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20 people share the darkest confessions they've heard from drunk people.

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Most drunk confessions are pretty run-of-the-mill, maybe someone starts crying and spills about their depression, insecurities, or general unhappiness in their personal life. However, there are times when drunk confessions veer into even darker areas better suited for a therapy than happy hour.

In a popular Reddit thread, people shared the most intense drunk confessions they've witnessed, and it ranges from criminal to downright strange.

Before you continue reading, you should know - some of these entries are graphic and potentially triggering.

1. Analytica0 had to chill out with a woman's murder confession.

Bartender here..................so many stories............probably most terrifying is the woman who came into my bar years ago and had 2 shots and a drink and was real quiet for the first hour. Then she called me over and asked if I could call the police. I said what was the problem. She then told me that she had just stabbed and sliced the neck of a mugger in the alley and wanted to make sure he was dead first before she reported it.

NOTE: police were called, mugger found dead, woman not arrested or charged. She denied ever telling me that she wanted to wait an hour before calling the police----claimed that she had passed out in the alley and woke up then came into the bar in shock.

2. sportsmaniac11 is the only one who knows his friend's trauma.

My friend drunkenly told me his mother molested him when he was a kid and I am the only person who ever knows. Instantly understood why sometimes he doesn’t want to be at home alone with his mom at times.

3. chompalligator still doesn't know whether their neighbor killed people.

I had a neighbor, she was young and a serious alcoholic. She'd been a nurse before I met her but was under some type of investigation because pills at her job had gone missing.

One night she was super drunk and told me that she had put pillows over some of the elderly patients faces and suffocated them because she couldn't stand to see them suffer anymore (bedsores and just in pain).

I asked her about it when she'd sobered up and she denied saying that to me.

She passed away about three years ago so I'll never know if what she said was true or not.

4. altonssouschef's ex friend robbed people.

That they steal money from passed out drunk hookups. That’s the last time this person came to hang out at my place.

5. bretth1100's ex had some family stories.

My ex boyfriend told me one night (he moved here from Vietnam when he was 14) that his cousin is a gay prostitute and would fly to Hong Kong periodically to make bank....he’d slip something in his John’s drink at the bar to make them go to sleep just before heading to the hotel room. They’d get to the hotel room, John would end up falling asleep, he’d empty out the wallet and take off.

6. DrunkenPorcupine was embarrassed for a long time.

My now ex-girlfriend confessed to having to wipe my ass after I drunkenly took a dump during post-21st birthday shenanigans. Amuses me now but I was embarrassed for a long time after.

7. TessaBrooding received a terrifying threat.

“I know you’ll never love me. I wish I had raped you that time we were alone in a room.” While we were both drunk and kinda alone at another party.

8. WrestlingWoman wishes they could've done something for their friend.

My friend through 20 years broke down in the middle of a bar and told me, a guy from our high school class raped her at a party in 10th grade, and none of us heard her cry from the room upstairs.

9. taylors77's old coworker had serious addiction demons.

I work at a bar and our staff had a huge problem with heroin a couple years ago. It was to the point that management was regularly having to sweep the bathroom for needles. Anyway, one of the guys was a friend of mine and I thought he was an overall good guy despite his crippling addiction. One night we were having a few drinks after work and he got a little too drunk and admitted that a couple months prior he had bought stuff from someone he didn’t know and didn’t trust so he called up a girl he’d used with before and told her he had stuff and could he come over.

He let her go first and she immediately had a terrible reaction to whatever was in the drugs; seizing and ODing in front of him. He left her house without notifying the police or trying to help. He ODd himself a couple months after.

10. Algernon-has-flowers noped the hell out of there.

My male best friend at the time confessed me while drunk that he wanted to abuse my female best friend and that just the idea of it made him hard. Since the only way to get to her was with my help he insisted that it would be great for us three to go to a separate room (we were at a party). He said that while he was with her I could either watch or join them since I was also "pretty f*ckable"

Of course, I told him to go to hell. I grabbed my best friend and we both left the party. Needless to say, I broke ties with him and he can't get close to us.

The three of us were 17 at the time.

11. StupidSTUPIDLogin's friend barely escaped.

Not me, but a friend. He was out with a girl he didn't know too well & they got drunk; she said she was initiated into a gang. They just collected stray people they didn't know, took them to a warehouse, beat them up, & when they were thoroughly beaten/broken down she & the other recruits administered an overdose of heroin. Killing them.

There are weird people out there; you need to be careful.

12. SIPwater met a woman by hearing about her abortion.

Not long ago my friend was outside for a smoke at a small house party and a girlfriend of a mutual friend came up to him and decided to let him know that she had gotten an abortion earlier that week. She didn’t even introduce herself, just went straight to that.

13. turingtested stays away from coworkers now.

This is a doozy. I was about 22 and went out drinking with my coworker who was the same age. We're both women, and she asked me if I ever looked at porn. I said sure. She said she'd "stumbled across" some child pornography and it confused her because the kids "looked like they enjoyed it." So she looked up more to find out if it was "really so bad."

I freaked out, and tried to explain that it was illegal to look at, and that children can experience sexual pleasure while being damaged. She clearly thought she was just innocently researching the subject, and didn't seem to understand why I was so upset.

An older coworker we both liked and trusted explained the same thing to her.

I have no idea if she was a pedophile, or just didn't get why looking at child pornography for any reason is bad. (Outside of law enforcement.)

10 years later I'm still wary of coworkers. Some things you're better off not knowing.

14. beerbellybegone heard a colleague planning something wrong.

Was on leave from the army with some mates and met a fellow from an adjacent unit. We all proceeded to get good and drunk when the fellow from the other unit told us about how he fabricated an after-action report because he had killed a local and reported that he felt threatened.

We discussed it the next day when sobering up and ran it up the chain of command. Turns out he never actually did what he claimed to do, but was probably thinking about it and described his plan to us in a way that made it sound like he'd already done it.

About two weeks later scuttlebutt said that he was quietly sent to another base for "reasons".

15. Moounie learned far too much about their step dad in one night.

My parents were both drunk, and got in a fight which escalated their emotions apparently, and my step dad had a mental breakdown due to the situation and came in my room to vent about it, and basically admitted to me that when he was 16 he got a girl pregnant and they had my step brother, and choked her during an argument. She didn't press charges because her mother said don't ruin his life over it, so that's how he got away with it.

After that he started talking about how he's actually killed people and how he's really about that life, spent his teenage years hussling and selling drugs and never got caught cus he had a fake id or some shit. All the years I've known this guy we barely talked and he threw all this at me one random night where I barely knew what was going on lol.

16. bitchkitty818 knows which uncle to avoid.

My uncle told a bunch of strangers in a bar that if I wasn't his niece he would totally bang me. Bit awkward.

17. yellow_jellybean's ex-boyfriend opened the vault.

My ex-boyfriend told me that his high school girlfriend was sexually assaulted by her doctor. He burned that doctors office to the ground in the middle of the night.

18. CallahanWalnut dodged a potential bullet.

Was making out with a drunk girl and she wanted to fuck and she said she was on birth control. We didn’t f*ck cuz I didn’t want to have sex with a drunk girl

2 weeks later we’re both sober and she wants to hookup but she wasn’t on birth control so I had to get condoms. Later on that night she told me she hasn’t been on birth control in months. Scared the hell out of me.

19. selcouth_devotee's mom was a little too honest.

I was an accident. Usually my mam says like oh I always wanted kids and wanted to get pregnant young.... but nope. During a wine-filled rant about life she revealed I was, in fact, an accident. I kinda figured, she was 17.

20. laterdude found out just how awful their friend was.

I went to a dart tournament with an old college buddy last year, who is now married. Anyways, he hit it off with his fellow finalist who also happened to be sporting a wedding ring. The two got so plastered on the free drinks they won that soon the talk of tungsten shafts devolved into them having their tongues in one another with her hand on his shaft.

She took an Uber to the bar so my friend decides to be a gentleman, tosses me the keys to his Tahoe and says we can drop her off. So he folds down the rear passenger seats and lays down a few blankets in the back for the drive. I try not to watch but hey, sometimes a designated driver has to use the rear view mirror and it was pretty clear they were 69ing in the back.

When I confronted my friend about his infidelity after we dropped her off, he confessed that "It ain't cheatin' if you're both eatin'."

"But how can you do that?"

The dude was too drunk to realize I was referring to his presumed guilty conscience and instead provided me with a step-by-step guide on how I could also learn to neg women and speedily seduce them into 69ing in the back of my ride. It was terrifying someone was still quoting The Game in 2018!


24 Memes That Will Only Be Funny If You're From The Midwest.

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Ope! Sorry, Just gonna sneak right past ya and drop off these hilarious memes about the Midwest to make you fine people chuckle. I'm from southern Illinois and I can definitely say these Midwestern memes are spot on. Enjoy the laughs and share them with your neighbors, cause you know, you're nice like that.

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Woman asks if she's wrong to get co-workers fired for ranking female employees by 'hotness.'

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Sexism is a problem in many workplaces. But reporting it can be scary, especially because you never know what the consequences might be.

A woman shared a story on Reddit about reporting her co-workers to HR for ranking the female employees in her department by order of "hotness." Soon after reporting them, they got fired, and now she's questioning if she did the right thing.

She says she went out for drinks with about 20 of her co-workers after work, when she overheard a male co-worker mention her name to two other male co-workers. So against her better judgment, she started eavesdropping.

A bunch of people from my department at work went for drinks on Friday after work. Everyone was having a good time and there were about 20 of us there (from about 30 people in our department). I go to the bathroom, and as I am about to exit the hall to the bathroom I hear my co-worker say my name from around the corner of the wall. Perhaps I shouldn't have eavesdropped, but curiosity/suspicion got the best of me and I did.

The convo she overheard was between the three guys making a "hot list" in which they ranked every woman in their department from first to last. She says it left her feeling "upset and disturbed," so the next day she told HR. All three men were promptly fired.

I overheard a conversation of three guys in my department making a "hot list" (they actually referred to it as that), which involved ranking every woman in the department from first to last. I was upset and disturbed. I was quite friendly with 2/3 of the guys, actually. Yesterday morning I tell HR and they state that they have a zero-tolerance policy for actions like this. All three men were fired first thing this morning, and now I feel terrible.

The woman says she "hated" the way the men were talking about women, but she doesn't think they should've been fired, even though she knew it would be a possibility when she complained.

Now she's being called a "snitch" and is questioning if she did the right thing or if she should've just confronted them directly.

I hated the way they were talking about women, but I didn't think they should be fired. With that said, we work for a large company that I know takes complaints like this seriously, and would not really miss these 3 guys, so deep down I suppose I knew it was a possibility when I complained. Nobody knows that I am the person who reported them, and I've overheard people say that the person is a "snitch". I'm wondering if I should have just confronted them at the bar and told them how it made me feel instead, but at the time I didn't feel comfortable doing that. I especially feel bad because I had a fairly good relationship with two of the guys.

She says she feels especially bad because she had a "fairly good" relationship with two of the three guys who were fired. So she asked Reddit: Am I The Asshole?

