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Gay man asks internet if he can ditch his brother's wedding after being told to 'act straight.'

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Welp, wedding season is upon us. I'll give you a moment to calculate how much all of this year's weddings will cost you and then chug your wine.

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Weddings are stressful. The pressure of a perfect day can lead to a lot of tension, and it often brings out the worst in people (looking at you, Aunt Carol). In some worst case scenarios, important relationships are put to the test during these trying times, and don't always come out on top. And while these relationship-ruining feuds are often caused by something as trivial as the required color for a bridesmaid dress, sometimes the issues go a bit deeper.

In a recent Reddit thread, a gay man made a long post about how his brother has asked him to act straight at his wedding. His fiance's parents are homophobic, so he doesn't want them to know his brother -- the best man, mind you -- is gay. Naturally, the man who made the post is upset. He feels he shouldn't have to hide who he is at the wedding, but also doesn't want to make things difficult.

Here is the full post from _reasonablerequest:

I (30M) have a twin brother who is getting married in July. I also have a fiancé (31M) who I am getting married to in October.

The family of my brother's future wife is of a different culture and religion and they come from a country where homosexuality is illegal. She is alright, but her parents are extremely bigoted. So in order to avoid any uncomfortable incidents, my brother has asked me if I could act straight on their wedding day. I'm not super flamboyant or anything, but I like showing affection to my boyfriend whenever I feel like it, including in public, and since I'm the best man, I'd be in the spotlight a lot, so they would probably notice it.

Since it came out of nowhere and he caught me unprepared, I said I would do it, but the more I think about it and talk to my boyfriend about it, the less I want to. I saw my family over the weekend and talked to my brother and said I didn't feel comfortable pretending. There will be friends and family at the reception who know I'm gay and who have met my boyfriend, and I think it would feel humiliating "acting straight" in front of them. Besides, what if I slip up and call my boyfriend "my boyfriend" within earshot, or if I do something automatic, like put my arm around him?

My brother seemed a bit hurt, but my parents and sisters made a huge deal out of it. They think I'm being difficult and that I should at least try to make my brother's wedding day go without any incidents. They're saying that it's just that one day and that I would survive not showing affection to my boyfriend for a few hours. They said I have it easy because I only really have to see them that one day but my brother is marrying into that family. In the end I said that if I have to do this, I'd rather not come at all.

Since then, I've gotten dozens of messages from all of them, asking me to change my mind and trying to convince me it's not such a big deal, but also calling me selfish and a bad brother. My parents have been reserved with insults, but my sisters have both called me an asshole.

I have no idea what the right thing to do is anymore. I feel extremely bad and guilty about all of it. He is my twin brother, my best friend, the one person I've always been closest to. He has always been there when I needed him and I feel horrible about not doing this for him. But I can't help but think what happens in October when I get married. Does he plan on hiding that from his in-laws too? And what if they have children? Will I have to pretend my future husband is my totally straight bro friend every time we see our nephew or niece and the in-laws are there? But then again, it's his wedding day and I, his twin brother and best man, am going to miss it and it feels wrong.

Most people agreed the this guy was not being an asshole, and his family/future in-laws are the ones who should be ashamed here.

Abirvalg44 said:

I would say NTA (Not The Asshole).

He’s not asking you to not wear a novelty shirt or not to embarrass him during a speech. He’s asking you to not behave as your self, constantly be on the lookout if you’re passing as straight and to not be you because you are a bit inconvenient.

I understand that this is not a hill you want to die on, and maybe you’ll go to the wedding. But, surely this will change your opinion of your family that they think so little of you.

thehohn said this and then most likely dropped the mic:

NTA you are gay whether or not it's convenient for them

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AttackorDie proposed forcing the others to see this through a new perspective:

NTA - Tell them when they all come to your wedding they have to "act gay". No PDA with their partners, no dancing with their partners etc. This is obviously an idle threat, but hopefully it will help them see the situation from your perspective.

Phil0s0raptor made an excellent point:

Yeah shouldn't someone talk to the bigots about behaving well on the wedding day instead?

mangonlime waxed some poetry:

NTA. I would expect my brother and future sister in law to stand up for me if needs be and make it clear to the other side that bigoted behaviour will not be tolerated at the wedding. Enabling bigotry is no different to being a bigot too.

Many people here seem to think it's okay to ask you to hide yourself because it's your brother's wedding day. What other occasions would justify you being asked to hide? To accept bigoted behaviour? To accept being assaulted to keep the peace? If he isn't willing to stand up for you when it matters, is he really any kind of brother at all? Sometimes you have to support what is right regardless of the consequences. Otherwise what's the point?

MikeTangoVictor came in hot with some solid advice:

NTA - I would tell your brother that you love him and ask that he and his wife tell his in-laws in advance and let them process it. They may not like it, but the message from your brother and his future wife is just that this is who you are and they didn’t want her parents to be surprised.

When the day comes, just be your charming self. Know that your boyfriend may make some people at the wedding uncomfortable, but show them how great you are and how much you care for your brother and his wife and let the cards fall where they do.

Remember that you aren’t the one causing the drama here, and remind your family that you can’t control how other people act and you can’t pretend to be someone else your whole life just for your brother’s in-laws benefit.

You’ll do great. Good luck, OP.

The consensus here is that it's not chill to ask your brother to hide his homosexuality at your wedding, but telling your in-laws to keep their bigotry at bay is an option. Love that. Good luck out there during wedding season, everyone!

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21 hilarious tweets roasting the royal baby's name for being a royal mouthful.

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On Monday, Meghan Markle and Prince Harry welcomed their firstborn son into the world, and the world celebrated with them.

