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Twitter thread explains what happens when people with ADHD run out of medication.

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Have you ever told a friend you're sick, only to have them respond that your particular illness "doesn't exist"? If you have ADHD, the answer is probably yes.

Although ADHD is a pretty well-known disorder, it's still incredibly misunderstood.

ADHD sufferers can face doubts from friends and family members about their diagnosis, and pushback from people who perpetuate stigma against medication.

A Twitter thread from Healthline editor Sam Dylan Finch is making the rounds because it perfectly describes what happens when a person with ADHD runs out of medication.

As another Twitter user notes, having ADHD often means seeming like a crappy friend.

And there are many obstacles when it comes to receiving treatment — which are even harder to surmount if your disorder manifests itself as an inability to complete mundane tasks like paperwork.

Not to mention the fact that half the people you tell about your ADHD will be like, "ADHD isn't even real."

It's relatable AF to a lot of people.

And even those without ADHD are hailing the thread as required reading.

Here's Finch's first tweet:

And here's a transcript of his whole thread. Be nice to your friends who have ADHD!

A month ago, I ran out of Adderall. And I think most people who don't understand ADHD would think, "Oh, I bet you were a TOTAL space cadet, huh!"

But ADHD isn't some silly "whoops, I lost my keys again!" disorder. And I wish more people understood that.

At first, things seemed fine. When you have ADHD, you're the last one to notice that things are coming unraveled. I was losing a lot of things, but that was manageable. I was double-booking myself a lot, or forgetting I had meetings — funny! But okay.

But then I started getting so absorbed with projects, and whatever grabbed my attention most immediately, that I started forgetting to text my family and let them know I was still alive (they live in Michigan).

I'd think to text a loved one, but get distracted by another app until I could've sworn I texted and I actually didn't. People started getting angry with me, but I'd forgotten how long it had been since we talked, because I was still thinking I'd texted them/did. not. notice.

I'd start things at work and then totally lose track of them. Things that used to take me no time at all started taking hours. I'd zone out so frequently that even simple tasks, like making a bowl of cereal, could take HOURS because I'd get distracted at every step.

Now, it's the end of the month, and my best friends were thoroughly convinced I hated them, a partner lashed out and broke up with me, my parents wondered if I was dead, my therapist thought I ghosted him, I have more drafts than I know what to do with at work...

I want you to really think about how many things you do in your life that require SUSTAINED attention, Meaning, it involves multiple steps. Now I want you to think about how many things you do that involve IGNORING other things in front of you. That describes... almost everything

ADHD is a neurological disorder that impacts executive functioning. Short term memory, the ability to complete tasks with multiple steps, the ability to filter out distractions... it is debilitating in the deepest sense of the word.

The number of times I got on the wrong bus or train, the number of times I saw an email or text and forgot it, the number of times I thought I submitted paperwork that I actually didn't — these things have a cumulative effect. ADHD can unravel your life at the seams, insidiously.

Meanwhile, everyone around me sees that I planned a wedding and decorated my new apartment and they think I'm doing AMAZING! And I am! That's called "hyperfocus." We throw ourselves into whatever is most interesting to us... and lose track of everything else.

And no, I don't get to sit here and say, "IT'S ALL ADHD'S FAULT!" I have coping tools. And I don't get to abandon the people I care about because I'm having brain issues.

But like my therapist said... unmedicated ADHD is basically like having a brain flu.

And I wish, so much, that people really and truly understood how hard it is to have a brain that is uncooperative around the most essential aspects of functioning. I'm lucky that most of the people in my life have been gentle with me and haven't personalized it. But it's awful.

I have a psychiatrist appointment on the 28th that I've been holding out for. Not everyone in my life could hold out for it with me, and I accept and understand that. It's just painful to watch things snowball, knowing that there's only so much I can do.

And this was my life every single day before I was diagnosed and medicated. Except I was self-medicating, so we got to throw "substance use disorder" on top of all that. That sure helped things!

People are so used to me being attentive, thoughtful, ambitious, giving, and present. They're used to me excelling at work and being a deeply invested partner. No one realizes how many things I'll drop with a simple shift in my chemicals.

I just want to point out that for me to be everything that I am, I *need* medication that helps me show up in all the ways that I desperately want to. And there's no shame or weakness in that.

Cracking jokes about ADHD and Adderall, though... there's a lot of shame in that.

Be gentle with one another, okay? Your flaky friend, your unreliable friend, your friend that suddenly "drops" you — there's a possibility that they love the hell out of you and that there's something deeper is going on.

Call them in. Please. Don't push them away.


Boyfriend's mom tells woman she must leave the house to dispose of tampons and pads.

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"My house, my rules" can be a slightly inconsiderate mindset in the best of times. And then there's this mess.

A woman posted on Reddit asking if it was normal for her boyfriend's mom to insist that while staying with the family, she must drive to a separate location to dispose of her used tampons and pads.

Girl, that is so not normal.

The poor soul posted her story of woe on Reddit under the throwaway username DestroyerOfTampons— at least she hasn't thrown away her sense of humor!

Girlfriend has a particularly heavy flow, which is normal for many humans and nothing to be ashamed of.

So I (24F) was visiting with my boyfriend's (26M) family and was having a particularly heavy period. I sometimes have to wear pads in addition to tampons when it gets this heavy to prevent leakage from destroying my underwear. I can't control it-I'm on birth control and have spoken to my doctor but it is what it is.

Anyway, BF and I are visiting with his family and I'm trying to not go full Carrie with the bleeding so I have to change my tampon/pad every few hours. There's a guest bathroom that BF and I are using (staying at his parent's house) and there's a trashcan with a lid. Nobody but guests uses this bathroom.