She followed up with some pertinent info, and responded to commenters claiming she was only upset because she was "low on the list":

INFO 1: It was not a formal work event, but our supervisor organized everyone going out for drinks

INFO 2: A lot of people are insisting that I am upset because I was low on the list. I tried to avoid making this the focus, but with all the comments I feel like I have to address it. I was high on the list, and was not offended about my placement; I was offended about the fact that they were making a list in the first place. I hate that I even have to write this

Most commenters seem to agree that she did the right thing by reporting her co-workers.

​​​​cillademander points out that it was HR that made the decision to fire them, not her:

NTA. It was at a work event and they were sexist dickheads. I totally get that you were uncomfortable and it was a good thing that you reported it. You didn't get them fired though, HR did. That was rather assholeish of them, but not your call.

And KatsaridaReign notes that it was ultimately their own actions that got them fired:

HR didn't get them fired. Their own actions did.

And it's possible this wasn't even the first offense. Advena-Nova says:

There is also a chance that op was not the first to report them. This could have just been the straw that broke the camels back.

BuskaNFafner adds:

NTA. This constitutes a hostile work environment even if it took place outside of the office.

Seems like people mostly agree she did the right thing, even if the consequences seem too extreme to her. Ultimately firing these guys will improve the office environment and make it safer and more welcoming to women.

23 Memes For Anyone Addicted To Ranch Dressing.

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Move over ketchup, mustard, and mayo. The king of condiments is RANCH! It's good with wings, pizza, and fries. Rumor has it, you can even put it on lettuce. Truly amazing. Ranch lovers of America, unite! These hilarious memes prove once and for all RANCH RULES!

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15 former students share stories of the worst teachers they've ever had.

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Some teachers manage to do an amazing job despite being overworked and underpaid.

But teachers are also human. So while some of them are superheroes, some do a terrible job for no apparent reason.

A Reddit user asked the people of the internet to share tales of the teachers who scarred them for life. Buckle up and thank your lucky stars that you're no longer stuck in the school system.

1. Capital punishment is always an interesting choice.

I had a first grade teacher who--whenever she caught me chatting with another student when I was supposed to be listening--would yank on my ear. - HoloGalaxy

2. This teacher threatened to get a seven-year-old expelled for bad penmanship.

My 2nd Grade teacher. I always had terrible penmamship, but we had to write a report on a book about an animal. I picked penguins. The next day she called me up in fromt of the class. She said my report was so bad and illegible that she was going to have to tell the principal and that I was going to be expelled. From 2nd grade. I bawled my eyes out because I thought I was going to never be allowed to go to school again and knew I'd get my ass whooped when I got home. She told a 2nd grader that he was going to get kicked out of school because of penmanship.

She was just a terrible human. - Incidentalomatous

3. Teachers who play favorites based on student sports are always bizarre.

A math teacher that also worked with the cheerleaders. The teacher gave EXTREMELY preferential treatment to the cheerleaders. They got out of class anytime for any reason. No homework on their menses (we all knew because they would tell the teacher directly while in class), but the other girls in class would complain about not receiving the same treatment. The teacher was highly disorganized and rarely actually TAUGHT anything, it was mostly "Do this page in class, do this page for homework". She would gather the cheerleaders at her desk during class for little pow-wows on hemp lotion (MLM in school I kid you not). Went in one day after struggling on problems and said, "Look I figured it out.". Her response? "Well let me give you a cookie." Got sent to detention for telling her to fuck herself. She also called me out twice in class for being a Pagan. She really liked to harp on that. Later on she was fired for having sex in her classroom (not with a student though). Vindication at last. I hope she never works with school aged children again. - XxVerdantFlamesxX

4. Why do some teachers think it's cool and badass to have everyone fail their class?

Neutron physics professor. When we asked what the best way to study for the test was, he said to take the test since we would all end up failing the first time anyways. And he averaged the tests so we could theoretically never get an A unless we guessed right and studied exactly what he would test on. BTW this is for grad school which means that anything lower than a B can get you kicked out. - TreckZero

5. Hopefully this happened decades ago, because this is a seriously stone-age attitude toward mental health.

7th grade; mans didn’t understand the concept of “this kid is seriously depressed, let him go to therapy halfway through class” he didn’t think I was actually depressed because I was always smiling (fake smile) he would give me detentions without my knowledge while i was at therapy, and refuse to give me the work/instruction that was said during half the class period that I was at therapy; he would give me Cs when I would actually make As. he would call me out/use me as examples (not the biggest fan of unwanted attention)

The man literally had a lecture about how kids can’t get depressed because they don’t have to deal with adult hardships because of me, and it was basically 10 slides of situations and sentences taken out of context, he finished with a picture of me (using me as an example) and said I was faking for attention and an excuse to skip class. I stood up and said all the reasons I’ve been diagnosed with severe depression, none of which were listed in his lecture. - MC_NIGLET

6. Ever wonder why there are so few female cult leaders? Maybe it's because they're busy teaching first grade.

My 1st grade teacher was extremely racist. She practiced something called “sun people and moon people” that she read in some book. She made half the class sun people and half the class moon people. The sun people consisted of all the African American kids in the class and some of the white females. The rest of the class were the moon people. The sun people got to have privileges like extended recess, bathroom breaks, were not required to pick up after themselves, and were treated with respect. The moon people had to come in early from recess and “tidy up” the classroom, were not allowed bathroom breaks, and were treated very poorly. I remember one day a boy had an accident (because he wasn’t allowed to use the bathroom all day) and she completely lost it. I remember her screaming, “Uh-uh. You are not going to piss on my floor! You are disgusting! Moon people, clean this piss off my floor”. And she made all us “moon kids” get on the floor with spray cleaner and paper towels and clean the floor. We had a new teacher the next day. - TallulahAndHula365

7. Can we find this person and make sure they no longer have access to children?

For context. I went to catholic school in 90s'. In 7th grade, there was this kid named Patrick that was a little "slower" than the rest of us. The teacher hated Patrick, mildly bullied him whenever possible. I don't remember what the trigger was, but one day the teacher just lost his shit and sort of half choked, slammed Patrick up against the chalkboard. Lifting him completely off the ground. - Icedcoffeeee

8. And we wonder why there aren't enough women in STEM.

Grade 9 science teacher told us that physics and chemistry used to be harder but they had to make the subjects easier so that girls could do it. And he used to wear socks with sandals. Unforgivable. - Jambi420

9. This really is like "Matilda," and not in a cute way.

Locked me in a cardboard box a la Matilda on a weekly basis, kept me in every recess, screamed at me every day in front of the class, calling me stupid and yelling at the rest of the class not to act like me.

I had add and was suicidal at the time, and was already socially ostracised because I was much poorer than most of my peers. I was 8.

Fuck you, Mrs.Blume. You’re the reason why every time I see a ‘teachers are the best human’s stuff it makes me want to punch a wall. I hope you get fucking stomach cancer and die alone and scared. - EmergencyLychee

10. There's no crazy teacher like a crazy gym teacher.

Gym teacher in high school. Roided up and dumb as a rock. Refused to sign off on doctors notes students would bring in to be excused from gym class. Which was interesting when he did it to a girl on crutches. To this day one of the biggest assholes I’ve ever encountered.

Or the math professor I had in college who was a brilliant guy and had degrees and awards coming out his ass but he was a god awful teacher and had less than zero people skills. That class was absolutely brutal. - OtherAcctWasBanned11

11. This high school sounds eventful.

In HS the top three shitty teachers were Mr. T, whose freshman daughter walked in on him banging his senior TA. 2nd was Mr. B, who would chug vodka from a chemistry flask, stagger out of the supply closet, put on a nature film, and pass out on the back counter and snore louder than the movie. When the bell rang, we just got up and went to our next class with him still snoring away. Lastly, Mr. R, who would go out to his car between classes to get baked, then come back in and spend the entire class hitting on senior girls. Mr. T was fired on the spot and was replaced by a substitute, the other two were fired a few years later I heard. There were other shitty teachers (both male and female) there who were also rumored to be banging students that quietly got jobs elsewhere right after Mr. T got busted. - Penelepillar

12. It's always nice when your gym teacher comments on your body.

I had a health teacher who doubled as a gym teacher for my freshman year. He was super sexist. Almost every lesson he would say something that degraded females in some way, but not enough to be reported to the school board about. For example, we were going over what different types of work outs did what and he said that women shouldn't do a particular set of exercises because 'they broadened the shoulders' and 'you don't want broad shoulders, ladies.' Also, If you were a female in his class and you answered a question or gave an opinion he would stare at you for a moment before shaking you off and blatantly ignoring you.

It really sucked because I had been home schooled until high-school so my first experience with public school was this middle aged man talking down upon my entire sex. I was pretty chubby and shy at this time so his comments lowered my self image pretty badly. I would have to force myself out of bed everyday and I would cry as I got dressed for school because of how much I dreaded going to his class that day. - SnowdropPax

13. This is so weirdly, specifically mean.

Fourth grade. My glasses broke but not to big of a deal bc I sat in the front row. She moved me to the back of the class. She would write assignments on the board and wouldn’t read it off. Told the girl next to me she was NOT allowed to tell me what it said and told me my parents needed to get my glasses fixed. I couldn’t make my parents do that.. it was rough. Hey Mrs Johnson... eff you. It’s been 24 and this still upsets me. - TheMudbloodSlytherin

14. Ewwwww.

back in 7th grade i had a science teacher that was really creepy. i remember one time he asked one of my friends to hang something up on the wall but she had to stand on this counter type thing we had in or classroom. instead of letting her climb up and do it real quick he insisted that HE had to hold he by her waist while she hung up the poster. she obviously wasn’t comfortable with that so i got her out of it by saying i’ll hold her instead. he was really rude to me for the rest of the year. - Mirando00

15. And finally, I think we can all agree that too many teachers get a sick thrill out of not letting kids go to the bathroom.

Third grade teacher. I had ADHD undiagnosed at the time (later formally diagnosed) and she hated my guts. I never understood it, she would constantly call me out and be overly cruel. She also almost made me pee my pants because she wouldn't let me go. She once made me sit on a big carpet and look up a word I had said in a dictionary, for over an hour. When I said I couldn't find it, she yelled in my face that then I shouldn't say it. I loved school before then, but I severely declined after that and it wasn't until adulthood that I began to love learning again. She'll never see this, but screw you, Mrs Benson. - eldritchhues

15 former neo-Nazis and hate group members share what made them change their ways.

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Racist groups feel more and more comfortable making themselves public. As a result, keeping people out of hate groups is top of mind for many.

A Reddit user recently asked the former neo-Nazis and hate group members of Reddit what made them change their ways and rejoin polite society. Some of the answers are so simple, they might surprise you.

1. For some people, violence within their hate groups made them leave.

My uncle was part of the kkk. He was very poor and homeless and the kkk supplies you with housing and food and pays for things for you. But he tried quitting and one day as he left a bar, he was jumped by members and had his chest slit open. He had to get around 200 staples but he still quit. Thankfully - bambixx__

2. For one person, gang activity was enough.

I started to get older and learn more compassion. I was a lonely kid and I didn't have many friends, and I already grew up in a racist household and many of my family members are neo nazis, covered with white supremacy tattoos. I discovered a group of older skin head kids and I fell into it pretty bad.

