I don’t recall what it was but I just remember a lot of people standing around talking and singing. So I abandoned my attempt and returned to the store. I was at the point of bouncing on the spot to keep it in. One lapse in concentration and it was game over.

I returned to the games section and was walking up and down frantically, pretending to browse when all I was really doing was trying not to piss myself. Clearly I was acting strangely, and this lead to the security guard coming over to see if I was ok. Except when he arrived he turned the corner just as I was coming to the end of the aisle, and we basically ran straight into each other. The brief moment of shock was all it took to break my piss holding-zen.

It started as a couple of hot drips that just soaked the front of my underwear, but the seal was now broken, and no matter what I did, there was nothing that could stop the tsunami of warm amber that was now streaming down both of my legs. I could do nothing but stand there, and started crying hysterically.

Safe to say that when my Dad heard this and came running, he decided that he would not be making a purchase that day, and to this day I have never set foot in that store again.

TL:DR. Pissed myself in the middle of a store in front of the security guard. Dad did not buy a new PC.

14.) mmtmtptvboayani peed in the display toilet.

You know how in department stores when they have one of those display bathrooms they have that piece of plexiglass that goes across the toilet that says something along the lines of "Not a real toilet. Don't be an idiot and pee in this"?

Those barriers didn't exist in the 80's when I was a young kid. Mom looked up and saw me with my panties off, holding my dress above my waist and sprinting for the toilet. She did not catch me in time.

15.) butts_and_whatnot's friend made a mess at the fabric store.

A friend was getting married and asked me to make her wedding dress. We went to a fabric store to check out our options and get swatches. She asked to used the shop's bathroom, A few minutes later, she walked out quickly and whispered to me 'we need to get the f*ck out here now'. Turns out she had explosive diarrhea and absolutely destroyed the bathroom. Neither of us have been back.

16.) old---woman---help is a small-time criminal.

In 1983 at age 17 I went into a pharmacy. I bought something and somehow I was given 50p too much change. I didn't say anything and left. To this day I've still not gone back. I have felt guilty ever since.

17.) 68gecko had to find a new vet's office.

I was in Walmart and had to "readjust" so I kindly just shoved my hands down the front of my pants. While the vet tech from the vet's office I took my dogs to walked by, making eye contact with me. Never saw him again after that.

18.) 45MinutesOfRoadHead is never going back to Kohl's.

I was once shopping for a new dress in a Kohl's. I want to say it was for a wedding or something. I am not a dress person, so I brought my mom with me to help me pick out a dress. I dress well, but I just don't like to wear dresses, and the dresses at the time were not meant for girls with big boobs.

Everything seemed to have a structured bust that my boobs would not fit in, and if it fit my boobs it was massive in the waist. There was no good bust to waist ratio on anything that I tried on, and anything that didn't have a structured bust looked like I was wearing a potato sack. I must have tried on 20 dresses, and after about the 10th it just became comical. My mom and I were laughing so hard at how awful every dress looked on me, or how my boobs were about to explode out of them. I finally tried on a ruffled floral one that wasn't structured and had a waist belt. My mom blank stared at me for a second and said "You look like a waitress at the Apple Barn" and burst into laughter.

I could not catch my breath. When my mom starts laughing really hard her head turtles into her shoulders and her eyes disappear and she looks ridiculous. When she gets like that I have to get away from her or there is a 100% chance that I will pee on myself from also laughing too hard. Even if I look away I can still hear her and I know what she looks like while laughing. Well, there was nowhere to go. I wound up peeing through my underwear in the corner of the fitting room while begging her to stop laughing.

We promptly left and I've never been back.

19.) 1n1billionAZNsay is never, ever going back to Wendy's.

I was... 8, 9? Maybe? My dad, being the type of dad that would take my first haul of Halloween candy and dump it into our bin to give to other kids, made me go into a McD's to trick or treat. I begged him not to because I found it embarrassing to beg for food but it worked and we got a small fries and a drink.

Seeing it work my dad drove to the next fast food place which was a Wendy's and made us do it again. We rolled up and said "trick or treat" to the cashier who could not give less of a sh*t. He sighed looked at the next person and said "next." The embarrassment I felt that night haunted me for longer than I'd like to admit and I could not step foot into another Wendy's for a really, really long time. I wouldn't trick it treat again either until I had kids of my own.

Some time when I was in my mid 20's I was with a group of people who wanted to go so I said, what the hell... Let go of that stupid kid sh*t. I ordered and was rude to again when I asked if I could have my cup for my drink I got an eye roll and was told to wait a minute. I kind of lost it in a childhood ptsd moment. I yelled out, "f*ck it I don't need my drink or my food, throw that sh*t away, I am done with all of you."

I walked out and again immediately felt embarrassed that I lost my cool like that. So I can never go to a Wendy's ever again. Nothing good can come of it.

20.) No more Shenanigans for RobertoJ37.

The one night stand I ghosted two weeks before turned out to be my waitress on my date. Never went to Shenanigans again.