Crushes are easy come, easy go.

Just as soon as somebody can set your heart afire by whipping out their acoustic guitar at a party and serenading you with a James Taylor, the attraction can fizzle out.

People shared the dealbreakers that immediately made them lose interest in somebody they're attracted to, and it's a good briefing on what NOT to do. They range from the obvious—don't poop your pants—to the more obscure.

1. Not the kind of filthy you want in a crush.

She invited me over to her place (not as a date thing, but just to hang out as friends). Her house was absolutely filthy and the glass of coke she gave me had a hair in it. She was really cute, had a great personality, and was a genuinely nice person, but as soon as I saw cat sh*t on the floor near the front door and just dirty everything my crush disappeared and I left in a hurry. -tahsii

2. What a fatherf*cker.

She slept with my dad. - dimple_guy

3. Just watch the movie, man.

Attempted to get through a horror movie together and he kept letting the movie run then rewinding the movie so that the “horror” never came. He pretended to be scared and would whine about the “scare” that was coming. I guess he thought this was a cute gesture, and would refused to continue. It dragged a 5 mins scene into a 45 min production of his “oh no but I’m scared, nooo I don’t want to... this is terrifying”.

This was a guy who told me that he LOVED horror movies. He was full of really weird contradictions, but this was the straw that broke the camel’s back. -MilkTeaSwirl

4. Oh sh*t.

She got blackout drunk at a party and violently shat her pants. The smell alone completely turned me off of any interest I had. -nikithb

5. Creepy.

Wanted to look through my phone on our first date to make sure I wasn't talking to anyone else. That was our last date. -twiride

6. Being flaky isn't flirty.

Kept arranging times to talk and whatnot, then always forgot or was not available. -v857

7. Don't be the breakroom bandit.

Turned out to be the person eating everyone else’s food from the breakroom fridge. -tunaforthursday

8. Paging Dr. Regina George.

We work together and as I got to know him more I learned he talked badly about everyone. Nurses that are amazing he'd belittle, talk about how certain people don't know what they're doing because they asked for an ultrasound IV as they were struggling getting a vein on a heroin addict. The paramedics were worthless, doctors don't know what they're doing, who he thought was hooking up and it completely turned me off. He's in his early 40s and into gossip more than my teenage daughter. -IComeFromDaOcean

9. Take the L.

Said she was starting up a group for LGBT youth. I asked her why, and then realized I had been barking up the wrong tree. -gerbil_111

10. Every truck can be a garbage truck.

He picked me up for our first date and his car was disgusting. Not talking a few trash items, the entire backseat and floorboard was completely covered in piled up trash, even up front. I had to step on empty McDonald's bags, old soda bottles, wrappers ect to even get in. And all he said was, just move it around with your feet. No sorry or anything. Made me feel like trash too. Like dang, couldn't even clean up a little? -Goblinqueen626

11. Protect these sisters at all costs.

His sister actually approached me and let me know that he was once arrested for locking their other pregnant sister in their basement, went on a coke binge while she desperately tried to get out, and went outside to beat their unsuspecting neighbors van with a golf club. That was a big 'ol nope. -pale_moon_pixie

12. Men love to monologue.

Talked nonstop about himself and his accomplishments and never asked me one question about myself. -toughrookie

13. More of a second date conversation.

She asked me if I was good with kids because she was pregnant with her ex and that’s she’s not good with kids (it was the first date) -evolving-arabe

14. Go Directly To Jail.

We played Monopoly. That game brings out the absolute worst in people. -sourkeychain

15. Smells fishy.

"Ye, I don't get washing, I just don't really like taking a shower or a bath or anything." -Przeke

16. Boy bye.

Ignored me when somebody new and shiny came along. -username-is-mistaken

17. Catfight.

She detested cats and insisted that I give up my furry buddy before she'd move in with me.

It wasn't that she was allergic to cats. She issued the ultimatum because - according to her - my cat "received too much of my time and affection, and she wasn't going to 'compete'." -Back2Bach

18. Who are you calling "broken"?

Told me he liked dating broken girls so he could fix them. See ya later, boner. -galaxyeyes47

19. This is the opposite of "bada*s."

We were teenagers, he lived in a different province, and we used to chat on skype. He wanted me to think he was a “badass” or something and would always talk about his drug use. He ended up faking a heroin overdose when we were on chat together. I was hysterically crying and freaking out thinking I was watching someone dying and was trying to figure out how to call 911 in another province when he “snapped out of it” and told me he was actually okay. I didn’t talk to him much after that. -Shelvis

20. In his defense, the Jets *were* losing.

Threw my $2000 laptop through my new big screen TV. -LarroldSumptin

21. Nope.

(This was years ago, on a first date) Tried to convince me to quit my job and put all my savings into gold bars; then demanded I let him read my Tarot cards to see if we'd be a good fit. Nope nope nope. -itsacalamity

22. Misogyny is for men, too.

I was 21 and in college. He was a classmate of mine. He seemed so charming and was easy on the eyes. One day I overheard him talking to his friends about how he doesn’t date engineer women because math is for men. -​​​​​​heatherwants2play

Names are hard. If you're like me, you find it weirdly impossible to remember anyone's first time the first time you meet them. It's like my brain doesn't want to commit to learning someone's name unless it's sure they'll be in my life for a long time. But not knowing a person's first name can get extremely awkward. And the longer you know the person, the more awkward it is to ask them. At a certain point, you just have to give up and commit to calling them "you," forever.

Apparently I'm not the only person who struggles with this issue. Someone asked Reddit: "what is the longest you’ve gone without knowing a person’s name?"

These 22 people share their funniest and most awkward stories about not knowing someone's name:

1.) From Zenmedic:

My next door neighbor introduced himself when he moved in. I promptly forgot his name. I danced around it for that same 5 years. He was from a French speaking part of Canada, so when talking with my wife, he was "French guy next door"

5 years after first meeting, he admits in a conversation that he'd forgotten my name. We have a good laugh and reintroduce ourselves.

His name was Guy. I had it right the whole time, he was French Guy next door.

2.) From Quelle_heure_est-il:

Most likely over a decade.

I'm in the UK and I've got to know many a bar acquaintance down my local pub.

Over time you get to know about their work, hobbies, likes and dislikes.

You get to know how many kids they have, how many times they have been married etc etc.

Then a friend from out of town visits you. And as you do in the UK, you go to the pub. Lo and behold your pub acquaintance is there and you introduce your pal from out of town only to realise you know everything about your pub pal - everything except their bloody name.

3.)

From crabman484:

Work in a pharmacy. A young woman, say late teens early twenties, came up and asked to pick up her grandmother's prescription. I said no problem. What's her name? She looked at me with a blank face, asked me to hold on and called her family.

4.) From screechypete:

2 years is the longest so far.

I used to be a club promoter and I had a guy that bought tickets from me for every event he went to. He told me his name when I first met him but I forgot it soon after he told me, meeting lots of people makes it hard to remember names, especially when I don't even know if I'll ever see them again so what's the point of remembering everyone's names? After a certain point I saw him out partying often enough but it was past the point where I could ask him his name without it being awkward. I had him saved in my phone as Sir Prince Albert since he told me about his piercing so that I'd know who was texting me if we ever texted each other, but I didn't think to add his name since I wasn't sure what it was so that was no help.

Eventually we ended up at a party together and some people walked in and asked "hey have you seen phil?". After not remembering meeting anyone that night named Phil I said no I don't think there's a Phil here. Then that guy who's name I couldn't remember came up and joined the group and said "I'm right here! Don't worry Screechypete, these guys are cool I invited them!"

At that moment I finally found out his name and I played it off as "oh ok well if they are your friends then I guess it's cool if they stay." and just went with it.

5.) From Cheeky_Guy:

I moved into my condo in 2011 and I introduced myself to my one neighbor next door to me but instantly forgot his name. We would see each other in passing for years and I would always just say hi and the casual conversation. I met my wife in 2018 from a long distance relationship and when she finally moved in with me there was the awkward moment when I introduced her to him. I said this is my fiance (x) and we're getting married next month, he said congratulations and nice to meet you, then walked away. She asked me what his name was and I said I have no fucking clue. Later that day she said his name is Brad and I was like "oh, he looks like a Brad" and she said he had no fucking clue what my name was either so no big deal.

6.) From dongcherry:

I work at record store, there's a guy who's been coming in weekly for the entire 11 years I've worked there. We just call him sweaty Polish guy.

7.) From Gilsworth:

My name is apparently Darren to this nice couple who own a restaurant in my town. My name is not Darren, I've known them for 2 years. We're even facebook friends, they can literally see and read my name, but it's cool. I always wanted to try being a Darren.

8.) From HorseMeatSandwich:

I've lived in my townhouse for almost 5 years now, and I don't know the name of the guy who lives directly across from me. I have pretty regular interactions with most of my neighbors, but I've never talked with this one guy beyond just exchanging pleasantries while passing each other.

When I moved in and first met him, I immediately forgot his name. I was almost positive he said it was Mike, so I went about 4 years just assuming that was probably his name, but not quite confident enough to actually call him Mike. Then a few months ago I was talking to some other neighbors in the parking lot when he walked by, and my other neighbors called out "Hey [name that is not Mike]!" So it was confirmed that this guy's name is NOT, in fact, Mike, and I was relieved I hadn't been calling him that for the past 5 years, but I immediately forgot again what his name actually is, so now all I know is that it is something other than Mike.

Myabe I'll learn his name by the time I've lived here 10 years.

9.) From Bakasur279:

A whole date. Someone fixed us up but my dude never told me her name, just the address she wanted me to pick her up. I didn't have guts to ask her name between the date.

10.) From DanHam117:

I’ve been on the receiving end of this, my nickname in college was “The Mayor” and I had people I had known for years coming up to me at my graduation saying “I had no idea your name was actually Dan!”

11.) From Fallen_Proxy:

My cousin gave birth to a baby girl like a year ago and I still don't know her name ...

12.) From Mabescs:

Dog park people.

We see each other and talk almost every day but they're always 'dog's name mum/dad'

I'm sure at some point their name come up, but I just keep forgetting.

13.) From gamemaster92515:

A whole school year I knew their names I just didn't know which twin was which and they weren't identical.

14.) From Rizui:

10 years, the people from my office but from different division. They seem to know me and often call me out when I passed by, but I don't know their names and at this point it seems awkward to ask them

15.) From TannedCroissant:

I’m a waiter. There are lots of customers who are regulars and I’ve known them for years, some of them close to a decade. Very few of them I know their names. Some of them get nicknames amongst the staff. Some favourites are

‘Twix man’ as he would always leave a twix chocolate bar with the tip.

‘Emma and Stacy’¹ two sisters who used to come in a lot, I know their names but not which one is which.

‘The vegans’ a young couple who were vegan but really cool, I do know their names now to be fair

16.) From Travel_Dude:

At work we have this old dude who drives shuttles. His name is Ron. I say, "hey Ron!" Everytime I see him. Five years down the road I see Ron standing next to another old dude. Turns out we have two shuttle drivers. I've been saying "Hi Ron" to the other guy 50% of the time for five years. Does this count?

17.) From Adminskilledepstein:

The guy around the corner I buy weed from has just been "the weed guy" for 3+ years.

18.) From hellosamish:

I once worked with a man for 3 years and didn't learn his name. Best friend i ever had. We still never talk sometimes.

19.) From tina_the_fat_llama:

My first year of uni I had this weed dealer/friend. When he introduced himself I thought he said, "N" I asked him multiple times if he could repeat it and I even said it back to him. So for the first year I called him "N". That's how it was in my phone too. Well at the end of the year I learned that his name was actually Ian, and that I had misheard due to his accent.