As I was learning more compassion and slowly was shedding my neo nazi beliefs, my buddies were bragging that they beat the fuck out of another mutual friend of ours when he said he wasn't a nazi anymore and he was dating a black chick.

I was already thinking about leaving the group. It was basically a little gang.

Once I found out they were beating up people for leaving I realized it really was like a gang and I didn't want anything to do with it. I was shedding my racism and I didn't want to be involved. So I thought if I was a piece of shit enough to be a nazi in the first place I deserved to get beat up anyway and if getting beat up meant I could get away for a life away from nazism then that was good enough for me.

I've still been a neo nazi for longer than I've been an anti nazi, but I'm looking forward to the day I can say I've been an anti nazi for longer than I've been one - Comrade_Oghma

3. In-group fighting can also push people out. Who would've thought Nazis don't make great friends...

I have an acquaintance who works to help reform Nazis in Germany. According to her, a lot of people leave the movement not because they've had a change of heart, but because their lives have been threatened by their fellow Nazi friends. And since a lot of them have alienated their families and have no one to turn to for support or community, they will often end up in these formal, government sponsored reform programs. She said that even though a drastic political shift might not be the catalyst for a person to join the program, the program works with individuals over long stretches of time and with the aim of slowly shifting their views through mandated therapy and such. She said she's definitely seen some success stories, but has also seen some people who never quite have that change of heart. - friendofpyrex

4. Religion can save some people.

my grandfather evidently was a member of either the Klan or associated hate group back in the 1960s. He became a born-again Christian and walked away from it. There was little evidence of his history as I grew up...I only found out after my mother told me about it after he passed away. - ElucidatedBrethren

5. And violence continues to pop up as a reason.

long ago, buddy of mine quit the klan after just barely not getting his head taken off by a .44mag.

he and his fellas were in their trucks driving along, and saw a truck driving through what they thought of as 'their town' - said truck had a black guy driving, and another in the passenger seat.

being the kinda fellas they were, they took exception to this and gave chase, hooting, hollering, threatening to run the truck off the road, etc.

as my friend was leaning out his window to yell some nonsense, the passenger in the truck they were chasing opted to instill a sense of caution in the good old boys via a ruger. my friend saw the pistol come out, had that moment of dread, saw the muzzle drop ever so slightly, and the side mirror on his truck *vanished*.

he realized how close he'd come to death for what suddenly seemed like a very silly reason.

within a few months he was quietly packing up and leaving town, cutting pretty much all his social ties permanently. - buttery_shame_cave

6. Learning that gay people aren't evil can help.

I met a gay man. A real, live man infected with the gay.

I was raised in a very homophobic home in a rural area, and I always believed gays were bad people. I thought they were rude, self centered, and bullies. I distanced myself from them until one day I was assigned to work with a flamboyantly gay man. I was horrified.

He proved to be one of the nicest, most caring people I had ever met. He was a fantastic listener and good with melding ideas together. That interaction completely changes my outlook on LGBTQ+ people, much to the horror of my conservative family. They are quite uncomfortable that one of my best friends is a pansexual that uses they/them pronouns. I don’t know why I didn’t think people were decent humans just because of who they are attracted to, but opening my eyes allowed me to meet so many amazing people. - anyythinggoes

7. Meeting people who aren't like you is a surefire way to stop being hateful.

My niece in Romania married a neo-nazi last year...or at least we thought he was because of his long Facebook history, racist tattoos, prior arrest for hooliganism, etc.

I had a 4 hour car ride with him and had a long chat. He quit because he left the Romania for a little while to work in Amsterdam. His co-workers were from all over the world, including African countries and Israel. He realized everyone was pretty much the same after drinking with them and smoking a joint after work. There was nothing about them worth hating, they were doing the same thing he was.

He basically quit Facebook and started getting his tats modified, and hasn't touched politics at all since 3 or 4 years. - PolecatEZ

8. Some people grow up to question religion, others grow up to question their parents' racism.

i was raised by white supremacists who were active in the movement in Canada.

It occurred when I was 15 when I pretty much stopped just accepting that my parents were right on everything, and talking to my grandfather at the right time of my life, telling me how he ended up in Canada because his brother outed him as a communist and he had to run. I remember how in the hell does a communist raise a fascist? He said he could only give his children his morals and what he thought as right and wrong, but once they were adults, they were responsible for figuring the rest out--and that just as my mother rejected what he tried to impart on her, I could do the same. - DragoWonInRealLife

9. Literally all it takes sometimes is talking to someone of a different race.

I’m white and my husband is black. My dad is a very old school southern green beret who always told me that I was not to “date outside my race.” My dad got deployed all over and was very much absent for my senior year of high school until a couple years in to college. When I finally talked to him he found out I was attending FAMU (a historically black university) and the first thing he said was “you’re not dating a black guy are you?” But I was....in fact I had been with him for years at that point. We were only together for a few months when he put his life on hold to work five jobs to help put me through college. My dad was incredibly angry and he essentially disowned me. Years later he met my husband (who was my fiancé at that time) and after talking with him for about a half an hour my big, scary, racist dad burst into hysterics and apologized profusely. It was like switch flipped while he was talking with My fiancé and he realized that he was the asshole and he just kept apologizing, It was shocking honestly and something I won’t ever forget. It’s been almost ten years since that day and he still apologizes and is trying to make up for it. - 6CO26H2O_C6H12O66O2

10. This guy realized he was only in a hate group because he wanted friends.

When I fell for a black girl. I think I was trying to fit in and be cool by being involved with people like that instead of actually being racist. I needed somewhere to fit in. - Paffmassa

11. For this guy, it was a dose of psychedelic mushrooms.

Raised far right Pentecostal (the speaking-in-tongues cast-out-demons kind) so not technically a hate group, but we hated "sin" such as homosexuality, premarital relations, gambling, drinking, etc.

My world crumbled when I took some shrooms. They didn't expand my mind so much as allow it to think what it wanted to without fear of being instantly struck down by lightning. I took them because my marriage had been falling apart even though I'd done everything by the book, and I wanted to escape for a few hours. I figured I could pray for forgiveness later.

In the afterglow of my trip, I came to the realization that everybody was just some dude, ate breakfast cereal like I did, took daily shits like me too. They had no more right to tell me what was right or wrong than I did. And if I didn't want to live out the rest of my days in misery, I could either get divorced and condemn myself to hell... Or I could get divorced and decide the whole thing was bullshit.

Folks, it's bullshit. - rEvVoMaNiAc

12. Who could've guessed that KKK guys would also abuse girls?

My grandma says the reason her father (my great grandpa, the nicest man I'd ever met in my life) left the KKK in Oklahoma was because a few of the older male members were starting to get handsy with the young daughters of the other members. These kids were under 10 years old and a couple men were caught with hands up dresses. According to grandma, he told the group he'd rather be "surrounded by a bunch of n*******s than spend one more minute among the company of child perverts". Apparently even racists have a line in the sand. We still have the letter from they sent him in 1924 summoning him back to answer questions. - BewareTheWiggleFish

13. This story has a lot of plot twists.

My dad was a KKK member and I became a neo-Nazi skinhead at the age of 14, because it was acceptable rebellion (ie, I could be a teenager but not risk getting kicked or or upsetting my parents too bad). At 18, I married a former Klansman who also had ties to a neo-Nazi group I was in.

We bounced between various groups for about a decade after the main neo-Nazi group split, including a year or two where we were both on the state board of the local KKK. There were times I thought about leaving and was having second thoughts (in part because of hypocrisy and how most racists we knew lived and behaved worse than they stereotyped other races as doing, and in part because of growing misogyny in the larger racist movement) but I was worried about losing all my friends and my family if I did. Being an open racist isn't really constructive to making or keeping friends who are not also racist.

The final straw was twofold.
I was pregnant and didn't want to raise my son that way because overall it made our lives worse, plus I connected with a few people in online pregnancy groups without knowing their race and found that one woman I related to the most was black and married to a white man.

My husband had also come out as bisexual and, during my pregnancy, had told me he was possibly transgender. He had dating profiles online stating this and I was worried some of our "friends" would literally kill him if they found out. - -firead-

14. And this guy realized his racism was motivated by, well, being kind of a loser.

I was a part of a political part with a heavy Anti-Immigrant stand who had a reputation of beating up immigrant workers, I was young and stupid, only later I realized if someone who was barely modern as me and couldn't even speak the language of the land can easily find a job and work here then something was wrong with me. I felt humbled and became an immigrant myself and emigrated the greatest immigrant country of all. - speeddevil789

15. This man learned to respect people of other races in prison, of all places.

Going to prison. I ended up looking up to, even admiring a certian group of Mexican Americans in California prison. I did some bad stuff, and ended up getting locked up for it. Long story short, probably 70 percent of white dudes in prison are on meth. I just don't agree with that stuff. Drug use in general is a no-no in my book.

The northern Mexicans had a policy of no drug use, toughest workout regiments, extreme discipline, extreme respect, must learn a few different languages, conduct yourself with a high level of respect even when dealing with rivals. I couldn't help but wish the white dudes conducted themselves like they did. I had a northern mexican neighbor in prison. He would always address me as "Sir" even though I was technically his enemy. He would pass me food, tobacco, we would talk through the vent. It was funny sometimes, a new gaurd who just started working at the prison, would walk past my Northern Mexican neighbors cell and expect to see a black dude or maybe a russian, depended on what language he was speaking, I would love watching there faces when they realized it was a Mexican American speaking African Swahili, or Russian.

Their leaders made them learn a few languages so guards couldn't understand what they were saying ever. You come to realize in prison were all in the same boat. It's eye opening when someone who you think hates you treats you like one of there own

There were times where riots would break out on the yard between us and the northerners, which can be nerve racking because they have a rule that they are not allowed to stop stabbing you until the guards break it up, which can take forever, and even then, my northerner neighbor would send me food and other things, and never stopped addressing me as Sir, most of them were like that. - ekow944

23 Memes To Help You Start Your Day Off With A Laugh.

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Life is better when you're laughing. People who laugh are 100% more likely to be in a good mood. These funny memes were picked with the sole purpose of making you smile today. How cool is that? This list will definitely help you start your day off on the right foot.

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'Harriet' screenwriter said Julia Roberts was suggested to play Harriet Tubman in 1994.

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Brace yourself because this an idea so insane it almost feels we're being trolled: a film executive once suggested that Julia Roberts play Harriet Tubman in a biopic.

The new biopic, "Harriet," about Harriet Tubman, an abolitionist and activist who was born into slavery and risked her life on approximately 13 missions to save close to 100 slaves is currently in movie theaters nationwide. Unfortunately, this movie took over 25 years to be made.

When screenwriter Gregory Allen first wrote the script, he had a meeting in 1994 with the president of a studio sub-label. He recounted the experience for the LA Times, noting that the president told him, “This is a great script. Let’s get Julia Roberts to play Harriet Tubman." When he was told that Harriet Tubman was actually a black woman, the man responded, “That was so long ago. No one will know that." WHAT IS HAPPENING?

