Getting it on can get pretty awkward sometimes.

Whether you're with a new partner and still trying to find your rhythm or someone you've been with for years—the fact that a fundamental part of being a human involves getting naked and smashing genitalia together is pretty wild.

All good things in life come with a little bit of chaos, though. So, when a recent Reddit user asked, "What’s the most annoying part of sex that no one ever talks about?" the internet was ready to deliver.

Sure, it's hard to complain about the thing that gives us all life but that's what the internet is for, right?

1. Yikes, "lotusfairymoon."

Cleaning c*m out of your belly button is incredibly hard.

2. Sleeping is rough in hookup culture, "Fire_Starter55."

Honestly I would say sleeping conditions If not at your own place.

3. Damn, "christabunk."

Sometimes you focus so hard on not coming too fast that you turn into a superhuman incapable of an orgsm without serious focus.

4. This isn't hot? "Grunge_bob."

Making contact with an IUD in the middle of a thrust will catch you by surprise.

5. Ergh, "SillyCubensis."

The vag-cup-duck-walk to the toilet while trying not to drip on the floor afterwards.

6. Ha, "prestoallegro."

Sleeping in the wet spot.

7. This is a journey, "desperadohooligan."

When your ready to stick it in, you have them assume the position, put a condom on, lube up and.......it goes semi soft. You try anyway but it’s a bendy hotdog sponge. So you trying to get it hard again , the condom is all baggy and like hanging loose. All I’m thinking is “come on man”.

8. This is what showers are for, "leomonster."

Cleaning afterwards.

9. Gotta love the towel dance, "dolphin-centric."

Waiting for your boyfriend to bring you a towel 🙄

10. AC is necessary, "i_f*ckin_luv_it_mate."

The sweatiness of really long exhausting sex without AC

11. Too real, "saltynicegirl."

That fart sound that your chests make when you are both sweaty and make a vacuum.

12. OMG, "BissXD."

The 22 years before you have it.

13. The art of the escape, "Mac2311."

Having to come up with a reason to leave without making them feel bad about it.

14. Always pee! "MorasEscritoras."

UTIs

They are super common for women if they don't pee right after sex.

15. The never ending story, "RinaAshe."

When you have both been going so long that orgsming becomes too hard so you both give up on the endeavour. The sex can be great, but once you hit that point you can end up feeling a little defeated.

16. Classic, "tiptoegoat."

Not honestly knowing what you’re supposed to do half the time. But acting like you do

Setting boundaries with loves ones around money can be a loaded ordeal. In a perfect world, offering to help with your sister's finances would be met with gratitude. But familial expectations sadly aren't that simple and no good deed goes unpunished when it comes to sibling differences.

In a recent post on the Am I The Asshole subreddit a woman asked if she's wrong for offering to foot the bill for her sister's abortion, but refusing to hand over the cash if her sister keeps the baby.

"AITA for offering my sister to pay for an abortion but not offering to support the child financially if she keeps it?"

For context, OP shared that her sister and brother-in-law already have two children they're struggling to support.

"Some side info: My sister has two children (4yo, 2yo) and is married. For the last 2 years the barely made it to the end of the month and all of the family know they struggle financially. Me and my partner are doing well financially and have no kids."

When OP's sister found out she was pregnant, she immediately called OP crying from stress.

"Two weeks ago my sister called me and asked me to come visit her, since there was something very important she needed to tell me. When I arrived she immediately broke down crying, telling me how she was pregnant again and she "doesn't know what to do". She didn't even tell her husband at that point and I was very surprised to be the first person to know, since we're not really close."

While talking through potential options, OP's sister revealed she couldn't even afford an abortion, at which point OP offered to dip into her savings to foot the bill.

"Anyway she continued saying that they don't have the means to support another child with all the debt they already deal with. I tried to calm her as much as I could, saying that there will sure be some solution to handle the situation. After a while she told me she looked up how much abortions cost and that even if she wanted to, she could not pay for it at the time."

OP's sister was grateful for the offer and decided to take a few days to think it over.

"So I basically offered that if she decides to abort, I would take care of all medical bills coming from that procedure. She asked me if I could afford that, so I told her she does not have to worry. Since I don't use up all my money every month, I'm usually able to put some into savings and it was okay for me to put 2 of my monthly savings into her procedure, if she decides to have it. She thanked me and told me that she needs time to think about it."

However, OP's sister did a bait-and-switch when she called OP back over to the house for the decision.

This time, OP's brother-in-law was present and they revealed they didn't want to go through with an abortion, but they DID want abortion money and extra cash for "monthly expenses" likely related to having another kid.

"Four days later she asked me to come visit again when her husband is home, so we could discuss how to go about it. I drove there at the same evening. They greeted me and her husband told me that he's really happy that I decided to help them in a tough time like that. She told me how she thought about what I said and she wanted to "accept my offer". However she didn't want the abortion but suggested that I should give them the money for the abortion as well as "a little bit very month since I don't spend all my money anyway". I was pretty much bewildered. I did not offer that. I told them straight forward that I will only give them money for the procedure, but won't be financially supporting them in any other way. Her husband blew up, telling me I'm an asshole for "wanting to pay to kill his child but not supporting them to make it live a good life instead".

When OP refused to dish out the money sans abortion, her sister and brother-in-law freaked out and resorted to name calling.

"I was overwhelmed by the situation and left immediately after. My sister texted me the following days relentlessly about how I don't love her if I don't support her decision and how I'm forcing her into the abortion. They also told the rest of the family which are also firm to believe I'm a massive asshole in the situation, because I don't need "all that money to live and I could easily support them".

Sadly, OP's sister made the situation a whole ordeal and now extended family members are claiming OP is a jerk for not dishing out monthly payments to support her sister's family.

This has caused OP to start doubting whether she is somehow wrong for not offering up her funds no strings attached.

jess3474957 pointed out how much extra money OP's sister is asking for.

"NTA. It’s not that you don’t support her. An abortion is a few hundred to a thousand. She’s asking for that money along with monthly payments. You don’t owe her anything."

Order66-Cody thinks OP's sister is looking for an enabler.

"Plus OP would be basically enabling them to keep making decisions that are not practical with their finances. OP is paying for the abortion to help make sure that these parents can work to take care of their current children. Having another kids while their ends can not meet will make everyone miserable."

NH_Surrogacy finds it supremely bizarre that OP's sister is treating her like a baby daddy.

"NTA. You are not the father of this baby and you have no obligation to support it or pay for the termination procedure. It's generous of you to offer to pay for the procedure if she chooses to have it. Otherwise, it's on her and her husband to figure things out."

Dusty_Dinkelman thinks it's completely selfish and delusional of OP's sister.

"Yikes yeah NTA. Paying for a one time medical procedure versus supporting a child throughout their life with a "little bit" each month are very different. They are assholes for saying their needs are above yours when it comes to how you spend your money."

wigglebuttbiscuits pointed out how entitled of a mental leap OP's sister took with the scenario.

"NTA. Jesus christ on a cracker, the leap from "you have generously offered to pay a specific amount of money for a specific need" to "you should pay us monthly indefinitely because we want your money" is. . .reallllly something. Tell all these people to take a long walk off a short pier."

Based on the responses, it's pretty clear OP is not alone in her perspective on the situation. Her sister sounds deeply entitled and ungrateful, which is a losing combo.

A common trope in movies is for someone to hail a cab (something people did in the olden days before Uber and Lyft), jump in and tell the driver "follow that car!" In the movie, the cab driver is almost always willing to break every possible traffic law and risk losing their license, just to indulge a passenger's need for a car chase. It's great cinema. It also apparently happens in real life, sometimes. Someone recently asked Taxi drivers of Reddit to share their stories of a passenger saying "follow that car!"

Here's 13 that could be straight out of a movie:

1.) From Populistless:

I'm actually a taxi driver (bike taxi/pedicab). I was hanging out a corner when a coworker of mine got a ride across the intersection.

Suddenly a guy walks up to me and tells me to "follow that cab, but keep a distance". This guy looked current or ex military: demeanor, haircut, attitude... has one of those earbuds like the agents from the Matrix. Exuded the vibe of being very professional/competent and not giving a fuck at the same time.

So I was born for this moment. I read all the Tom Clancy books as a kid, all the books about spycraft during WWII and the cold war, every spy movie ever made, etc. I kept about 100 yards distance and then would accelerate when they went around a curve anytime they were near a light or intersection (I have all the lights memorized) to ensure we would make the same light but a little later than they did. At one point a car pulls up alongside and another guy switches places with the original guy and we keep going. After about 12 blocks the pedicab pulls over ahead of us and the guy tells me to pull over. Hands me $20 for a $12 ride, although I would have done it for free just to live my 9 year old fantasy.

Probably just local cops, but I can dream

2.) Via Conman3880

Ooh I’m not a taxi driver, but I was the passenger for a story that is similarly clichéd.

Back when I was an actor/active drug addict/alcoholic (what’s the difference, I know) I had a director threaten to recast me a week before the show if I was late to rehearsal again. To put that into perspective, recasting a major role after rehearsals have started is generally unheard of, and almost unthinkable so late in the rehearsal process. She was REALLY fed up with me.

On this particular day, I was running late as usual and had five minutes to get to rehearsal. It was a 10 minute walk or a 5 minute drive.

I flagged a cab, hopped in and said “I need you to take me to this address and, if you can, I need you to step on it.”

The driver smiled wide and said “I’ve always wanted to hear that.”