20.) From chewbaccagonewild:

For more than 20 years with some of my relatives. I don't meet them often, but when I do, they all greet me by my name (even their kids whom I meet for the first time). Imagine having to deal with more than 20 people that know your name and how you relate to them for days on end.

21.) From kangki8:

1 year and still going... It's my piano teacher, he told me his name once and we don't really talk and I call him stuff like you

22.) From OhYoshii:

Going on 8 years now I think. It was a guy from Uni, he probably told me his name when we were drunk but I forgot and haven't asked him since. We see each other once a month or something like that.

The internet is perpetually alight with stories of men being creepy towards women, in ways that are both casual and insidious.

While there are a wealth of stories of men being creepy (and downright scary) in the dating scene, there are certainly women who fall under the creepy label as well.

In a popular Reddit thread, men shared stories of creepy women, and it's proof that breaking the glass ceiling can occasionally be terrifying.

1. From wondernever:

Once, an acquaintance added me on fb. When I clicked on her profile, it said she was in a relationship with someone. That someone was a fake account of me with my picture.

2. From myonkin:

I met a girl online. She seemed normal enough so we ended up going out for a drink. I found out that night that she actually lived an hour away in a rural town, but whatever.

Well, we went out, had a drink, then went to go play pool. We drove over in my vehicle and when we got to the pool hall she checked her phone and saw she had a text from her ex bf. She proceeded to cry incessantly. I was trapped...I didn't know what to do...so I offered to take her back to her car. She said she wasn't sure if she could drive and she asked if I would take her home. I declined saying it wouldn't be a good idea because:

A) Her car was like a mile away.
B) She lived an hour away.
C) How in the hell did she plan to get to her car the next day.

So she agrees for the night to end all the while apologizing vigorously. The next day she texts me, apologizes, and offers to buy me lunch. She seemed alright when we were getting to know each other and I was bored so I figured what the hell and gave her another shot. She brought her kids to the lunch. When I saw them get out of the car I texted her and said that it wasn't OK for me to meet them. She became irate and said her sitter cancelled at the last minute. Even though the drive was an hour long from her house she didn't find it important to ask if it would be weird for her kids to come. It was at that point that I stated I was no longer interested.

Now for the creepy part.

Two days later she texted me but I didn't respond. She kept at it and kept asking if I wanted to go out the next weekend. After multiple texts I messaged her and said I wasn't interested and I had plans to take my friend out for her birthday. This resulted in even more irate messaging about how she "wasn't comfortable with me going out with other girls" and so forth. This resulted in her getting blocked. Turns out she took a "guess" on where we would go (since there is was only one nightclub in the town) and she showed up. I had to tell the birthday girl that I was leaving and to call me when she was ready to go. My night was ruined. Birthday girl got home okay in case you're wondering.

But wait, there's more...

A couple of weeks after that there was an ice storm and the power had gone out in the area. I ended up going over to a friend's house to hang out since they had a generator. We were playing cards and enjoying ourselves. Suddenly I get a text from a number I didn't recognize.

"Are you alright? I'm really worried" the message read.
"I'm fine, who is this?" I replied.
"It's Creepy Girl" she responded.
I ignored it and put my phone down. The next message sent chills down my spine.
"I'm really worried! I'm standing outside your house and all the lights are off! Are you sure you're ok?!?!?!"

She had never been to my house and I had never given her my last name.

My final message before blocking her involved not contacting me or I'd call the police.

It turns out she was a secretary or some shit for a police department and she ran my tag to found out where I lived, drove over an hour to my house in the midst of an ice storm, then got a new number all so she could "check up on me."

EDIT - RIP Inbox...to answer a few questions:

This all happened 6 or 7 years ago, so not recently by any stretch.

While I can't prove she ran my plate, I was using a google voice number attached to an email address which didn't have any of my personal information and was used for this VERY PURPOSE! Jokes on me I guess.

I found out she worked at the police department through simple conversation online. We talked for about two weeks before meeting so I knew where she worked among other things.

I didn't turn her in and I won't. She was a single mother and the father of the kids was in another state. She had supposedly been abused and turning her in would have gotten her fired and/or arrested. While I realize what she did was illegal I didn't feel it would be right to put those little kids through that.

I have no idea what she did with the kids during the ice storm. Her parents lived in the area so I assume they went there.

I have no idea where she is but I'm pretty sure she's no longer at the police department.

I'm fine and haven't heard from her since. I also don't live at that house so surprise visits probably aren't a thing.

3. From IfYouGotBeef:

Met a girl online, we chat and setup a date. Date goes fine she's a little weird, a little sheltered but seems nice. Not much chemistry but I think that can take some time so we give it another go have a second date. Confirm I have no interest in a relationship with this girl on the second date so we talk it out no hard feelings let's be friends.

Fast forward 1.5 years I'm in my kitchen with some friends getting ready to go out for my birthday dinner when we hear a knock on the door.

I go check and no one is there but there is a box with my name on it. There is a card and some gifts which would be nice if this girl had ever been to my house before. I had moved since our two dates and still have no idea how she found me.

4. From FlourMogul:

Our high school basketball team had a female student manager. When we had games at other schools, she would always come up with a reason to need to get something in the locker room when we were showering. But we were so used to her, I guess no one said anything?

Coaches probably should have stepped in there.

5. From cojallison99:

Girl in my dorm. She had a crush on my roommate. My roommate clearly didn’t like and told her several times. Things got out of hand and there were times where my roommate would come running back to the room yelling “lock the door, lock the door” and moments later the girl and her friend would try to come barge in without permission.

What’s creepy is this next part. Apparently one night we accidentally left our room unlocked and she decided to sneak in and play/rub our heads. We didn’t wake up but her roommate told us what she did a couple days later. I haven’t seen her in about a year and I’m quite glad.

6. From Forethought-47:

I was bored once at a small, local festival and didn't want to be there so I just got a drink and started walking around aimlessly when I noticed a fire breather. The display was interesting and she was pretty hot, when she was on break she went to get a drink and we started talking. She seemed nice, we had a laughed but her break was up and she resumed her display so I left her to it and continued to wander around. Five minutes later security was called to her display...

Turns out some crazy girl whom I had never met before was following me around the festival and assaulted the fire breather, she had claimed that we (me & crazy) were together and fire breather was trying to break us up.

7. From 4thStgMiddleSpooler:

This younger girl who I never even spoke to once in high school had a crush on me. I got a note from her in my locker asking if I wanted to go out with her. I had no idea of how to get it back to her, so I just wrote "no" and taped it to my locker. Then she started following me everywhere. I would try to talk to her, but she would just keep walking away, pretending I wasn't talking to her. This goes on for like two years.

Then I was hanging out by myself one day around the neighborhood, and she comes walking up with three guys who wanted to kick my a*s for some dumb unrelated stuff. She somehow found out about it and brought them to me. After an embarrassing scene with me diffusing the situation with these angry gentlemen, they leave, and she finally sits down on the curb right next to me and starts flirting. All I could do was just stare at her enormous bangs with a WTF expression until she got embarrassed and left.

8. From iseldomwipe:

I was at a friend's birthday party for her dog (probably was just an excuse to have people over and get drunk) and another friend, lets call her M, is also there. I had known M for a couple of years, but I only really ever see her a couple of times a year. She is very drunk, and also very married. Her husband was also at the same party.

At one point in the night, she asks me if I have a girlfriend (I did not), if I am looking for a girlfriend, where i'd been looking for a girlfriend, etc. Then she says that I had been looking in all the wrong places and that, if I wanted a good girl, I should "let her know".

During this conversation, she also kept trying to grab my hand, and so at one point I made sure to always be holding a handful of mini-pretzels in both of my hands as a sort of excuse to not be able to hold hands. I can't hold hands if I am holding pretzels. Logic.

Then finally she says "I like you, iseldomwipe. I really like you". I'm like "ok". This repeats for a while until she says "stop saying 'ok'. It makes me feel like You think I'm bullshitting"

Then she keeps following me around the room and keeps trying to make me dance with her until I leave.

Her husband was pretty much always in the same room as us no more than a few feet away while this was all happening. Thought I was crazy and imagining it all until another friend asked me on the same night as we were leaving: "Was M trying to hit on you?"

9. From MyNameIsRay:

I started going to a new doctor, the receptionist was cute, so I flirted a bit.

In a waiting room, with other patients around. It was pretty innocent, she reciprocated, I figured it was all in good fun. She escalated a bit, stuff like scheduling me for days she was there, calling me directly with reminders, etc.

Then she went into the records, got my cell number, and started texting me. Telling me she wants to meet up, she's not happy with her husband, they never have sex any more, etc.

I noped out as fast as I could.

10. From solo_een_vir:

She befriended my younger sister just to get her to ask her to a sleepover.

I woke up in the middle of the night with her laying in bed with me.

I was 17 years old.

She was 13.

11. From scotty_sterling:

I was in New Orleans watching some street performers go crazy and a mom came up behind me and fully grabbed both of my ass cheeks, I was 18 and standing next to both of my parents and she said “hey you remind me of my son” which is probably one of the weirdest things to say in that moment.

12. From paleobear1:

Not so much as the girl herself but her mom. I dated this girl back in high school and I went over to her house a few times just to hang out and such. But her mom made me incredibly uncomfortable by asking a billion different questions about my past relationships, my intentions with her daughter, even when i last looked at porn. She had to be in the same room as us at all times. She also had complete control over my girlfriends phone as well so she monitored every single message her and i sent back and forth. Obviously due to this, that relationship didn't last long.

13. From Shyzoire:

During my last year of high school I would tutor students after school. One day about halfway through the year a new girl came in and sat next to me. The first thing she said was something along the lines of “Do you wanna see my birth control?” She had an implant in her arm and showed me where it was. She then felt my arm and told me I was hairy.

For the rest of the time she kept prying for personal info like who my friends were and where I lived. I didn’t see her in tutoring after that, but one day during lunch she came up to my table where I was just chatting with my friends and inserted herself into the conversation before leaving randomly. I heard a few days later that she was suspended for either having drugs or a knife in her backpack.

14. From quats5:

Not a guy myself, but one I dated had a couple fun stories.

One was a girl he got set up with by friends on a blind date. As they went out to dinner, they passed a jewelry store, and she insisted on going in so they could “pick out rings for when they get engaged.” He paid for dinner and noped right out.

The second one went better until he took her back to her place, where she went to the kitchen, pulled a nice big, sharp chef’s knife, and told him he was staying the night. He said, “I did what any red-blooded American male would do. Agreed but said I needed to go to the bathroom, where I promptly crawled out the window and never saw her again.”

15. From sinanju1994:

I've got two.

First one was when I was 15. I was walking past my school and about to cross the road when a trio of drunk women in their 40's or 50's started hassling me about how good I looked, pressing me in against the wall and surrounded me so that I couldn't get out and holding me back while they copped feels. Not a fun experience, especially when you can't even tell people about it or how creeped out it's left you because as a guy you should somehow be proud when women 3 times your age are grabbing your cock through your trousers against your will.

The other one was about 4 years ago. I was 22 and asked a girl I'd met out. She seemed nice at first. Met her in a little cafe while I was waiting to meet some friends and we got talking about Pokemon and some other stuff for 20 or 30 minutes before adding each other on Facebook. Only weird thing was that in that time she told me she'd been raped by her ex. I thought maybe she was just being open about it as a way of dealing with the trauma so I let it slide and messaged her a bit later to see if she'd be interested in a date. She told me that she already had a boyfriend but that she'd love to hang out as friends which was fair enough so I agreed to that and we met up a few days later.