This is, of course, upsetting to learn for a lot of reasons but mostly because Hollywood is still notoriously awful at casting actors who are the actual race of the people of color they're portraying. White-washing unfortunately still happens often (remember when Scarlett Johansson played a Japanese character?). Then, there's the fact that this man had a job in Hollywood and he clearly didn't know how to read a script, or a history book. If Harriet Tubman was white, the risk involved in running an operation that freed black, enslaved people wouldn't be nearly as high. White people did help slaves escape, but the strength and courage it required for a black person (especially a black woman) who was born into slavery and risk becoming a slave again? It's an entirely different story, with an entirely different hero.

Needless to say, the internet had a lot to say.

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People are Googling their favorite teachers and sharing the results.

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Have you ever wondered what happened to your favorite teacher from childhood? Unless you live in the same neighborhood as them, or your kids go to the same school, it can be hard to keep track of all the life-changing teachers from the years. But Google and the advent of social media has made the question of "where are they now" very easy to answer.

In a recent Twitter thread the podcast host Desus of Desus vs. Mero joked about Googling his teachers late at night, and it opened up a floodgate of responses from people who have done the same.

As it turns out, teachers really do have lives outside of teaching, some of which involve influencing thousands of internet followers.

Some students have gone the extra mile and made dinner dates with their teachers in order to catch up and express gratitude.

While others have lucked into running into their favorite teachers on errands, as it turns out, more than a few teachers have garnered a following outside of the classroom.

A few teachers jumped onto the thread to share how much they love getting contacted by former students to catch up on life and form adult friendships.

Of course, not all teachers from childhood are amazingly open people waiting to forge an adult connection. Some people have had less than ideal revelations about their childhood authority figures.

Have you Googled your favorite teacher lately, and if so, are they still crushing it or has your memory betrayed you?!

Women share their responses to men claiming their inappropriate comments were 'just a joke!'

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When getting called out for sexism, racism or bigotry, people will often defend themselves by declaring "I was just joking!" It's cowardly, infuriating, and it throws comedy under the bus. Jokes deserve more! Jokes are—or at least should try to be—funny! They have punchlines and setups. Comedians spend their lives honing them at miserable open mics with the hopes of one day saying them on television so their parents will be proud. Trust me, jokes aren't easy. And they aren't bigotry.

An author named Heather Thompson Day shared the perfect way to shut down people who defend inappropriate comments by claiming "it's a joke!" Ask the person to "explain" their joke. It worked for her.

She writes:

When I was 19 my boss said I should be a phone sex operator & laughed.

I said “I don’t get it”

He said “it’s a joke”

I said “explain it to me”

& that’s how I learned that once sexual harrassers have to explain why their inappropriate jokes are funny, they stop laughing.

To add to the creepiness of this guy's statement, Thompson Day reveals that the boss was 45 and she was 19 when this happened.

Heather says she learned this trick from her own dad.

And she is not the only woman to use this tactic—or similar—to shut down sexist and offensive comments from men, it turns out.

After her tweet went viral, hundreds of women are sharing their own stories about how they've responded to sexist "jokes" and misogynist comments.

This tactic isn't limited to dealing with misogynists—it also works on racists and homophobes.

Ultimately, asking people to explain their "joke" undercuts their defense and forces them to face what they really did or said.

As this woman pointed out, looks like there're some things men don't want to explain to women.

Who's joking now?!????

I'm definitely going to keep this one in my back pocket.

22 'Gonna tell my kids' memes that you're gonna tell your kids about.

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There's a new meme in town and it's butchering history.

A hilarious new meme is trending right now that replaces celebrities and historical figures with an alternate timeline.

It's fun to imagine being old and sitting your grandchildren down to tell them the way things were back in your day. It's even more fun to imagine telling them all the wrong facts. The Earth is melting, why not spice up our sad state to avoid becoming the hover-chair blob humans depicted in Pixar's "Wall-E?" It's not a harmful lie if it's hilarious, right?

Enjoy, future children everywhere!

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Woman asks if it's wrong to ban boyfriend from delivery room because he made bets about her labor.

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Giving birth is one of the most intense physical experiences you can go through. Even quickest most painless labors involve pushing a human being out of your body, so it's reasonable to feel anxious about the process.

Some women find it soothing to have their partner or close loved ones in the delivery room with them. When the shooting pains reach a peak high they can look at the supportive faces of people who love them and can't wait to meet the new baby.

However, in some cases, having people witness one of the most vulnerable physical moments of your life adds to the anxiety. Particularly, if they're not sensitive and respectful of how scary it can be to push a full human out of your body.

In a recent post on the Am I The A*shole subreddit, a pregnant woman asked if she's wrong for banning her boyfriend from the delivery room after finding out about a bet he made.

AITA for deciding to ban my boyfriend from the delivery room after finding out him and his brother were placing bets on my labor and delivery?

OP shared that she got pregnant during a one night stand, and her and her now boyfriend decided to keep dating and give it a real go.

So I got pregnant during a one night stand. The guy and I were still casually talking after and it was heading towards dating so when I found out I was pregnant we slowly began to date and made it official. He is now my boyfriend and we live together.

However, tensions between the couple formed when OP found out her boyfriend and his brother made a bet on how many pushes it will take her to give birth.

Yesterday we were opening some baby shower items at his mom’s house and my boyfriend’s brother and his girlfriend were there. Everything was cool and I was having fun hanging out with his brothers gf but my boyfriend and him were super giggly and his brother was asking me questions about if I’m having an epidural and stuff. I asked what’s going on and they said nothing and changed the subject. We had dinner later that night and they were still acting weird when it was just them in the kitchen or living room alone together. His girlfriend finds out and tells me that my boyfriend and his brother are placing money bets on how long my labor will be and how many pushes until I “shoot” out my son. I was disgusting by this immature behavior and so was his mom and the girlfriend. I excused myself and left to go home.

Finding out about the bet made OP feel disrespected and prompted her to ban her boyfriend from the delivery room.

When he came home I told him that he will not be in the delivery room with me. I said he hurt my feelings really bad with betting and kidding around about something so scary to me. We made up the next morning but I still don’t want him in the room with me. I told him that our relationship is still super fresh (6 mo) and that we’re still figuring each other out. That we’re going to have to do a lot of growing up to make this work between us and to co parent and raise a child. I want to be with him and try this new future with him but I was on the fence about having him in the delivery room to start with and this incident tipped the scale. I ended the conversation with telling him he has a lot of maturing to do.

OP's boyfriend's brother even reached out to apologize and emphasize how much his brother wants to be in the delivery room.

He’s really upset and his brother even reached out and apologized but said I was being rude and unfair from keeping my boyfriend from the birth of his own son and that he has a right to be there since he apologized already. I really don’t want him and I don’t think it makes it right just because he said sorry, but I still feel like an a*shole.

OP went on to clarify that the bet isn't the first time her boyfriend has been immature about the birthing process, and this type of immaturity makes her anxious about coparenting in general.

Edit— this wasn’t his first offense. He has been immature about the whole pregnancy and we have had multiple sit down discussions about the way he’s acted during a couple of moments.

They've had multiple conversations about jokes he's made about OP's private parts getting changed by birth, and how pregnancy has affected her digestive system.

He has teased about my privates becoming mangled, and how gross it will be if I sh*t myself. He always makes fun of my inability to hold in farts this late into my pregnancy. I have told him multiple times this stuff hurts my feelings, bad. This pregnancy hasn’t been easy mentally and physically and he knows this. He knows how serious I am about this. Also, they weren’t doing the bets as a fun guessing game like someone suggested. They were being sneaky and hiding it from me because they knew it would make me upset. So if they knew that then why continue to do it?

Edit— a lot of people ask me why I haven’t had a serious conversation about this with him if it’s been bothering me so much. I have, multiple times. I straight out tell him those comments or actions make me uneasy and hurt my feelings. He nods his head but the same behavior still continues. And then he’s surprised when I eventually have enough and don’t want him in the delivery room? I will accept my judgement but I just wanted to mention that I don’t think it’s pregnancy brain I’m dealing with. I feel like I’ve been holding his hand through this and that I am going to have 2 children at the end of it.

Edit— some people are saying this is his way of coping with stress. That can be it for sure. But after knowing how it’s affecting me I feel like he needs to learn better stress management than make me feel bad about my body and giving birth

Edit— I’m due December 1st.

louloomoo pointed out just how gross and hypocritical OP's boyfriend's behavior is.

NTA.

Giving birth is not a spectator sport. This isn’t the f*cking Kentucky Derby.

He has no right to be in that room unless you want him there, and you don’t. Maybe while he’s in the waiting room he can take bets on how long it will take him to grow the f*ck up.

What if he had kidney stones and you were betting on how many hours it would take him to squeeze the stone out of his pee hole. Would he find that amusing?

bearpony emphasized the fact that no one has a "right" to be in the delivery room aside from OP and the medical team.

Nope. Nope nope nope. He does not have a 'right' to be there. You're the one birthing the baby. The only people who should be there with you are people who will help you. Doctors and nurses who will help you medically, or close, trusted loved ones who will help you emotionally. Your boyfriend isn't either of those things. He can sit in the waiting room and wait. NTA.

meltedcheeser thinks OP should re-evaluate her relatioship with her boyfriend, given how misogynistic he is.

This is above AITAH pay grade. Take this over to r/pregnancy or r/babybumps.

Labor is hard. You need to feel 100-percent supported and loved. You cannot have someone mocking your process or making you feel self conscious about your vagina/anus or coping.

Your vagina will not be mangled. This man is a horrible human being for degrading your body. You are creating life. Bringing a human into the world. Your body is mind-blowingly incredible... and he’s reduced you to a sexual object.

Obviously this relationship is fragile. He needs therapy. But you absolutely get to decide who supports you in labor and if he can’t, because he is more focused on keeping score and mocking your bowel movements, get him the f*ck out.

No one is entitled to be in that room. No one. He can’t be a man, he can’t be in the room. NTA.

And to all these boys saying men don’t “grow” up — that’s deeply misandrist and patriarchal. There are fantastic husbands out there who crush it in labor... who become fathers the second they try to conceive with their partners. Who are empathic and knowledgeable and supportive and strong and loving and attentive.

Stop pushing bullshit narrative that “boys will be boys” simply because it’s easier to be a bullshit person. You make the decision everyday whether or not to be a mature adult, and you take the easy way out because society believes this shit. Stop.

shikakaaaaaaa thinks OP's boyfriend needs to grow up in the ways he views women's bodies.

NTA. He f'd up beyond repair here. Going through labor and delivering a child is an experience you want to be immersed in and having him there will frankly ruin it. When you look back, the memory will be forever tainted.

He'll be there watching you in the most vulnerable state you'll ever likely be in with your nether region wide open and you're in agony and likely pooping on the table. Do you really trust him enough to with all that? Do you really think that he will make the experience better for you?

There's nothing unfair about not letting him in during the delivery and he has no right to be there. Also, the brother's the other a*shole who was participating in these disgusting bets so I don't even know why you're even listening to him trying to guilt you.

You are not an asshole for protecting yourself and your experience. The sperm donor and his brother are total a*sholes.

Given the unanimous agreement that OP is NTA, it seems reasonable to assume her boyfriend won't be in the delivery room. Perhaps the bigger, and more pressing question at hand, is whether OP's boyfriend will level up to the duties of fatherhood.