Cue him putting the pedal to the metal. Within 10 seconds we were approaching 65MPH on a 30MPH city street, weaving through traffic, clipping yellow lights too close for comfort, and generally whipping this cab around in an extraordinarily haphazard and irresponsible fashion. I was stunned; wide-eyed; in absolute shock and terror; unable to process that he quite literally heeded my request or that this was actually happening. I thought I was going to die. It was the best cab ride of my life.

I was two minutes early to rehearsal.

3.) From hilandhall:

I was in New Orleans once and a cab i was in got sideswiped by a drunk driver. The drunk driver then took off. I told the cab to follow him which he did. We ended up in a parking lot and we watched them go into an apartment building. Cabbie had the station call the cops. I wrote a statement for the cabbie and he called me a new cab while he wanted for the cops.

4.) From apawst8:

I did that once as a passenger. We said it as a joke. We were in a group of 6 and couldn't fit in a single cab. So I went into the second cab and said, "follow that cab." We expected the driver to laugh it off and ask for our destination. Instead, he just took off and followed the first cab.

5.) dyxless says:

I drove a taxi one summer in a party resort.

One night, 2 guys jumped in and yelled " follow that car", which was another taxi that I knew the driver of and I obliged. Turns out, one of their mates was drunk af and decided to just go to their hotel w/o telling them. They only saw the guy leaving the club drunk and they thought he was going to a strip club without them. He was actually going to their hotel, as he was hammered.

Another time 3 girls jumped in the car and said follow that car. The car in question was a black sedan, tinted back windows. Yet wasn't that shady imho. We follow the car for 15 minutes, leaving the resort going into a forest. The girls start freaking out, as one of their friends( also a girl) was seen stepping into that car. Yeah, turns out, that she just hooked up with some guy in the club they were earlier and she was about to suck his D when we pulled up next to them.

Weirdest summer.

6.) gud_spelller says:

A personal trainer at my old gym did this. He saw a guy shoot another guy in the head and jump into a car, so he got into a cab so the shooter wouldn't get away.

The cabbie followed the car for a bit until he learned that he was following a murderer, then he pulled over and refused.

Turns out, the shooter was an undercover police officer, who sped away because he thought the victim's friends would get to the scene before the cops.

7.) From SeaBus0:

I followed the car. It stopped in a suburban house. Dude went into the house. They were his family and didn't have room for him with them. ¯\(ツ)/¯

8.) MrFictional shares:

This sort of happened to me about 20 years ago. Not a taxi driver although I was driving down a main road and saw a dude running around with a baseball bat and then come cop cars parked on a side street. Young me decided that I want to get involved so I pulled down the side street and found a cop on foot a good distance away from his car. I told him about baseball bat guy and he gets on his radio. Guess he got an immediate update on his radio, looks at how far he is from his car and he says, "Can you drive me down the road?" I'm thinking fuck yeah, and tell him to jump in. He does, and I am seriously driving around back roads with a cop riding shotgun giving me directions while on his radio. Only lasted for about 2 minutes and then he jumps out to pursue the guy on foot. Not a very satisfying ending to the story, since I never found out what happened. But damn it thats my story

9.) Yikes. Via sayrhayten:

Oh god I have a really bad story for this

I used to drive a taxi for my uncles company. A guy gets in my taxi, says "just follow that car" and reassures me its nothing serious. Except when the other car stops, he gets out and runs to the car we were following and drags the guy out and starts hitting him in the face, hard. I got out and was yelling at him and calling him an asshole for lying to me, and he got all in my face and threatened to beat the shit out of me too, said a bunch of racist slurs at me, then ran off.

The guy who got punched had his nose broken. The weirdest part is that he had no idea who that guy was.

10.) From littlemissgullibell:

I asked a taxi driver that question many years back. He said that happened on 2 separate occasions and both times, a wife was trying to catch her cheating husband committing adultery.

Update: i have been getting a lot of comments on whether the husband cheated on the wife twice. I’m not sure about that but the story that I was told was 2 different couples. Also, one of the wives actually caught her husband meeting his mistress.

11.) From Tombub:

A colleague of mine (a UK police officer) was on foot patrol and saw a robbery in the distance where a driver was pulled from their car and the robbers drove off in their car. My mate did exactly as OP has said, stopped a civilian car and said 'Follow That Car!'. The driver apparently went wild trying to keep up with the robbers (all the time with a uniformed police officer in his passenger seat, giving a commentary to his base). They lost the stolen car, and my colleague asked his driver to stop - he got out, and let the driver go without asking his details. As the driver went into the distance, my mate realised he'd taken out his peg (truncheon) in the car and left it on the dashboard. Luckily the driver rang in later and it was returned. No idea what happened to the robbers, stolen car or victim, sorry

12.) From _taxi_driver:

Often I'd get people hopping in and saying "just follow that cab" without giving any real destination. They just had too many people in their group for one taxi. That's not exciting.

But one night I picked up four guys having a bachelor party and one had left their phone in a taxi earlier in the day and had been tracking it using another's phone. 45 minutes of speeding all over the city, cutting taxis off that might be the one with the phone while four grown men hop out of my car in the middle of traffic and swarm the unsuspecting drivers to inquire about the missing phone. Must have scared the hell out of them. We finally found it. The meter said $60. They gave me $120. Not the most exciting story but definitely the most fun fare I've ever had.

13.) From TheDevilsFoot94:

Been driving a cab for about a year now, usually working the 6p-3a shift. My dispatcher radios me to a house 5 mins till the end of my shift. Short 2 minute drive later (small city) I pull up in the circle driveway as a car pulls out the other end and speeds off, the largest man I have ever seen in my life comes barreling out of the house like a fucking bull and jumps in my cab "did you see the car that left, follow it". I caught up to the car and followed it out to the highway, as soon as it got on the highway the car put on its hazard lights and floors it. The mountain of a man in the back seat "my wife is in labor and my father-in-law is driving" tells me to catch up and he'd give a $200. So naturally I floor at it going about 90 mph in a 45 zone. His father-in-law happened to be the city police chief and had called in an escort, looked in my rear view mirror and see 4 cop cars about a mile off and catching up quick, I panicked and almost started to slow down when he told me they were an escort. Sure enough 2 of the cops go speeding past me like I was in park, keep in mind I'm still going 90 mph. The other two pull behind me as we still had 2-3 miles to go, another minute or two passes and we come squealing up to the E.R., two nurses already waiting outside. He thanks me, hands me the money and jumps out of the car.

TL;DR got a police escort with a pregnant women's husband and made $200

Turns out cab drivers really are America's unsung heroes. And movies are real. Also, don't forget to tip your driver.

Her Royal Highness the Duchess of Sussex guest-edited the September issue of British Vogue, a project she worked on for seven months while pregnant. Rather than feature herself on the cover, the theme is "Forces for Change," and the collage features women including New Zealand prime minister Jacinda Ardern, Laverne Cox, Jane Fonda, and Gemma Chan.

As is the case with anything Meghan does, racists like Piers Morgan are finding reasons to hate it, accusing it of being leftie propaganda and a sign of the monarchy's decline.

Print is dying, my dude. If only magazines were that powerful.

The magazine includes an editor's letter from the duchess herself, in which she described how the collaboration with British Vogue editor-in-chief Edward Enninful came to be.

"Over a steaming cup of mint tea, we teased through how one can shine light in a world filled with seemingly daily darkness. Lofty? Of course. Worth it? Without question," Her Royal Highness wrote.

Among the beacons of light in the dark abyss we call life is Michelle Obama, who the Royal had the privilege to meet for tacos.

Over delicious Mexican food, Meghan asked her to be in the issue: "She graciously said yes (because she’s Michelle, she’s gracious), and then very promptly sent answers (because she’s Michelle, she’s prompt)."

The piece "HRH The Duchess of Sussex Interviews Michelle Obama In The September Issue" has posted online.

Because it's structured as an interview, it's easy to pretend that we were there.

"Whatever your background, it’s easy to feel connected to Mrs Obama," Meghan wrote in her intro. "There’s something magical about the way in which she draws you in with her endearingly frank, down-to-earth personality."

The down-to-earth First Lady spoke candidly (for a celebrity) about motherhood, sharing the advice she gives to daughters Malia and Sasha. Per British Vogue:

What advice do you give your daughters?

Don’t just check the boxes you think you’re supposed to check, like I did when I was their age. I tell them that I hope they’ll keep trying on new experiences until they find what feels right. And what felt right yesterday might not necessarily feel right today. That’s OK – it’s good, even. When I was in college, I thought I wanted to be a lawyer because it sounded like a job for good, respectable people. It took me a few years to listen to my intuition and find a path that fit better for who I was, inside and out.

There are dozens of more nuggets of wisdom in the short exchange.

"Being a mother has been a masterclass in letting go," Obama said. "Try as we might, there’s only so much we can control."

Obama seems firmly against the "helicopter parenting" ways of parents these days, and advocates for giving kids "the space to explore and develop into the people they want to be."

"Motherhood has also taught me that my job is not to bulldoze a path for them in an effort to eliminate all possible adversity. But instead, I need to be a safe and consistent place for them to land when they inevitably fail; and to show them, again and again, how to get up on their own." (You hear that, Aunt Becky?)

Who knows how much room Royal Baby Archie Harrison Mountbatten-Windsor will have to explore, with a name like Archie Harrison Mountbatten-Windsor, but Meghan and Harry seem keen on making his life as normal as possible for a royal.

The Duchess of Sussex also asked the former First Lady, "if you were sitting down with your 15-year-old self, what do you think she would tell you, seeing who you have become today?"

Obama said that her younger self would "be proud of how far I've come," but also remind her that "there are still too many girls on the South Side of Chicago who are being shushed, cast aside or told they’re dreaming too big. She’d tell me to keep fighting for them."