She'd brought her boyfriend with her which I expected. I got the sense he wasn't too comfortable with me which I can understand but what threw me was she also brought her ex. I can't 100% say it was the same ex she'd mentioned but he really gave off that vibe with the way he talked and behaved around her. She kept on talking about dead babies and abortions obsessively as well. You couldn't change the subject at all. Creeped me the hell out so I just sat there with a smile and acted civil while internally going "please don't kill me!" and I haven't spoken to her since.

16. From WirelessTrees:

In elementary school there was a new Spanish girl who had a crush on me and would literally be nonstop staring at me and following me.

Me and my friends tested it. In class they would look and see she'd be staring at me. In recess we went to the very far corner of the field and she followed, so I went back to the school wall and she followed, so I told the teachers and they finally got her to stop following me.

She disappeared a few days later. Nobody knew where she went.

17. From ashmaht:

I’ve had a couple semi-stalkerish women who creeped on me (which is weird because I’m not even good looking), but my favorite “creepy girl” story was just a one-off funny moment.

When I was 22, I was hanging out with a couple friends just grilling and drinking when one of them was suddenly like “do you guys wanna go to a costume party?”

Naturally, we were like “yes.” So we slapped together some quick costumes and hopped in an uber.

We showed up to this place and it was less a “costume party” and more “6 people in an apartment wearing costumes,” but there was beer and a dog so I was happy.

Anyway, we spend the evening playing board games with this group of people who seem just as confused as we are. The entire night, there’s this one girl who’s sitting next to me on the couch but she hasn’t said a single word. Not one. I don’t think much of it, some people are shy, it’s whatever.

But then, during a lull in the party, out of nowhere, she gets closer to me, looks me dead in the eye, and whispers “I like blooooood.” Then shifts back to her spot like nothing happened.

I turned to my friend and was just like “we have to leave.”

I still think about that night sometimes.

18. From babybopp:

Seemingly normal looking attractive girl. Took her out on a date. We got drunk. Breaks down saying how she used fentanyl with her ex and ended up in hospital. Now she has to use a catheter and bag for the rest of her life as it f*cked up her urinary system. She was screaming “I have a drug induced bladder disorder”! She is 23. Cried, tried to get me to finger her beside the catheter. I wasn’t feeling it. Then decided I was the enemy and called cops saying I am assaulting her. I recorded her as she went apesh*t calling me names. Cops show up. She is having some sort of mental breakdown. She ends up transported to a psych observation unit at 1 am. Ended up playing poker.

Couple of days later she texts me and asks, “wanna hang out?”

Guess what I did.

Edit this is what I did:

And those asking and DMing me if they can see the video, I probably will in time if I can edit out faces, names and any other identifying markers so you just see the screaming freak out. Not good at it so it will take time.

19. From TechyDad:

This was, thankfully, an online only interaction. It started innocently enough with this random person asking me questions about my religious beliefs on Twitter. I was active on Twitter then and was more than happy to talk about my religious beliefs. (In an informative manner, never a "trying to convert you" or "this is the only right way to live" manner.) The conversation quickly turned weird, though, as she began asking if I thought that people who were lying about who they were should admit to their sins. I stopped replying.

That's when things really went south.

She began harassing me at all hours of the day on Twitter. This spread to comments on my blog and emails (sent via a comment form on my blog). They were erratic and hard to make out, but I found other people she had stalked/harassed and pieced together what this was all about.

A few years prior, she had a beef with a guy who lives in New Zealand. He cut off contact, but she began contacting his family, friends, and boss to tell them that he did "bad things" to children. (I'm not going to spell it out, but it was sexually based.) Now, he works in a school so this charge could end his career. Luckily, he warned his boss and they ignored the charges. Of course, it helped that her proof was that God told her.

Did I forget to mention that she claims she's a prophet of God and that he literally talks to her to tell her bad things people do? Because that's exactly what she claims. And good luck arguing with "God told me you're guilty." Who's she going to believe? Your mountain of evidence or the voice of "God" in her head?

Anyway, she found me online and came to the conclusion that I was really a faked identity for New Zealand Guy. Her evidence? We both enjoyed photography. (I guess all photos posted online are really only done by me. No wonder I never have free time!) As I said before, arguing with her was useless. God told her that I stole the photos of my family from someone else and was pretending to be a married man in New York when I was really. New Zealand Guy. Can't argue with God.

I tried to contact the police, but she lived in Canada and there wasn't anything they could do. I, and others, reported her Twitter account, but she always had a few spares ready to hop to.

The harassment intensified as she told me that she was going to contact all the companies I did business with under my blog and tell them of my "crimes." (Same as New Zealand Guy since we were the same person in her mind.) I had to warn a few people preemptively just in case. She also threatened to contact the local police on me, but luckily she didn't know where I lived exactly. (One reason why I don't post my exact location online.) She also posted threats to my wife's blog.

This continued off and on for a year or so. She'd move to another target, we'd warn said target, and they'd block her. She'd then claim that we were part of some uber-hacking group that hacked into everyone's Twitter account to force them to block her when they really all agreed with her. This also extended to police departments. We apparently hacked the police to make her complaints vanish after she was personally told that they would arrest us. (Neither the hacking nor the "personally told they would arrest us" ever actually happened, of course.)

Eventually, I found her IP address and hatched a plan to block her from my website. I edited my site so that she would get a 404 Page Not Found error if she tried to visit my page, while everyone else would get the normal site. (Being a web developer is handy at times!) She began lauding on Twitter her success at taking me offline.

She's still online and bothering people. Boy George and the head of Firefox are among her past targets. She's left me alone for years, though. I've since stopped blogging, due to life not her, and cut back the Twitter use so I don't think she'll focus on me again. I don't even wish for her to be arrested, but to get the psychiatric care that she so obviously needs.

20. From ElephantOfSurprise-:

My husband and I moved and we happened to buy in a neighborhood that adjoined the one my ex and his new wife bought. Weird.

Many years and many children later we moved further away. Guess who lives across the street? It was mildly weird until his wife and I met at the mailboxes one day and talked. Now our kids are friends and ride bikes and play basketball and such.

When most of us are young, we keep a lengthy mental list of all the things our parents do that we swear we'll never to do our own children someday.

At first, they're silly things like punishment of any kind, not allowing candy for all meals or just any general house rule. As we get older, though, we might realize that certain parts of our personalities were formed because of an expectation or behavior that our parents instilled in us, and it's not always necessarily a good thing. All good parents try their absolute best and put their children's interest first. Of course, no parent is perfect, but if everyone modifies the behavior of their parents slightly for their own children, then hopefully we'll all continue to get better for future generations. Maybe by 2090 kids will know that they don't have to finish their glass of milk at dinner and that it's legal to turn the light on in a car...

So, when a recent Reddit user asked, "What did your parents teach you that you would never teach your children?" people were ready to share.

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Guilt trips. All the damn guilt trips. - IMissCuppas

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To be overly critical of my own body. My mom is otherwise wonderful but very insecure about her weight (she's not overweight at all). I often got comments like "those jean look cute but don't gain 5lbs" and lectures about how I can't go out around other people without makeup because "what will people think?" But its unfortunate because she genuinely believes people are judging her that much. She apologizes every time we video chat if she hasn't put on makeup yet. - sensualsqueaky

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to be afraid of them - AV8ORboi

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My parents taught me not to share my feelings. It has taken me a long time to be able to do this. I dont' want my kids hiding their feelings. - westondeboer

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Never allowing me to tell my side of the story. When I was getting in trouble most of the time it was my fault or something I could have done about it. But there were times that there was an honest explanation that would have explained the situation and it was always "talking back". Just give me a freaking second. - agbmom

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“There’s no reason to be stressed”

Everyone gets stressed whether it’s something big and life changing or small and inconvenient. Growing up my sister and I always heard “you shouldn’t be stressed about this. This isn’t a big thing to stress over” and stuff like that. Instead of being taught to manage our stress, we’ve learned to hide it and bottle it up so our parents wouldn’t think we’re dramatic or something.

Instead of teaching kids to “not be stressed” I’d teach them how to manage stress in healthy ways so they can eliminate it or be able to navigate through it easily. - viking162

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insults aren’t insults if they come from your family. - LetsPlayCluedo

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That the only acceptable careers in the world are: lawyer, doctor, and engineer (-__-) - DancesWithScalpels

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That teachers are always right - slothity-sloth

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To never question authority/your elders - avocadoes-advocate

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That defending yourself in an argument is bad. - spinywindowcleanser

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Bad financial habits (which I've broken, thankfully)- ComicalSaintsHeaded

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If a boy is mean to you, he likes you.

Worst. Lesson. Ever. - sunshine2632

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My parents were unconditionally supportive. Everything I did was the best and perfect and I was a genius. I will be giving my daughter constructive criticism, because that is how we get better at things - funky_grandma

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That anxiety and depression are not real health problems - stwkyw

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Clean your plate - gdub61

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You have to go to college to have a good life - TheShadowolf001

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The most important thing I'll teach my children is to be good, but don't be nice. I've been a doormat my whole life just because nobody ever taught me the difference between being a decent person and a doormat.

I'm 30+ and I'm still working on this part of my personality. I don't want my children to go through this, ever. - PM_me_UR_boobies_

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My father always said that you should do something perfectly or don't start at all... Terrible advice since now I'm a real perfectionist that awaits perfect conditions.

Give it your best but always try would have been way better advice. - lucafrattatoni

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Your father is always right. Even if he is wrong you must still obey him, because he is your father. - agentzuko

"Women are the real architects of society."

-Cher

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Being a lawyer seems a little like being a parent, in that you only have so much control over the humans whose livelihoods you are responsible for. And, much like children, defendants in court often say or do exactly the wrong thing at the worst possible time.

Someone asked lawyers of Reddit to share their "oh now you f*cked up" moments from court. Here are 15 stories of defendents whose misbehavior or accidental overshares cost them their case:

1.) From IntrepidFlatworm:

So, picture it: mother and father are in a custody dispute. Mother's not making a lot of money but she's hustling as best as she can to take care of her kids. Father's a deadbeat. He actually was supposed to originally have primary custody, but skipped out, so she's been taking care of them for a couple years, and now she wants primary custody officially transferred to her and he's fighting it because he's a narcissist...

Anyways. In many jurisdictions, in addition to the lawyer for each side (assuming that the person isn't arguing pro se, like the father in this case, because not everyone can afford a lawyer, or thinks that they need one) when there's a child involved the court appoints a guardian ad litem, who represents the child. The guardian ad litem interviews the parents, interviews the child, does some basic investigating, and reports to the judge about their assessment. In this case, the guardian ad litem said outright that the mother was probably the better bet, but he thinks that both parents should take a drug test just in case. (Both parents had previous substance abuse problems, and both claimed to be clean.)

Well, the judge has no problem with any of that that, and sends the parents off to be tested right then (social services sent someone to administer the tests, I believe). That's done, everybody comes back to the courtroom.

Judge reads the results out loud. Mother tested negative for everything. Father...tested positive for cocaine.

Now, as the mother's attorney (and the guardian ad litem) made sure to emphasize, cocaine doesn't stay detectable for very long. Either the father used it very recently (he admitted in court that he'd gone to a party and done a line of coke), or he was such a habitual user that it remained detectable for longer (the party that he'd been at was the previous weekend, which was outside of the approx. 3 day range that cocaine remains in your system, so if that was indeed the only time he'd used coke then he must have been doing lines nonstop the week before for it to linger so long).

Things really did not go well for him after that. Mother ended up with primary custody of the kids, father ended up looking like a real tool in front of the judge.

2.) From EducatedOwlAthena:

Years ago I worked in personal injury, and we had a woman come to us saying that she slipped and fell outside of a nail salon because they hadn't swept up the wet leaves outside the door.