After a long day of period-having, GF sat down for dinner with the fam.

BF's mom opened with a period joke, bizarrely, then made the sinister request:

We're having dinner (BF, me, his mom, his dad, and his 14 year old sister) and my BF's mother says that she made steak cause she knows I can use the iron (lol). That was a bit embarrassing but whatever. But then she decides to use that as a segue to ask me to dispose of my sanitary products somewhere off their property.

This is an especially insane request because the family " lives in a very rural area-the closest neighbor is a good 5 minute walk (on a dirt road) and the nearest store is ~10 minute drive."

So girlfriend is being asked to either walk five minutes to throw away her used pads at a NEIGHBOR'S HOUSE (!!!) or drive 10 minutes into town.

For those who aren't in the know: someone with a heavy period might need to change pads or tampons once an hour. This means the GF would basically be shuttling back and forth from the parents' house to a trash can every half hour. It's inconceivable, TBH.

The girlfriend specified to the mom that she always takes care to wrap up her period stuff in toilet paper and dispose of it properly. She also pointed out there were no children or animals in the house that could accidentally unleash the contents of the garbage can. So what was the issue?

The mom flipped out in response.

She says that she just doesn't want "toxic waste" in the house. I'm starting to feel uncomfortable and also wondering how exactly they handle BF's younger sister's period. But I don't want to embarrass her and the conversation's already ridiculous enough to be having at dinner that I quietly ask if we can talk later.

Toxic waste?! It gets even worse:

BF's mom erupts-she starts spewing this angry rant probably more intensely than my lady parts are spewing blood. Says I'm disrespecting their house and their rules and if I can't comply, I need to leave.

DestroyerOfTampons checked into a hotel 45 minutes away so she could bleed in peace. Menstruation hut, anyone?

I went to a hotel about 45 minutes away (it was the closest) for the last nights and enjoyed room service while my period finished running its course. BF stayed with his family which I don't blame him for, we live on the other side of the country.

And the boyfriend decided to stay with his family. Girl... DUMP HIM.

Now the trip is ruined (obviously) and the girlfriend is questioning her sanity.

However, the whole thing has now caused a huge rift. BF's family despises me and while BF kept quiet and tried to just keep the peace, he's in a really tough position with his family now. They're saying that if I couldn't compromise for something so small, then I'll be a terrible partner down the line.

[Am I the a-hole] for getting a hotel instead of driving to a trash area every few hours? I honestly don't know what else I could have done, other than hoarding my used tampons and pads in my luggage, which seems horribly unsanitary and honestly fucking weird.

It's sad to see that the girl's been so thoroughly gaslit that she thinks she could be anywhere near in the wrong in this situation.

And thankfully, Reddit agrees: the girlfriend did nothing wrong.

"girl, run away from bf and his insane family like your tampon string is on fire," wrote USMCWife647.

And blue_morpho_and_kano says that the boyfriend is a dud: "If your bf can't defend you from his family's period-inspired, reality-denying rage-fest, then HE'S already a terrible partner, and his family will make terrible in-laws down the line."

EllyStar agrees:

Your boyfriend is not in any type of difficult position. This was an outrageous demand, and I can understand that he might have been a little bit stunned or taken aback in the moment, but he let you stay at a hotel for three DAYS?

Consider yourself blessed that this family’s crazy was exposed so early and get out.

EnglishTeachers suggests the couple get professional help before moving forward with their relationship:

Is future-husband going to be okay with visiting his parents without you from now on? I certainly wouldn’t go back, and I wouldn’t allow my kids to go, either. YOU can stand up for yourself against his psycho mother, but your kids won’t be able to.

She decided to call you out about your cycle in public, in front of the family, at dinner. She asked you to leave simply because you left pads in the trash - where they’re supposed to go!

Honestly OP you and him need some premarital counseling about this issue.

You heard them, DestroyerOfTampons: Run for the hills away from this insane family.

28 Memes To Help Start Your Day Off With A Laugh.

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"I just enjoy life now. I just enjoy every morning I get to wake up."

-Nas

Congratulations on waking up this morning. It's no easy task. Reward yourself with this list of hilarious memes guaranteed to help you start your day off with a big laugh.

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People are tweeting jokes about the signs you get before being fired.

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Nobody enjoys getting fired, but sometimes you can definitely see it coming.

If you work in the service industry or in retail, many bosses will try the "we didn't put you on the schedule" approach. Even worse, sometimes you'll notice that you're training the new person just so they can replace you...

In office settings, sometimes the realization that you're getting fired is a lot slower. People stop being as nice, your boss avoids eye contact, your responsibilities start getting lighter and suddenly you're alone in the corner at the Christmas party wondering if it's too late to try law school.

Considering how difficult it is to find a stable job these days with basic benefits like health insurance and keeping your dignity, getting fired is a serious fear. When #SignsYoureGettingFired started trending on Twitter, everyone who shares disdains for the hustle and the grind chimed in on the warning signs. In the workplace and a relationship, if someone says "we need to talk," prepare for the worst.

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Kim Kardashian gets mixed reactions to video of daughter, Chicago, playing with a snake.

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On Wednesday Kim Kardashian posted a video of her daughter Chicago playing with a snake, and it's received responses ranging from concern to adoration.

The short video shows the 19 month old giggling as she maneuvers the snake around her neck with the confidence of a trained handler, and the recklessness of a child who hasn't yet reached two years old. There are several points where she grabs the snake's head and steadies it to make curious and domineering eye contact.

The combination of Chicago's age and her rough handling of the snake had many feeling a bit concerned watching the video, both for the safety of the snake and Chicago.