"If I’m being honest, she’d probably smile about how cute my husband is, too," she added.

Read the whole interview over at British Vogue.

Another day, another viral video of the police harassing black people for the "crime" of living their lives.

A video making the rounds on social media today shows a black man being aggressively detained, harassed, choked and tackled to the ground by police.

FOR APPARENTLY NO REASON.

The man had been pulled over by a cop in Texas "without [being] given a reason," according to the person who shared the video on Twitter. He says the cop then "tried to arrest" the man, who repeatedly asked "detained for what?" and was told he was being arrested for "speeding." Cops tried to handcuff the man, who refused to comply with "being handcuffed and arrested for speeding." Then another cop showed up, and they escalated the situation, putting the man in a chokehold and tackling him to the ground.

Meanwhile a woman in the background is heard screaming in terror, pleading with the cops not to hurt him.

You can watch the violent encounter here:

This is one of countless videos to go viral in recent years that show cops roughing up, harassing, manhandling, shooting, and killing, men and women of color. It's almost become the "norm" in the U.S.

The guy who shared the video points out that this is part of a much larger, systemic problem, and calls for the cops to be arrested.

While many people in the replies are expressing horror at the violent and unjust way this man was treated.

A few people are taking the cops' side, saying that the video lacks "context" and that the man should not have resisted arrest.

This guy claimed that the man should have "followed the law."

Then this guy highlighted the flaw in that argument:

Though some commenters are denying that the cops were racist, white people are sharing how their own experiences with cops have been drastically different.

This man pointed out, tragically, that the man is "lucky" to be alive, as these videos often end in bloodshed.

And this guy pointed out that, even if he's alive, this man's interaction with the cops could have severe repercussions for the rest of his life.

Others are reacting to the heartbreaking words of the woman who seems to be filming the video, who clearly felt terrified and powerless to help him.

This video is yet another reminder of why movements like Black Lives Matter, and football players taking a knee, are so vital.

Police brutality and racism in the police force needs to end. For many black Americans, it's a matter of life and death.

While plenty of people are taught gratitude and consideration for others, there are sadly a lot of people traipsing around the planet with a bonkers amount of entitlement. Deeply entitled people can be incredibly difficult to communicate with, because the lack of self-awareness fogs all interactions. There is simply no rhyming or reasoning with someone who can't conceive of a world past their own nose.

Unfortunately, the anonymity of the internet often emboldens entitled people even more. The ability to scream at someone about a free couch over the internet has brought out so many monsters there's an entire Choosing Beggars subreddit dedicated to exposing and roasting these folks.

Since I have faith you spend your precious time better than I do, I have dutifully collected a handful of screenshots of these Choosing Beggars for you to face-palm at.

These are all people who could use a vey long time-out

1. This coworker who felt entitled to a fancy homemade cake.

2. This entitled long lost "friend."

3. The person who refuses to shell out $7 a month for their own subscription.

4. This choosing beggar who accused the seller of wasting their time.

5. This slut-shaming auntie.

6. This employer looking for someone who isn't "money driven."

7. This woman who doesn't understand what it means to "pick up" a free item.

8. This person who wants an experienced wedding photographer for free.

9. This person who doesn't understand how freelancers get paid.

10. This next level bridezilla.

11. This person who wants a refund AND the product.

12. This aggressive stranger from the bar.

"Fitness: if it came in a bottle, everyone would be in good shape."

-Cher

Whether you are a hardcore gym rat or a weekend warrior, these fitness memes will absolutely crack you up. Pretty sure laughing counts as an ab workout so this hilarious list has totally got you covered.

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Hola! Can you say "creepy"?

A critic for The Hollywood Reporter is bummed that the movie based on a cartoon for toddlers lacks sexuality.

The new movie Dora and the Lost City of Gold follows the young bilingual Indiana Jones as a 16-year-old rather than 10-year-old, and critic Todd McCarthy wished it was based on Euphoria and not, you know, Dora the Explorer.

McCarthy called the children's movie for children "A story about hormonal teens aimed at little kids," and seemed to wish that it had sexual tension in addition to a talking monkey.

After running through the (completely bonkers) plot, McCarthy turned to the actors' "mature vibes." Isabela Moner, who plays Dora, is 18, and her costar Jeff Wahlberg is 19. So, why aren't they boning?

The review reads:

There's a palpable gap you can't help but notice between the essentially innocent, borderline-pubescent nature of the leading characters and the film itself, and the more confident and mature vibes emanating from the leading actors. The director seems to be trying to keep the hormones at bay, but there are some things you just can't disguise, perhaps human nature first and foremost. Dora seems committed to projecting a pre-sexualized version of youth, while throbbing unacknowledged beneath the surface is something a bit more real, its presence rigorously ignored. To be believed, this story should have been set in 1955.

Methinks that Mr. McCarthy is the one trying to keep his "hormones at bay," with his talk of sexuality "throbbing unacknowledged beneath the surface."

Most kids movies project "a pre-sexualized version of youth," my dude, seeing as they're intended for pre-sexualized youth audiences.

The review is being ripped apart on Twitter and no, not in a sexual way, you perv.

I, for one, hope that this guy doesn't review Cats.

The Reddit community "Am I The A**hole?" exists to help people cope with some of life's more difficult moral quandaries. But sometimes people present an ethical "dilemma" that turns out to be pretty obvious to everyone but them. This is one of those times.

A man chose to skip his own wedding to visit his dying grandma, who raised him. His ex-fiancé, now-girlfriend thinks he is an "a**hole" for not prioritizing her and their wedding over being by his grandma's side as she passed.

The internet almost unanimously disagrees.

As the man explains in his post, he considered his grandma like his "real 'mother'" since his actual mother is a drug addict who he "never cared for." He writes:

This actually happened about 5 months ago, but since my girlfriend (no longer engaged) refuses to let it go, and I honestly don’t think I’m in the wrong, I figured I’d ask for an outside opinion.

My girlfriend (then fiancée) were engaged to be married about 5 months ago.

Now, my biological mother is a useless drug addict that I’ve never cared for nor wished to pursue a relationship with. She left me with my grandma and I was raised by her since birth. I have always and will always consider my grandma my real “mother” because she raised me and cared for me all my life.

A few days before his wedding, the man's grandma become seriously ill and it seemed she would pass away soon. So he and his uncles immediately traveled to be by her side.

About a year ago, we (me and my uncles) had to put grandma in a care home. This was a hard decision to make, but we simply didn’t have the means to care for her properly anymore even with her carer’s help. She had a lot of age related health issues as well as dementia.

Fast forward to my wedding, a few days beforehand we get a call from the care home saying grandma’s condition was deteriorating rapidly and she most likely would pass away in the next day or so. My uncles and I immediately went down there and spent the entire time by her side.

His grandma was still alive on the day of his wedding, so the man called his fiancé and explained they would have to postpone the wedding so he could be there when she passed.

She was "extremely" opposed to the idea.

Translation: she lost her goddamned mind.

She doesn’t pass as soon as expected and it extends up until the day of my wedding. I called my fiancée multiple times and explained we had to postpone the wedding. Not only was I not in the best state of mind (again, she’s my mother to me) but I needed to be by her side when she passed. I felt sick at the idea of not being there when I could.

My fiancée was extremely (to put it mildly) opposed to this and insisted I get ready as soon as possible. She obviously did not want months of planning to go to waste, and I understand that it definitely sucks. She also said there was no point in me being there since she won’t even know I’m there due to her dementia. I understand why it might seem like that to her, but to me it didn’t matter if she realised I was there or not. I just felt I had to be there with my uncles.

The man ended up staying with his grandma, who passed the night of his would-be wedding. His would-be wife was pissed.

She called him "a**holish" and refused to speak to him for two weeks afterwards.

She ended up passing the night of my wedding. My fiancée didn’t talk to me for roughly two weeks before we finally began patching things up. She said I was completely assholish to her and humiliated her by not showing up. She thinks that as my fiancée she should take top priority no matter what. My opinion is that weddings can be rescheduled (albeit costly) and being with my grandma when she passed was more important.

So yeah that’s the back story. We have both agreed to go with the majority judgement given here and move on from it. Will answer questions when possible but will refrain from defending myself in order to be fair to my GF.

The man said he and his fiancé, now downgraded to girlfriend (great call), were able to "patch things up." But clearly not really, as they are no longer engaged, and he said earlier that she "won't let this go."

So he took to Reddit to find out if he actually is an "a**hole" for visiting his dying grandma the day of their wedding. That would be a huge NOPE from pretty much everyone.

As tayai, and many others, noted:

NTA, Weddings can be re-aranged, the death of a loved one can not.

Many are saying this guy "dodged a bullet" by not marrying this woman, and others are suggesting he GTFO out that relationship. ASAP.

tropicaldiver says:

NTA. In fact, she would no longer be my GF.

The "I should always be most important" argument rings hollow with me. Why? Because it is all about the context. A spouse wanting you to go to the grocery for milk is not more important than caring for a sick friend (as an example).

Here, we have two major life events -- a wedding and a death. We have two important people in your life. One can be rescheduled and one cannot. Simple: postpone the wedding and be with your grandparent.

And here is where I judge her harshly: If you had done the wedding, it would have been the biggest regret of your life. And you would have hated the wedding itself and, ultimately, likely resented her as well. She was putting her very narrow interests over your well being and honoring someone important to you.

evenmoremeancomments adds:

NTA in any way, shape or form. It's your grandma, the woman that raised you, you did good by staying by her side. Also:

"My fiancée didn’t talk to me for roughly two weeks before we finally began patching things up. She said I was completely assholish to her and humiliated her by not showing up. She thinks that as my fiancée she should take top priority no matter what"

Run. As fast as you can. This is not okay, thinking that a wedding is more important than a dying family member, especially one this close. Sure, they're both important, but not at all comparable. Break up, find someone that actually understands priorities and it's not as self-centered as her.