While they didn't reveal the baby's name right away, it was more than clear that Prince Harry was over the moon about becoming a father, and the amazing physical work Markle put forth during the birthing process.

Well now, after two full days of suspense, the royal couple has finally shared pictures of their new son, along with his name: Archie Harrison Mountbatten-Windsor.

The photos show the entire family looking beautiful and overjoyed at the brand new presence of baby Archie.

As always, Markle and Prince Harry manage to look very smitten with each other, even while posing with their new son.

Naturally, large portions of the internet have been paying close attention to royal baby developments, and the announcement of Archie's name has inspired a firestorm of hilarious reactions. You cannot, legally name a royal baby after a comic book character without inspiring memes, so it's hardly a surprise.

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12 hilarious posts from the 'Game of Thrones' cast about 'The Last of the Starks.'

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Season 8 Episode 4 of Game of Thrones, "The Last of the Starks," was a whiplash-inducing hour and a half that had heads rolling—specifically Missandei's. While Dany's army was decimated and Euron got the Maury Povich treatment, the cast had a blast behind the scenes.

1. Grey Worm shared a video, dancing with Missandei back when she had a head.

2. Tormund and The Hound had a blast at the feast.

3. Tormund was also pissed about losing "the Big Woman" to a DANE.

4. Euron shared what it looks like to kill a dragon, tagging the "Dragon Grill Express."

5. But the real Pilou Asbæk is all about peace and love.

6. He also got MEMES!

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WTF??? (Photo by 🤷🏼‍♂️) well done 😉

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7. Euron blows us all away.

8. Cersei introduced us to the show's new villain.

9. Brienne shared a picture of her and Jaime in "happier times."

10. Missandei shared her lost words.

11. Pod is turtle-y enough for the turtle club.

12. The Mountain is sorry, Missy.

23 Memes That Will Only Be Funny If You Have Kids.

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"We spend the first twelve months of our children's lives teaching them to walk and talk and the next twelve telling them to sit down and shut up."

-Phyllis Diller

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Being a parent is so much work. You have to constantly cook, clean, and still make time to embarrass your kids. If you are a mom or dad you will relate way too hard to these hilarious memes.

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Guy leaves 1-star review for business, then apologizes after owner serves up receipts.

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If you want to watch grown men get petty, and you're sick of tuning into Fox News, than look no further than this article about an angry man leaving a one star business review based on pure entitlement.

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It all started when a man named David texted a guy named Abs about hiring his foundation to do some work.

Abs shared that he'd be interested in hearing about the job, but his work availability wouldn't open up for at least 6 weeks due to current scheduling. This did NOT sit well with David.

So, in order to assure David his scheduling wasn't personal, Abs assured that he didn't want to lead anyone on about availability, but would be happy to take on more work after six weeks.

When Abs gave a patient and professional response, he was met with accusations of arrogance.

David went on to reveal that he had a big job offer, and Abs would be losing a lot of potential money due to the rudeness of having a packed schedule. To this, Abs said "good day," undoubtedly hoping the exhausting interaction would end. But David clearly wasn't willing to let it go, and went on to announce he would be giving a one star business review.

David then went on a cringe inducing and deeply classic ramble about how "janitors and maids" have better business sense than Abs.

Needless to say, David stuck to his word and left an irate one star review, but he was quickly brilliantly roasted by Abs in response. Abs completed the roast by posting a link to the projects he was working on during the weeks David requested his service, which happened to be for various charities.

In a near cartoonish pivot, David quickly consumed an entire humble pie and came back to the business page later to apologize and leave a five star review.

While David's rabbithole of unsolicited anger didn't necessarily deserve grace or forgiveness, Abs responded kindly to the apology and it appears there is now water underneath the one star bridge.

Ben Shapiro tried to slam AOC's take on Georgia's abortion law. Women roasted him like rotisserie chicken.

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In case you're not up to date on America slowly stripping women's rights away until we all end up in "The Handmaid's Tale," Georgia Governor Brian Kemp just signed a law that bans abortions after six weeks.

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Considering most women don't even know they're pregnant at six weeks, this is a real problem. Even more disturbing is that the bill is called, "the fetal heartbeat law," because a heartbeat can sometimes be detected at that time. This guilt-inducing language is just another way to shame women for their choice to have an abortion. To make matters extra fun, everyone making these laws regarding women's bodies happen to be men. Cool!

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Congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez weighed in on how dangerous this ban is by calling it a "backdoor ban." If most women don't know they're pregnant at six weeks, that means this is essentially making abortion illegal in the state of Georgia.

And she brought up the other road blocks this law would create:

This woman had an interesting take:

And of course, there's always this:

Perhaps if men maybe, I don't know, listened to women? Maybe these things wouldn't happen. Naturally, conservative television host and author Ben Shapiro had to respond:

Ben, no! You missed the point! AOC wasn't saying a pregnancy was a missed period, she was trying to explain why many women won't have time to realize they've missed a period, make a decision on whether or not to follow through with the pregnancy, make an appointment and get an abortion. This law is just a roundabout way of making abortion illegal. Of course, many people backed up AOC. Ben, considered yourself roasted.

Better luck next time, Shapiro. Read an anatomy book!

25 Memes Men Probably Won't Find Funny.

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Attention all women, ladies, gals, queens, and bad bitches. This meme list is funny and relatable as hell. Get ready to laugh.

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Ben Shapiro accidentally owned himself by making the abortion debate about his virgin pride.