So we take the case, and almost immediately we get a call from opposing counsel saying he's going to courier us something important. We open it, pop the disc in the computer, and right there is security cam footage of our client picking up the wet leaves, putting them on the sidewalk, and sitting down on them before calling for help.

I have never facepalm'ed so hard. Needless to say we dropped the case

3.) From quelindolio:

I was tangentially involved in a custody dispute. Dad alleged mom was doing all sorts of things and he should have the kid. Dad's attorney grilled mom for about 20 minutes on texts she had sent claiming to sell her prescriptions. She wouldn't admit it. Dad's attorney moved on and eventually ended with, "One more question. Where did you get the pills you were selling." Mom responds without thinking, "Oh my doctor prescribed them."

4.) From devinple:

Had a bylaw officer harass me almost constantly for 8-months for violating a by-law: I had parked my motorcycle in my driveway. He ordered me to remove it, and tried to levy fines for the violation. He went after my landlord and tried to get me evicted.
Eventually, I got a lawyer and filed a complaint. When asked to point to the bylaw I was breaking, he did and even read it out, which basically read:

No parking or storing anything in a driveway other than an automobile.

He seriously thought a motorcycle wasn't an automobile because an automobile is a car. When I hired my lawyer, and showed him the case, he said "I'm not taking new clients right now, but I'll make an exception because I'm personally offended that this is happening to you."
Everything was thrown out, and I'm currently working on getting my legal fees and extra payments for all the harassment.

5.) From abunchofsquirrels:

Unfortunately my best story for this is from my own client. We had a client who was on the board of directors for a company, and was being sued for allegedly not telling the board something. His part of the case was really only a smaller part of a larger and more complicated case, so while there were a lot of other issues in the case overall, the entire case against him specifically essentially boiled down to whether or not he told the board about X.

I and few other attorneys spent an entire week — 9 AM to 5 PM or later, Monday through Friday — prepping this client for his deposition by going over every document in the case with him and explaining why it was important. On several occasions we reiterated that no matter what else happened in the case, as long as we can show that he told the board about X, he was fine.

The day of the deposition arrives. Opposing counsel sits down and starts questioning our client. In the first 5-10 minutes of the dep, opposing counsel straight-up asks our client what he told the board. Client responds, “I told them about Y, I told them about Z, I told them about A, B, and C” — and says NOTHING about X, literally the only issue in the case against him.

In 20+ years of practice it was the closest I’ve ever come to rage-quitting on a client.

6.) From ThadisJones:

A doctor testifying under oath that he deliberately chose not to inform a pregnant woman of a positive test result for a really severe genetic disorder, because he figured because she was a member of his church she wouldn't have considered aborting the pregnancy under any circumstances.

A primary care doctor who received a complex and technical test report from a genetics lab, and simply forwarded it to the patient (who didn't really speak English and wasn't medically educated). She testified that she "performed the minimum required diligence" which is not what you should say and expect a good outcome.

7.) From _agathaneedzhlp:

This guy wanted custody over his children after a divorce and his wife was accusing of abuse(physical) . He was asked if he had ever abused his wife and he straight up said 'Yes, but only when she annoyed me' or something along the lines of that

8.) From McCarty898:

My father as a young lawyer was trying to get a case to take place in one state and not another because the insurance laws were more favorable in state A. The company he was in litigation with wanted it in state B for that reason, and claimed they only distributed in state A but had no locations in it and should not have to go to court in state A.

Well this company was a soda company and my dad has a major diet soda addiction, he goes through at least a 12 pack a day. So they were in a meeting with the soda company lawyers and took a break and he went downstairs to get a diet soda. When it came out he noticed on the can that it said "Distrubted by the XYZ soda company of State A". So he got another diet soda and brought that one up stairs to the meeting. The XYZ soda co decided to settle after that.

This was in the late 70s or early 80s I believe.

9.) From throwRA1a2b3c4d1:

When my client filed a restraining order against his ex and then asked me to leverage the restraining order just so he could get back with her. In our state, if you do this, you’ll have to pay the other persons attorneys fees.

10.) From RonSwansonsOldMan:

My client was charged with aggravated assault (5 years possible) for kicking the shit out a guy while wearing cowboy boots with those fancy steel ornamental tips on the boots. He wore the boots to his jury trial.

11.) From Thompson_S_Sweetback:

This was in a custody dispute, jury trial. We represented the father of young twins, and the mother wanted child support. The issue was that, for the past three years, they had been sharing the kids EXACTLY 50-50, as in he got a weekend, she got a weekend, one of them got Monday Tuesday, the other got Thursday Friday, and they split Wednesday. There was no reason not to have a shared custody order with each parent paying their own expenses, but she thought she could get more, so there we were.

The thing was, she did not have a case. She kept taking the kids to CPS and child psychologists before the trial to make a reason why she should have primary custody, but we managed to get all of that excluded.

So on the day of the trial, her big argument is that these kids have asthma. Severe asthma. The kind of asthma that requires special equipment, and the father is ignoring these issues. He's negligent. He's endangering them. She should have custody.

The trial is generally going our way. She's not a great witness, she doesn't have any medical records to back up these allegations, and we have the children's daycare teacher testifying that she doesn't know anything about any special equipment or severe asthma. But the moment that sealed the deal came when the mother called her last witness.

The last witness to testify was the children's grandmother, the mother's mother. The jury already knew that she frequently babysat the two kids, and that her apartment was often a drop-off location for the kids. The mother swore that the grandmother never smoked in front of the kids, and that her apartment was not a dangerous environment for asthmatic children. The grandmother was called last minute by the mother as a rebuttal witness.

As she took the stand, the grandmother leaned over into the microphone and cleared her throat.

"Ahecchhhmm."

It was a two or three second long expression of smoky phlegm. I don't recall exactly what the grandmother said in her testimony, but I remember she sounded like decades of three-pack-a-day smoking when she said it.

After a half-hour of deliberations, the jury awarded primary custody to the father. He immediately started crying, while the mother sat motionless. It was a good result.

12.) From BatFake:

Not a lawyer, but my cousin is. He had a deposition via Zoom during this pandemic, and the Plaintiff's counsel shared his screen to present an exhibit. My cousin notices a tab on the guys internet browser, showing that he was trying to look at my cousins Facebook profile (which is set to private). Deposition ends and he says "So! Once last question. Do you like my profile picture?" Plaintiff's counsel immediately hung up the call.
Maybe not the biggest f*ck up, but gotta be pretty embarrassing.

13.) From Belgian_friet:

Not a lawyer, but a law student. This was in a case that my professor showed us in class.

Some guy was accused of something, I cannot remember what, but the judge spoke him free because there wasn’t enough evidence he had done it. Guy said “thank you judge, I’ll never do it again”.

DA appealed and got him convicted

14.) From brotherstoic:

Not a lawyer, recent law school grad studying for the bar. This happened summer after my first year of law school, I was making a court appearance as a student attorney (basically, a rule in my state that lets students practice under attorney supervision).

I was working with the public defender’s office, representing a client at a first appearance on a probation violation/bail hearing. On a probation violation, the judge is allowed to hold a defendant without bail (keep them in jail until the case is over).

Client says he has some money, but not much. Could get together about $500 for bail. Ok, I’ll ask the judge to keep it low or just release him. Prosecutor asks for $300 bail. Great, my work here is done. Whatever I say, judge will order $300 or less and my guy is out.

I say my piece, and then my client interrupts the judge, saying some incoherent stuff about how he needs to get out and he’s got this that and the other thing going on. Won’t let the judge speak.

Judge holds him without bail even though the prosecutor didn’t ask for it. All he had to do was shut up and he’d have gone home that afternoon.

15.) From soiseeadog-hmmm:

The defendant tried to bitch slap one of the jury

The coronavirus pandemic continues to be serious and scary, but on the plus side, it has never been easier to help save lives. You don't have to be a doctor to fight a deadly disease, you can simply stay home, and when you do leave the house, cover your nose and mouth. A simple piece of cloth strapped to your face can stop the spread, yet stubborn epidemiology deniers refuse to do that one thing.

People sick of these "COVIDiots" are calling them out from a social distance (aka online), and the results might inspire your next clapback if you're brave enough to comment on your aunt's Facebook post.

1. We're in the driver's seat.

2. "Go read a book."

3. Why do doctors go to medical school when they can just Google stuff?

4. Harsh but hilarious.

5. You need to "studied" how to spell "immune."

6. People in glass houses should not accuse others of having a false sense of security.

7. Treat your lungs as well as you treat your iPhone screen.

8. No shirt, no shoes, no mask, no service.

9. Masks were present at both world wars, my dude.

10. This Ian fella has a lot to learn.

11. Mythbusted.

12. Problem solved!

Fathers Day can be loaded for a lot of people.

Those who lost their dad, don't have a good relationship with their dad, never met their dad, or have a complicated family set-up may feel emotionally isolated, and the steady stream of posts on social media can often feed into that loneliness. On the flip side, fathers who feel disconnected from their children can feel isolated in a completely different way.

Families of divorce that include step-parents sometimes face tension over the celebration of Father's Day, more specifically, there are times when a step-dad is recognized as a primary father figure much to the behest of the birth dad.

To this very point, in a recent post on the Am I The A*shole subreddit, a man asked if he was wrong for asking his ex-wife to delete a Father's Day post about her current husband.

AITA for telling my ex wife she needs to take down a Father’s Day post about my kids stepfather?

OP shared that him and his wife divorced when the kids were very young (one and two years old), and he wasn't involved the first few months after the divorce, which prompted his ex to take him to court for child support.

So my ex and I divorced when my kids were 2 and 1. I admit I wasn’t the best dad at first and I went a few months without seeing them which prompted her to take me to court for child support which she she gets from me every month now.

While he doesn't get lots of time with the kids, OP was able to see the kids on Fathers Day for a few hours, before they were picked up at night.

Now my ex keeps the kids and I see them when I can. I work out of town so sometimes I only see them 3 days a month. But i send her money to care for the kids and I asked her if I could have them on Father’s Day since I hadn’t seen them since May 15th. She brought them over and picked them up Father’s Day evening at 6pm.

A few hours after OP's ex picked up the kids, she posted a Father's Day post dedicated to her current husband, showing him loving and and helping raise her and OP's kids.

I guess she had a cook out, dinner and presents for her husband. I mean completely over the top and we are friends on Facebook and she posted pictures of him holding my kids on their Vacation, or my daughter laying on his back with her head laying on top of his and my children snuggled up with him on the couch. There were a few others of him kissing her belly and a video of him crying as she told him they were expecting a boy. She told him that he was doing such a great job helping her raise the kids and that he was the only one she knew who would build treehouses, playhouses, paint a room just to please the kids and watch a Disney Movie every night and she loved how much he already loved his son and that they ALL loved him.

OP decided to text her to ask that she remove the post, emphasizing the fact that the children are his, not the step-dad's.

They all love him even my kids...she didn’t even tell me happy Father’s Day when she came over. I texted her and told her she needed to take the post down as I didn’t like the pictures of him with my children and that he isn’t there father that I am and she needs to realize that.

OP's ex told him to mind his own business, and when OP's mom got involved in pressuring her to delete the post, she was promptly blocked.

She pretty much told me to f*ck off. My mother agrees she needs to take it down. My mother then messaged her and she told my mother “your son and I divorced over religious reasons he thought he was God and I disagreed and I see he still feels the same way” then she blocked her. AITA? Or is my ex?

RedoubtableSouth pointed out OP's hypocrisy and claimed he's completely to blame.

"I texted her and told her she needed to take the post down as I didn’t like the pictures of him with my children and that he isn’t there father that I am and she needs to realize that."