I second this. RUN, dude, RUN! Also RIP Grandma. She's lucky to have had such a devoted and loving grandson/son. He deserves the same love and compassion from whoever he chooses to commit to marrying.

“As a child, I assumed that when I reached adulthood, I would have grown-up thoughts.”

-David Sedaris

When you're a kid all you want to do is grow up, and then when you grow up all you want to do is avoid all your problems and laugh at memes. We can't do anything about your mounting bills and constant back pain, but at least we can make you laugh with these awesome memes.

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Getting dumped out of nowhere is a bummer no matter what. So why is it that so many dumpers have to add insult to injury?

A recent Reddit thread posted the question, "What's the worst way to break up with someone?" and the answers are nothing short of devastating. These tales go beyond text-message breakups and social media ghosting. The only question left is: which one is the world's worst?

Actions spoke louder than words for this failed relationship.

She started making out with another dude while we were at a party, all sitting on the same couch. That deflates the romance pretty quickly. - HoochieKoochieMan

Social media always sends a strong message.

Mine changed their status to "in a relationship with guy not me". I seriously thought it was a joke at first. Joke was on me. - LeaveOnYourLight

Isn't this just a waste of everyone's weekend?

My college roommate spent an entire weekend with his girlfriend from another state knowing he was going to break up with her. When he took her to drop off at the train station on Sunday, he waited until she was leaning in with the car door open to kiss him goodbye. Broke the news instead of kissing her, didn’t even unbuckle and get out. She stood there stunned with bags on the curb and he closed the door and drove off. I thought that was pretty shitty. - Corporate-Asset-6375

Congrats?

I found out my ex and I weren't together after he posted an Instagram picture with his best friend of 3 years saying "It only took me 3 years to ask her out" - jaclyngupta

I just want to know how you sleep through this:

My fiance of 7 years (friends for 15 years, aka half of our f*cking lives) left while I was sleeping. Took everything. Never told me why and it was the most horrifying, mentally damaging experience of my life. You have to really not give a fuck about someone to hurt them like that. - BoxyFrown

At least he asked how your day was?

My boyfreind broke up with me by texting me asking how my day was. I said "fine, how was yours?" He responded with "Great had a fantastic day with my girlfreind." I was at work all day. We had been together for 4 years, and been liveing together for 2. . . He had been cheating on me, and decided to leave me for his mistress. Good times. - xXRavelightXx

This one's probably the wildest ride of all:

Pick out another dude you think is a little cute, f*ck him at work a few times, bring home crabs and chlamydia, claim that BOTH are really only fleas from my virgin SAINT of a dog, and spray paint my car for not "being cool" about everything afterwards because I should "know how redheads are!". Oh, and then try to kidnap the same dog who's reputation you attempted to besmirch. It's been 12 years now, Stephanie, but I really should buy you a trophy or some shit for that, you crazy redheaded ****. - ForayIntoFillyloo

And the following tale proves sometimes breaking up over the phone is actually the best course of action:

The last relationship I had that ended had a month of build up. She had decided it was over during Christmas, but didn't break up with me till the end of January.

Spent the entire fucking month slowly doing the little things like not bothering to use proper punctuation, not reply back I love you, respond in a timely manner (if at all). We were sort of long distance (3 hours away) at the time.

She apparently wanted to break up nicely by doing it in person (totally could see it was coming because she came into town on a Saturday but only wanted to do lunch on Sunday rather than spend the night with me (something she almost never shyed away from). Asks me "how do you think this is going?" To which I was a bit at a loss for words but had something to say along the lines of 'well, hard to know... I can tell something is up because your communication has totally changed... What's wrong?'

"I think we should break up"

Y'all a phone call to end it or at least discuss it is perfectly fine. - cbtboss

Ugh. Rich people:

She had her mom do it for her. My former girlfriend came from an obscenely wealthy family and never had to deal with any real-life matters herself; her folks handled everything. This left her lacking in the maturity department. Her folks never liked me - the poor artist boyfriend wasn't a suitable fit for their daughter - and decided it was time for me to go. Girlfriend's folks had the locks changed on the doors of the condo I'd been sharing with her (which they owned), and her mom was waiting outside when I arrived home from work. She informed me that the relationship was over and that I should gather my things while she waited. - CaptainWisconsin

She must be on the naughty list now:

Christmas Eve my ex got all of her gifts because we wouldn’t see each other the next day because she would be “busy”. Turns out she had been cheating on me with another guy and she just wanted to get her gifts. After packing everything she says oh yea we are done I’m seeing someone else and left. We were together for several years and engaged at that point but at least I got the ring back. - Airbornesm

World's most devastating stop-and-chat:

By not telling me at all. We had been together for 3-4 weeks and one day I was just coming home from work and I saw her walking with another dude. I confronted her in front of him and the conversation went something like this :

Me : "Hey (her name), who's this?"

Her : "Oh, hey, this is (his name), my boyfriend."

Me : "Uhmm haven't we been in a relationship for like a month now?"

Her : "Ugh I guess, but we clearly broke up yesterday evening."

Me : *visible confusion

We didn't break up that evening, we just had a minor squabble about how we should spend more time together (I was working 12s that week), we even kissed when I was leaving her place and she told me "I love you".

I was so astounded I couldn't even be mad. Forgot about her in a few weeks and moved on with my life. - yrugay1

But did you stay for the dinner?

My ex-boyfriend invited me out for dinner. We’d been dating about 6 months. I arrive to find him sitting at a table with another chick. He introduces her as his girlfriend. I asked him what the f*ck his deal was and he legit tells me “I thought this way you’d know it’s over and I could give you some closure.” - angrygnomes58

It's always the "friend you have nothing to worry about"...

Oh I have a good one! Live together for 2,5 years, get a hunch about his new friend. Communicate your inVaLiD and IrraTiONaL feelings. Come home to their bags packed because they couldn’t handle the jEaLouSy. And then receive a video of them on a date two days later. See them holding hands 5 days after the break up. After they told you “ you have nothing to worry about her. She’s just a friend. Work on your jealousy tho. “ - sharkattacc

The blocking feels a little over-the-top:

Kisses me goodbye after I dropped him off to get his car.

Went to class, got home and saw all of his stuff was gone. Texted him, in mild panic, asking what was going on. He blocked my number and changed his relationship status on facebook to single a few days later.

We were together for 2.5 years and lived together for 2. - catp1zza

Why do so many dumpers have to abuse technology?

This guy had his friend call my friend to break up for him. He was on the other line in a three way call with his phone muted so he could hear what she said without her knowing. I'd have to day that was a pretty crappy way to break up. - SweetSurreality

Guess he didn't like his meal.

My now ex-husband had his divorce lawyer call me at work to say he filed papers.

We had never discussed divorce and had a nice dinner the night before. I was so stunned my boss had to drive me home. - moekay

And finally, we saved the weirdest and most self-defeating for last...

A friend had her bf break up with her at the start of a 12 hour flight after boarding the plane. So they sat together the whole time.

Sympathy ended when she got back with him. I joked when they went on vacation again he’d do it again.

He did it again. - NightMgr

"Waking up this morning, I smile. Twenty-four brand new hours are before me. I vow to live fully in each moment."

-Thích Nhất Hạnh

It's important to live in the moment and this moment is full of freakin' funny memes. Grab some caffeine and get ready to laugh. It's going to be a good day.

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You may recognize Carissa Pinkston as an Instagram model who has been featured in Rihanna's Savage X FENTY ads.

Unfortunately, Pinkston is now in the spotlight for some extremely problematic behavior. It all started whe some of her transphobic comments from Facebook were brought to light. In more than one post, Pinkston argued that being transgender does not make you a woman.

The 20-year-old model made this comments as recently as this past May. An old friend of Pinkston's named Cecilia Jinks screenshot the comments and posted them to Twitter.

Pinkston's first reaction to having her anti-trans comments exposed was to come out as trans, which she did in a now-deleted Instagram post.

However, people who knew Pinkston, including Cecilia Jinks, were able to quickly verify that this was a lie. And seeing that the internet is what it is, word got around that this coming out story was far from genuine.

Pinkston then decided to finally tell the truth and admit her lies in another since-deleted Instagram post.

Naturally, people are not pleased with how things went down.

Oof, what a mess. Using your public popularity and platform to make hateful comments about a disenfranchised group of people is bad enough, but to then pretend to be a part of their struggle in an attempt to save your reputation is...next level.

Let's hope Pinkston has learned a valuable lesson here and is ready to do some growing.

On Tuesday, ten Democratic candidates took the stage in Detroit, Michigan to promote their policies, debate the pressing issues, and provide the public with an endless supply of GIFs and memes.

The evening was full of Big Moments, ranging from absurd, to embarrassing, to straight up cathartic. There was the moment Bernie Sanders retorted "I wrote the damn bill" when Tim Ryan questioned him about whether his healthcare reforms would cover union workers as well as the current system.

There was also the moment when Elizabeth Warren fully laid into centrist John Delaney after he claimed her ideas were too big and relied on "fairytale economics."

"We can’t choose a candidate we don’t believe in just because we’re too scared to do anything else," Warren responded, meriting an applause break.

Despite having less the speaking time (roughly 9 minutes) or Warren and Sanders, candidate Marianne Williamson also made her mark when she directly spoke to the legacy of slavery in America, calling it an "injustice that continues to form a toxicity underneath the surface, an emotional turbulence that only reparations will heal."