However, a lot of people were purely amused by the typical baby confidence Chicago displayed while playing with the snake. Adults, having been burned by life far too many times, would approach the snake with far more caution.

There was also a running bit in the comments section about the snake representing Taylor Swift, which references Kardashian and Swift's feud that never officially resolved.

Regardless of whether or not Kardashian meant to send a subliminal message about Swift with this video (it seems unlikely), it certainly stirred up memories of the feud.

As for the safety of Chicago's snake handling tactics, Grant Kemmerer of Wild World of Animals told Page Six that it's not wise to let a child that young handle an adult albino corn snake.

"A child at this age doesn’t necessarily understand the fine dexterity needed to handle a delicate animal, and you can see the child is grasping the snake’s neck/body which can make the snake uncomfortable and there’s a chance the snake could be defensive."

Luckily, no snakes or toddlers were harmed in the making of this social media video.

Queer Eye's Karamo Brown is being criticized for calling 'DWTS' co-star Sean Spicer 'a good guy.'

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Karamo Brown may be the culture expert on Queer Eye, but he's really out-of-touch with one major facet of the zeitgeist. Despite being in the prime of his career with Queer Eye's popularity at its peak, Karamo has decided to compete on Dancing with the Stars, a destination for washed-up public figures and Palins.

Joining Karamo is Donald Trump's former Minister of Propaganda, ex-White House Press Secretary Sean Spicer. Spicy has been forgotten because he is sooooo two press secretaries ago, but he did immense damage to democracy, lying out his a** about Trump's inauguration crowd size on day one and defending the Muslim Ban. The guy who called concentration camps "Holocaust centers" and continues to fundraise for Trump's reelection now has the opportunity to tango for redemption (and a six-figure salary) and people are pissed.

"To treat Spicer, and his reason for notoriety, as a harmless joke is to whitewash the harm of what he did, which was to say things so absurdly false that he invited his political side to join him in denying their own eyeballs, to encourage people to believe that facts don’t matter if they hurt your team," James Poniewozik wrote in The New York Times.

Karamo, however, is cool with befriending a fascist footsoldier, and defended Spicer as a "sweet guy."

First, on Twitter, Karamo said that the "only way things get better is if we try to educate those who have different POV than us," as if competing against each other in tap-dancing contest would make Spicer less of a homophobe.

Then, in an interview with Access Hollywood, he said that Spicer is "a good guy, a really sweet guy."

The defense is rather unconvincing to many.

Comedian Philip Henry comprehensively called out Karamo in a Twitter thread.

Karamo must have seen the tweets, because he's having a block (button) party.

Queer Eye Hip Tip: Don’t be friends with fascists.

Woman shares her favorite Facebook bios from older ladies who are confused about the internet.

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Facebook is a jungle full of bizarre human interaction. While most of the teens have emigrated to Snapchat and TikTok, the rest of us adults are still shaking our fists at the Facebook algorithm while we share dog photos and updates on our careers.

Given the rapid changes made to Facebook, the "bio" function has become obsolete for many of our profiles. It exists, but isn't used with the care or fervor it once was, and certainly isn't given the same thought as a Tinder profile or a Linkedin resume.

However, that doesn't mean the medium of Facebook bio has completely lost its charm. There are many people out there still pouring their heart, soul, and food preferences into the spare lines beneath their profile picture, and the results are nothing short of poetry.

In a post that quickly spread to the furthest reaches of the internet, the studious Facebook user Kristin Hagan shared a collection of bios written by older women who are baring it all, or in some cases, merely writing the word "pasta."

some nice old ladies with amazing facebook bios

Posted by Kristin Hagan on Saturday, August 17, 2019

One woman has a granddaughter she greatly disapproves of.

This is a call-out if I've ever seen one.

While another knows what she likes to order at Burger King.

It's important to know what you like.

This woman's cover photo is somehow more terrifying than her all caps bio.

Are the babies okay?! Is anyone okay?!

This woman is done with all the DMS from thirsty strangers.

Who among us isn't?!

One woman has been experiencing Black Mirror level situations with her printer.

For the record, I also don't give Facebook permission to print things off my computer. Particularly, since I don't have a printer in my apartment.

Can Judy please pick up her phone already?

This is typical Judy behavior, and we will not stand for it any longer.

The word "pasta" is a life origin story in itself.

Past is comforting, pasta is steady, pasta is addictive, pasta is...all of us?!

But also, "seafood" may prove a more controversial food-based bio.

What kind of seafood does she prefer? Is she aware of Mercury poisoning? Farmed fish or wild?! This bio raises so many questions.

This woman's self-assurance is by far the most aspirational.

This bio has heavy Myspace era glitter font vibes.

This woman could teach a class on affirmations and it would immediately reach full enrollment.

Bless these women, for the gifts they have given us all with this poetry. In a perfect world, the word "pasta" could serve as shorthand for all of our personal truths. Until then, we have these brave linguistic warriors to thank.

People on Twitter are turning their workplace complaints into haikus.

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Office humor + poetry = magic.

In honor of National Poet's day, people were turning their complaints about their work environments in art and the results were hilarious, beautiful, weird, and inspiring.

Of course, the internet wouldn't make a challenge if it wasn't specific. These weren't just your regular office poems--they were haikus. If you can remember from elementary school English class, a haiku is a Japanese poetry style, usually related to nature, that requires a three line structure. The first line is 5 syllables, the second is 7 syllables, and the third is 5 syllables again. It usually doesn't rhyme, which works particularly well when moaning about how nobody fills the Brita in the office kitchen and Mindy keeps accidentally making decaf coffee instead of regular...

It's time to let out your frustrations and write your own!

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Guy gives woman grammar lesson over a typo, so she responds with fake grammar rules.