You see your kids a handful of times a month, he lives with them and raises them as his own every day. He's their father too, honestly he's probably more their father than you are despite the fact that they're biologically yours.

This situation is entirely your creation. You ran out on them for months, and now you still barely ever see them. You're jealous and acting like an angry toddler because your ex appreciates her new husband who's actually putting in the work to raise your kids. You want the same kind of praise, then you should've put in the same kind of effort. Biologically fathering a child deserves no praise, but parenting them, raising them as your own, that certainly does.

YTA.

ErrantJones completely sees why OP's ex left him.

YTA. Wow. Nice touch calling in your mommy to fight your battle. I can’t imagine why it didn’t work out with your ex.

IUsedAFarcaster doesn't understand why OP isn't happy his kids are being raised by someone kind.

YTA. Holy sh*t dude. You're barely involved in their life from the sound of it, excuses or not. Their stepfather is clearly a great father to them and that deserves to be celebrated, whether you like it or not.

KeeperOfTheArcane197 pointed out how immature it is for OP to bring his mother into it.

YTA. Kids need you THERE. There stepdad is, and loves them. You should be grateful they have an amazing person in their life that loves them. Do you realize how many blended families have tough relationships?!

Also, lol at you, a grown man running to your mother to complain about someone parenting your children too well. Grow up.

NerdLover2528 suggested OP focus on being a good dad rather than controlling his ex's Facebook feed.

YTA.

Telling someone to take down a FB post because you’re super salty says a lot about you. Your ex did nothing wrong. You’re just jealous.

If you want to be seen as a good dad. Act like one.

It's pretty clear that in this situation, OP is in the wrong, and if he really cares about his kids - he'll funnel his energy into being more involved, rather than stoking his personal jealousy.

We all like to think we can spot a creepy person a mile away — but it's just not that simple.

A recent Reddit thread asked people who knew a murderer to explain what it was like. The responses prove you can never be too careful about who you let into your life.

1. This uncle's criminality was "the elephant in the room" until it was too late.

My adopted uncle was raised by extremely religious parents. They're not the stereotypical southern Baptist kind, but theirs views on life are just... off I guess. Anyway they raised this kid in the church and always turned a blind eye to the mischief he would do as a kid. According to my mom he would show up to Christmas with super nice presents for everyone and he never had a job.

Clearly it had been either stolen or paid for with drug money. It was always just the elephant in the room how obviously criminal he was becoming until when he was 19 and he killed two people during a drug sale. He's sitting in the Huntsville, TX prison right now and should be there for life as far as I know. His parents to this day talk about him like he's a sweet, loving man but having never met him I find that hard to believe. - BikeOften

2. This person's murderous family member had a terrible effect on their life.

An uncle (by marriage) murdered my grandma and then he killed himself and his own two daughters. I was very upset by this because I was close to my grandmother and it was a horrible thing to process. Because it was such a sensational event, everyone knew that it happened. Some kids at school bullied me for having such a fucked up relative. My mom was completely out of it and depressed for years, which also affected me. - Friendly5GLizardJew

3. This person's dad was a war vet.

My father was MACV SOG in the Vietnam war. He killed a whole bunch of people and because he was also a linguist assisted in the torture and interrogation of hundreds of people. It fucked him up. He didn't talk about it and we lived in fear of him. He didn't put stickers on his car, go-to vet groups or even admit to serving in war. He was in Vietnam for almost five years by choice.

He liked it. He did things to my sister and myself that no child should ever have to live through. Later in life he left my mother and found the love of his life and became a happier person. No one believed what he was like when we were kids. So we got called liars after his death when my sister tried to talk about the abuse. His new family never spoke to either of us again. My sister was particularly nasty about it and I made the mistake of speaking up for her. - Chris-Thrush

4. Yikes.

When I was about 8-10 years old my godfather strangled his wife in a rage fit because he thought she was cheating on. It didn't affect me too much, as my godfather was not a relative but a friend of my dad and I did only see him at most once per year. I did not have a big emotional bond to him. What affected me more was seeing my father cry his heart out during the funeral of my godfather's wife. - TheBassMeister

5. This person knew a guy who killed someone by driving drunk.

It’s not blood family, he’s my godmothers son. But we are close.

He was driving drunk, crashed and killed his best friend, who was in the passenger side. He was done for manslaughter and spent a lot of time in jail.

He went in at the age of 18 and by the time he got out he was a totally different person. He ran away to Thailand and hasn’t been back. - pocketfullofuranium

6. This is scary.

There’s a girl in my family who married a man that murdered his ex. The man is law enforcement and his ex’s body was never found. It looks like she just ran away and disappeared.

I’m so scared for her and she’s obsessed with him - THE_PROFESSIE_

7. A grandfather accidentally killed someone in the 1900s.

My grandfather shot someone at school early in the 1900s. It was an accident, he didn't realize someone had loaded the gun he took to school for the play and shot and killed his classmate during the play. Nobody talked about it until after my great uncle died and my dad had to dispose of his uncle's gun. Dad explained that he didn't want any guns around and that he was raised with no guns because of what his dad (my grandfather) did. I don't think there was any legal consequences. - sreno77

8. This person's great grandfather most likely killed people during wartime.

My great granddad was in the SS and stationed in russia. A friend of his was one of the top dogs at a concentration camp. I doubt his hands are clean - MrDandastic4269

9. A very sad story.

There was this one regular at my dad's bar who found out that his 8 year old son got raped by some guy (football coach I think)

He went over to his apartment, kicked the door in, a beating happened and ended with a pedophile flying out of his 8th floor window.

Dude has now served his time, is estranged from his family, started doing drugs and drinking and so he is living on the streets, everyone in town knows what he did, nobody blames him for it. - SirJukia

10. Hope this person's in therapy...

My first boyfriend murdered his friend and then killed himself. We grew up in the same neighborhood, hung out with the same people. We had been broken up but were still friends when the murder happened. We had just graduated high school.

It's been a decade since and no one ever mentions it. It' s like it never happened. - KimJongFunk

11. This guy shouldn't have been allowed to get married again.

My grandfather murdered my grandmother. Both were alcoholics and my grandfather that was a prisoner of war battled with PTSD. Due to my grandfather military rank, only served five years in jail. He later married another lady and ended up murdering her as well.

What I was told that they were moving across the states and traveling together. My grandfather made it to his destination and wife didn’t make it out of the desert. Never seen again. When my grandfather went to jail of his first wife, I never had any contact with him. I just assumed he was dead. He didn’t even go to my mother’s funeral. Heard grandfather died years later. - Lanna33

12. "A few weeks behind bars" for killing someone?

My uncle was a cop in the NYPD back in the late 50's and early 60's. He got drunk one night off-duty and shot a guy dead in a Bronx bar after an argument. He spent a few weeks behind bars and lost his job. I didn't find out about it until after he died. My dad casually mentioned it in passing. It didn't affect me or surprise me. I always thought there was something off about him. I found an article from the NYT describing the incidence. Still have it saved. - Eeknock

13. This sounds hard to deal with.

I have a half sister from a different father, but same mother. Her father killed our mother. We’ve lived with our grandparents (mothers side obviously) since the murder, (she was 4 I was 1). Haven’t known life without it. Makes mother and father day a bit weird, and when I have to explain to my friends why I live with my grandparents. Also, I didn’t keep it a secret in school, so a lot of people knew OF me through my story. But because of my age it’s been an easy adjustment, although it’s arguable there wasn’t one at all to begin with. - Navygreenjumper1

14. Sounds like something fishy was definitely going on.

My great grandfather? (i think) was rumored to be a mass murderer. Apparently my family and another had some kind of beef. That’s all I know. The only person alive who would know anymore details won’t speak a word about it. - ep01_

15. We have so many questions.

Well, I'm not exactly related to them, but they were in my family nevertheless. It was only recently that I found out that my paternal grandfather had four wives :l That sort of explains why my paternal grandmother left him, but I always knew my grandpa died at a relatively young age as far as age goes. I never knew exactly WHY, though. My dad always told me that he died of an illness, so that's what I went with.

It wasn't until my granduncle, my grandpa's younger brother, visited with his youngest son from England sometime ago did he accidentally reveal in a conversation that my grandpa was actually poisoned and murdered by wife number three. And he said it so smoothly as though it was no big deal, and had this "I saw it coming" look on his face.

But seriously, FOUR WIVES? Surprised he didn't die of a heart attack instead. - Toads_flax

16. Heartbreaking.

My dad killed my mom's dad when I was a kid because he was angry that my mom divorced him. He drove several hours and had a plan to kill me and my sibling as well as our grandparents. When he couldn't find us he settled for just killing my grandpa. My dad won't ever be getting out of prison and I lost both of them that day because of my dad's selfishness and anger. I grew up in a small town so most people knew and treated us differently for a while. Father's Day is always hard. - silvamsam

17. Uhhh what.

I belong from a tribal area in pakistan My uncle legit shot someone with a sniper they say from the top of the roof Apparently the person was dating one of my cousins and my degenrrate uncle just shot them while they were meeting in a field My uncle ran away and hid for a couple of weeks while the police were searching from him

Then a few weeks later he comes back and pretends nothing happened Some next level bribery made the police forget about him And he later on stood for elections and become the mayor of the city My father never talked to him again and we moved to Canada - ehsaan_khan69

18. Who was right in this situation?

My grandfather killed an allied soldier during the Korean War. He part of an American tank crew that was paired up with a Turkish tank crew, because it was a UN/NATO police action. The Turks would taunt the hungry Korean children they came across, aggravating the American crew.

The final straw was when they held an orange out to a Korean child, then kicked him square in the jaw when he went went to grab it. My grandfather and his buddies grabbed the Turkish soldier, held him down, and ran a bayonet through his head.

Grandpop was a textbook case of what happens when PTSD is left untreated. - pinelands1901

19. Another terrible situation all around.

Good friend of mine’s father got high or under the influence of something. Murdered another druggy friend by beating him to death with a bat and then Ended up hanging himself in his jail cell waiting for court.

My friend (the son) was pretty messed up for the first month or so. The hardest part for him was dealing with the logistics of everything afterwards (funeral, estate, insurance, etc). Father’s Day was yesterday, he got into a fight with his SO about being asked to contribute ideas to his father-in-law’s present because it made him think of his own father. - zoink540

Some say it's a parent's job to educate their kids about the world — but what if your parents are homophobic?

A teenager who's part of the LGBTQ+ community asked Reddit for advice after she told her brother about the existence of same-sex attraction and her mom flipped out. The teen is somewhat worried that she overstepped, but more concerned that her parents will raise her little brother to be homophobic.

It all started when the siblings were watching a TV show together:

I (17F) was watching a TV show with my 6 year old brother when at the end two female characters kiss (Yes, She-ra). When my brother said " Ew! Why are they kissing?" I asked him why he said that.

He says, " Because girls can't kiss girls. Only boys can kiss girls."

I tell him that girls can kiss girls and boys can kiss boys. It's the same as a boy kissing a girl. Then we went back to watching the show.

The teen told her mother about the conversation:

Then later my mother comes home and I tell her about it. She gets upset that I talk to him about it and that he's just a kid and he shouldn't need to know that. I tell her that it's best to tell him now since if he grows up he'll become more stubborn and less likely to accept facts than if he was younger.

My mother becomes angry and starts yelling how I'm not the parent and how I'm trying to make him become like me. I tell her no I just want him to not be homophobic.

Her mother seems to think she is trying to indoctrinate her brother:

That's when we start arguing. She tells me that just because I'm apart of the LGTBQ+ I want him to believe what I want to believe. While that's true even before when I realized my sexuality I was still a against homophobic behavior. My brother when he was 4 went to church on a regular basis with my father. At first I wasn't fond of the decision but I soon accepted it because that's my parents decision not mine.