Needless to say, with ten candidates on the stage there were plenty of moments ripe for both serious consideration and internet riffing, but for the sake of this post, I have gathered some of the funniest tweets about the debate.

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Mario Lopez is in hot water for his comments on The Candace Owens Show, a surprising turn of events considering that Candace Owens is an alt-right figure who once famously said that Hitler's nationalism was okay.

There's some very fine clickbait on both sides, with the right-wing propaganda network PragerU making their headline"Parents Should Not Raise Their Kids As Transgender" and Yahoo! summarizing the exchange as "Mario Lopez: It's 'dangerous' for parents to support transgender kids."

Owens brought up what she described as a "weird trend" in Hollywood in which celebrities support their kids however they chose to identify. She mentioned Charlize Theron, who in April, toldThe Daily Mail that her seven-year-old child Jackson identifies as female, and at three-years-old, said, "I am not a boy!"

The host cited her experience as a nanny to argue that kids don't always mean what they say, explaining, "I am trying to understand this new Hollywood mentality where they just think their children now have the mental authority."

Lopez responded:

I am trying to understand it myself, and please don’t lump me into that whole [group]...I’m kind of blown away too. Look, I’m never one to tell anyone how to parent their kids obviously and I think if you come from a place of love, you really can’t go wrong but at the same time, my God, if you're 3 years old and you’re saying you’re feeling a certain way or you think you’re a boy or a girl or whatever the case may be, I just think it's dangerous as a parent to make this determination then, well, OK, then you’re going to a boy or a girl, whatever the case may be ... It's sort of alarming and my gosh, I just think about the repercussions later on.

"When you’re a kid ... you don’t know anything about sexuality yet. You’re just a kid," Lopez added, clearly not understanding the difference between sexuality and gender.

First, there was a backlash.

And then a backlash to the backlash.

Alright, maybe everyone should time out.

Karamo Brown offered to sit down with Lopez and Queer Eye his understanding of the issue.

Preppie, you should take him up on his offer.

There are two types of people in this world: those who believe in ghosts and those who don't. The skeptics and the true believers, if you will.

Whether you're a skeptic or a believer, chances are you feel very strongly about your stance. People who believe in ghosts are certain they saw what they saw and it was real. Folks who don't believe in ghosts are sure people are just seeing things and that all paranormal activity must have an explanation.

The figure you saw in your peripherals could have just been your mind playing tricks on you. The lights turning on and off can be explained by an electrical error. And your keys not being in the place you left them could be you not being able to remember moving them because you're so, so tired. Right?

But sometimes a skeptic can become a believer, and this happens when they experience something they cannot explain. These stories are often chilling, sometimes moving, and usually at least a little spooky. And lucky for us, reddit user Musician_Moneyless asked, "People who used to not believe in ghosts but do now, what changed your mind?" And the internet delivered. Here are 13 goose-bump-inducing answers.

1. The Haunted Pool (Oldmaneok)

Worked at a public pool, I would work alone after hours cleaning the building and the pool. One night around 2 a.m. I'm cleaning the change rooms. The pool has been closed for 4 hours at this time.

I hear the sound of a child's laughter and bare feet running across the pool deck. I go out and scan the area; there's nobody in sight. The doors are all closed and locked, there is nowhere a kid could be hiding. No wet foot prints on the pool deck. I re-check the doors and the security monitors. I am the only person in the building.

It was unsettling.

2. The Soaring Angel (longfacepug)

My girlfriends grandfathers ashes were on a little shelf in the living room, right next to a very solid/heavy angel statue. Well one weekend she and I are fooling around on the living room couch and out of the corner of my eye, I see the angel statue fly off the wall, accompanied with a deep grunt.

Now when I say this thing FLEW off the wall, I’m talking 7-8 feet of air before landing on the hard wood and leaving a dent where the wing hit. Even if this thing had fell off the wall, it would’ve dropped straight down, not soared with force.

Well we both stood there in shock, and I whispered if she had heard the grunt as well, to which she agreed. So we both booked it for the day.

Well that night at dinner we told her parents what happened (leaving out the naughty bit) and Megan’s younger sister burst into tears saying she had seen a dark figure at the foot of her bed the last couples nights but didn’t want anyone to think she was crazy (Grandfather that died had mental health issues that caused a lot of pain.)

Welp after that day I was a believer.

3. The Grumpy Grandma (Chango_D)

A while after my grandma died my mom and I were looking at a photo of her we had on a shelf. She was never a nice person. Till the moment she died she refused any help from anyone, but was quick to steal and lie. My grandma also didn't like my mom. Anyways, I mention how in the photo she's not smiling and how she never really smiled in life. My mom agrees with me and then the glass cracked straight across my grandma's lips in the photo. My mom took the picture down the next day.

4. The Ghost in All White (stickytuna)

In 2011 I was studying abroad in Morocco. We were staying in a riad in the madina of Marrakech with tall, ornate windows. I had one roommate who was already asleep this night. I thought I saw her sitting up in the bed next to me wearing all white. Suddenly I saw a white, hazy thing vaguely shaped like a person floating above me next to the big windows. I was so scared I went in the bathroom, turned the light on and stayed in the bathtub all night. My roommate didn’t see anything.

5. The Ghost Whisperer (scrodytheroadie)

My wife and I swear that our daughter used to talk to ghosts when she was a toddler. She was an only child at the time. First instance I remember, was her telling me that she was talking to Nana. That's what I called my grandmother, who passed about 15 years before my daughter was born. My daughter was young and so I hadn't even talked about Nana to her, so I showed her a picture and asked who she spoke to. There were four women (three of which I didn't even know), but without hesitation she pointed to my Nana. Ok, no biggie.

Some months later, my wife and I are trying for baby #2. After my wife gets pregnant, my daughter is sitting next to her on the couch and puts her head on her belly and says, "mommy, there's a baby in there". Ok, maybe that's coincidence. She overheard us saying something. A few weeks later, my wife miscarries. Maybe my daughter picked up on our sadness, who knows, but she again puts her head on her stomach and says, "mommy, there's no baby in there anymore."

Then, several months and one more (very early) miscarriage later, my daughter tells us, "I was talking to my brother last night and he said that my sister is coming to live with me soon." Again, she's an only child and had no (living?) brother. We were still trying at this point, but had not taken any tests. We picked one up that night, and sure enough, pregnant. When time came to reveal the gender, I wasn't even interested. My daughter had already said it was a girl. Sure enough, I have two daughters.

6. The Night Light (rperez746)

So my grandma use to live with me. She was in the room next to mine and would get up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom (which is in my room). There is drop from her room to mine so we put a night light outside the bathroom so she could see the way. It was like this for about 12 years. Only a few days after she had passed away I was in my bed with my cat and dog reading a book or something. I remember my cat and dog both waking up and looking to the night light. My cat got up and went to the light, pawing at it and making nosies. My dog just stayed still, not barking. I would grab him so he would calm down or go to sleep but he never took his eyes off that spot. That's when I saw what I can only say looked like light bend around the night light. I was positive it was my grandma coming back to use the bathroom and or check on me and the house. To this day (she died about five years ago), I still have that night light there and turn it on every night for her. I haven't seen her or experienced anything like it again but I'm sure she's still around.

7. The Reflection (lucozade6)

I saw a reflection of myself at the end of a hallway in a friends apartment building, only he told me the day after there was never any mirror in the hallways .

8. The Sweet Grandma (clipmen666)

I was 8 when my grandma died, i was sad. So around 2 months passed and i was going at grandma's house where my granpa lives.

So i wake up at 3am and hear footsteps from bedroom door, i froze, i saw my grandma walking up to me and she said "hello little sweetie" and walked away. It was not sleep paralysis because i could move my hands and feet.

At morning i told to my grandpa about it and he said "I've seen grandma almost everynight, she likes to visit, so don't be scared next time when you visit"

9. The Ghost of Dad (Ohsoeasy)

I was visiting my mother after my dad died. She went shopping with her sister and left me alone.

I heard my dad as plain as day up in his room. He got up from his computer chair walked over to the door and opened it. He walked down the stairs and stood on the last step for a few seconds before walking back up to his room and closing the door. I was probably five feet from him in the living room.

I just froze. It scared the hell out of me.

10. The Shining (banwagl)

I was staying in the Stanley Hotel in Estes Park, CO - the hotel that inspired Stephen King to write The Shining. Around 1am I heard what sounded like children running up and down the hallways interspersed with laughter. Opened the door to see what the hell was going on, and didn’t see anything. Quick little buggers, I thought. Then the next morning when my SO and I took a tour of the building, the guide stopped directly in front of our room to tell us the story of young girls whose ghosts can be heard running up and down that same hallway.

11. The Haunted House (RunBunns247)

I was having a conversation with my mom when I was a teenager, mid sentence I felt a hand grab my arm and looked to see who it was. No one was there and my mom didn't see anyone. Apparently the same thing happened to my sister a few weeks before. Also all the random voices and bags falling off shelves and moving shadows in the periphery. I believe it was just the house that was "haunted", but they weren't malicious so it was all good.

12. Attack of the Silly Putty (Pyromaniac0398)

When I was in 5th grade I was playing with silly putty in my room when my mom called me down for dinner. I had molded it into a ball and placed it down directly behind me (I’m talkin as soft as can be here).