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When you're a woman on the internet, it's a rare occasion that anything good happens as a result of a dude sliding into your DMs. Direct Messages often come from men who think they're entitled to your time, either personally or professionally; and men who think they're better than you by default and generously offer unsolicited advice.

A female writer accidentally tweeted a typo, so a self-proclaimed copy-editor generously offered to explain the English language to her.

Writer Claire McNear gifted the internet with this exchange, and the mansplainer is too stupid to know that he's even being trolled.

It began with the guy, who has likely never ever made a typo in his life, pointing out the difference between "your" and "you're."

McNear decided to have some fun, and troll the dude by playing dumb.

Nice of Timo to generously include a link to grammar-monster.com.

McNear kept going, pretending to think that the difference between "you're" and "your" is a British vs. American dispute.

He still thought that she was serious, and put his explaining in overdrive. He got sassy and said "ask any English teacher," and even cited her place of work.

As a parting shot, McNear cited the history of Connecticut to defend her "synonym thesis."

Dudes are so quick to assume that women are dumb, it doesn't occur to them that in certain exchanges, there the dumb ones.

Woman reveals pregnancy at cousin's wedding as payback for cousin announcing engagement at her wedding.

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A wedding is not the best place to announce an engagement. In fact, it might be the worst—since the whole point of a wedding is to shower the bride and groom with attention, not take attention for yourself. So unless the bride and groom explicitly condoned and encouraged it, don't do this. A bridesmaid-turned-bride learned this lesson the hard way.

After the bridesmaid took attention away from her cousin on her cousin's wedding day by announcing her engagement, she got a taste of her own medicine when she eventually got married and her cousin sabotaged her wedding in a similar way.

This is a real roller coaster, so hold on to your bouquets!

The juicy bride-on-bride crime story was shared on Reddit by a cousin of the groom at the first wedding. They write:

Last summer I was at a cousin's wedding. His bride and her family had been close with ours since before I was born, and the couple had known each other since they were toddlers, so it was a particularly exciting event for both sides of the family.

After the ceremony at the first wedding, one of the bridesmaids, "Sarah," announced her engagement, taking attention away from the newlyweds.

However, after the ceremony was over and the party had only just started, one of the bridesmaids decided to announce her own engagement. The attention was immediately taken away from the newlyweds and brought to the bridesmaid (who I'll call Sarah) and her equally-smug fiancé. My cousin's wife (I'll call her Emma) didn't make a scene or utter a single negative word about Sarah. She looked like she was on the verge of tears, but she kept grinning and acted very happy for the other couple. This was unusual, as Emma is typically quite confrontational and speaks her mind no matter the consequences.

At the time, the bride, "Emma," was upset and looked like she was "on the verge of tears" but didn't call out her cousin for the sabotage and acted "happy" for the couple.

But then, Sarah picked Emma to be her maid-of-honor at her own wedding. Big mistake.

Sarah later picked Emma to be the maid of honor at her own wedding, which took place last weekend (I wasn't there for it, but my cousin sent me some of the best bits on snapchat and explained the whole situation).

This is where the fun begins.

As maid-of-honor, Emma had control over lots of details of the wedding, including the flower petals that the flower girls would scatter while the bride walked down the aisle.

At the last minute, she had the white petals switched to blue petals and told everyone to not tell the bride.

Emma's two much-younger sisters were the flower girls at Sarah's wedding. At the very last moment, Emma switched out the white petals in their baskets to blue ones she had secretly brought with her. She told her sisters not to say anything about it or let the bride see them until it was time to scatter them down the aisle.

On the day of the wedding, the bride was "confused" about the blue petals but ended up taking it out on the wedding planner.

Sarah looked very confused upon seeing the blue petals (which didn't coordinate whatsoever with her theme), but of course she didn't say anything about it in the moment. Most of Sarah's other bridesmaids were also Emma's friends, had attended Emma's wedding, and were in on Emma's scheme. At the reception, Emma's sisters and the other bridesmaids were tight-lipped when Sarah began demanding to know why there were blue petals. The wedding planner ended up getting a lot of abuse for not checking the flower girls' baskets before they walked down the aisle.

Then it was during the speeches that Emma enacted her big revenge moment.

Finally, it was time for the speeches. The speeches took place in front of a massive screen, displaying a loop of photos with Sarah and her husband, which had been compiled by Emma.

Emma took the remote that controlled the presentation screen and at first she showed some pre-approved humorous photos of Sarah with Emma and other friends to facilitate a couple lighthearted jokes.

Then, at the very end, Emma said to Sarah that she must be wondering why there were blue petals instead of the white ones originally planned.

In the last slide of the presentation, she announced that she was five months pregnant and having a boy.

That was when Emma displayed the last slide from her presentation.

Emma announced in front of everyone that she was five months pregnant, and that she'd just discovered the baby was a boy, hence the blue petals. The last slide? Her ultrasound picture.

There were shocked yells and gasps, Sarah had a fit, but those involved in the scheme cheered so loudly that I sincerely regret watching the snapchat recordings with headphones. Apparently Sarah had been very nasty to her bridesmaids before, driving several of them away and forcing the others to pay ridiculous amounts of money for dresses.

The bride apparently had a "fit" and threw her cousin/maid-of-honor out of the wedding. But Emma didn't seem too upset to have burned that bridge.

Emma and my cousin were eventually thrown out of the party, but they were all smiles. Sarah's fuming mother went to confront her outside, and Emma retorted with, "Gentle, gentle! I'm pregnant!"

I reckon Sarah doesn't speak to the majority of those bridesmaids anymore.

Wow. What a story. Umm, congrats, everyone?