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This week, the governor of GileadGeorgia signed a bill banning abortions after six weeks. That means that by the time a majority of women know that they are pregnant, it will be too late for them to make a choice about their pregnancy, thus taking away her opportunity to choose.

To make things even scarier, the law also criminalizes the termination of pregnancies, and that women who get abortions will receive life in prison. A woman who miscarries could get thirty years, and a woman who travels to another state for the procedure could get ten.

While many women are concerned about this dangerous, frightening development, male conservative pundits are searching for words they can twist to assert that they are experiences in all things gynecology to defend this ban.

Ben Shapiro's attempt to dunk on Rep. Alexandria Ocasio Cortez set him up to get dunked on by women with periods and vaginas.

Perhaps because he was sick of women tweeting period stories about him, Shapiro decided to bring up the fact that he was a virgin until he was 24, and that makes him morally superior to everybody.

Calling someone a virgin is a frequent, easy insult. Using "virgin" as a pejorative is lame, but saying that it made you morally superior is even lamer.

There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, but there's everything wrong with trying to control women's bodies.

Conservatives are quick to have "moral standards" about things like sex, but not about things like putting children in cages and using government office for personal gain.

Shapiro's virgin pride just highlights the importance of people being in control of their own bodies and getting the opportunity to make the choices they need.

It's his body, so it's his choice.


25 Utterly Random Memes To Help You Start Your Day Off Right.

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These memes are as wild and hilarious as your bedhead when you first get up in the morning. Start your day off with a big dose of comedy. You'll be glad you did.

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Instagram model accidentally gets filmed having a panic attack. She posts it for the best reason.

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The culture of Instagram influencers is by nature built on a sense of FOMO. These viral accounts largely accrue followings by presenting well-lit aspirational photos of influencers sipping coffee on massive balconies overlooking the ocean, or posing in new launches from various brands.

Which is to say, the selling point and image presented is primarily built on fantasy and luxury, these are lives that most of us can't afford or predict for ourselves. Because of this, many accounts gather loyal fans out of voyeurism, because who among us wouldn't like to drink organic chai on a beach in Hawaii while surrounded by a professional photo crew?!

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Living life on the edge... 🗺🗺

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While these branded and highly curated photos are the literal bread and butter of most influencers, more and more have been going off script and using their platform to keep it honest with their followers.

Most recently, the Malaysian influencer who goes by the name Kharina K opened up about her ongoing struggle with anxiety and panic attacks.

In her most recent video, Kharina was caught mid panic attack, the footage of which was obviously not planned. Rather than getting rid of the footage or keeping it private, she saw it as an opportunity to destigmatize the reality of anxiety disorders, and also pull back the veil of what her daily life is really like.

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⚠️WARNING! VIEWER DISCRETION ADVISED!⚠️ No, this is NOT an act, this is REAL LIFE. This was me earlier having one of THE WORST panic attacks I’d ever had that happened to be caught on camera. Why I had this attack isn’t important so I’ll leave that bit out. I’m posting this not for attention or sympathy, but because I have been given this platform on instagram and would like to do some good with it. You guys see most of my life as rainbows and sunshine (cuz no one likes to post the bad parts anyways) , however this is my reality. Constantly having anxiety and being fine one minute, and like this the next. I try to post as much as I can about mental health to bring AWARENESS to it because it is REAL, and is not taught very well in Malaysia, however I have never been able to show you guys until now. I didn’t choose this, I do not want it, and it’s a horrible thing to be constantly fighting a battle no one knows about or sees that’s in your head 24/7 and constantly feeling like a crazy person. It burdens not only you, but the people around you & yet all you can do is apologize when you yourself don’t even want it which is one of the worst feelings ever. I’m very lucky to have a great support system around me that loves & takes good care of me in times like these, however not everyone is as lucky as I am... and so this post is to remind those who suffer from it that you ARE NOT ALONE, & to hopefully bring awareness to the people who don’t know/understand mental illnesses. If I can enlighten even 1 person by posting this, I’ll be happy and will feel like I have used this platform to do something useful & good instead of just for selfish nonsensical reasons. I may or may not delete this, but I just thought that after everything today, & the fact that someone had actually gotten this on camera, that it felt almost like it was my duty to do some good with it. I hope if someone you know has any form of mental health illness that you try your best to be patient with them time & time again which I know can be hard, but is sometimes the best or only thing you can do for that person... to just try your best to understand, and just BE THERE. ❤️❤️ #mentalhealthawareness

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She started the post by warning viewers of the intensity, so it wouldn't trigger or surprise anyone scrolling by.

"⚠️WARNING! VIEWER DISCRETION ADVISED!⚠️ No, this is NOT an act, this is REAL LIFE. This was me earlier having one of THE WORST panic attacks I’d ever had that happened to be caught on camera. Why I had this attack isn’t important so I’ll leave that bit out. I’m posting this not for attention or sympathy, but because I have been given this platform on instagram and would like to do some good with it. You guys see most of my life as rainbows and sunshine (cuz no one likes to post the bad parts anyways) , however this is my reality. Constantly having anxiety and being fine one minute, and like this the next. I try to post as much as I can about mental health to bring AWARENESS to it because it is REAL, and is not taught very well in Malaysia, however I have never been able to show you guys until now."

The video, while unplanned, was posted in hopes of making others feel less alone with their anxiety struggles.

"I didn’t choose this, I do not want it, and it’s a horrible thing to be constantly fighting a battle no one knows about or sees that’s in your head 24/7 and constantly feeling like a crazy person. It burdens not only you, but the people around you & yet all you can do is apologize when you yourself don’t even want it which is one of the worst feelings ever. I’m very lucky to have a great support system around me that loves & takes good care of me in times like these, however not everyone is as lucky as I am... and so this post is to remind those who suffer from it that you ARE NOT ALONE, & to hopefully bring awareness to the people who don’t know/understand mental illnesses."