When I stood up to go downstairs, I felt something hit me in the back of my head with some force. So I turn around and see my silly putty ball, not on the ground anymore, but bouncing on my windowsill until it eventually rolled back onto the floor. Needless to say I ran downstairs hysterically trying to tell my mom what had happened

13. The Most Heartbreaking Ghost Story You Will Ever Read (Luftwaffe_Panda)

I was one of the firefighters working on ground zero for 9/11. I lost two of my buddies, and it still haunts me to this day. As I was making my way through the rubble, I heard someone screaming. I bolted to wherever I heard the sound, and only found a twisted body on a rebar. The body was burnt and pale, and it looked like it had been there awhile. I watched a firefighter walk up the rubble towards me, and hug me. I was confused, but I understood why he wanted a hug. I hugged him back, and when I opened my eyes, there was no firefighter. I stood there, holding a helmet. I don't know how I got this helmet, but it was in my hands. The golden eagle on the front had been bronzed, and a hole through the side of the helmet, with dried blood around it. I was holding this helmet in tears, while in front of an impaled civilian. I did some research, and the firefighter that I hugged had apparently died three hours before I saw him. I still have that helmet, and I will never forget the hug the fallen firefighter gave me.

Forging a close relationship with a friend doesn't mean you want to know the ins and outs of their sex lives, but that doesn't stop them from telling you.

There's a marked psychological difference between a playful Sex and the City style brunch talk about sex, and a close friend revealing daunting and graphic details that will cause you to shudder when you see their partner in public. The line between a fun sex talk and a terrifying revelation shifts depending on the person and context, but you'll know it's crossed when you actively avoid eye contact.

In a recent Reddit thread, people shared the details of their friends' sex lives they wish they didn't know, and you will want to dim the screen while reading.

1. J19Z7 knows a bit too much about Danny's sex life.

"Not a friend, but a favorite story amongst my friends... I hope I do it justice, Danny."

"A place my brother was renting had some thin walls. You could hear absolutely everything the neighboring couple did, from dishes clanking in the sink to the creaking bed every other night at 9:30pm. One fine Saturday evening a couple friends came over to watch a movie. It must have been an extra special night next door though because when the movie ended, the show started. As if on queue, as the credits started rolling, from next door came a loud."

"**SMACK**"SAY MY NAME!"

followed by a feminine, almost questioning, "... Danny?"

Everybody immediately quieted down to listen..."

"And again...

**SMACK**"SAY MY NAME!"

"... Danny?"

One of our friends then yelled "GO, DANNY!"

"**SMACK**"SAY MY NAME!"

"... Danny?"

"Once our laughter died down, it got quiet. Really quiet. Nobody knew what to say after that. After about 5 minutes of uncomfortable silence the neighbors helped...

**SMACK**"SAY MY NAME!"

"I don't want to play anymore it's embarrassing!""

2. acasey867390 has a few questions for their friend.

"My friend in high school announced that she lost her virginity to her cousin but it was okay because it was anal.First time I really did not know what to say to her."

3. bystander007's friend likes it rough.

"Had a friend in college, nice girl, who would slap the ever-loving shit out of her sexual partners during intercourse. I know this because one poor guy left her dorm room with a red as-f*ck face covered in hand prints.

Poor guy seemed to think it was worth it. So good for him I suppose."

4. deadlift0527 has seen the dick cage.

"One time my friend was at my house playing fifa and a large metal d*ck cage fell out of his pocket and clanked onto the floor."

5. wow-thisishard's friend kept the threesome in the family.

"Back in high school, my best friend confessed that she had a threesome with her boyfriend and one of his friends. i didn’t think it was a huge deal. yesterday, so like 5-6 years since she first told, she confessed that it was actually with her boyfriend and his cousin"

6. royalsalmon's friend was thrilled by pegging.

"I remember it was school night in high school and i heard pounding on my window i got kinda scared but I heard my buddies voice outside. I thought something was really wrong. Nope he woke me up at 3 am to tell me he just let his GF peg him and it was the best thing in the world. What the literal f*ck why did he wake me up for this."

7. sullymayne13's friend has a cake fetish.

"Learned about a friend's cake-sitting fetish from his girlfriend after they broke up. I was friends with both of them separately. Some time after they split we were chatting about weird fetishes and she says, "oh I've got a good one..." He's a pretty straight laced looking guy. Not boring but doesn't seem like a weird dude by most measures."

"Apparently for his birthday one year he asked her if she would sit on a cake for him. She thought she misunderstood so she asked for clarification. Yup, he'd love it if she sat on a cake for him. Would he get off on that? Definitely. Wait, should she be naked? Nope, not at all necessary. She can wear whatever she wants, pants are fine. Will he be jerking off or something during? Nope, he'll just save the mental image for later. He wasn't into any other dom or sub stuff, or even any other food stuff. Just the cake. She claimed she eventually declined to do the cake sitting, but..."

"Anyhow every time I've seen him since all I can think is cake. He got a new girlfriend, they got married, and I just think - bet she sat on a cake."

8. Neapola knew way too much about their neighbors.

"Years ago, two women moved into the apartment next door to mine. It was impossible to not hear them have sex, because they were screamers, and because the front door to each apartment was in the bedroom... so... whatever noise they made in the bedroom was easily heard by anyone waiting for the elevator."

"My neighbors used to shout their nicknames while having sex. They called each other Mommy and Dirty Girl."

"Mommy!!! Mommy!!! MOMMY!!!"
"Who's my dirty girl?!?"
"Oh mommy!!! OH MOMMY OH!!!!!"
"You're my dirty girl!!! My dirty girl!!!"
"I'm so dirty mommy!!!!!!!"

"I never met my neighbors, but every now and then I'd be in the elevator with one of them, and I couldn't help being curious... but there is no polite way to say "Hi, I'm Neapola. Are you Mommy, or Dirty Girl?" ...so, obviously, I didn't ask. But I couldn't help being curious."

9. Lowe314 knows way too much about their friend's dude.

"One night this girl I know told me that her guy loves anal sex, but his dick is too short to actually reach past her big butt cheeks, so she just clinches really hard and lets him think he's doing it. I don't know why she felt the need to tell me this and I really wish that mental image had never entered my brain."

"EDIT: okay since I’ve had more questions, comments and...silver (??? Thanks, I guess? Lol ) on this than everything else in my history on reddit combined, so to answer a few things:

-The girl is a little chubby but she is not even close to being so big that anal sex should be impossible."

"No, I don’t know the guy’s d*ck size. I’m not close friends to either of them and this was probably close to ten years ago, but the girl did say the guy was really small. He’s a very short and skinny guy, so if his d*ck is anything like the rest of him, it really is tiny."

"Pretty sure she was not hitting on me as this wasn’t told to me privately. She just decided to announce it while a group of us were hanging out one night without him around. Poor guy.

-I don’t know if the guy has ever had real anal sex or if he’s smart enough to know the difference. Probably not."

"-Yes they’ve had vaginal sex because they have a kid who looks so much like the guy, there’s no chance in hell it isn’t his.

Hope that clears up a few things?"

10. The_Quicktrigger's friend has lethal junk.

"An old friend of mine has a large enough p*nis that he stubbed it walking into the bathroom door

I still remember the sound he made."

11. casciato didn't need to know.

"Friend texted my wife and I about bad sex after a Tinder date because the dude had a super tiny penis and lasted less than five minutes from disrobing to blowing his load. Then, as she's describing the guy, I realize it sounds just like another friend of mine, so I ask for a pic...it was him. So now I know my buddy of many years has a tiny p*nis and zero stamina in the bedroom."

"Could have done without knowing, TBH."

12. landrightsforwhales already knew their coworker's sex preferences.

"I used to live in an apartment next to a lady who was very vocal during sex, especially with demands to her partner on what to do to her. Many times she woke us up, initially it was annoying, but then it was almost comical, so me and the flatmates started using the opportunity to have a beer and catchup in the very early morning/late night and have a laugh."

"One morning I was dressed in a suit going to my first day of work on a new project and this lady far in front of me kept looking back and avoiding me. I thought initially she was scared of me (large dark skinned man walking to work on side streets) , but about an hour later I got to work and I was introduced to my new co-worker and supervisor (my next door neighbour) who I will be working on a 6 month project with."

"Such an awkward project, but the sex stopped for 6 months so we were glad for uninterrupted sleep.

15 years later we are friends now and kind laugh about it."

13. carlosisonfire got more than he bargained for in the dropbox.

"Had a buddy in college and we were doing a project together. We had a big file we were working on and it was too big for email. Rather than going all the way to his place to give him the USB, he told me to log into his dropbox and put the file there. I'd never used dropbox before, and was surprised when a dropbox folder was created in my documents."

"I went in it and I saw there were multiple videos and photos of him and different girls engaging in some not very common sex acts. I never mentioned it to him. To this day I still think about it. Like he MUST have known dropbox would download the videos to my computer right? Also idk why I watched them."

"Edit: the dude was into being pegged. I'd never seen or heard of that before. I watched like 3 of the videos with morbid fascination, then uninstalled dropbox, deleted everything, and pretended it never happened."

14. haberdashery777 knows a lot about their grandma.

"My grandparents bought a single grave plot together and agreed whoever died first would be buried first and the other would be buried on top of them when they passed. I didn’t find this out until my grandpa died a few years back. My grandma explained the situation to me at the funeral, just before they started lowering his coffin. She also made a point of telling me how awkward this was going to be when she died as grandpa, apparently, liked being on top.

AT HIS FUNERAL SHE TOLD ME THIS"

"AS IF I EVER WANTED TO KNOW

AT THE MANS DAMN FUNERAL

IM HERE TRYING TO KEEP IT TOGETHER AND GRANDMAS OUT HERE TALKING ABOUT HOW SHE WAS GETTING MISSIONARY D*CK FOR SIXTY STRAIGHT YEARS"

15. Hornysexfreak's friend has a specific kink.

"Buddy told me - while high - that he likes walking around at night with a dildo in his *ss. Walking past people who don’t know what he’s doing is his kink. He’s straight."