Miley Cyrus denies cheating on Liam Hemsworth in Twitter thread about their breakup.

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The Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth breakup has sparked a lot of rumors on social media, especially after Cyrus was photographed making out with Brody Jenner's ex-girlfriend Kaitlynn Carter. The two reportedly have a "romantic friendship" in case you were wondering. It's also a highly-Instagrammed friendship.

To put the cheating rumors to rest, Miley took to Twitter today to spill her own tea in an impressively mature and honest thread about the end of her and Liam's 10-year relationship.

"I can accept that the life I’ve chosen means I must live completely open and transparent with my fans who I love, and the public, 100% of the time," she writes. "What I cannot accept is being told I’m lying to cover up a crime I haven’t committed. I have nothing to hide."

Cyrus also addressed some of her past behavior, admitting to "partying" in her teens and early 20's (I mean, who didn't?!).

"It is no secret that I was into partying in my teens and early 20’s," she writes. "I have not only smoked, but advocated for weed, I’ve experimented with drugs, my biggest song to date is about dancing on molly and snorting lines in the bathroom."

And a GREAT song it is, Miley!

The singer then went on to list her "transgressions," which include: licking a penis cake.

"I got kicked off hotel Transylvania for buying Liam a penis cake for his birthday and licking it." ICONIC.

Swinging on a wrecking ball naked.

Also iconic.

Losing a deal at Walmart at age 17 for ripping a bong.

DOUBLE-ICONIC.

And being naked on the internet.

Maybe not "iconic" per se, but certainly nothing to be ashamed of!

But she says despite her wild youth, she remained "committed" to Hemsworth throughout their relationship and that she has "NO secrets" to hide, adding that she has "GROWN UP."

"But the truth is, once Liam & I reconciled,I meant it, & I was committed. There are NO secrets to uncover here. I’ve learned from every experience in my life. I’m not perfect, I don’t want to be, it’s boring. I’ve grown up in front of you, but the bottom line is, I HAVE GROWN UP. "

YESSSS MILEY! GET THAT MATURITY, YOU GROWN A*S WOMAN OF GRACE AND DIGNITY!

She fervently shuts down rumors that the marriage ended because of cheating and says that she will "always" love him.

"I can admit to a lot of things but I refuse to admit that my marriage ended because of cheating. Liam and I have been together for a decade. I’ve said it before & it remains true, I love Liam and always will."

Am I crying? MAYBE A LITTLE.

Miley says the marriage ended because she had to make a "healthy decision" for herself to "leave a previous life behind."

She ends the thread by saying she is "proud" of her personal growth.

Miley Cyrus is breakup #GOALS. Most adults in their 30's and over aren't this mature about the demise of a long-term relationship. But then again, you don't ride a wrecking ball or get kicked out of Hotel Transylvania without learning a thing or two. Proud of you, Miley.

25 Memes Men Probably Won't Find That Funny.

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"Every woman is a queen, and we all have different things to offer."

-Queen Latifah

Yes, my queens. This hilarious meme list was handpicked just for you. Sit back, relax, and have a big laugh. You deserve it for putting up with men all day, don't ya think?

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Woman shares texts with male classmate who cussed her out for politely rejecting his advances.

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Is there anything worse than being platonic friends with a woman? This is obviously a trick question, there is an endless list of fates far worse than female friendship, and yet - men continue to become more enraged than the Hulk on steroids at the suggestion.

To be fair, romantic rejection is a jagged pill for anyone to swallow, and it's understandable to feel beleaguered or unready for friendship in these situations. However, feeling disappointed or needing distance is very different than emotionally abusing women who deny your advances. Sadly, the sheer amount of angry texts women receive for daring to reject men point towards a larger trend of male entitlement.

To make matters worse, a lot of said entitled men have co-opted the concept of being a "nice guy" and will turn any rejection into a rage-fueled tailspin of self-pity and verbal abuse.

In a recent post on the subreddit Nice Guys, a woman shared a series of texts with a classmate who got angry at the suggestion of friendship.

Their text exchange started out with him asking for help with a paper book cover, and quickly escalated into a date request.

When he asked OP out for a date, she revealed she's not looking for a relationship but would be down to see a movie as friends.

He immediately said if it wasn't a date he wasn't paying, to which OP replied that she never expected him to pay for a movie as friends.

OP's classmate quickly twisted her words and tried to convince her to go on a date once more, to which she politely declined a second time.

OP's classmate ended the interaction by ranting at her for not giving him a shot, and when she rescinded her extension of friendship, he swore at her with the fervor of a sentient turd. If there is any moral to this exchange, it's simply to not trust anyone who calls themselves nice. That label is for others to decide.

People are criticizing Ivanka Trump for her silence over her dad's anti-semitism.

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It's Anti-Semitism week at the White House, as the president is on a tear questioning Jews' loyalty (a classic anti-semitic tune) and declaring himself the "second coming of God."

It's another chapter in Trump's long history of anti-semitism that Republicans insist that should be ignored, because Ivanka Trump and Jared Kushner exist.

Jewish groups are speaking out against the president, and rabbis are slamming his ignorant, dangerous attempt at theology. Meanwhile, two high-profile Jews are conspicuously silent.

Jared Kushner and Ivanka Trump are Modern Orthodox Jews, despite not following the central Jewish commandment of "Thou shalt not empower Neo-Nazi movements."

Ivanka's job in the administration is to be a human Poo-Pourri toilet spray trying to mask the smell of white supremacy. She often functions as her father's human shield against evidence of misogyny and antisemitism, but throughout this difficult week for American Jews, they have gone missing.

In a scathing monologue, Anderson Cooper called out Ivanka for conveniently disappearing at this uncomfortable moment.