Kharina wrote that she'll feel satisfied if her video educates even just one person about the very real nature of mental health issues, and how people truly cannot control how their brains are wired.

"If I can enlighten even 1 person by posting this, I’ll be happy and will feel like I have used this platform to do something useful & good instead of just for selfish nonsensical reasons. I may or may not delete this, but I just thought that after everything today, & the fact that someone had actually gotten this on camera, that it felt almost like it was my duty to do some good with it. I hope if someone you know has any form of mental health illness that you try your best to be patient with them time & time again which I know can be hard, but is sometimes the best or only thing you can do for that person... to just try your best to understand, and just BE THERE."

Soon after she posted it, the video was reposted on Twitter where it quickly went viral.

People on Twitter were quick to share their own experiences with anxiety, and how crucial it is to open up understanding about the reality.

Sadly, there is still so much misinformation about anxiety, people who truly don't understand the real physical and psychological affects of it, and how debilitating it can be in moments of panic. The popularity of videos like can serve as yet another tool to bridge the gap between some people's lived experience, and the misunderstanding of others.

May is Mental Health Awareness Month, so it's a great time to signal boost conversations and stories about mental health. Shifting cultural attitudes towards mental health is a slow and steady process, but progress is being made, slowly but surely.

Eagle-eyed 'Game of Thrones' fans spot clue about the dragons that would change everything.

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Things were looking pretty bleak for Daenerys and crew at the end of the episode before the second-to-last episode. Both Missandei and Rhaegal had their necks sliced, and the Dothraki and the majority of the Unsullied perished at the hands of the ice zombies. Dany's army approached King's Landing looking so decimated, that Euron could have blown them away.

It's a wild turn of events considering the past seven seasons of Dany's arc. As many people on Twitter noted, she blew a three dragon lead!

With only two episodes left, fans are theorizing/hoping that hope is not lost for the anti-Cersei #Resistance, and the seeds could have been planted for a dragon-ex-machina back in season four.

You may recall that Drogon, the dragon named for Khal Drogo that Dany rides, peaced out during season four, and his absense was never explained.

What if...the Mother of Dragons' dragon Drogon was out mothering dragons?

In a world in which dragons exist, this is possible.

According to George R.R. Martin's books, the dragons are genderfluid. Even if one was named after a male figure, they could still produce eggs.

The season eight opening credits appear to show a large dragon flying with three tiny ones.

Alternatively, Dany's original trinity could be the tiny ones, and a "big f*cker" could be waiting in the wings...no pun intended.

The teaser for the next episode also appears to show Euron looking surprised, and after he killed Rhaegal, nothing should surprise him at this point.

An especially diligent viewer slowed down the teaser, which may or may not feature more than one winged creature.

Emilia Clarke, the Mother of Dragons herself, told Jimmy Kimmel that episode five is even wilder than episode three, advising viewers to "find the biggest TV you can."

The more dragons, the merrier.

Hold on to your butts.

45 celeb look-a-likes who creepily also share last names but aren't related. Allegedly.

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When we think of celebrity doppelgangers, it's normally in reference to non-famous people who share similar faces with movie stars. The whole concept is that somebody going about their business at the grocery store is suddenly (and often) confronted by strangers who briefly mistake them for Fabio, or Jennifer Garner, or whichever celebrity the shoe fits.

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However, this isn't the only genre of celebrity doppelganger! There are also celebrities who look like each other, and celebrities who share last names and are constantly assumed to be relatives.

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In honor of all the celebrities who share last names and could have been related in another life, the Twitter user Balderdash started a thread of "celebrity family doppelgangers" and it's a delightful trip.

Since I personally believe this is a simultaneously lovely and weird rabbit hole to fall down, I have compiled 45 of the famous family members who never were - or maybe, just maybe, are secretly distant relatives.

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'Game of Thrones' fans spot possible clue to Arya's next kill in Daenerys' eyeballs.

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Remember the late Melisandre's prophecy back in season three?

Of course you remember! It came back in season eight, serving as the pump-up speech to get Arya to kill the goddamn Night King!

Melisandre told Arya that she will shut brown eyes, blue eyes, and green eyes.

Brown eyes? Check.

Winter came for House Frey.

Blue eyes? Check.

And green eyes? Well...

Conventional wisdom is that "green eyes" refers to Cersei Lannister, who has been on Arya's list since day one.

Game of Thrones has always prided itself on subverting expectations—granted you haven't read the books.

Newbies did not see Ned Stark's decapitation coming, and didn't learn their lesson and were shocked when Robb Stark was killed.

In addition to decapitating some of the major players in her squad, this past episode seemed to make a point of zooming in on Daenerys Targaryen's eyeballs, calling on the audience to register what color her irises are.

This raises the question: which queen will queen Arya Stark slay?

The eyes are green and full of terrors.

The idea of Arya killing Cersei has seemed obvious for years, as obvious as Jon Snow killing the Night King which...didn't happen.

Dany's eyes have always been green, but in the last episode, they seemed as green as wildfire. The shots were just as subtle as wildfire, too.

Arya doesn't have as established a motivation to kill with Daenerys as she does to kill Cersei. Sure, she's skeptical of her leadership and presumably sides with Sansa on the question of Northern independence...but does that mean she wants Dany dead?

It's possible that Arya could seek out Dany so she could have her face, or maybe in the next episode, the "Mad Queen"-in-waiting threatens the Starks more directly or seeks to kill everyone who knows about Jon Snow's claim to the throne.