16. OakiOaki's friend has an unfortunate nickname.

"A friend gave her boyfriend head, but for whatever reason she didnt spit out her gum. The gum actually got stuck in his pubes. And now everybody jokingly teases her by calling her Double Bubble BJ Trouble."

17. iht133 met a disturbing racist man at work orientation.

"I'm supervisor at my job and I was doing orientation for this guy on his first day. After barely introducing himself he felt the need to tell me that it really gets him going when his white girlfriend puts on black face paint and pretends to be a sassy black lady but there's no way in h*ll he would actually fuck a black lady. Then he felt the urge to break the awkward silence with a nude picture of his girlfriend on her knees covered in c*m."

"I told him to get out and don't come back. He didn't know what he did wrong."

18. Captain-Kidney's boss revealed way to much about their childhood.

"My boss. a colleague and i were making jokes about putting your D in peanut butter and let the dog lick it of (he and i don't own any pets). So, my boss overheard this and started to tell us about when he was younger and home alone he would c*m in front of his parents cat and let the cat lick it of the ground and his D"

19. point-o-matic knows too much about her BFF's sex life.

"My best friends boyfriend's penis is so disturbingly large that they can barely achieve penetration. She cant even really give him head so he just goes down on her and she jerks him off and that's what sex is for them."

"It's hard to even make eye contact with him or hold a conversation knowing that's what's going on in his pants.

Edit: I wasn't expecting this to blow up. I literally had to tell my friend I'm talking about her boyfriend's massive p*nis on the internet. She's laughing hysterically."

20. pofpofgive's coworker makes it very awkward at work.

"Not a friend but a coworker of mine used to spy on her daughter to make sure she had orgasms. Same coworker has asked advice on dildos to at least one male coworker. She's also implied before that her 5 inched husband (supervisor of mine) spends too much time on his laptop."

"I've also been shown their Mexico trip pictures. Essentially 80% of her in a bikini on a beach."

“Telling an introvert to go to a party is like telling a saint to go to Hell.”

― Criss Jami

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Forging a close relationship with a friend doesn't mean you want to know the ins and outs of their intimate lives, but that doesn't stop them from telling you.

There's a marked psychological difference between a playfulCarrie Bradshaw style brunch talk, and a close friend revealing daunting and graphic details that will cause you to shudder when you see their partner in public. The line between a fun talk and a terrifying revelation shifts depending on the person and context, but you'll know it's crossed when you actively avoid eye contact.

In a recent Reddit thread, people shared the bedroom details about their friends that they wish they didn't know, and you will want to dim the screen while reading.

1. J19Z7 knows a bit too much about Danny.

"Not a friend, but a favorite story amongst my friends. I hope I do it justice, Danny."

"A place my brother was renting had some thin walls. You could hear absolutely everything the neighboring couple did, from dishes clanking in the sink to the creaking bed every other night at 9:30pm. One fine Saturday evening a couple friends came over to watch a movie. It must have been an extra special night next door though because when the movie ended, the show started. As if on queue, as the credits started rolling, from next door came a loud."

"**SMACK**"SAY MY NAME!"

followed by a feminine, almost questioning, "... Danny?"

Everybody immediately quieted down to listen..."

"And again...

**SMACK**"SAY MY NAME!"

"... Danny?"

One of our friends then yelled "GO, DANNY!"

"**SMACK**"SAY MY NAME!"

"... Danny?"

"Once our laughter died down, it got quiet. Really quiet. Nobody knew what to say after that. After about 5 minutes of uncomfortable silence the neighbors helped...

**SMACK**"SAY MY NAME!"

"I don't want to play anymore it's embarrassing!""

2. acasey867390 has a few questions for their friend.

"My friend in high school announced that she lost her virginity to her cousin but it was okay because it was anal.First time I really did not know what to say to her."

3. bystander007's friend likes it rough.

"Had a friend in college, nice girl, who would slap the ever-loving shit out of her sexual partners during intercourse. I know this because one poor guy left her dorm room with a red as-f*ck face covered in hand prints.

Poor guy seemed to think it was worth it. So good for him I suppose."

4. deadlift0527 has seen the dick cage.

"One time my friend was at my house playing fifa and a large metal d*ck cage fell out of his pocket and clanked onto the floor."

5. wow-thisishard's friend kept the threesome in the family.

"Back in high school, my best friend confessed that she had a threesome with her boyfriend and one of his friends. I didn’t think it was a huge deal. yesterday, so like 5-6 years since she first told, she confessed that it was actually with her boyfriend and his cousin"

6. royalsalmon's friend was thrilled by pegging.

"I remember it was school night in high school and i heard pounding on my window i got kinda scared but I heard my buddies voice outside. I thought something was really wrong. Nope he woke me up at 3 am to tell me he just let his GF peg him and it was the best thing in the world. What the literal f*ck why did he wake me up for this."

7. sullymayne13's friend has a cake fetish.

"Learned about a friend's cake-sitting fetish from his girlfriend after they broke up. I was friends with both of them separately. Some time after they split we were chatting about weird fetishes and she says, "oh I've got a good one..." He's a pretty straight laced looking guy. Not boring but doesn't seem like a weird dude by most measures."

"Apparently for his birthday one year he asked her if she would sit on a cake for him. She thought she misunderstood so she asked for clarification. Yup, he'd love it if she sat on a cake for him. Would he get off on that? Definitely. Wait, should she be naked? Nope, not at all necessary. She can wear whatever she wants, pants are fine. Will he be jerking off or something during? Nope, he'll just save the mental image for later. He wasn't into any other dom or sub stuff, or even any other food stuff. Just the cake. She claimed she eventually declined to do the cake sitting, but..."

"Anyhow every time I've seen him since all I can think is cake. He got a new girlfriend, they got married, and I just think - bet she sat on a cake."

8. Neapola knew way too much about their neighbors.

"Years ago, two women moved into the apartment next door to mine. It was impossible to not hear them have s*x, because they were screamers, and because the front door to each apartment was in the bedroom... so... whatever noise they made in the bedroom was easily heard by anyone waiting for the elevator."

"My neighbors used to shout their nicknames while having s*x. They called each other Mommy and Dirty Girl."

"Mommy!!! Mommy!!! MOMMY!!!"
"Who's my dirty girl?!?"
"Oh mommy!!! OH MOMMY OH!!!!!"
"You're my dirty girl!!! My dirty girl!!!"
"I'm so dirty mommy!!!!!!!"

"I never met my neighbors, but every now and then I'd be in the elevator with one of them, and I couldn't help being curious... but there is no polite way to say "Hi, I'm Neapola. Are you Mommy, or Dirty Girl?" ...so, obviously, I didn't ask. But I couldn't help being curious."

9. Lowe314 knows way too much about their friend's dude.

"One night this girl I know told me that her guy loves anal sex, but his dick is too short to actually reach past her big butt cheeks, so she just clinches really hard and lets him think he's doing it. I don't know why she felt the need to tell me this and I really wish that mental image had never entered my brain."

"EDIT: okay since I’ve had more questions, comments and...silver (??? Thanks, I guess? Lol ) on this than everything else in my history on reddit combined, so to answer a few things:

-The girl is a little chubby but she is not even close to being so big that anal s*x should be impossible."

"No, I don’t know the guy’s d*ck size. I’m not close friends to either of them and this was probably close to ten years ago, but the girl did say the guy was really small. He’s a very short and skinny guy, so if his d*ck is anything like the rest of him, it really is tiny."

"Pretty sure she was not hitting on me as this wasn’t told to me privately. She just decided to announce it while a group of us were hanging out one night without him around. Poor guy.

-I don’t know if the guy has ever had real anal s*x or if he’s smart enough to know the difference. Probably not."

"-Yes they’ve had vaginal s*x because they have a kid who looks so much like the guy, there’s no chance in h*ll it isn’t his.

Hope that clears up a few things?"

10. The_Quicktrigger's friend has lethal junk.

"An old friend of mine has a large enough p*nis that he stubbed it walking into the bathroom door

I still remember the sound he made."

11. casciato didn't need to know.

"Friend texted my wife and I about bad s*x after a Tinder date because the dude had a super tiny p*nis and lasted less than five minutes from disrobing to blowing his load. Then, as she's describing the guy, I realize it sounds just like another friend of mine, so I ask for a pic...it was him. So now I know my buddy of many years has a tiny p*nis and zero stamina in the bedroom."

"Could have done without knowing, TBH."

12. landrightsforwhales already knew their coworker's preferences.

"I used to live in an apartment next to a lady who was very vocal during s*x, especially with demands to her partner on what to do to her. Many times she woke us up, initially it was annoying, but then it was almost comical, so me and the flatmates started using the opportunity to have a beer and catchup in the very early morning/late night and have a laugh."

"One morning I was dressed in a suit going to my first day of work on a new project and this lady far in front of me kept looking back and avoiding me. I thought initially she was scared of me (large dark skinned man walking to work on side streets) , but about an hour later I got to work and I was introduced to my new co-worker and supervisor (my next door neighbor) who I will be working on a 6 month project with."

"Such an awkward project, but the s*x stopped for 6 months so we were glad for uninterrupted sleep.

15 years later we are friends now and kind laugh about it."

13. carlosisonfire got more than he bargained for in the dropbox.

"Had a buddy in college and we were doing a project together. We had a big file we were working on and it was too big for email. Rather than going all the way to his place to give him the USB, he told me to log into his dropbox and put the file there. I'd never used dropbox before, and was surprised when a dropbox folder was created in my documents."