"Ivanka Trump must be very proud of her dad tonight," he said. "And you can probably just watch for an Ivanka leak in the coming days about how she tried to talk her father, you know, to change that kind of language. It’s a classic Ivanka move."

People on Twitter have noticed their absence, too.

How hard is it to to type "that was anti-semitic, and it was wrong"? I literally just did.

25 Memes That Will Only Be Funny If You Hate Your Ex.

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"One relationship ends but life goes on. Your Ex' was just a stepping stone to something better."

-Sushan R Sharma

If your ex was a demon from the 9th circle of hell you will totally relate to these savage memes.

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Guy cusses out his family for saying it's 'inappropriate' for him to cuddle his teenage daughter.

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The internet defended a dad who cussed out his wife and in-laws after they told him to stop cuddling his 15-year-old daughter because it's "inappropriate."

The dad shared his story on Reddit's "Am I The A**hole?" forum, asking people to weigh in on if he was right to tell his wife and in-laws to "f*ck off." Commenters took a pro-cuddling, pro-profanity stance and supported the dad's actions.

The dad of three says that his oldest daughter, who is fifteen, has "always been a cuddler" and that he is one, too.

Recently while watching a movie with his family and in-laws, his oldest daughter cuddled up against him and fell asleep.

I have 3 kids, 15F, 12F and 7M. My oldest has always been a cuddler, and that suits me fine because I am too. Recently my in laws were over, and we were all watching a movie together. It was a kids movie, and so my 15yo was bored out of her mind and tired, so she started to snuggle up to me and go to sleep.

After the movie was over and the kids went to bed, his father-in-law told him that it was "inappropriate" for him to cuddle his daughter at this age. His wife and mother-in-law agreed.

After the movie was over, we sent all the kids to bed/their rooms and got chatting for a bit longer. There was a fair bit of wine involved (I was sober though), and eventually after a short silence my FIL let it drop that he thought it was inappropriate I still cuddled with my 15yo. I don't really know why he brought it up suddenly, but I was prepared to laugh it off and just assumed it was the alcohol. To my surprise, my wife and MIL both agreed with him.

The dad says he has a "lot of respect" for his in-laws and they usually get along great, and he is also "quite fond of" his wife. But he didn't take well to their accusations.

The dad was enraged, telling his in-laws and his wife to "f*ck off and go f*ck themselves."

I have a lot of respect for my in-laws, I get along with them great and I consider them closer than my own parents. Obviously I'm quite fond of my wife as well, but I outright told them to "f*ck off and go f*ck themselves" and then left them and went to bed. I've never spoken to any of them like that before, but it felt like the right thing to say in the moment. They all want me to apologize for being so rude to them. AITA?

His family wants an apology for being "so rude" but the dad believes it was the "right" thing to say in the moment.

So he took to Reddit, as you do in all moments of ethical uncertainty.

Commenters overwhelmingly took his side, arguing that he was right to react this strongly and is "NTA" (Not the A**hole) here.

cyfermax writes:

NTA. The implications of what they're suggesting are horrendous.

You cuddle your damn kid. It's lovely that she feels so comfortable with you. They're projecting their own disgusting thoughts and it's bullshit.

You shouldn't be apologising to them, they should be apologising to you for the implication.

PhssthpokthePak writes:

NTA: The recent trend of people sexualising perfectly normal behaviour between parents and children is really getting out of hand. They need to realise that they're the ones being perverse and not you. Don't blame you at all for reacting the way you did to their frankly disgusting comment.

And farmer-schrute writes:

NTA

It’s a cuddle, not a fondle. Just because they are making it sexual doesn’t mean you or your daughter are.

Teens and adults who cuddle with their parents are weighing in to say it's totally normal—if anything, it's "comforting" and a sign of a healthy relationship.

lilgeoffrey writes:

I'm a 25 yo woman and whenever I visit my parents for the evening, I'll sit in between them, alternating laying my head on one of them or holding their arm. I find it comforting.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with hugging your child. There's not enough hugging in the world.

NTA

And zorcat27 writes:

NTA. I cuddled with my Dad that same way until I was at least that age. My father is loving and kind and there was a sense of comfort and protection in that. You do you and keep being there for your daughter. A father daughter relationship is special and I'm sure she appreciates your love and support.

If anything, this guy's f*cking wife and f*cking in-laws owe him a f*cking apology. Those f*cking motherf*ckers.

Woman calls off wedding after finding out fiancé's mom was secretly controlling things from afar.

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There are plenty of controlling mothers-in-law in the world, but this takes things to another level.

A woman felt forced to dump her fiancé and cancel her entire wedding after she found out that her soon-to-be-mother-in-law was pulling the strings from afar.

Now, months later, she's asking the people of the internet if she'd be justified in talking to the MIL one last time, just to ream her out for her nosiness and narcissism.

First: the backstory. How did she find out MIL was controlling things? Through a printed-out email, of all things.

The erstwhile bride was arguing with her fiancé about the upcoming ceremony when something about the fight seemed... off:

The absolute final straw came when fiance and I had a huge fight about wedding plans and the words he was saying just weren't "his" if that makes sense but the fight ended with him getting his way because I was just so exhausted. A few days later I found an email printed in the recycling bin written by his mom that was essentially a bullet point list of talking points he'd used in the fight.

She dumped him right away and cut contact with him and his fam.

This wasn't the first time he'd been too easily influenced by his mom: mother and son also sprung a motorcycle on her and tried forcing her to recreate the fiancé's parents' biker honeymoon, without consulting her first.