In that case, Dany should start writing down an Arya-style kill list of her own.

26 Memes That Will Only Be Funny If You're Married.

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"Marriage is a wonderful institution... but who wants to live in an institution?"

-Groucho Marx

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If you're married these memes will be totally relatable and totally hilarious.

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This man called off his wedding because of his dog. Now he's worried he's an a**hole.

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Dog lovers get ready to stress out, this story is almost as much of an emotional journey as "A Dog's Purpose."

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While we usually hear about engagements breaking off because of cold feet, cheating, evil mother-in-laws or bridezilla/groomzilla nightmares terrorizing the plans, this situation is definitely different. When a Reddit user and obvious dog enthusiast, "mydogisgod0" posted on AITA (Am I The Asshole), the internet was incredibly conflicted.

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Me (28M) and fiancee (27F) have been together for 4 years, engaged for 6 months. I also have a 7 year-old lab mix who is the greatest dog in existence.

On Saturday, fiancee had a bachelorette party at home. I stayed with my parents but I left the dog with her because she likes having him there. However, I made sure to tell her to put the dog in our bedroom once the party gets going.

5am on Sunday I get a frantic call that something's wrong with the dog. She was drunk, so I told her to get a taxi and go to the emergency vet clinic. When I got there, she looked like she hadn't stopped crying for hours and she couldn't even speak. Two of her friends were there so they told me my dog is alive but not well. I felt sorry for her for an entire 10 minutes while waiting for the doctor.

But then, the doctor told me my dog ingested large amounts of alcohol and chocolate edibles. The girls apparently thought it would be cool to leave everything out on short coffee tables, leave the dog to wander around instead of putting him in our bedroom, and then get wasted and not notice he was going to town with the booze and edibles.

When we got home, I told my fiancee to pack and get out of my house and my life. I told her to tell her guests the wedding is off, and I'll tell mine. She was shocked, but she took her things and left.

2 hours later, I get bombarded by messages on Messenger, Whatsapp, by her sisters, brother, brother's wife, her mom, her friends, telling me that I am insane to do this to her after 4 years. They started off defending her, but it quickly turned into insulting me.

The logical thing for me to do was look for comfort in my friends and family. Nope. They all fucking agree. My mom said: "Well, it was a mistake, she didn't do it on purpose, besides - the dog didn't die!" Lucky me, eh? My dog didn't fucking die!

My sister was appalled that I canceled the wedding "over that?!" and even my best man said I might have overreacted. Yes, our relationship has had ups and downs, but it's mostly worked fine. But I am so disgusted at my fiancee that I can't even imagine looking her in the eye, let alone spending my whole life with her. She isn't fucking 17, she is 27!

By the way, this is not the first dumb thing she has done. She likes to text while driving, she always leaves stuff on the electric stove (like kitchen towels, the cutting board etc.) even though she has turned on the wrong burner and burnt whatever was on it several times in the past, and similar DANGEROUS things. It's not something I hold against her in the sense that I would ever mention in a fight, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't worried that she might end up killing herself or someone else. For example, my dog.

I'm 99% sure I will stand by my decision. But am I really an asshole? Literally nobody is on my side and I have no idea what to think.

If this had been a totally isolated incident and an obvious accident, it seems that his impulse to call off the wedding might be a little ridiculous. However, some people noticed that it sounds like he might be using the dog as a reason to justify leaving his fiancé for her overall irresponsibility. By making it about the dog, he was able to solidify a decision he had already been thinking about. That being said, if anyone hurts a dog on purpose you definitely shouldn't marry them...

"sanfordclark" wrote:

She clearly doesn’t mean that much to you, so yeah, leave over this.

I have a cat whom I adore beyond reason and if my current BF accidentally hurt him, I’d be pissed and upset but your dog isn’t dead. If he’s more important than your woman, that relationship is doomed. I’ve been in a relationship where I would have chosen my cat over them. That is not a good relationship.

"Broski225," was on his side, writing:

Eh, I'm going to say it's not that hard to watch a dog partying at all or to keep even an annoying dog put away. I have two huge, annoying, friendly dogs that love my friends, food, and booze. When we get too trashed to babysit them we let them go potty and then lock them up with some new toys and enjoy the night.

Even then, we've had dogs out while wasted and never had one get into anything worse than a bowl of popcorn because we've all had dogs before, know they get into shit and watch them.

I could understand if she let the dog eat a single edible accidentally or he drank some small amount of alcohol before people noticed, but the dog got pretty damn wasted. Everyone had to be completely ignoring him or more likely encouraging it, and if it's the latter then that's fucked up. I've never been so drunk or high I fed chocolate edibles to ANY animal.

NTA. It was an incredibly stupid move and I don't think I would be able to date someone that irresponsible either. I agree there's probably more to it or she doesn't mean that much to him, but it's incredibly important to me that my animals are safe and I would leave someone over something this irresponsible too.

It also would be a lot easier to leave, imo, if all her friends and relatives immediately insulted you.

Besides if she's this negligent partying there could be a lot worse that ends up happening. I've been able to leave my wife and her friends alone to party without the world burning; I can't imagine the stress of basically having a toddler that can make legal decisions alone with alcohol. I wouldn't want to marry into that either.

"Partassipant," brought up a good point about future children:

I loathe comparing kids to animals, but in this case there is a parallel. OP has to go to work and the ex has friends over, but instead of putting the toddler in the crib to sleep for the night, she lets the child roam around and the same thing happens. Or leaves the baby laying on the bed while taking a shower and the baby rolls off. There's always going to be times you won't be there and you have to be able to trust your partner to appropriately care for any pets or kids you have. If it's poor judgment to trust your partner then the problem is the partner anyway.