"I went in it and I saw there were multiple videos and photos of him and different girls engaging in some not very common s*x acts. I never mentioned it to him. To this day I still think about it. Like he MUST have known dropbox would download the videos to my computer right? Also idk why I watched them."

"Edit: the dude was into being pegged. I'd never seen or heard of that before. I watched like 3 of the videos with morbid fascination, then uninstalled dropbox, deleted everything, and pretended it never happened."

14. haberdashery777 knows a lot about their grandma.

"My grandparents bought a single grave plot together and agreed whoever died first would be buried first and the other would be buried on top of them when they passed. I didn’t find this out until my grandpa died a few years back. My grandma explained the situation to me at the funeral, just before they started lowering his coffin. She also made a point of telling me how awkward this was going to be when she died as grandpa, apparently, liked being on top.

AT HIS FUNERAL SHE TOLD ME THIS"

"AS IF I EVER WANTED TO KNOW

AT THE MANS D*MN FUNERAL

IM HERE TRYING TO KEEP IT TOGETHER AND GRANDMAS OUT HERE TALKING ABOUT HOW SHE WAS GETTING MISSIONARY D*CK FOR SIXTY STRAIGHT YEARS"

15. Hornysexfreak's friend has a specific kink.

"Buddy told me - while high - that he likes walking around at night with a dildo in his *ss. Walking past people who don’t know what he’s doing is his kink. He’s straight."

16. OakiOaki's friend has an unfortunate nickname.

"A friend gave her boyfriend head, but for whatever reason she didn't spit out her gum. The gum actually got stuck in his pubes. And now everybody jokingly teases her by calling her Double Bubble BJ Trouble."

17. iht133 met a disturbing racist man at work orientation.

"I'm supervisor at my job and I was doing orientation for this guy on his first day. After barely introducing himself he felt the need to tell me that it really gets him going when his white girlfriend puts on black face paint and pretends to be a sassy black lady but there's no way in h*ll he would actually fuck a black lady. Then he felt the urge to break the awkward silence with a nude picture of his girlfriend on her knees covered in c*m."

"I told him to get out and don't come back. He didn't know what he did wrong."

18. Captain-Kidney's boss revealed way to much about their childhood.

"My boss. a colleague and i were making jokes about putting your D in peanut butter and let the dog lick it of (he and i don't own any pets). So, my boss overheard this and started to tell us about when he was younger and home alone he would c*m in front of his parents cat and let the cat lick it of the ground and his D"

19. point-o-matic knows too much about her BFF's life.

"My best friends boyfriend's p*nis is so disturbingly large that they can barely achieve penetration. She cant even really give him head so he just goes down on her and she jerks him off and that's what s*x is for them."

"It's hard to even make eye contact with him or hold a conversation knowing that's what's going on in his pants.

Edit: I wasn't expecting this to blow up. I literally had to tell my friend I'm talking about her boyfriend's massive p*nis on the internet. She's laughing hysterically."

20. pofpofgive's coworker makes it very awkward at work.

"Not a friend but a coworker of mine used to spy on her daughter to make sure she had orgasms. Same coworker has asked advice on dildos to at least one male coworker. She's also implied before that her 5 inched husband (supervisor of mine) spends too much time on his laptop."

"I've also been shown their Mexico trip pictures. Essentially 80% of her in a bikini on a beach."

College is a rough time for most people fortunate enough to attend. You're young. You're dumb. You're drunk all the time. And you're paying for it all with money you don't even have. It's a sh*tshow. If you don't make mistakes in college, congrats, you are better than everyone else. Either that or you just don't remember because you were in a blackout.

A guy recently took to Reddit's "Am I The A**hole?" forum to share a story in which many mistakes were made, including by the poster himself.

After finding out a girl he slept with had herpes and hadn't told him, he publicly outed her STI on a university Facebook page. Now he's facing "severe" backlash.

The guy thinks he's in the right here, while most others seem to agree this was an a**hole move. Even though her not telling him she had herpes was also an a**hole move. But as the saying goes, two a**holes do not make a right!

In summation: everyone in this story behaved badly. Sounds like college!

He begins by revealing that he "doesn't think he acted a**holish here" which is the first surefire sign that he, in fact, did.

He reveals he slept with a girl he met at a toga party, where so many bad decisions are made. He later found out from a mutual friend that she has herpes and had not told him.

Honestly don’t think I acted assholish here given her actions, but the severe backlash I’ve received has me open to the idea that I am. Hence I’m posting here.

To cut a long story short, I slept with a girl called ["M"] at a toga party. We had both been drinking but not in anyway drunk. Just a couple beers. The next morning a friend approached me and asked why I slept with her when she has herpes. I had no idea and obviously would not have slept with her had I known. I was annoyed she did not disclose this and feel she had a moral obligation to do so before sleeping with anyone.

He confronted her after and she said that she does have genital herpes, but it "wasn't a big deal" and "never flares up." This is probably true. Herpes however is highly contagious, and she probably should have revealed it to him before they had sex. But given the stigma that surrounds genital herpes, and his reaction to finding out about it afterwards, it's understandable why she didn't.

However, she also called him a "pansy" which lets you know this girl is for sure an a**hole. And so is he, for what he did next.

The dude shared her name and STD status anonymously on their university's Facebook pages—pages, meaning multiple. He says he did so to protect other people who she might have sex with.

When I confronted her she admitted she has genital herpes but said it wasn’t a big deal, it never flares up, she hasn’t passed it on to anyone etc. I don’t really care for these excuses, and when I pushed her for an apology she said I was being a pansy.

Following this incident, I took it upon myself to share her herpes status on our university’s Facebook pages anonymously. I did this so that other men (or women, if she swings that way) don’t get tricked also. Although it’s obviously me that did it, she can’t prove it, and I haven’t gotten in trouble for it.

The girl has since organized a "campaign" against him for "slut shaming" and "harassment" and many people have taken her side.

That said, she has organised a campaign against me for “slut shaming” and “harassment” against her for the posts, and successfully convinced a few groups of my guilt. The posts in question were literally bland and vanilla: “Beware of X. She has genital herpes and does not disclose this fact to those she sleeps with.” Absolutely no mean words or slurs.

However, the guy still maintains his innocence, because he did not use "mean words or slurs." Which is confusing since she's obviously mad about him outing her herpes in such a public way, not about his phrasing.

Commenters are somewhat divided, with a few taking his side and others taking hers, but the majority are saying "everyone sucks here." They both f*cked up.

mace2040 writes:

ESH - She should’ve told you but you shouldn’t have announced it to literally everyone on the university’s Facebook page. But also she shouldn’t have organized a slut shaming campaign against you, as that was obviously not your intention. Also, as a side note, herpes has a much worse stigma than it deserves.

TheTasmainian writes:

ESH, In the UK she has legal obligation to disclose her STI status, so she f*cking sucks for not telling you that she has a STI. But you going anonymous and posting on Facebook pages its also pretty shitty. You should just have taken it as a lesson in life and moved on. Outing her to everyone at you uni is a shit thing to do.

Hypothisos writes:

ESH yes she should have told you but come on. How is this not screaming obvious in your head that disclosing something like that to EVERYONE isn't ok? She's not going to sleep with everyone and everyone isn't going to sleep with her. My god man, that's sensitive personal info. You are an a**hole because doing something in revenge is an a**hole thing to do. Two wrongs do not make a right.

And steveofftheinternet says:

ESH, she has a responsibility to disclose to any sexual partners, and you had no right to broadcast it to the world.

But others are calling her behavior worse because of the health risk.

Like NoPatada who thinks he's "not the a**hole" in the situation:

NTA - everyone who might think it sucks is also simultaneously grateful they benefit from knowing. Oh this person has a contagious infection atm, let me avoid for a while. Oh this road has had an accident, let me find another route. Oh this person has a STD, glad I know. Oh this person has an ex that will break into your home of you date them, glad I know. It's responsibility to disclose this and arguably once she's passed it to someone else, it's out of her hands

• she has no say on who that person shares this info with.

And Anew12 says:

NTA she has herpes and doesn’t disclose this fact to sexual partners put her ass on blast. People in this thread calling you an asshole are insane this is how diseases spread, if it was HIV people would have a different tune.

Others think he's the a**hole in the situation.

Madbettalady explains that herpes can almost never spread unless the person has an outbreak:

OMG YTA in so many ways. like seriously go learn about herpes. the chances of you getting herpes from her when she's not having an outbreak is next to 0. something like 30% of the population has herpes that stays asymptomatic and they never have an outbreak. there's a reason clinics don't test for herpes with out a request for it. It because we all have it (well, at least 30% do) and most of us never have a single symptom.

And endrology2007 writes:

YTA - B I G T I M E. did you wear a condom? if so, what the actual f*ck is wrong with you? you’re at LEAST 96% protected with one and if she wasn’t suffering from a flare up then the chance of you getting it is EXTREMELY low.

do you think people who suffer from oral herpes (aka cold sores) tell everyone they kiss? have some f*cking perspective.

there’s such a stigma surrounding herpes, as if it’s the end of someone’s life if they get it. she was likely to sleep with you once and protected so i can 100% understand why she didn’t tell you.

the fact you SPREAD it around is appalling, you should be f*cking ashamed of yourself.

And pallidcastle thinks he's the (bigger) a**hole in the situation for harassing her:

ESH (leaning towards you being the worst) :

Her for none disclosure, and going to a toga party.

You: For harassment, anonymous none the less, and going to a toga party.

At least we can all agree on one thing: they're both a**holes here for going to a toga party. The End.