People are sharing the trashiest things that have happened at their family Thanksgivings.

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We all have a trashy or crazy family member—or entire family. And nothing cranks up the crazy/trash-o-meter like the holiday season.

People are sharing the "trashiest" thing someone has done at their family Thanksgiving. These 33 stories might actually make your family look classy and sane.

Now that's something to be grateful for.

1.) From slurmpnurmp:

Grandma threatened to shit in the turkey if we didn't let her watch Jeopardy

2.) From Coffeemon360:

My aunt, uncle, and cousins make no food and take 90% of it home

Edit: They also get there late and leave first

3.) From shadingnight:

My Aunt decided to announce she got Chalmydia as we started to eat and my grandmother told her getting stuffed by random people is for Turkey's. I laughed really hard.

4.) From GraphicgL-:

My step brother was just released for drug possession and distribution. Total black sheep of the family. Brings his girlfriend who is high out of her mind. They proceed to eat nothing but turkey and rolls. Then she decided to go shoot up in my step aunts bathroom to where we found her passed out. My step brother attempts to wake her up by punching her in his words "the cooter" Cops are called.

5.) From EnderHarris:

My Dad (r.i.p.) was in the early stages of Alzheimer's but had always been a bit of a perv. But as his condition presented itself he would say things that were shocking beyond description.

For example, one Thanksgiving (10-12 people), in the middle of dinner, as he was just starting to develop symptoms, people were talking about a woman friend who was going in for surgery. My Dad spoke up, and in a loud voice said: "What is she going to do? Get her rectum and vagina reversed so that anal sex will be easier?"

He wondered why no one laughed at his joke, then went back to eating his turkey. The rest of us made a note to have him see the doctor on Monday.

6.) From chandabear17:

The woman my cousin had just married stole a Costco sized box of individually wrapped Cheezit packages from our garage. I just happened to notice they were gone when putting food in the fridge. Asked about it publicly and she locked up, started stuttering, and went to get them out of her car. She returned with the excuse "I thought these were mine. I have a box just like them at home".

7.) From ValleyNerd:

We were hosting a young lady my wife worked with, as well as her boyfriend. Halfway through dinner and somehow the discussion got to how her and her brother "once got super trashed on Robitussin, and next thing you know we ... Uh ... Yeah that was really a weird time."

Everyone just got really quiet as we were trying to decide how to fill that one in and where to go with it. For some reason they got really quiet after that.

8.) From ExportAye:

My uncle poured Crown Royal on his turkey and ate it.

9.) From TheLongAndWindingRd:

She was responsible for bringing the dessert. She showed up 3 hours late and instead of bringing dessert she brought an open bag of frozen pierogis. It was a real downer.

10.) From ironhead_mule:

My uncle shot the tv because of how the Lions were playing. This was back in 77 or 78 iirc.

Edit: checking game histories it would definitely have been ‘77. It was a 17 inch black and white tv, with two knobs- one for VHF channels and one for UHF. He and my dad had started drinking early and the Lions were awful. After a bad play late in the game he strolled into the bedroom, picked up his revolver and shot the tv. We ate dinner shortly after and then went to my grandmas house to watch the Cowboys game.

11.) From Well-I-Wonder:

my uncle brought a woman other than his wife. She was crazy. A practicing witch who would "divine" things about us on the spot and ironically accused my other uncle of having an affair. She got drunk and groped me in the coat closet, then tried to kiss me saying, "if only I were young again" I was 16.

12.) From tayyy21:

One of my aunts found out her husband was sleeping with her brother. She found one of her husbands shirts (from a vacation they took) with cum on it in her brothers bedroom when she went to the bathroom. I wasn’t surprised though tbh.

13.) From sexandbooks:

My husband's brother and his sister-in-law (who was married to his OTHER brother) always disappeared for about 20-40 minutes at the same time.

This happened for four years in a row before anyone got nosey enough to go looking for them.

Sister-in-law is now married to the Thanksgiving Hookup Brother.

14.) From p0i8n5e3cone:

My Aunt Janie took a bunch of Xanax (and who knows what else) on top of a jug of Carlo Rossi that she had hidden in her room. She then proceeded to steal every spoon in the house while the rest of us were drinking and playing games. EVERY. SINGLE. SPOON. We found them in her purse.

Why just the spoons?

15.) From crimefighterrr:

Last year, my husband's grandma hosted Thanksgiving dinner at her house and asked us to provide the turkey. (Not even the trashiest part)

We had to go to spend Thanksgiving with my husband's dad's side that morning so we dropped the turkey off on our way to his dad's house. His grandma said that they would be eating at 4.

We arrived back at his grandmas house around 3:45 and everyone had already eaten all the food. Including the entire turkey.

16.) From themattcrumb:

Aunt took all of the left over turkey, all of it.

17.) From acorngirl:

Faked a heart attack.

It was very surreal. And her husband was so embarrassed.

EDIT: Here's what happened. Grandmother didn't like my dad very much, and she picked a fight with him so he decided that he was going home.

When grandmother M realized that my stepmom (her daughter) was going to take dad's side and go home too, she yelled a lot and then, as a last ditch effort, dramatically clutched her chest and collapsed very carefully (it was outside and I guess she didn't want to bump her head or muss her clothes).

Dad offered to call 911, grandfather said it wasn't necessary, and when grandmother realized no one was taking her seriously she opened her eyes, allowed grandfather to help her up, and went inside with him while fake sobbing.

Normally she was quite nice, but she had her moments and really wasn't happy that her daughter had grown up and had a life. Holidays usually brought out the worst in her. Which was weird because she loved cooking and celebrating.

18.) From nferrandi:

My uncle and grandfather dont have a good relationship, but were tolerating each other because Thanksgiving. My uncle was cooking lasagna and my grandfather decided to help, so he grated the cheese. He did this in another room, because the kitchen was full of other people cooking, we have a big Thanksgiving maybe 15-20 who love to eat. I had brought in the cheese and everything was going fine. Flashforward to dinner time, the food is coming out and as tradition dictates we always start with lasagna. My grandfather made some joke like," I know you hate me, but at least I'm grate", and shit hit the fan. My uncle literally went I to a rage, and was yelling at everyone because we didn't tell him he was using "tainted" cheese. Then said "f#@# it" and proceeded to flip the table ALL the food was on. Then my grandfather called him outside to settle the score, which resulted in two grown men fist fighting in the backyard, culminating with my grandad getting thrown into the pond we lived off of, and slicing his leg on a jagged rock that he landed on. The rest of us ordered Chinese food, and kicked my uncle out, and my grandfather refused the hospital because he had a little too much "holiday joy" in him at the time. Suprising my uncle hasn't come to holidays in years now...

19.) From creepysnowflake:

My brothers got into a fight. My oldest brother slept with my younger brother's new wife, who was like 20 years younger than him. They got into a fist fight and broke through the wall of their dad's trailer. The police had to be called. Aaaand that's why I stopped going to family evening. This was by no means an unusual occurrence, just the first thing that came to mind.

20.) From tim-whale:

My aunt was sent to bed because she was too drunk last year and ended up falling down the stairs an hour later when she tried coming back

21.) From ManhattanMaven:

This isn’t an isolated thing, but if someone doesn’t show up for thanksgiving or Christmas we automatically check the inmate records at the county jail. It’s happened a few times that someone’s absence is accounted for by an arrest and/or jail stay.

ETA: in 2016 my brother was a no show for Christmas and we checked the jails website. We saw our unique last name on their roster and assumed he’d been arrested. Turns out it was my uncle. I never did ask my brother where he was that year.

ETA means edited to add.

22.) From Anxious_Nobody:

Mid-dinner, my great aunt starts talking about how she has the shits. Literal feces. Diarrhea, the squirts, the whole nine. Really makes you wanna finish eating her green bean casserole.

23.) From pizzaman07:

We were hosting thanksgiving and prepared all the food ourselves and my mom spend all morning cooking and baking. My aunt, uncle and cousins arrive right before dinner and walk in with a White Castle case and said they just stopped to eat a few minutes ago. We had prepared thanksgiving just for them and they decided that they wanted White Castle instead.

24.) From Stimmolation:

My uncle, who was hiding in Haiti for years during the Baby Doc days, snuck into the country somehow and showed up for Thanksgiving. Not 45 minutes later a bunch of federal agents busted in and took him away. I was maybe 11 or 12, no one ever explained the whole story to me.

EDIT: I talked to Mom as I drove her to my sister's house. They prosecuted him under the Rico Act for moving money in and out of Haiti for Baby Doc. According to my mom (o didn't see him much, and this happened when I was young) he was ridiculously intelligent, but was crooked from day one. He moved millions of dollars around while the people were struggling to eat. He was absolutely one of those people that worked harder at avoiding work than actually doing anything of any use to society.

They searched the house too, and took all my dad's guns (he was an avid deer and pheasant hunter) and he didn't get them back for over a year. I do remember him getting a new deer rifle about that time, but like I said, I was young and had the attention span of a gnat.

25.) From cortsnort:

My aunt got drunk and then naked. She ran down the street stark naked after hitting on my cousins boyfriend. Her kids saw it all. They were all under the age of 12. She then cried the whole next day because everyone was mad at her. I called CPS because she tried driving drunk with the kids.

A few weeks later she got drunk at the same house by the pool. She lost balance when she stepped into the pool filter. She first hit the pool but caught herself with the hand that was holding the glass beer bottle. The shards of glass bottle ended up inside of her cheek and neck. After hitting the ground and passing out, she rolled into the pool and would've died if others hadn't fished her out. She is still an alcoholic.

Shes not invited to thanksgivings anymore because she now does meth.

Update: My family thought it was hilarious that this got so many upvotes. I'm at my moms family's house and this story was about my dads sister. My moms family is way more of hicks, but just less addiction problems. Also my family said I got the story backwards. Pool incident was first. She had stitches on her face and neck when she ran down the street naked lol. And no, shes not hot at all for those asking.

Update: after years of no contact, she showed up to my parents house 2 days ago. She had been homeless for 12 days living in her car. She kicked the ex con out of the car for the night to park her car in my parents driveway. After a fee hours, she went back to the bf likely because she needed to get high. Also, she got fired from another nursing job. Another nursing job let her go without reporting her.

26.) From IneptNoodle:

Picked up an entire stick of butter with their hand to butter their corn.

Edit: No wrapper. Bare hand to butter.

27.) From pinkordie:

My brother got trashed before the dinner started then slapped me at the table for being a mouthy woman (I asked if he wanted the mashed potatoes for reference) and then ran off to puke

28.) From fntastk:

My ex aunt got so drunk she stripped her clothes off, stood in our hallway naked and silently for a few minutes before passing out in my brother's bed.

He didn't know she was there when he went in his room to grab something. He ran back to the hallway and was like, "WHY IS AUNT X NAKED IN MY BED?!!"

She's been in and out of rehab. Last Christmas she was drunk as well and sat in the $60 brownie cheesecake.

29.) From KevWill:

Every Thanksgiving with my MIL. My wife and I host. About 15 people come, and everyone brings side dishes as is the custom. Not her mother. She only brings stuff for herself. She proudly announces that whatever she brought is just for her. It's not for diet purposes, because she eats all the other food too.