And nothing wrong with being confined to one room or even a crate.

"ExEssentialCryIceIs" was on her side:

They've been together for more than four years. OP wasn't ignorant as to how his fiance behaved, yet he still proposed and planned a wedding.

It is completely understandable that he is upset, I'd be furious too, but essentially canceling your relationship and future over what was a mistake, even a grossly irresponsible one, speaks to something else.

This is not about the dog, this about OP's cold feet. He's looking for a way out that doesn't make him "the bad guy". He's attempting to use this incident and finding that it's falling short of being a good enough excuse, because it isn't.

He should definitely end things with his finance because he obviously doesn't want to stay with her. However, he should take ownership of that instead of trying to make her feel like it's her fault. That's just a spineless, asshole move.

"FuckYouWithAloha," might be right:

I read it as OP has a laundry list of complaints and the dog was the straw that broke the camels back. He said he would never bring it up in a fight, but he’s doing exactly that now.

I think OP was subconsciously looking for an out and found one. Just no one else in his social circle seems to agree with his decision. Fuck their feelings, it would be his miserable marriage he’s getting into if he’s this unhappy before the dog incident.

What do you think?

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Entitled mom has racist meltdown when sister-in-law won't ditch work to tutor her daughter.

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Most of us have a handful of family members we disagree with from time to time, but getting in an occasional scuffle with a sibling or in-law and being verbally abused by a virulent racist are two completely different animals.

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The Reddit user TimberDogBarks recently had a truly wretched exchange with her entitled racist sister-in-law that merited a full blast online.

It all started when the sister-in-law tried to convince our protagonist to ditch her paid tutoring sessions in order to tutor her niece for free.

"Don't guilt trip me for not paying you, you don't even need the money and being greedy is a sin." My racist sister in law demands I turn down my clients to tutor her daughter when it suits her. And while I'm at it, I should come in early to fix her breakfast."

"Why can't you just dump your Wednesday lessons and free it for my daughter?" the entitled sister-in-law wrote.

"I told you the only days I can tutor Cassie are Tues & Thurs 5-8, if you can't fit that window she'd have to join in the rest. I'm more than happy to help Cassie improve her grades because we're family, but I'm not gonna 'dump' paying clients who have been with me for so long, causing me to lose money," the OP (original poster) responded.

From there, the conversation quickly escalated into one of the deepest circles of hell.

"Well you give me no choice, I'll talk to my brother and tell him you refuse to help Cass and it's your fault when she fails her class. Drop your Wednesday classes, you don't need the money anyway," the toxic in-law write.

"You're being unreasonable. I am willing to tutor your daughter for free because she's my niece. I love her and want to help her, but my lessons are already arranged this way. I'm sorry but I can't stop tutoring on Wednesdays just because it's convenient to you and I do need the money," wrote the deeply patient OP.

This extremely patient response unfortunately opened up the floodgates of BS from the abusive sister-in-law:

"OK wtf are you trying to make me feel guilty for not paying you?? We're family don't be rude and greedy (A SIN) I'm willing to accept you coming to our house on Saturday morning at 8 to teach her. Make sure to come 15 min earlier to fix her breakfast cuz Saturdays we like to sleep till late and have her dressed and ready at 10 for grammy to pick her up and take her to hers."

When the OP called out her sister-in-laws disgusting entitlement, the conversation went to some disgusting and slur-filled places.

In a comment below, the OP clarified that this was the obvious last straw, and both her and her brother were cutting off the racist sister-in-law. Years ago, the rest of his family was cut off for also being racist and apparently the sister was the last family member orbiting in the couple's circle.

TimberDogBarks contextualized the situation for everyone reasonably concerned for her safety, both emotionally and physically.

"He's my husband, his sister has disliked me from the day she met me because I'm black and a foreigner. She's a racist and when she's angry it shows. She resents the fact he chose me over his family. His family is very racist and cut ties with him when we got married. His parents haven't met our children yet because they're mixed race and they don't want to anything to do with us. We kept in touch with his sister because she's his little sister and she lives near us, but she's always making sly comments and coveted racist remarks towards me."

"My husband has told her many times that as much as he loves her he won't tolerate her treating me like shit just because my skin happens to be dark, but she had never called me anything as bad as what she did today."

Her husband was sitting next to her during the racist tirade and immediately called his sister to both tell her off and cut her off for her vile display of hatred.

"My husband was with me while I was texting with her and saw the messages. He called her up straight away and told her she's dead to him and doesn't want to hear from her ever again. She cried her eyes out (crocodile tears) and said she'd apologize to me and didn't really mean what she said but her daughter is failing her classes and it's my fault because I don't want tutor her."

Of course, this caused the racist sister-in-law to cry because she got caught in the act, but even during her manipulative weeping she managed to place blame on others.

"She did mean it, she's only crying because she got caught. We have given her many chances but there's no cure for racism and stupidity. And I already told her I have no problem with her daughter coming in for tutoring after school with the other kids, I won't even charge her because I genuinely want to help her get better grades, but I'm not gonna quit tutoring the other (paying) kids just because some are black and she doesn't want her daughter sitting in the same room as them. Funny because there are black kids in her class in school and she doesn't put up a fight because she knows she can't get away with being racist towards kids in a public school and they won’t give her crazy demands the time of day."

Through all of this, the OP still has compassion for her niece who is still a child, and wishes things had turned out differently on that end.