So after dumping him she had a rebound summer, as one does:

I had an amazing summer, partied, got laid, ate what would have been my wedding cake off the bodies of my friends on a pontoon boat on lake havasu. I did my best to put it behind me.

But now the originally planned wedding date has passed and the mom is blowing up her inbox.

Well with the date having passed his mom has been emailing me things like "just so sad to see this date pass and Alex be so sad." And "if only we knew what was so wrong that you won't even talk to him" and my favorite "I'd be happy to be a mediator between you two."

To make matters worse, the mom has a built-in excuse for why no one is ever allowed to contradict her:

His mom is obviously the "alpha-male" in the family but she has severe physical and emotional problems and had a legit heart attack when ex-Fiance's sister told her off. But ex-MIL uses this to have one sided fights which I feel she is doing now.

But the woman wants to call and give her an earful about what a POS she is:

I don't feel it's fair that she gets to send me message after message passive-aggressively assigning blame to me. I want to call her and explain to her all that SHE did wrong.

Her question: would she be an a-hole if she did this?

Opinions are mixed as far as whether it's a good idea to make the phone call. But everyone seems to agree that she dodged a bullet and the fiancé's mom is a narcissistic a-hole.

Androgenenosis says calling the mom would only cause more drama:

YTA [you're the a-hole], but not to her or your ex, but to yourself. Don't dredge this up again, OP. It's not healthy. You've put in the work to get past this, so don't go undoing it by rehashing old wounds. She's an insufferable woman and all that matters is that you know that. Block her email and any texts/calls. Put this to bed.

Fightthehoapower agrees — as anyone who's dealt with a manipulative controlling narcissist will tell you, telling them off rarely goes your way:

In a fantasy world, you tell her off and some part of the truth settles in her strange brain. Maybe she snaps back into some kind of cogent trance for a moment - like when Frank the Tank perfectly responds to James Carville in the debate scene of Old School - and acknowledges the error of her ways and what a shitty person she is, and then maybe you high five a million angels.

But this is reality. She's the woman who thinks she can mediate your broken relationship with her co-dependent son back together. Nothing you could ever say could reach her, and no response you could ever receive would be satisfying.

Spending time thinking about this is time you aren't using to live your life away from these terrible people. You're free. Go do some fun, free as a bird type stuff to celebrate. Or get a good workout and massage. Either way, focus on you, and forget about those jackwagons.

As does Throw_This_Away_4_Me:

I only want to add that I'm pretty sure your ex-MIL is baiting you. If you do tell her off, all it does is give her the ammunition she needs to paint you as a horrible person. She will be able to tell her son a list a reasons why he is better off without you. More importantly, you will give her all the reasons she needs to get the heat off of her. Alex is probably very upset with her and she doesn't like it. You email her, leave a voice message - even if you call her, she'll probably record it - you give her an out and all the ammunition she needs to take the target off of her and onto you. Most importantly, Alex is learning a very painful lesson that he desperately needs to learn. If she is able to make you out as the villain, his lesson stops.

Others, like SsailorScout, suggested writing it out:

closure is important. And you have a lot of things on your chest to say. It may start another argument but oh well. Write it out and when you think you’ve covered everything, send it. Then block everyone and live your best life.

Whatever she decides, a swift blocking of all numbers and email addresses is certainly in order. Enjoy the rest of your hot girl summer, OP.

28 Memes To Help You Start Your Day Off With A Laugh.

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"Be happy for this moment. This moment in your life."

-Omar Khayyam

You should be happy you woke up this morning and even happier that you clicked on this utterly random list of memes. Prepare to have your morning ab workout completed once you laugh at all 28 of these hilarious memes.

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Bride asks if it's okay to leave her brother's pregnant mistress out of wedding.

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It's nice to be inclusive when a sibling's divorce leads your extended family to become blended. But one bride is in a bit of a pickle because her brother decided to cheat on his wife and get his mistress pregnant — and now he wants to bring the mistress to the wedding.

A Reddit user with a throwaway account posted on the "Am I the A-Hole?" subreddit about the situation.

"My older half brother who I didn’t know growing up and lives out of state recently went through a very nasty divorce that he actually hid from me for about a year," she wrote. "It all basically goes back to my brother turning very cold hearted towards his wife, eventually cheating on her followed up by lots of mind games."

Long story short: he cheated and got another woman pregnant. Now the brother and his wife are divorced. The bride is still "extremely close" to the brother's ex, and "loves her deeply."

Here's where it gets (even more) dramatic:

I am getting married in two months and I invited both my brother and his ex wife to my wedding. His ex has made it pretty clear she does not intend to go to the wedding because my brother will be in attendance which I understand. While my brother has recently been pestering me to allow him to take his new girlfriend to the wedding. His new girlfriend is the same girl he cheated with which makes me uncomfortable as well as my other sisters.

The bride told her brother that his girlfriend was persona non grata at the wedding.

He was okay with it at first, but now he keeps asking if she can come — and the bride just found out she's actually six months pregnant.

Today he gave me an ultimatum that if she can’t go he will not go. I expressed to him that if that’s how he felt about it I would be sad by his decision but would understand but I wasn’t changing my mind. As soon as he saw I wasn’t backing off he took it back and than confessed she is 6months pregnant. This came as a shocker, I congratulated him but said that didn’t change my mind and the conversation was over. One of my sisters says I’m an asshole for not letting her go considering now she will be the mother to our niece or nephew while my other sister says she shouldn’t go to the wedding.

The bride also says she'd be fine with meeting the girlfriend — but the brother swears the girlfriend has no time to meet before the wedding.

It’s important to note my sisters and I have no issue with meeting her in general, we just want it to be in a neutral situation not at the wedding. I feel like it’s ridiculous to meet her for the first time at my wedding because of how busy I will be and for whatever reason my brother says we can not meet her prior due to scheduling. I honestly just don’t want wedding day drama.