She also confronted her mom for being homophobic:

I tell her that her and father still act homophobic even when I came out to them years ago and I just wanted my brother to be different and not be hateful to others since he already showing disgusted at same sex couples. My mother still make homophobic comments around me even making fun of me when I tell her I'm uncomfortable.

She asked if she did the wrong thing:

I know that I can't turn my brother into me and force him to become something he's not but I just want him to learn that being different doesn't mean you deserve to be frown upon. I know I can be too much so I just want to know if I was in the wrong.

Although a few people say it wasn't the girl's place to talk to her brother about this, most are on her side.

a-l-yssa said her mom isn't right at all:

Wow, your mum is a big homophobe. [You're not the a-hole], you’re absolutely right, you’re a good sibling and hopefully an influence on your brother.

Jade_Echo_ said the teen approached the situation perfectly:

To add to this, [she] explained the scene in a perfect age-appropriate way. That’s exactly how I answer my 6 year old’s questions. “Mommy, why are those two daddies holding hands?” “Because they love each other”. “Can two mommies love each other?” “Sure can.” End of story, no more questions. He just accepted it and now he doesn’t ask those questions or even comment. It just is a fact in his rolodex of understanding that he’s filed away.

peepeepoopoolover09 thinks it's clear that the girl's parents are homophobic:

Your parents seem to strongly dislike you just for being LGBT. Showing kids that it is ok to be in love with other peoples of your birth/bio gender brings in a new set of people that don't have homophobic views.

One user, crystalrose27, argued that the teen was the a-hole in the situation, saying:

You’re not the parent, you do not get to make parenting decisions.

But others, like disowningdad, took issue with this:

Why is basic information like "gay people exist" a parenting decision?

And DishTeam6 responded:

Boooooo. Speaking the truth about homosexuality isn't a parenting decision. Making room for the teaching hatred of other people must end.

In the end, the overwhelming majority supported the teen.

Later, she added a message for everyone who answered:

Thank you all for your kind words and amazing feedback! I will take your advice and use it next time this kind of situation happens again.

Hopefully it won't happen again, but if it does, at least she knows the internet has her back.

"If you don't think every day is a good day, just try missing one."

-Cavett Robert

You can miss a lot, but you won't want to miss the memes on this list. Each meme will be hilariously relatable for anyone who wants to start their day off with a laugh.

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Pranks are fun, but they're even more fun when you can successfully trick someone you love, record it and post it for all your friends...

Sure, it's a little mean to emotionally manipulate your partner for social media's sake even for a only a minute, but pranks, Gen Z dunking on Millennials for being basic and corny, lip-syncing and killer dance moves are the heart of TikTok.

In the latest TikTok trend, people are very sincerely telling their partners and spouses that they could've been nicer to them and the reactions are hilarious gold. Some people are so pure and sweet, genuinely worried about what they did to upset their significant other while others are simply not having any of it.

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Be careful what you wish for.

When I say "wish," I mean, online shopping at websites like Wish.com. The internet is the world's biggest mall, where you can buy just about anything and have it show up to your door.

But just because you can buy it, does it mean that you should buy it?

People are blowing the whistle on bad purchases by sharing photos of what they thought they bought, versus photos of what they got. Here are some of the funniest ones.

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Some businesses offer a military discount as a way of thanking people for putting their lives on the line to serve our country by giving them a discounted price on movie tickets or other goods and services. It's not nearly enough but, hey, it's something. In many cases, military discounts also extend to immediate families (usually spouses and dependent kids up to age 18). But should you be entitled to a military discount if you're an adult who is related to a veteran through marriage? One guy thought so. And he did not take well to being denied this privilege.

A man left an angry one-star Google review of Lowe's hardware store after they denied him a 10% military discount he felt entitled to since his father-in-law served in the Vietnam War.

In the review, written over Memorial Day Weekend, the man complains that it's "cold" of the popular hardware store to offer a military discount "only for the military individual."

On this hot Memorial Day Weekend I was told I can no longer get a the family military discount of 10% because I am the son-in-law of a military veteran that served in Vietnam. The discount is only for the military individual. It's pretty cold to offer a veteran a discount for him and his family only to take it back and say not anymore. It was a small way of saying thank you for over the past years but starting today, we (Lowe's Corp.) are no longer thankful.

He then vows to stop shopping at Lowe's, claiming the company "could care less about the families of those who served this country with honor."

When I have needed materials for this project that I have spent thousands on, I choose this Lowe's store because of the honor they gave my father-in-law. Now, I was told by the head cashier that this is the last time you will get this discount. Lowe's, this is last time you get my money. Maybe I was given the wrong information, but it sure seems Lowe's could care less about the families of those who served this country with honor.

A screenshot of the one-star review was shared on Reddit's "Choosing Beggars" page, an online community devoted to shaming people who complain about free or discounted services not being free or discounted enough for their liking.

"Imagine thinking you qualified for a military discount because your father-in-law fought in the Vietnam war," wrote the person who shared the screenshot.

Commenters mostly agree that this man's behavior is entitled for someone who is not even blood-related to a veteran.

CrunchityFrog wrote:

Wow... just wow. I mean, that person isn't even blood related. How entitled is that?

And Skatingraccoon wrote:

I can't even start to comprehend the level of entitlement demonstrated in this review.

And Iowalky points out:

Son-in-law of a 'Nam vet? Probably wasn't even born yet when his Father-in-law served. So there was no sacrifice on his part.

Thanks to all who have or are serving.

Other people are making fun of the man by claiming they deserve military discounts, too.

Alwaystacos writes:

3 people I went high school with and am Facebook friends with are in the military. 30% off please!!

Genghis_Tr0n187 writes:

That's nothing, I saw a documentary about the guy who created the Seal Team.

And magnimalt writes:

I saw a guy passing in the street that was military, I should get a discount!!!

While other people who are closely-related to veterans are sharing their own experiences with the discount. Most agree this guy's behavior is out-of-line.

golden_finch writes:

Ugh I hate it when military families pull this crap. My DAD served in the military for 20+ years and when I still had a military ID, I almost never even thought to ask for a discount. It felt so weird.

This person even checked their website, where apparently Lowe's makes their policy very clear.

Boss_Os writes:

Seems the policy is very clear and doesn't even come close to extending to Sons-in-law. This guy is a complete toolbag.

"To receive the everyday 10% Military Discount, you must: Be currently serving in or be a veteran (as defined below) of the US armed forces; and Enroll in the program online or at a customer service desk at any Lowe’s store.

“Veteran” includes all individuals who are retired from the US armed forces or who have been discharged (e.g., honorable, under honorable conditions, general). Individuals dishonorably discharged or discharged for bad conduct are not eligible to receive a Military Discount.

To receive the Military Discount for in-store purchases, a valid photo ID is required at checkout to ensure the discount is being used by you or your spouse. For a spouse, last name must match the registered service member’s last name to receive the Military Discount."

However, one person explained the situation from the man's point-of-view.

t_rage, who lives with his ex-military father-in-law, explained that Lowe's recently changed their policy of offering the discount to people who share a household with a veteran:

Lowes offered the military discount to family who lived in the same household. They then rescinded the offer with little to no notice.

My FIL lives with my wife and I. It's his house but we pay for most of the rent and utilities. We've been upgrading and doing renovations for a few years and would take advantage of the Lowe's discount. It was convenient for us to use because we didn't have to take my FIL with us for every purchase. Everything we bought with the discount was used for the betterment of HIS house.

We went in one day and they asked to see ID when using the discount card. They told us of the new policy but gave us the discount one last time because we had the same address.

But even this person acknowledged that "pitching a fit" was not the way to handle this policy change.

We didn't pitch a fit like this reviewer. We accepted the policy and still shop there when needed. If it's an expensive purchase for the house we will bring along my FIL for the discount.

Anyway, clearly this guy's plan backfired because now all I can think about is how much I want to spend my money at Lowe's.

People online are currently digesting and reacting to a clip of a student at a Trump rally giving a speech that claimed Aunt Jemima, the former pancake mascot, is a picture of the American dream.

During the Trump youth rally, the student Reagan Escude gave a speech that at one point claimed Aunt Jemima is now a canceled portrait of the American dream:

"Aunt Jemima was canceled. And if you didn't know, Nancy Green, the original, first Aunt Jemima, she was the picture of the American dream. She was a freed slave who went on to be the face of the pancake syrup that we love and we have in our pantries today."

Escude's claim that Aunt Jemima was canceled refers to Quaker Oat's announcement that they will be retiring the 130-year-old logo, as it has roots in minstrelsy.

While the image of Aunt Jemima has evolved over the years, the name was derived from the song "Old Aunt Jemima" sung by white minstrel show performers wearing blackface and originally sung by slaves.

The company claims the logo was brought to life by the real woman Nancy Green, a Black cook, missionary worker, and story teller who was originally born into slavery.

Given the historical context, people were quick to tear apart Escude's claim that being born into slavery and referenced for a minstrel logo are part of the American dream.

People were quick to dig up context on Escude, and some of the former public statements she's made, including a recent (but now deleted) Instagram video she posted using Christian values to oppose Black Lives Matter. The video got her fired from her job.

While some people went down the rabbithole of pouring over Escude's college details and general world view, others were solely fixated on the clip about Aunt Jemima.

Some were baffled by the sheer historical inaccuracy, while others found the obsession with a pancake logo to miss the point of the current conversation about race.

At the end of the day, this lone GIF sums up many of the reactions to this video:

At the time of writing this, the response to Escude's clip is still booming, so the cancelation of Aunt Jemima is nothing if not a conversation starter.

Sometimes it works out that bombing an final exam in college is the best thing that could ever happen to you.

People are sharing the small things that largely impacted the course of their lives. As is the case with life itself, the thread is full of both happy stories and sad stories, where chance encounters lead to careers, but also being in the wrong truck has fatal consequences.

1. He forgot hamburger buns, and got a job.

Forgot hamburger buns.

Dad died, depressed, was without a job for over a year. Applied at a few different places and heard nothing back. Went to a bbq at a friends house and stopped at the store first. We got everything we needed, went out to the car, started packing up and realized we forgot hamburger buns.

I go back in the store, am walking down the frozen foods aisle and run into an old coworker, who happened to now be a manager at one of the places I applied at, months ago. Chatted it up with him for a little bit, and 3 days later, I get a call out of the blue to come in for an interview at his company he worked at.

I've been with the company 18 years, last month, all because of that chance encounter in the frozen food aisle, all because I forgot hamburger buns. -strongy78

2. A pub night in Northern Ireland lead to a life in Australia.

Said yes to going to the pub.

I was on a backpacking trip around Europe. At a hostel in Belfast this Australian guy who was in the same dorm as me asked if anyone wanted to join him for a drink. Me and a New Zealander tagged along. We had an absolutely epic night in what was then still a city under martial law. Next day we all went in different directions but I kept in contact with the Australian.

At some stage, months later, he mentions that I should come and visit him in Australia. About six months later I did. I had a fantastic time, traveled around Australia and liked it so much that I applied for a residency permit.

Thirty years later I'm still here. It's been absolutely great, but none of that would have happened if I didn't say yes to a few beers all the way back in the 80's. -saugoof

3. A fail turned into a win.

I failed an unfailable class at university because I totally flunk studying. I was so sure it is unfailable I didn’t study at all.

I had to re-take the class in which there were group projects. Second time over, I was on a team with this girl.

I married her last summer. -MeddlinQ

4. His friend's breakup lead to his meet-cute.

A buddy of mine called me up one day to tell me he and his toxic controlling girlfriend had broken up and he wanted to celebrate with a few drinks. At the time, I was living a very antisocial lifestyle, and I almost said no, but something that day told me I needed to get out of the house. So I agreed.