"The problem comes because her daughter has zumba and other activates after school every day of the week except Wednesdays, so because she wants me to tutor her exclusively, she expects me to get rid of the other kids and spend the hour teaching her daughter alone. How am I gonna dismiss my Wednesdays class just for her, when her daughter is welcome to come anyway? What am I supposed to tell the kids’ parents, that I can’t work for them anymore because their presence bothers my sister in law? Am I supposed to say no to that money to teach her daughter for free? I don’t mind teaching her for free but she has to compromise and bring her in with everybody else. Or you know, give priority to her grades over zumba, quit zumba and bring her in for tutoring."

"Oh and trust me I do need the money, I have bills to pay just like everybody else, but in her head we must be loaded because we go on holidays once a year and we enjoy eating out sometimes and going to the movies.

Sorry for the long rant but I’m super pissed she had the guts to call me those things."

After officially cutting her off, OP's husband ended up sending the Reddit and Facebook links to his sister, showing the threads where everyone is rightfully calling out what a disgusting person she is.

"Edit: Husband has sent sister in law a link to this thread as well as uploading the screenshots onto Facebook too."

Still, OP hopes there is a chance her sister-in-law will actually listen and change their ways. Not for their relationship, that is officially done and gone, but for the sake of her daughter and all the POC they will come across in the future.

"If you're reading this I hope listening to what people have to say opens your eyes to how wrong your way of thinking is, and helps you let go of all the hatred you have inside. Even if it's just for the sake of your daughter."

"I resent you but I don't hate you. If you realize why your point of view is wrong and if you're able to feel genuine remorse for what you did, I will forgive you, even though we're never going to speak to you again."

OP ended her comment by stating a truth that can be all too easy to forget, people who are actively hateful often harbor a lot of self-hate and fear that pervades their entire life. That is not an excuse in the slightest, but ultimately, the toxic sister-in-law will ruin her own life if she continues to behave this way.

"All that unjustified hatred is gonna eat you up inside. Read, talk to people, educate yourself. Read your beloved bible again, because I don't think you understood what Jesus' message was. All your hatred comes from fear and ignorance but you have the power to change it."

25 Memes That Will Only Be Funny If You Lived Through The 90s.

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"Mmmbop, ba duba dop ba doo."

-Hanson

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Things just made more sense in the 90s, ya know? These hilarious memes will definitely jog your memory and take you back to the totally awesome days of the 90s.

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17 people share the best advice they ever got from their moms. We love you mom.

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Moms truly do the lord's work.

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Between screaming infants, rowdy toddlers, sassy pre-teens and angst-ridden teenagers, raising a child is a challenging road. Most mothers would do anything for their children and still love them even when they get a door slammed in their face for the fifteenth time that month. Even when they're screaming at a restaurant because their broccoli is touching their macaroni and cheese, moms are patient survivors. Even saints deserve some appreciation and acknowledgement that their lessons are sinking in, though.

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When a recent Reddit user asked, "What’s the best advice your mom ever gave you?" people were ready to share their parental wisdom just in time for Mother's day.

1. Aw, "Wrackspurtnargles."

When I was a pre-teen she told me "as you get older you're going to think everyone around you is changing. It's not them that are changing, it's how you see the world that is changing"

I thought that was super weird advice, but as I got older and started to see adults for who they really were it really made sense. They weren't changing, I'd just never noticed that side of them before. I genuinely think it's why I wasn't a bratty teen, because I knew my parents were still the same parents, I was just seeing everything differently.

2. Yes, "Calicocalling."

"You will never have to live this day again"- on my very first memorably bad day, coming home from school unable to stop sobbing. I reuse it whenever trying to console someone after specific pains.

3. This is nice, "Mr_ADark."

"Happiness is just having something to look forward to."

You had your issues, mom, but this advice has served me well.

4. Yup, "Go_Bias."

If there’s an uncomfortable feeling in your gut about a person, situation, or place, go with it. Listen to it and either protect yourself or gtfo.

5. Wise words, "sep1eters3."

Something my grandfather told her, then she told me: "Hugs and handshakes, give them like you mean it"

6. Definitely, "FeatofClay."

"You don't regret money spent on travel."

My mom was always kind of thrifty and we traveled cheaply, but we traveled.

To convince me her advice was solid, she asked the adult me if I remembered what our couch looked like when I was 12, or what I got for Christmas. I couldn't remember. Then she said "What about the trip we took the Grand Canyon that summer?" Memories galore.

7. It's always too hot, "PapaFern."

"Don't touch that, it's too hot!"

I learnt that it was, indeed, too hot.

8. This is poetry, "Back2Bach."

"Look in the mirror and see if you see a friend in there.

If you don’t, take a longer look and get the friend back."

9. This is nice, "_walkerland."

“Sometimes you won’t be in love with your husband. But it will be your commitment to stay together that keeps your marriage working. And then one day, you find yourself back in love with them.”

10. This is so true, "midnight_trains."

In exasperation, my mom told me, "When you show up late, it tells people that you think your time is more important than theirs."

I used to be chronically late to nearly everything. And that statement just crushed me because I love my mom and my friends and would never purposely be disrespectful. I had just never looked at it that way before. I'm rarely late anymore and it's been amazing how something so seemly small has improved my relationships and has all around made my life better and less stressful than I could have expected. Wish Mom would have laid into me sooner.

11. 100%, "MireilleMincher."

Even if you love eachother sooo much and he is so sorry and it will never happen again,

If he hits you, you leave.

12. This is very wise, "reeseheartfelt."

Today is my mother's birthday, so this is fitting.