Am I the asshole for not letting my brother take his pregnant girlfriend to my wedding?

The people of Reddit agree that this bride is not the a-hole.

"It’s your wedding, you get to decide who comes or not. Inviting her could easily cause loads of unnecessary drama when that day is supposed to be for you and your S.O. Your brother is TA for his ultimatum," wrote Shaewz.

Lala0073 suggested the brother "tried to use the pregnancy as leverage." The bride basically agreed, saying, "Felt like odd timing to bring up fact that she was pregnant. I mean I get waiting till first trimester is done but 6 months he didn’t tell my other sisters either about that detail."

tcbyma pointed out the brother and his girlfriend might be hoping the cheery atmosphere of the wedding will make people forgive them for doing something really, really crappy:

Most people wouldn’t invite a homewrecker to their wedding months after the fact. It’s up to your brother and his new girlfriend to dig themselves out of that hole. Your wedding isn’t remotely the place for that.

And SnarkyLalaith had a slightly more petty suggestion:

This will piss him off, but I would say that I am getting married because I believe in making and keeping these sacred vows. And that, while no one is perfect, flaunting a relationship which breaks those vows in so many ways (to his wife, to his children, etc) is not appropriate for a wedding. That while you will accept his girlfriend and love the new niece or nephew in your life, the wedding is not the place for that. That is a place to celebrate a union, not an ending.

Either way, mazel tov to the bride and groom — and hopefully the half-brother will get the point soon...

Dad asks if he was wrong to tell his son to 'man up' after losing writing contest.

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Crying is a completely natural release of stress and emotion, and yet boys and men are still routinely bullied for crying. Despite the fact that crying, like any expression of feeling, is innately human and not tied to gender, decades of social conditioning have stigmatized the concept of men crying.

These attitudes are often reinforced from childhood on, where young boys are told to "man up" and push their vulnerable feelings down, which inevitably results in emotional repression and shame.

Sadly, the shame messaging around men's feelings is so pervasive it takes a lot of unlearning to break the cycle of repression.

In a recent post on the Am I The *sshole subreddit, a dad asked if he was wrong for telling his son to "man up" after losing a writing contest.

"AITA for telling my son to 'man up'?

My son recently lost a writing contest at his school. Basically before the school year starts students would submit an essay and the finalist would attend a ceremony where they announce a winner. My son was a finalist but not a winner. So he had to watch in the audience as the winners accept their awards."

OP shared that his son was a finalist in a writing contest at his school, but ended up losing and had to watch in the audience as the winners accepted their awards.

"He was pretty torn up over losing and when the students and families reunited in the lobby he was crying pretty hard. I wrapped my arm around him and he wiped his tears on my shirt. We walked out like this and when we were outside this is basically what I said to him was."

Understandably, OP's son was pretty torn up about losing and cried a bit.

This inspired OP to advise his son to move on from the feelings of sadness as soon as possible.

"You didn't win and that's perfectly fine. But whats more important is how you react to this. Its okay to cry, but nothing is solved by crying. The longer you wallow in feelings of sadness the less efficient you'll become in life. So be conscious of your feelings and try not to stay like this long so you can man up and conquer the next mountain"

When OP's wife overheard him telling their son to "man up," she confronted him about it.

She told OP she doesn't feel comfortable with the connotations of the phrase "man up," as well as the instructions to tell their son to stop crying.

"My wife was also listening to this and later in the day she told me later that she was uncomfortable with me saying the words 'man up' because she thinks it has a negative effect. We talked about it for a bit but couldn't agree. What do you think? My son is 16."

RodeoBob thinks OP was wrong to tell his son to push down his feelings.

"YTA

"Its okay to cry, but nothing is solved by crying."

Let's swap those two phrases and see how it looks:

"Nothing is solved by crying. But it's OK to cry."

"What message do you really think you're sending here?

"The longer you wallow in feelings of sadness the less efficient you'll become in life."

"Wallow"?"

"Kid just finished watching people get awards that he wanted to win. If this was a month later, or a week later, or even a couple of days, I could see 'wallowing', but seriously, you're calling him out for being sad in the moment!

...try not to stay like this long..."

"Again, it just fucking happened!

He hasn't been sad for a week or a day, not even more than a few hours at most, and you're already saying "don't be stay like this!"

GeekilyMe doesn't understand why OP couldn't just validate his son's feelings.

"YTA

Man up is just what boys are told when they cry and it's messed up. While I get what you were saying, you should have validated his feelings instead of telling him to suck it up. Why can't he cry or be upset? Sounds like he's still young and it's a dangerous message to tell young men they can't feel or express feelings with crying. Crying is a healthy way to deal with it, would you rather he turn to something else later like destructive behaviors?"

DuskShades thinks OP should have let his son cry it out.

"YTA because you effectively told him to bottle up his feelings. Might be good short term, but long term can cause mental health problems. You should have another conversation with him about channeling his feelings constructively, i.e. if he's upset about losing, to work out what he could have done better and keep trying to improve, but congratulations on becoming a finalist because that's the first step to winning."

Spoonbills pointed out that OP's talk, whether intentional or not, contributed to a culture of toxic masculinity.

"YTA. You shamed your kid for crying, in the moment.

When people talk about toxic masculinity, this is part of what they mean: not allowing men and boys to experience and express their own feelings, expecting them to be rigid, emotionless ambition machines instead of full people."

Hopefully OP is able to have another talk with his son clarifying that crying at disappointment is completely normal and healthy. It's far better to process your feelings in the moment than letting them fester into something far more insidious.

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