Turns out that was the night I'd meet my future wife. When we were reminiscing about that night, my wife said she, too, almost declined going out. -LtJimmyRay

5. Taking a painkiller at a party escalated into a heroin addiction.

Accepted a painkiller at a party.

Started as a every other weekend thing. Then it was every weekend. Then it was hard days at work. Then it was daily before work. Then it was multiple times a day at work. I'd be snorting lines off my desk, in a call center.

Then money was getting insanely tight and my dealer was like "Dude just start doing heroin it's way cheaper" and I remember laughing in his face like you fucking idiot that'll be the day.

Then a little while later money became non-existent AND I found out your could snort heroin. Problem Solved!

And then a few handful of years later I found myself homeless in Skid Row, DTLA. Going from a loving, supportive family with amazing AMAZING friends, near six figure job, everything going super great... to passing out in piles of garbage and having teeth fall out.

I only got out thanks to suboxone but I'm so glad it exists. Moved out of the homeless shelter September 2019. Starting life over in your mid-30s is pretty shitty but it's doable. My life is simple as f*ck now and I have literally zero friends but that's still an upgrade from where I was a short time ago.

F*ck heroin. -Every3Years

6. One class set her on a path.

Taking Videography as an elective in middle school instead of Photo like my sister. Throughout high school I won numerous student filmmaking awards, made tons of friends I never would have had I not joined those classes, developed a super useful skill, and got paying jobs throughout high school because of my skill set. I even got hired at my current job because of my video skills. -itsme_kaity_

7. Their foreman ghosted, so they stepped up.

One day my foreman just flat out didn’t show up to work. I was vaguely familiar with what had to go on at the site, and who needed to do it, so I just started calling people, and talking to those on site saying I was filling in for him for today...

Fast forward a few months and people are saying they greatly prefer me organizing jobs, and management starts giving me jobs of my own. I start getting great reviews from clients and my jobs are making money. Eventually my old foreman gets fired (not because of me directly, but because of some questionable antics and poor performance).

Now I’m enjoying a significantly better paying and more fulfilling job. What started as a job to make a bit of money while I figured out what I want to do has turned into something with serious career potential. -P0ster_Nutbag

8. Getting fired was a blessing in disguise.

I got fired from my job waiting tables in college. I got into it with a customer. Terrible to lose that job because it was good money.

I ended up getting a job as a teaching assistant several months later. Didn't pay nearly as well but it was something. I spent a lot of time checking citations.

Years later, I got my first job at my current place of work because checking the citations showed I was skilled at paying attention to details. That editing job led to my current career. All in all, it's been great. If I hadn't gotten fired, I likely wouldn't have my current career which has led to skills, travel, and good pay. -LifePickle

9. Lose a friend, gain a wife.

I blew off a female friend to go to a concert last minute.

I was supposed to go hang out with a friend to watch some live acoustic set and eat ice cream. I had a few friends that asked me if I wanted to go to a concert while I was walking home from school. I didn't hesitate to say yes. I met my wife that night. That friend never talked to me again. 15 years later and I'm still with her. No regrets. -n0rmbates

10. When one friend flakes, a new relationship opens.

After finishing pre-university college, me and a friend went to Australia on a working holiday visa. In Sydney, I worked for a few months saving money while my friend worked for accommodation in a hostel without pay. We were supposed to go travel up the East Coast and she had no savings. I waited for her for a few weeks, got her a job she quit because she didn't like it, then decided to go on my own.

While on that East coast trip, I met an English guy. Wouldn't have met him if I had gone when I was supposed to. We ended up both living in Melbourne for 5 months, got in a relationship etc. It's been 3 years and he has now come to Canada twice, I went to England and Wales twice, we went to eastern Europe together, and in 2 months if all goes well I'm going to study abroad for a year in England, where he lives. It'll be the first time we live together, been a year since I saw him last, so it's exciting. -itallwenttitsup

11. Hold on to math.

When I moved and switched middle schools wayyy back I threw out all my stuff except for my math textbook. When I went to my new school the math class I was in was a little bit behind from where I was and I told them but they didn’t believe me. But then I showed my old math textbook to show that I was way ahead of that class. Two of my classes were changed, and in both of my new classes we’re a bunch of friends I made. If i threw away that math textbook I wouldn’t have any good friends right now. -souper-succeth

12. His daughter/his vasectomy saved his life.

My wonderful 2 year old daughter was not planned.

But thanks to her, I decided to have a vasectomy. I had always had one slightly enlarged testicle due to a mountain biking accident 10 years prior.

My urologist had it biopsied because it didn't look right.

Turns out I had had testicular cancer for an impossible to determine period of time. Four rounds of chemo later and I'm perfectly fine. Had I not had my daughter, I would have probably had much worse results years later when it finally made it's presence known via pain and had spread into my body.

So my daughter technically saved my life, which is knowledge I'm sure she'll use on with great glee during her teenage years when I'm trying to punish her. -TriscuitCracker

13. A devastating Domino effect.

Ordered a pizza from Dominos. Wound up with the worst case of food poisoning I’ve ever had, I was essentially bedridden for 3 months and I’ve since developed severe post-infectious IBS that I’ve been struggling with for the past 3 years. I’m basically not functional probably 50% of the time, it’s essentially destroyed my quality of life, and I’m terrified that I may never have a normal life again. It’s taken everything I enjoyed or was passionate about away from me.

F*ck killing Hitler. If I had a time machine, I’d go back in time and stop myself from eating that fucking pizza. -Holybartender83

14. A tragic accident with a silver lining.

Flying into Tulsa from San Diego in 1998- coming home on a 3-week Libo (leave from the service), after a 16-month deployment.

A few days before, there had been a bad ice storm and the roads were still slick.

My wife insisted on picking me up from the airport after I suggested taking a cab home. I didn't want her driving on those slick roads., because there was an 8 mile stretch of country 2-lane road from our house to town, and it could get pretty treacherous, due to minimal maintenance. She refused to drive an old Cherokee Chief that I had at the house and chose to drive her 2WD Ranger pickup.

She lost control of the truck and went down a 40' embankment, losing her life in the process. We had a 1-year-old daughter and a 3-year-old son at home, that grew up without a mother, and I've spent the last 22 years kicking myself for not simply pissing her off to the point that she wouldn't drive, and I could just make up with her when I got home.

I should have argued harder with her or had one of her brothers come and pick me up.

I met my new daughter for the first time, with her mother gone. I was basically meeting both my children for the first time, as I had deployed when my son was my daughter's age. Neither knew me, and both were absolutely terrified and confused.

I was still obligated to the Corps for another year, but they did right by me. I stayed home on hardship, drew base pay until my EAS/discharge, dealing with being a single parent, PTSD, and transitioning to civilian life.

The happy ending is that both children had a great childhood, grew up smart, well adjusted, and successful. Daughter is finishing her master's degree, and my son is a successful electrician raising a young son on his own.

There's always a struggle in my mind that I'll always deal with. My wife wasn't going to EVER move from Oklahoma, and I planned on being a career Marine, so we would have ended up divorced, no doubt, and I wouldn't have the bond with my children that I do now. I lost the love of my life, but I gained a great relationship with my kids. My children lost their mother, but they didn't have to grow up with an absent father.

Life is funny... -Cordero_Biggs

We've all done some seriously stupid things to impress other people, or to just simply to prove to ourselves and others that we could do it.

Taking a dumb dare, chugging a blender full of something truly disgusting, swallowing spicy peppers, "The Cinnamon Challenge"- the power of peer pressure is strong. Even if you've grown out of the desire to "look cool," sometimes other people denying you can do something is enough of a motivation to dive into something incredibly dumb.

So, when a recent Reddit user asked, "What is the stupidest thing you've done just to show you could do it?" dare-devils and risk-takers everywhere were ready to share the mistakes they've made in the name of their ego and pride.

1.

Chugged way too much Apple cider vinegar.....huge mistake. - dhensonjazz

2.

In grade school, maybe age 11 or 12, I had these cheap jeans. I figured out that I could flex my belly and pop the button open, found this funny and guy friends in class got a laugh too. One of them turns to a girl, hey girl checkout what OP can do; I flex my belly and let out a huge fart while the button popped open. She turned away, my buddy laughed, and i never did this trick again - brother_meowzone

3.

I let a black widow spider bite me to prove that they were venomous but not deadly. I also won a $150 bet. - Pogo1974

4.

As a kid I told my friends I could hold my breath for a long time, long enough to pass out, in fact. And that's exactly what I proceeded to do. - hellbentforleisure

5.

when i was 6 I stapled my fingers because i had convinced all of my friends that i had iron hands - ShelikeMykicks

6.

I told my 6th grade friends I could just off a two story roof and not get hurt. Guess who only got a scraped knee that day? Not me. I broke my leg - DemiDork231

7.

Walked through the brush of our treeline to get a football to prove it wasn't poison ivy. I did it. I got the football.

It was poison ivy. -Hellboy32607

8.

Let a friend tase me in the butt for 1000 pesos (about 30 US cents lmao) - uhhvet

9.

I stabbed my leg with a pencil in elementary school. I told people I couldn't really feel much pain (which, at the time, was true). There was a spot on my leg from the lead for years. - movealongnowpeople

10.

A buddy bet I couldn’t finish the spiciest chicken sandwich at this joint known for insanely spicy chicken in under 30 minutes. I knew I f*cked up when they gave me gloves to eat the sandwich so the sauce couldn’t touch my skin and made me sign a waiver.

Won the bet, but really I lost in the end - mixedwithmonet

11.

Cliff diving, saw a old man do a front flip off a 40 foot cliff. I said if he can do it, so can I. I did the flip alright, followed by a belly flop that Zeus could hear. Knocked the air out of me, but luckily people were floating near by to save my dumb ass. - Skarface08

12.

Ate the largest box of goldfish in one night in college. Don’t do this. - quietfirefox

13.

I was learning MMA for 3 months when some guy challenged me to a fight I immediately accepted it because I wanted to impress my crush by beating him. Turns out he was a national champion and was in the state for a MMA tournament. I got my a*s kicked for solid 3 rounds - Iskilado

14.

shoved my pointer finger into my nose up to second knuckle. I then got a sinus infection. Who knew. - booby111

15.

I proved to myself that it's possible to eat 5 kilos of shrimp in one sitting. I also proved that eating 5 kilos of shrimp in one sitting will make you very, very sick. - Psychozillogical

16.

I can do a standing back flip.

The best time to prove this isn't when your 7 drinks deep wearing a short bridesmaids dress and underwear made for speed not comfort.

Yep brides grandma got to see my a*s but I landed it perfectly. - littleredhoodlum

17.

My partner was a heavy smoker, and at the time, I'd never touched a cigarette. I would subtly—and sometimes not-so-subtly, but always lovingly—urge her to quit. She told me I had no idea how hard it was. I decided to take up smoking for about a month and then quit just to show her I could do it.

That was ten years ago. I'm on a pack a day. She no longer smokes. - UniversalPolymath

18.

Was trying to do this stunt on a dirt bike to impress this dude, ended up falling and breaking my collarbone. - loadedschlong

A bride is being called the b-word ("bridezilla") on Reddit after revealing in a Facebook post that she wants to kick one of her bridesmaids out of her wedding party for being pregnant.

In the post, the bride says she asked the wife of her fiancé's best friend and groomsman to be a bridesmaid out of necessity since she was a bridesmaid short, even though she says she and the woman do "NOT get along." The woman agreed, but then revealed she was pregnant.