When dessert makes an appearance, she will make a big scene about wanting the first piece instead of letting the kids get theirs and get out of the way. One year there was a big argument about the corner pieces of a chocolate cake. She went first as usual, and cut herself two corner pieces and took them both. If you want to make little kids cry, do that. She wouldn't give them up though.

Also, she treats our guest room and bath like a hotel. When she leaves she takes the toilet paper rolls, the Kleenex box, paper towels, soap, etc.

EDIT: Just to address some of the comments in one swoop. She's not fat and she's not senile. She is invited every year because my wife is the only family that she has and my wife would feel tremendously guilty if she didn't invite her. Not much of an excuse, but that's why. And if you are horrified by the above, this is just the tip of the iceberg. I could really make your head spin with her behavior on the 364 days of the year that aren't Thanksgiving.

EDIT 2: Here's some additional examples I posted in a response to a comment below.

Let me think of some more sordid tales. A local bank used to have a freezer inside during a summer promotion with free ice cream bars for customers. She got banned from the bank because she would go there every day and take two ice cream bars and bring them home. She wasn't even a customer at the bank. Finally they told her not to come back.

In the 20 or so years I've been with my wife, her mother has never offered to cook a meal, pay for a meal, watch our kids, or help with the kids in any way. The last time she was invited here she brought half a tray of pastries. My wife questioned her about it and she took the leftover tray of pastries from a party she was at after they had been picked over and god knows what. We told her to throw them out, but she just put them back in her car. Also, if she's at a restaurant and someone has a birthday party, she will go over to their table and ask them if he can have a piece of their cake. I'm not joking. She has a real thing about cake.

She stole my mother's prescription eyeglasses last Christmas when they were both here, claiming that she thought they were hers (hers were black reading glasses, my mother's were red prescription glasses). After getting busted for that, she planted a black sweater in my mom's guest room and made a big deal about my mom taking her things.

She once showed up unannounced to one of our vacations, and brought a friend, and expected us to take them both to dinner five minutes after we arrived. We don't tell her when we are going on vacation anymore.

I can keep going...

EDIT 3: By popular demand, I have created a subreddit called r/HolidayswithMIL. I'm a little busy today hosting Thanksgiving but I'll add my true life adventures as I remember them. Probably not today but tonight and tomorrow. I tell the stories as they happen to a friend of mine so I'll see what he remembers too. There are so many it's hard to keep them straight.

30.) From WillyNilly_oogle:

My mother in law died one Sept after [knowing she had] cancer for less than a year. My parents invited her widower husband to have Thanksgiving with us. He spent much of the time giddily talking about dating aps. My husband was not amused.

31.) From dcphoto78:

This isn't exactly tacky, more like unintentionally hilarious. I invited a couple of my friends to Thanksgiving dinner at my parents house around 15 years ago since they didn't have any local family. They wound up sitting near my grandmother, who rambled for a solid 5 minutes about how when she was a kid her house was full of pussy ants. Some weird grandma story that I can't exactly remember now. But my grandma wouldn't stop saying the word pussy, and my friends and I just sat there sipping our wine, barely making eye contact and trying not to die.

32.) From homanisto:

I was at my wife’s uncles house for thanksgiving , and his wife decided right after dinner to play their wedding video ( because it was also their anniversary weekend). She looks for a half hour to find the video tape, finds it and gathers the whole dinner party (25 ish people) to the back room area, plays the video, and right as she’s walking down the aisle, mid way down the aisle it goes fuzzy..... and cuts to...... Dale Earnhardt’s funeral. Uncle joe used that tape to record Dale Earnhardt’s funeral. Granted it was in small town Michigan wherenthe nascar track is, but still....Everyone froze in complete shock and I started laughing and felt like i was in a sitcom but it was real life.

33.) From EvilTurtles96:

An actual family fight broke out. We had to call the cops and everything. My grandpa got a fine, my uncle was arrested. My step grandmothers oldest daughter was arrested. Before my uncle and grandpa passed away, we wouldn’t let them live it down. It was glorious. When I say fight, I mean people on the floor throwing punches. We never went back to my grandpa’s for thanksgiving after that. This was when I was between 8-9

** we actually went back one year and my aunt gave us all food poisoning. My mom was literally dragging my brother and I into the ER because how bad the food poisoning was. I have NOT eaten anything she has cooked since.

18 people share the wildest experiences they've had at McDonalds.

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McDonalds is truly a hot spot for people watching. Whether you're grabbing a midnight snack or a breakfast combo, most McDonalds are full of people spanning all age ranges and life backgrounds whose worlds collide over the craving for a cheap, delicious snack.

While there are plenty of opportunities for wholesome exchanges over a shared meal, the most memorable stories often involve a lot of drama.

In a popular Reddit thread, people shared the wildest things they've witnessed in McDonalds, and it's the worst thing for the company's PR since the movie Supersize Me.

1. Olderthanrock got out of there before getting robbed.

I was on I-94 outside Detroit and stopped at McD for a snack. A female employee came from behind the counter and told me that four guys at a nearby table “saw you drive in in that fancy car and are going to rob you”. I ran out the door.

2. jrob5797 watched D's life fall apart.

I worked at McDonald’s in high school. Once there was this new guy, I forget his name let’s call him D. He apparently went to the same high school as me but I never even saw him. He’d worked there for about a week and he sucked at his job. Always showed up high and had no respect for the managers, but that’s McDonald’s for ya. One day, during a busy rush at about 5pm, I’m working in the kitchen and D is up front pouring coffee. I see this well dressed white man in his 50s step behind the counter, which I noticed because I hate when customers do that.

The man grabs D’s attention. The man says “Are you D?” D says yes. Next thing I know, the man reaches into his shirt and pulls out a badge on a necklace. He grabs D, spins him around, and cuffs him. Suddenly 4 or 5 other customers in the lobby reach into their own shirts and pull out badges. They had D surrounded and dragged his ass out... it was all over in less than a minute. Turns out he was a drug dealer, owned guns, and posted pictures of the guns online. The police called the day before and spoke to one of my managers about it, but she wasn’t allowed to tell anyone. Needless to say I never saw him again.

3. mehtotheworld received the quick service of a lifetime.

The cashier that was obviously high on some kind of amphetamines was rather intense but damn if that was not the fastest burger I ever received.

4. gogiants1226 witnessed a manager at peak capacity.

Went pretty late at night with 2 friends but we were picking up for a big group. We ended up ordering about 20 McDoubles and 10 McChickens. The cashier was super flustered because they didn't have a lot of employees working at the time. The manager stepped in and started cranking out McDoubles at lightning speed. I've still never had a McDonald's order that efficient.

5. northboundcentreriot got speech training they never asked for.

I have a Speech Impediment.

I was coming back from the Hospital because one of my clients was in there for Surgery. I was hungry so I stopped at the McDonald across the street. After I wait in line and I'm done placing my order the man behind me asked why I talk the way I do. Then he started to give me improvised in the spot Speech Therapy.

The worst part? I don't even think he was a Speech Pathologist.

6. kitchenmutineer had a perfectly wholesome moment.

This might not be the story you were looking for, but once in high school on lunch break, me and four friends went to a McDonald's that was known for being a little sketchy, very inner city. We were all good friends so we would always pool our money so everyone could eat. We could only come up with five bucks between us so everyone got one of those one dollar chicken sandwiches they used to have, and we were not satisfied.

Then as we were preparing to leave, a little old lady with a big smile came up to our table and said "you know what I see here? Brotherhood." Weren't sure what she meant at first, but then we realized that our group consisted of two white kids, one black, one Asian, and one Indian, which would be something she didn't see much growing up when she was our age. She was so pleased she gave us another five dollars. We each got another sandwich, that was a good day.

7. Toemoss66 did not want to buy a knife.

Sitting in the drive through at a 24hr McDonalds after coming back from the bars around 3am. It's summer, so sitting with the windows open, and I'm in the passenger side.

I see someone in the wing mirror coming out from the woods behind us. He approaches my window and asks for cash, and I tell him I don't carry any, so he asks for food. We'd already passed by the ordering speaker, and were waiting to pick up, so I told him we're couldn't, and to try someone else farther back.

The next part was a little weird because he then asks if I want to buy a knife. I shrug it off, say not really, and remind him that I don't have any cash. He flips the knife open, reaches through the window, and waves it in my face. I agree that it's pretty cool, but I still don't need a knife.

He finally leaves, and walks off down the street. It wasn't until I was sitting at home that I realized he may have been trying to mug me, and very easily could have f*cked me up.

8. CatherineConstance met a group of sweet women.

I flew from ANC to LAX and tend to get travel sick. We were on our way to Disneyland and drove through Compton for some reason and I knew I was going to be sick so we stopped at a McD’s so I could puke. There was a group of super sweet black ladies in the bathroom who held my hair while I projectile vomited. Wasn’t a crazy experience or anything but definitely the most interesting thing that happened in a McDonald’s.

9. quitetheopposite can no longer trust a public bathroom.

I walk into the women's restroom and there's only one stall available. I go to use it. I end up hearing someone else come in and yell "Damn it, i need to take a sh*t!! " I come out and see her with her pants down sitting trying to sit on the wall trash can to pop a squat and do her business.

I no longer go to that McDonald's.

10. AngryRobotsInc's workplace had old dead bodies.

Week old dead bodies found in a van our parking lot, when I worked there. We were situated right next to an apartment complex, and sometimes people from there would park in our parking lot. We didn't particularly care. I guess the different shifts just assumed the van in the very back wasn't there during other shifts, if we even noticed it at all.

Anyway, we had a group of old guys that would hang out in the store, drink coffees, and play dominos. I guess the wind was blowing just the right way, one of them noticed the smell, went to check it out, and surprise! Cops got called, and the smell was way the hell more noticeable when they opened that van up (it was the height of summer, in Hampton Roads, Virginia. So it'd gotten quite hot in there).

Turned out they'd both ODed on something or another. I also got to go home, because the way the cops taped the area off blocked off the drive-thru. So that was a plus.

11. Commander_Shepard_ saw a man really try it.

We have a decently sized homeless population, so they would usually end up there. It was not uncommon to see them dig in the trash cans that were in the store before being kicked out by staff.

But one time as I was eating lunch with a friend, some homeless dude came in, dug in the trash, found a receipt, and walked up and demanded a replacement, as he was unsatisfied. The employees tld him to get out, but he got belligerent, and started cussing them out.

The manager tried to dispel the affair, but the homeless guy started shouting how he was then entitled to a free hamburger because he was a Vietnam vet, he had PTSD, "couldn't get no luck worth a shit," among other things that he repeated ad naseum. Then he started holding up the line. Finally a bigger dude walked up to the scrawny fellow and told him to leave or he would make him leave. So he walked out.

12. H1780n9 had to kick out gorilla suit woman.

I worked at a McDonalds for 6 years, there was a lot. The one that stands out the most is the lady that came in wearing pajamas or something that looked like a freaking gorilla suit. Asked for a water cup, filled it with pop. Not even clear pop. When we told her she was gonna have to pay or hand it over she started screaming at us, "Make me, bitch! Make me!"