I wouldn't say its a single thing she told me, but the collective amounts of knowledge over many years. She has given me everything I need to be a successful person, and I love her so much for it. The one that does stick out is "Most people want to be liked, so find what you do like about them and show them what that means to you." This has allowed me to find the best in people, and then you can compliment them about something they might not even notice.

13. Absolutely, "Doroochen."

When I fist logged into facebook, when I was 14, my mom told me that "The internet is like a postcard, of course you can write every little secret onto it, but you have to expect that everyone can read it."

I think many teens should know that.

14. Cat-callers should hear this, "PillarofDeception."

Look with your eyes, not with your mouth.

15. Aw, "McCabeFox."

"It took me 9 months to make your heart, don't let someone break it in a day, people will come and go in your life but your mother will always love you."

16. A+, "estrogyn."

My two favorites from my mom:

"Never trust anyone whose flaws you can't see. It means they're hidden deep."

"As a parent, don't pat yourself on the back or blame yourself for how they turned out until they're 40."

17. Yikes, "Wrong_Answer_Willie."

"don't get married this young."

I didn't listen.

25 Memes Every Mom Needs To Laugh At On Mother's Day.

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“It’s not easy being a mom. If it were easy, fathers would do it.”

– Betty White

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Happy Mother's Day to all the queens out there raising kids and kicking butt! Let the Mother's Day celebration begin. Pop open some wine, put your feet up, and laugh at these hilarious memes.

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7 moms on 'Game of Thrones,' ranked from bad to worst.

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Westeros is a patriarchal society, but women and their wombs (and/or dragon eggs) still hold a lot of power. Behind every great man is a woman who gave birth to them, ready to take the throne if their actions drive him to suicide.

In honor of Mother's Day, and the show's penultimate episode (!!!) falling on the same day, here's the best of the worst moms in Westeros.

(Shout out to the only good mom on the show, Lady Olenna Tyrell.Mace Tyrell might have been an idiot who looked like the Mayor of Munchkinland, but she did her best.)

7. Catelyn Stark

Lady Stark (do do do do do do do) was mostly a good mom. She sought revenge on the Lannisters for allegedly trying to kill Bran, but she let her daughters go off to King's Landing with those very same Lannisters after she already heard that they poisoned her brother-in-law. Catelyn mostly did a good job serving as de facto Hand of the King in the North during seasons two and three, except for that whole "letting Jaime Lannister go against Robb's wishes" thing. Still, it was in the interest of getting her daughters back, which is understandable. No need to call Westerosi Child Protective Services here.


6. Ellaria Sand

If you kill Cersei Lannister's daughter, knowing full well who Cersei Lannister is and how much she loves murder and vengeance, then you're a bad mom. Cersei killed her own husband because she was bored—of course she was going to go after the people who killed her daughter. Prioritzing your thirst for revenge over your daughters' lives is a bad mom move.


5. Lysa Arryn

Aunt Lysa was overbearing and creepy as hell—and it showed in Sweetrobin's behavior and appetite. Being a mother who breastfeeds a non-baby child is just as bad as being a negligent one. This is some medieval helicopter parent sh*t.


4. Melisandre

Melisandre gave birth to a shadow demon for the sole purpose of dispatching them to assassinate her lover's brother. Putting your child in danger by sending them on such a mission is irresponsible. While the Shadow was clearly a murderer by nature, nurture could have informed its homicidal tendencies in the minutes mother and son spent together.

Plus, who's the daddy? Stannis Baratheon or the Lord of Light?


3. Daenerys Targaryen

The Mother of Dragons made some major mistakes that clipped her children's wings. She chained Drogon, Viserion, and Rhaegal in a dungeon in Mireen, stunting their development and giving up on their ability to be trained. Did she not even bother to watch How To Train Your Dragon, or did she just go straight to How To Chain Your Dragon?

Daenerys Targaryen worked her children too hard, bringing Viserion and Rhaegal into battle when they were either unprepared or too tired to fight, which resulted in both of their deaths.

After the Battle of Winterfell, Jon Snow said that Rhaegal was too tired to be ridden—what made her think that he'd have the energy to make it to Dragonstone, with or without the Iron Fleet ambush?

Many would also cite Dany's naming a dragon "Drogon" as indicative of a stupid lack of creativity, but let us remind them: Drogon isn't named Drogon as in "Dragon," he's Drogon as in Khal Drogo.


2. Cersei Lannister

Cersei loved her children—but not enough not to put targets on their backs by going on killing sprees. She didn't appear to consider how her son Tommen would feel when she blew up his wife and all his friends, driving him to suicide.

While he was alive, Cersei enabled all of Joffrey's sadistic behavior, with the exception of having said, "Not now, Joffrey!" a couple of times. She struggled to control him, and never punished him for his hobby of torturing prostitutes.

Cersei actively encouraged Joffrey's malevolence, feeding him such pearls of wisdom as "everyone who isn't us is an enemy," and joining him in tormenting Sansa Stark.


1. Selyse Baratheon

The absolute worst mother on the show is without a doubt the wife of the usurper Stannis Baratheon, who kept her daughter in a cage and brought her above ground to be murdered.

Stannis, even with his Messiah Complex and almost identical face to Roose Bolton's, actually loved Shireen. Selyse, on the other hand, never visited her, and thought that Shireen's grayscale was a punishment for wickedness. Girl, she's a CHILD.

Sure, Selyse loved her stillborn sons so much she kept them in jars, but she let her ACTUAL LIVING DAUGHTER BE BURNED AT THE STAKE and openly hated her her whole life. Selyse was such a creepy religious zealot, she gives off major Mother Pence vibes.

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