Now the bride wants to kick the woman out of her wedding party, claiming that a pregnant bridesmaid is just "not what I see for my wedding." The bride posted in a Wedding Planning group to ask for advice—and she got it. But maybe not the advice she was hoping for.

The bride writes:

How would you go about un-asking someone to be your bridesmaid? Long story short my fiancé's best friend has been unable to use his phone since we have gotten engaged and so he couldn't ask him to be a groomsmen. We got ahold of him and now we're a bridesmaid short. My FH's other groomsmens gf and I do NOT get along and my FH doesn't like her either. Out of desperation we asked her to be a bridesmaid so she can walk with her husband. She says yes, I sent her a link for the dress and THEN she tells me she's pregnant. I know it's an unpopular opinion but a pregnant bridesmaid is just not what I see for my wedding, especially because I don't like her in the first place.

Then she adds: "PLEASE DON'T JUDGE ME."

Well, apparently people didn't take that last direction. In a blistering comment on her post, someone called out the bride for her "bridezilla" behavior, her hypocrisy, and her "gross" behavior:

Ok bridezilla [eyeroll emoji] Just tell her u dont want a pregnant chick in ur wedding [shrug emojis] ur already being gross might as well be honest now. U didnt like her n u asked her then u didnt ask any questions that might effect her playing her part. So just tell her

SAVAGE.

Over on Reddit, people are siding with this commenter.

Miss-Anonymous-Angel writes:

Whoever wrote the response is 100% right. 👍🏼

“PWEEEZE DONT JUDGE ME? 🥺”

And adashofhotsauce, who posted the screenshot on Reddit, agrees, adding that Facebook commenters were actually divided, and about half of them actually sided with the bride:

I wish it had been me, but that response is 100% accurate. A lot of other comments on that post were similar to that one, while others are defending the bridezilla’s actions by saying “it’s her day” 🤦🏽‍♀️

Others are criticizing the bride's desperation to add a bridesmaid simply to even out the number of bridesmaids and groomsmen.

amc_2292 writes:

All of this because of an uneven wedding party? Is it THAT big of a deal? I've been in 2 weddings where a group of 3 walked down the aisle because someone got deployed or dropped out.

I don't see the appeal in rushing to add someone that you aren't even that close with just to have an even number. Always blows my mind.

And AMerrickanGirl agrees:

Maybe they shouldn't have asked someone they didn't like to be in the wedding party just to make things balance out. It's not like you're trying to load luggage into a small airplane.

While Equivalent_Tackle points out that this bride's concerns are not exactly logical:

Seems about equally silly as caring if one of the bridesmaids is pregnant.

And emz0rmay weighed in with this savage response:

I can see why she couldn’t find enough bridesmaids

[FIRE EMOJIS]

Whether your parents are your favorite people, or they utterly confound you, childhood was bizarre for most of us in some small way.

Every family has traditions and quirks that don't exist outside the four walls of the home, and while many of them are so subtle they're barely noticeable, some memories can only be looked back on with a quizzical brow.

As adults, the good and bad from childhood is much easier to parse, and the rules and behaviors we believed to be "normal" are often exposed as specific to our parents.

In a popular Reddit thread, people shared things their parents did that they now realize isn't "normal" and it truly runs the gamut of experience.

1. From jabbahtheslut:

Celebrate Children's Day. i always thought it was normal because there's a Mother's and Father's day, right? Apparently, most people don't even know when it is.

2. From 100percent_thatwitch:

My dad was the one that taught me how to do laundry and most housework, bought me books and answered questions about puberty, the sex talk, whatever. He tried to talk me through how to use a tampon the first time and when that didn’t work he drove 45 miles into town and called me at the store to talk to me about all the other options. I have a great relationship with my dad. My mom too, she was just working on her degree in a really stressful field at the time and wasn’t always home.

When I left for college I learned that was not how my friends’ relationships with their dads were. A few even told me their dad would walk out of the room if any of the 3 girls in the family would mention anything about their body or anything personal. I could not grasp how a grown man living with 4 women was still that bothered by menstruation.

It’s not a huge thing, but my dad did a lot of the stuff society would say the mother ought to be teaching and doing (cooking, cleaning, laundry) and my mom what the father does (higher income job, demanding hours) so I really didn’t have any idea of society’s obsession with gender roles in the home until I was getting closer to leave it and it made me respect both my parents a lot more than I already did.

3. From SecretKGB:

When I was young, I thought my mom was always so tired. She would be weird at night and seem confused, but after sleeping, she always seemed to be back to normal.

Turned out she was an alcoholic and drunk most nights. I was just too little to know.

4. From slothbarns7:

Rarely fight. I’ve seen my mom and dad argue maybe 4 or 5 times in my entire life. Wasn’t until I went to college that I realized I’m one of the extremely lucky ones.

5. From FrogWithTea:

I thought eating only once or twice a day in total, no snacks, only dinner, sometimes breakfast, was normal. Didn't start taking food to school until I was in 7th grade, and everyone thought I was weird for never eating in school and never having had breakfast before school.

6. From LegendOfDylan:

Stay home all day playing video games. I lived with my dad, who had me pretty young, so we still lived with my grandfather. When the school called because I told them my dad plays video games for a living and they thought I was lying, it shamed him into getting a job, and he never looked back. I don’t think I know anyone with a better work ethic.

Edit: This was 1999 y’all he was not a twitch streamer

7. From Damn_Dog_Inappropes:

I thought never going to the doctor (or dentist, or ophthalmologist) was normal. It's not.

Also, I have really bad asthma and was sick a lot and couldn't breathe. No doctor. No inhaler. Here's your Robitussin and your humidifier. I would get sick and sleep sitting up for weeks at a time every year. I finally took charge of my own health at 17 when I suffered through 2 months of bronchitis and extreme shortness of breath and my parents still couldn't be bothered to take me to the doctor. It took 2 more months and 3 total visits, but I got it sorted.

Until I was 37, I'd just see whatever MD/PA/NP was next available. I had no established relationships with any healthcare providers. My current primary care physician is the first doc I've ever had who wasn't just some name attached to my medical record. We are buddies, and he's the best doctor I've ever had.

As an adult, I had to learn when to go to the doctor. My parents were always so worried about wasting the doctor's time that they imprinted that worry on me. I still wrestle with it, but my doctor is aware of my childhood and tries to reassure me about this stuff. It is not unusual for me to see him about something I've just been putting up with for years.

When I was 39, I had some chronic hip pain and after about a month, my husband finally said, "Why don't you go see Dr. Lastname?" And in that moment, at 39 years old, I learned that you can just go to the doctor if you have chronic pain. It was a revelation. I had suffered through numerous sports injuries as a kid because my parents didn't want to waste a doctor's time. I just had no idea you could go to the doctor if part of you just hurt.

Anyway, I do hold some resentment towards my parents about it (especially now that my mom has COPD and actually really takes it seriously), but I wouldn't be who I am without that. I am resilient and self-reliant.

8. From Helpfulmonster:

They cooked our pets after they passed away. That way they would always be part of us. I think this is insane now. Makes me sad that I didn't get to bury my friends.

9. From notahoodieman:

My dad has this pet peeve with ice cube trays. If you refilled the ice cube tray but not all of the squares were filled, you were getting grounded or no TV. If you used some ice cubes but still didn't refill the squares that had no cubes, grounded or no TV. Basically if the ice cube trays weren't constantly filled up or essentially perfect, grounded or no TV. Usually grounded.

10. From Tall_Mickey:

Speaking in baby talk long after we were babies. Even to each other. My father was the worst offender. He kept doing it when I was 10 or 12. Perhaps he thought it was cute. It wasn't.

"Okay, time to make nigh-nigh!"

11. From orange_cuse:

They worked hard. Worked really, really hard to the point where I never saw them.

My parents were immigrants who arrived to the States without much money or resources. Somehow they were able to start their own business and become somewhat successful, but this was achieved by working 15-18 hour days, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. As a result, I almost never saw them when I was young. We never went on any vacations, nor did we get to spend much quality time together.

I thought this was completely normal, until I moved to a predominantly white neighborhood when I was in middle school, and discovered that most - if not all - of my classmates' experience was completely different. Most of their parents worked for companies/corporations, they had typical work hours of 9-5 or 9-6, would get weekends and holidays off, and as a result got to spend a lot of time with their kids.

I have zero resentment towards my parents for "not being there" for me when I was young. They did what they had to do to escape poverty, and had no other choice. As a result, my sibling and I were able to attend college and escape the lifestyle they had no choice but to accept. But, yea, to me, this was something I discovered was not exactly normal.

12. From AnthonyCumiaPedo:

Timeshare meetings.

Every vacation, say we'd fly to Orlando and then have to spend some time (a few hours? a day?) at a timeshare meeting. They'd never actually buy or rent the timeshare, but I guess the deal was if you sat through the presentation, they'd give you free tickets to Disney or Universal.

So that was normal, timeshare day followed by Disney World day. And as a kid, they didn't want me in the presentation, so I'd mostly just f*ck around in the lobby with my brother and the other kids. But every vacation, no matter where we went, there was always a timeshare to attend to get free tickets to something.

13. From smokingraven16:

This is mostly just my dad, but having specific spots in the fridge for everything. My parents are lovely, but my dad really likes things to be organized and would constantly remind us if we put something in the “wrong” spot that it didn’t go there.

We went to a family friend’s place once and they made us tea, and I was the last to use the milk. I asked the mom where the milk went in the fridge, and she said “oh just put it wherever it fits.” I looked at her with a bewildered look and said “are you sure?” Luckily my mom understood and explained why I seemed so shocked by the idea of the milk not having a spot.

14. From InannasPocket:

It turns out most parents don't leave a few pre-signed blank checks for their kids to use starting at around age 8.

And no, we were absolutely not rich, I'd just been taught what were acceptable expenses within our budget and I knew damn well I'd be in huge trouble if I ever misused them.

15. From Metallic-Blue:

Dad was in his birthday suit unless he got off work. I never brought friends over because Dad would likely be on the couch.

Drugs, mostly pot. Then came D.A.R.E. in Elementary school and I didn't know what to do. In the end, I kept my mouth shut. They dealt it some, so it made for some odd visitors. He even had a undercover cop come in where he worked. The drug itself isn't bad, but dear lord it hurt us financially.

16. From savtaytex:

Dancing. There was always so much dancing and music in our house. When I got older and found out other moms didn’t get up and dance when their song came on it was weird. And moms and dads didn’t dance together randomly? We just moved and listened to all the music. Quiet house? Kid me didn't understand where all the noise was. We still are very loud all these decades later and still dance (sometimes it’s just with the dog).

17. From inkseep1:

My parents both had side businesses running out of the house and it was normal for people to show up at the house for the business. My dad was running a gunsmith shop from the house so it was common for people to bring guns in. Turns out not many people were running a business outside their normal work. I always have a side hustle going because running a side business is normal.

18. From realhumannorobot:

Four hours (and higher) daily "conversations", when only my dad spoke, and I was to sit there and absorb his wisdom and life lessons it continued till I moved out at 19 and apparently as my therapist puts it " I was severely brainwashed by a sadistic narcissist", I still love him though so it's complicated, but every now and then the it hits me ohh yeah, no that's not normal, and then it resets. Oh well.

19. From Foretold_Rock:

Put pickles on Tacos. We always are pickles on our tacos and I thought it was the normal way to eat tacos until some friends at school told me it was weird.

20. From ThinkBoutBees:

When you did something naughty, like stay up too late or not help wash dishes, they'd take all the furniture out of my room (and I do mean all, wardrobes, bookcase, desk..) and I would have to earn it back over the course of a few weeks. Then the process would repeat. I remember being shocked at when I went to a friend's house and they had all their furniture in their room at once.