I was a manager (the only one there actually) so I'm trying to defuse but it's not working, this cup is inching its way up above our heads. She's yelling at my pregnant employee to fight her and I just decide fuck it this is already bad and grab the cup before she can throw it. Still got pop all over me but probably better than having it thrown in my face. She flips the fuck out. More screaming. The b*tch actually took her shoes off and threw them at us. It took four people to hold her down while we called the police.

Edit: wow silver, thank you kind stranger ☺

For everyone saying it would have been easier to just let it go; you're absolutely right. I was going to actually but we had had issues with this customer multiple times before and J (pregnant employee) was just fed up I guess. She called her out and I wasn't about to not back my crew up. Once it was an argument, as the manager I had to try and resolve the situation. I tried to get J to walk away but it didn't work so I did what I could to minimize the damage.

13. littleashtree is lucky their dad was generous.

When I was 7 or 8, my dad and i were always at mcdonald’s getting the sundaes and fries and one day when we went, there was a homeless man out front asking for food or money. When the guy asked my dad for money, my dad told the guy to hold on and that we would return with our change after we order.

So we order, my dad gives the guy our $2 change or whatever, and then we go back inside and get our food.

A couple minutes later, the homeless man is inside the store going table to table with a pocket knife, robbing the customers in the store. He robbed like 3 families, and then walked past our table and just nodded his head to my dad.

I had my back to the guy during this so i didn’t know about it until after he left the store, but it’s still so scary!! that $2 saved 7 year old me a lot of fear

14. YoKris received free prayer.

No joke, my ticket came out to be $6.66 and immediately the cashier was like “May God Bless You...”

15. ledauntfox's mom wasn't ready to die.

A guy cut my mom and I in line at McDonalds and when she called him out he threatened to throw her in the deep fryer.

16. AnimusRandom entered the Twilight Zone.

Tldr: me and a friend were treated like human beings at a McDonald's and found it weird.

Me and a friend went to a McDonald's at around 11pm, that day they put in those ordering machines and theyd bring the food up to you. We thought that was great but my McDonald's did something totally unexpected. They were nice to us.

We walked in and the door was held open for us, everyone was smiling way too wide, we were served and the server even came back around like it was diner. Me and my friend were totally creeped out. I left a tip, I wasn't sure if I should have. We have never been treated like that again at that McDonald's which I am perfectly fine with.

17. monkeybrainz_ wasn't looking for a fight.

I was sitting with a friend and all of a sudden this dude walks up and accuses me of racism, tells me I was looking at him all shifty eyes and tells me that he’ll kick my ass. I basically told him to get lost and he kept hovering around us and trying to start arguments so we get up to leave. Outside the McDonalds, he throws his cup of water at us. He missed, by the way.

18. ThatAtheistGirl hacked the system for a few minutes.

When I was about 4 or 5 years old the playpen was temporarily closed. I was small enough to fit between the bars and had the whole thing to myself for like 3 minutes while my mom tried to get me out. Was eventually asked to leave. Worth it, though.

Woman edits captions of Instagram pics with exes to reveal the truth behind them.

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When a relationship goes down in flames, your first instinct might be to erase all the so-cute-you-could-barf couple photos from your social media feed. But what if you hit "edit" on those photos instead, and channel your pain into comedy in the form of a public update for all to see?

A woman named Rosie got creative with old Instagram photos of awful ex-boyfriends. She didn't want to delete them because damnit, she looked cute in the pics. So she changed the captions to reflect her feelings on these now-dead relationships.

Rosie had previously made the photos private but decided some of her exceptionally horrific former partners could use a good jab. She left her nice exes alone, and chose to not edit their captions.

Since burning your ex's belongings is passé, Rosie updated her Instagram captions to achieve a modern form of catharsis- helping her move on while acknowledging the pain she went through. (and also because: "cute pic, won't delete later".)

She changed the caption on a romantic Valentine's Day photo to reflect that she got dumped less than 24-hours later:

She spent half a day traveling by bus to see this now-ex, a decision she regrets. Excuse me while I dry heave at the thought of sitting in a cramped Greyhound for that long.

One of Rosie's exes actually ended their relationship via Facebook Messenger. For shame!

Rosie saw an outpouring of support from women AND men across the globe, sharing their own stories of their exes and finding comfort and healing in Rosie's posts.

Commenters responded to her on Twitter, sharing their own ex edits they felt inspired to create:

On Instagram, each of her photos were flooded with comments, advice, and shows of solidarity.

DeeMadeMoiselle wrote:

Well done. I want to do this to the scumbag ex who failed me and still used me as a trophy from the past to his friends.

And its_samuel_c posted on Rosie's bus ride pic:

😍If I took a 7 hour ride and still looked that good that'll be amazing. Goalsee

Icemochi298 responded to Rosie's edit about getting dumped by way of Facebook:

Omg that edit. If a guy can't have the decency to explain in person then it's better you're not dating now.

With her original Twitter post about the Instagram edits has hit nearly 15,000 retweets and 58,000 likes, Rosie's unconventional way of dealing with past flames continues to spark inspiration, copycats, and ideas for how to get over former lovers who did you certifiably wrong. If you were in a relationship trainwreck, would you choose to delete or edit your "cutesy couple" Instagram photos?


23-year-old woman asks if she's wrong for refusing to meet her dad's 22-year-old girlfriend.

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'Tis the season to be frequently reminded how f*cking crazy your family is. But don't worry, you're in good company. A woman shared her crazy family story on Reddit's "Am I The A**hole?" forum: it's about her divorced parents finding love with new partners. In both cases there's an age gap, but in two very different directions. You can probably guess which is which. Deep sigh.

The woman, who is 23, shares that her parents, both 47, divorced 18 years earlier. Since then, her dad has had a "steady flow" of young girlfriends and fiancés.

I am 23/F. My parents [both 47] divorced 18 years ago. In those 18 years my dad has had a steady flow of young girlfriends and fiancés moving in with him. I never even got to spend the night with him when I was a kid because there was always some girl living there and there wasn’t room for me in his small apartment.

Her mom, on the other hand, had not been on any dates since the divorce—until recently, when she started seeing a man who is about two decades older than her, named "Scott."

On the polar end of the spectrum is my mom. I do not think she has even been on a date since the divorce, until a few months ago. Her whole life revolved around providing for and entertaining me. A few months ago (4ish?) she told me she was seeing somebody named “Scott” and that it was kind of serious. I have never seen my mom look giddy before – it warmed my heart. She then tells me that he is 68 (her dad’s age), and to not freak out, but that if I was weirded out, she would call it off. I assured her that while I think it’s kind of weird that he is 2 decades older, that I am ecstatic for her. (I AM! This woman deserves it.) She cried happy tears, and we agreed that I would meet him soon.

At the same time her mom started seeing Scott, her dad started seeing a woman named "Haley" who, at 22 years old, is younger than she is. She even moved in. The woman says the age gap makes her feel like her dad is a "huge creep."

Well, around the same time my mom started dating Scott, my dad got a new gf named “Haley.” She has already moved in with him, and I have been refusing to meet her. The reason why I don’t want to meet her is what makes me an asshole... It’s because of her age! She is one year younger than me. He is 47, and she is 22. I’m completely grossed out. Honestly, it makes me feel like my dad is a huge creep.

However, her dad is calling her a "hypocrite" because though she refuses to meet his girlfriend, she has been open to meeting her mom's much-older boyfriend.

My dad keeps pointing out how I’m a hypocrite because I’ll meet my mom’s “creepy boyfriend,” but not his girlfriend. And he will say, “If you think I’m creepy for dating somebody 20 years younger than me, then why are you okay with Scott doing it??” He made me feel kind of shitty.

Even though her dad pointed out that the age gap is technically the same, her biggest issue is that her dad's girlfriend is younger than her, which makes it seem "so much ickier" than her mom's relationship. She even questions if, given her dad's relationship history, he might be "a predator."

I mean, he is right… the age gap is almost the same… but his girlfriend is YOUNGER THAN ME. She is 22. Scott might be old enough to be my mom’s dad… but my mom is almost 50, she’s not still in college. And my mom is far from naïve. Dad's relationship just seems so much ickier to me!! Honestly, I'm starting to look back on my dad's relationship patterns and wonder if he's not like a predator or something. But if he is, then is Scott too??

I am 100% going to meet Scott, and unless y’all convince me otherwise, I am not going to meet Haley. (It's nothing against her)

So Reddit, AITA?

So she took to Reddit to ask if she's the asshole, as her dad is suggesting, for refusing to meet her dad's girlfriend while being willing to meet her mom's boyfriend. And commenters came to her defense.

Most people seem to agree that she's not the asshole here. Afterall, her justifiable issue is not with the age difference but the actual age of her dad's much-younger girlfriend.

blackkatz713 writes:

NTA [Not The Asshole]

You're not disgusted by the age gap. You're disgusted by the fact that your father is attracted to girls your age. That means he might have fallen in love with friend of yours, or someone you knew from school. He's attracted to girls like you, whereas your mom is attracted to a man not your age.

The original poster also added this extra-icky detail, which definitely helps her case (and makes her dad seem like an even-bigger creep):

He has dated two friends of mine in the past (and no, we didn't stay friends).

Others are pointing out that there's a huge difference between her mom's and her dad's relationships.

istara writes:

22 and 47 is a world apart from 47 and 68.

You are entirely justified to avoid her.

And drowreth agrees, writing:

Totally, it isn't the age gap, it's the maturity gap that makes the real difference.

A 22yo's brain hasn't even finished development yet and there's this guy 20 years older specifically going after women in that bracket.

And bearpony adds:

NTA. The gap in maturity and experience between 47 and 68 is much smaller than the gap between 47 and 22. And it's creepy for anyone to date someone younger than their kid. Your dad is trying to manipulate you.

Good news: she's not the asshole. Bad news: her dad is a huge creep.

One commenter really broke it down. Nvnv_man writes:

NTA

You see your Dad for what he is, but he’s trying to make you feel guilt bc he feels guilt.

The two aren’t the same, you know it, you just don’t know how to articulate it.

Your Dad has dated countless younger women—itself an issue, and likely rooted in either ability to control, in male insecurity, or in a view that only women of a certain age are peak attractive—and while he’s dated, he’s dismissed your importance. He didn’t seek to integrate you in his new life, partly bc it wasn’t stable/permanent arrangements, but partly bc he valued having the girl in the apartment to finding a way to save enough for a place to house them and you when you visit. You were not his priority. He never offered to cut something off bc you disliked.

Your mom, however, has always prioritized you, even to make her own personal life take a back seat. We don’t know if she’s habitually attracted to older men, or this man to younger, bc she’s selfless enough not to date. All we know is they met due to circumstances and started dating—maybe he’s not even what she’d think was her type. Plus, she selflessly offers you veto power over her relationship. You know your mom has your best interest in mind.

Compare that to your dad. He doesn’t really care that you approve his girl—he just wants to fuss at you for giving something to your mom and not him. He acts entitled to get your approval, without doing one honorable thing, and then guilt trips you for not giving it him. He’s an AH, and I suspect women dump him when they reach their 30s and wise up to being treated better.

Don’t cave to your Dad. In fact, tell him if he continues to date your peers, you’ll tell them how he treats women, his fixation on girls your age, his petty guilt trips, etc—and then say they’ll listen bc you are same age and speak same language, so to speak.

Sometimes the internet knows best.

Guy asks if he was wrong to walk out on family's intervention for his alcohol problem.

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No one looks forward to taking part in an intervention, regardless of which side of the situation you are on. It's uncomfortable and unpredictable, and anything can happen. But if you have no idea it's coming - it will hit you hard.

On Reddit, a guy asked for advice following an intervention his family held for him after he was hospitalized for alcohol poisoning. Under the guise of a dinner get-together, his family asked him to get treatment for substance abuse, and he walked out.

As a social drinker in his early-20s, he admits he got drunk at a party and took things too far. But he insists he's just drinks in social settings and doesn't have an addiction. However, this time, he ended up in the hospital.

I’m 23 and I got incredibly drunk at a party two weekends ago and ended up with alcohol poisoning. I do relatively drink a lot, but only in social settings.

I spent the rest of weekend in the hospital recovering. It was a one time stupid mistake.

After being discharged and feeling better, his parents invited him over for dinner. When he walked into their house, not only were his parents and brother present- but a total stranger was with them. This stranger told him that his family was very concerned and wanted him to get help.

Yesterday, I went over to my parent’s house for dinner.

When I walked in, they were all sitting in the living room with somebody I’d never seen before.

I asked what was going on and my brother told me to sit down. I did and the man I didn’t know started talking.

To summarize, he said that my family was worried for me and wanted me to go to treatment.

Taken completely by surprise, he thought their intervention was ridiculous. He knows he made a mistake by drinking in excess, but this was too much. So he left "dinner" and drove away.

I got upset and said that everyone was being over dramatic and that this was ridiculous. I said that I realized that I had made a mistake drinking that much but this was overkill. I stood up and walked out at that point.

My mom ran out after me with the interventionist and said that they only did this because they loved me. I said that everyone was acting crazy and I hopped in my car and went home. My brother has been texting me begging me to reconsider but I haven’t answered.

As his mom and brother repeatedly tell him they love him and are only doing this because they care, he rebuffs their requests to consider treatment as getting this drunk is not his norm. Though he admits he could have handled the surprise intervention better, and asks Reddit if he was wrong to walk out.

Everyone is crazy overreacting. Getting that drunk is not a normal thing for me. It just happened once and I regret it. I have a good job and I look after myself. I don’t think I need rehab or that intervention.

That said, maybe I did handle the intervention the wrong way. I maybe could’ve responded in a way that made them feel better instead of blowing up.

AITA [Am I The Asshole] for walking out?

Commenters are divided on the issue. With most saying he might actually have a problem, and encouraging him not to dismiss this potentially very serious issue without careful thought.

RememberKoomValley pointed out his family has probably been keeping an eye on his habits for some time and issued a challenge to not drink for an extended period of time:

"Pretty drunk most weekends" is a problem, OP. I think it's pretty likely that your family has been watching this pattern of behavior, and that you literally almost dying from drinking so much was enough to convince them it was time to act.

There's a pretty simple way to show them that you're fine, you know. Go three months without a drink. Hell, go two months. Eight weekends. If you don't have a problem, it might be irritating, but it won't be difficult.

And Iamjustjenna added by sharing insight from her AA sponsor about substance abuse:

My Al-anon sponsor put it to me this way: if you can't enjoy a drink without getting wasted, then you're an alcoholic. Period, full stop. You might function well but you're still abusing the drink.

Mcauleymom pointed out he admitted getting drunk regularly, so this is a real issue.

Pretty drunk every weekend IS an issue even if you’re not blackout drunk/hospitalized for alcohol poisoning. It seems like your family sees that as an escalation of an already troubling behavior pattern. And I’ve been part of an intervention- they will make anyone defensive and most addicts do not want to admit they have a problem. But it really seems your family is concerned about you and you don’t seem to be at all willing to consider that they might have a valid reason to be.

While some commenters feel that he was doing what many others do at that age, and testing their limits.

Trip4life pointed out his young age and reiterated if this was just a one-off incident, maybe it isn't a serious problem and the original poster should be rightfully upset.

The one thing I would add is the fact that he’s 23. A lot of people his age are drunk most weekends. Whether it’s partying or hanging out with a couple of beers at that age drinking socially on weekends is very acceptable. This is just another case of reddit on it’s high horse. As long as he can manage it, and if he claims this is a 1 time thing and is honest about that, he probably could just know that’s above his limit and avoid approaching it. I’m going to say NAH though they are understandably worried as that must have been a scary experience for all whom were involved. They’re just worried about you. And if it really was a 1 time thing, then you do have a reason to be a little pissed as it’s probably embarrassing for you. It came out of love and you were most likely embarrassed and offended based off your actions.

And Rhynegains reiterates that this behavior is typical in your early 20s, saying they also partied on weekends when they were that age.

Eh, early 20s and going socially drinking is a middle ground though. I lived in New Orleans during my early 20s. We got drunk every weekend. None of us were alcoholics. It was just a social thing. There would be a month or two scattered about where I'd be busy and not go out, and I wouldn't even realize until after the month was over that I hadn't had a drink in a month.

What OP describes is normal early 20s social scenes. He just went far too hard one time.

But testing your limits shouldn't involve a trip to the hospital, as Amewsement points out.

Given that he gets “pretty drunk” most weekends I find it particularly concerning that he got to the point of having alcohol poisoning given that he clearly should have known his limits by then and still pushed them; frankly I’d be a lot more likely to believe it was just a one time mistake not requiring further intervention if this was someone who just got introduced to alcohol and who overdid it and got alcohol poisoning not knowing their limits.

With the overall consensus that he took things too far and is a bit immature (in both age and reaction to the family dinner), he will hopefully dial down his booze consumption and reach back out to his family - hopefully this will be the last intervention they ever have to organize.

23 Memes Men Probably Won't Find Funny.

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Ladies who love to laugh, these memes are for you. Bros might not find them all that funny, but that's their own dang problem. If you're ready to get your giggle on, look no further than this list of hilarious memes.

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24 "Gonna Tell My Kids" Memes That Are Rewriting History.

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History is getting rewritten in the best way possible, with memes. These "I'm gonna tell my kid" memes hilariously illustrate why it's so fun to lie to kids, they believe anything you say! It's just like President Britney Spears said during her 3rd term in office, "Memes are the future."

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Woman asks if it's okay to end pregnancy without telling husband after learning his abusive past.

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No one wants to bring a baby into an abusive home. And one woman is looking for advice about how to handle a sticky situation regarding her pregnancy and her husband's alleged past.

The woman, who's pregnant, asked for advice on Reddit's "Am I the A-hole?" forum. She's wondering if it would be wrong to terminate her pregnancy without telling her husband about it, because she recently learned that he was abusive to an ex.

She and her husband have been together for five years and married for four, she wrote. They've been trying to get pregnant for a few years and "finally got lucky." She found out she was pregnant about a week ago, and hasn't told her husband yet because he's been out of town.

But the day after finding out about her pregnancy, she was going through her husband's emails (she says they share access for business purposes) when she found old emails from his ex-wife. She goes on:

Now I met my husband when he was newly divorced. He always told me that his ex wife was crazy and toxic and that the marriage ended because of her needy behavior.

When I read those emails I got to know that their marriage ended because of his infidelity during her pregnancy. She lost the baby and then he moved on with the other woman. Things didn't work out with other woman and then he met me.

So her husband's previous marriage dissolved because he cheated — not because his ex was "crazy and toxic" and "needy." She contacted the ex and decided to meet with her:

She has since gotten remarried and is expecting a baby with her new husband. When I met her, many things became clear to me. I realized that my husband had lied about how his marriage ended. She seemed like a nice, sorted woman who had suffered through an emotionally abusive marriage with a narcissist - that is my husband.

Now that the woman has learned her husband may have lied, she no longer wants to be with him:

Now here is the thing, I don't think I will be able to continue with a marriage build on lies. He is not the person I thought he was. I also think that in the wake of this discovery, I don't feel comfortable having a baby with him.

So now she's debating whether it would be okay for her to terminate the pregnancy, then the marriage.

I told my best friend that I plan to terminate (I'm only 5 weeks along) without letting him know that I was pregnant in the first place. In my opinion, we need to talk about the issues in our marriage first. I'm not even sure if I want to be married to him anymore. My friend told me that I will be the asshole if I don't tell him about my pregnancy. I feel like telling him about my pregnancy will complicate the situation further and ruin any chance of an honest conversation with him.

I really want to know. [Would I be the a-hole] if I don't tell my husband about my pregnancy?

People have pretty mixed opinions.

User kr_sparkles says the woman should focus on her safety first and foremost.

"In abusive relationships, pregnancy is an extremely dangerous time," they wrote. "With the recent revelations about your husband, you need to ensure your safety."

Lickitstickitstamps4 agreed, saying, "if anything he is going to turn around and do the same thing to you that he did to his ex."

But bitchy_badger asked for more details:

has he ever displayed that behavior to you? People can change, some relationships work and others don’t. If you haven’t seen a hint of what she describes I would take a long sober look at the situation - seek counseling - before you chuck a pregnancy and husband

The original poster responded, saying:

He is very particular about his privacy. I only have access to his email account because he uses it for purely business reasons. I guess he forgot to delete the old emails. From what his ex told me, he was good to her when they got together but carried on with a whole double life with a mistress. Full of gaslighting and lies. I'm not saying people don't change, but I don't want to take a chance with my life and future. I'm fairly young now. I don't want to lose 10 years of my life in a relationship that is build on lies.

Transothewonderkitty applauded her:

You're a smart one and god I wish I saw more forward-thinking women protecting themselves from potentially shitty men this way. Thumbs up up up. This is thorny but you're going to come out on top.

But not everyone was on the woman's side.

"This seems EXTREMELY one sided," yeetus-Antq wrote. "I would like to hear the husbands story of what actually happened."

"We haven't heard from the husband here. Neither has OP - what if her husband's ex is just a really bitter ex who's great at lying?" wrote Dont420BlazeMeBruh.

But the woman clarified again:

My husband made her out be this horrible, psychotic person who made his life unbearable with her constant neediness. He said that was the only reason their marriage ended. Imagine my shock when I found out what really went on in their marriage.

And S0URxCHERRY chimed in:

How is it one sided if she initially got the information via old emails that were between the ex-wife and the husband? Doesn't that incriminate him as it is? It's not like the ex showed up on this womans doorstep all of a sudden with this story.

Pregnancyinsomnia went fully against the original poster, saying:

YTA if you make decisions based on the word of a stranger before even speaking with the man you chose to spend the rest of your life with.

You know nothing about this woman. You don't know if she's mentally stable, vindictive, jealous... anything. You're making judgement calls based on her side of the story and judging him base on what his ex says.

Pregnancy hormones can create a subconscious feeling of vulnerability. This doesn't invalidate how you're feeling at all but is important to be aware of.

Talk to the man you married about his previous relationship and the conversation you had with his ex.

But for the most part, people advised her to GTFO of there.

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