"Never use a big word when a little filthy one will do."
-Johnny Carson
These memes may be a little bit naughty, but aren't we all sometimes? You don't have to feel guilty for laughing at these memes. You're secret is safe with us.
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When Christina A. Meador's sister told her she could wear *anything* to her wedding, she took the directive to heart. Instead of the Grecian-inspired gown or modest dress you might expect, Christina went with something more...creative. Whimsical. Ballsy. She participated in the wedding ceremony while wearing a Tyrannosaurus rex costume. Christina: marry me? You can even wear the T-rex costume to our wedding. Might be a good way to get more wear out of it.
The bride, Deanna Adams, embraced her sister's off-kilter choice. I can't imagine many brides would appreciate the presence of a gigantic dinosaur-person in their wedding photos, but Deanna clearly has an incredible sense of humor.
The photo Christina posted on Facebook went viral. People couldn't get enough of her dino couture.
Naturally, there were some dissenting opinions.
But Christina's sister was 100% supportive of the costume. She reportedly responded to one negative comment, saying, 'It’s not a joke, it’s a giant middle finger at spending thousands of dollars and putting ungodly amounts of pressure on ourselves just to please a bunch of people who, in the end, only want free food and drinks. The point was to get married to the man who treats me like I hung the moon, and we did that part. My sister is awesome and I genuinely was not kidding when I said she could wear whatever she wanted.'
Kudos to these two and their sisterly bond! And congratulations on a beautiful wedding, Deanna. You deserved it.
It's Sunday, almost universally known as the day of rest. I'm also anointing it the day of hope, because below are eighteen side-by-side photographs that prove change is possible. BoredPanda community members submitted photos representing themselves before and after quitting drugs and I've selected the most powerful ones to highlight. There's a stark contrast between the images of serious drug addiction versus recovery. If you or someone you know is experiencing substance abuse, call the National Drug Helpline at 1-844-289-0879.
1. Four Years Clean
2. Ten Years Clean
3. Eight Months Clean
4. 826 Days Clean
5. Six Years Clean
6. Six Years Clean
7. Over Four Years Clean
8. Six Months Clean
9. Six Years Clean
10. One Year Clean
11. Five Months Clean
12. Five Years Clean
13. 106 Days Clean
14. One Year Clean
15. Nine Months Clean
16. Ninety Days Clean
17. Two Years Clean
18. Twenty-Nine Months Clean
On Sunday night, everyone's favorite Arthur the Aardvark lookalike, John Legend, made an appearance on MSNBC as part of a special town hall on criminal justice reform hosted by Lester Holt.
President Trump was apparently deeply upset that he wasn't given enough credit for his part in signing the First Step Act into law in December 2018. The First Step Act reduces mandatory minimum sentences in certain cases and will see more than 3,000 inmates released. To be clear, this is a very good thing Trump helped to make happen and nobody is trying to deny him credit. Rather, Holt did credit Trump on the town hall special and even showed footage of him signing the bill in the Oval Office. So...is Trump just mad that John Legend didn't compliment his work? Someone please tell Trump that John Legend is a pop star and his opinion, while nice, shouldn't impact any of his presidential decisions...
Then, things got really dirty...
Yikes.
Of course, John Legend and "his filthy mouthed wife" joined the discussion:
Chrissy really went for it:
Naturally, #PresidentPussyAssBitch started trending even though John Legend warned everyone to let it go...
Later, Chrissy added:
Trump should probably take some advice from Taylor Swift and calm down. In the meantime, there are T-shirts.
Part of the excitement of being proposed to is experiencing the element of surprise. How and where your partner decides to propose says a lot about their affection style and your relationship at large, and even when you can predict an engagement a mile away, the proposal itself remains a fun bombshell.
Needless to say, ruining the surprise of an engagement for a loved one is a bad look, even when it's coming from a place of excitement.
"AITA for being furious with my sister for spoiling my boyfriend’s proposal?"
Her younger sister was out shopping with OP's fiance, and apparently couldn't contain herself. To make matters worse, their brother had also just landed in town as a surprise and that was equally ruined by the Snapchats.
"My fiancé (boyfriend at the time of this story) of 2 years told me he had a work trip a couple days ago and that he’d be gone a week. With his job this is normal so I thought nothing of it. Last night my sister randomly bombarded my phone with pictures and Snapchat videos of him and our older brother who he’s pretty close with (this is also kind of ruining something because my brother is in the military and we all thought he was still overseas) in a jewelry store in a mall picking up an engagement ring."
"I’m furious and I think it’s incredibly rude and inappropriate for her to stick her nose where it obviously did not belong. I love my sister and that she loves my fiancé so much and I appreciate how excited she was for me but this was such a dumb thing to do."
"I called her and I told her to stay out of our relationship and to mind her own business and now I feel bad for being mean. For the ages, I’m 25 and she is 19."
"NTA. She took something very special away from you and your boyfriend. I get that she was excited but she didn’t give an iota of consideration to you or your boyfriend’s feelings. I hope it’s just immaturity rather than malicious behavior, but you’re not TA for being angry about it!"
"NTA Why do people have to post so god damned much on social media, especially when it involves other people."
"NTA. While she wasn't intending to be an asshole, her actions ruined the surprise so she became TA. She is old enough to know that she should have put aside her own happiness to keep the surprise for you.
Yes, you were mean, but her actions caused an appropriate response from you in the heat of the moment. Apologize if it makes you feel better, but she absolutely owes you an apology and an acknowledgement that she messed up. Congratulations on your possible upcoming engagement!"
"NTA, she maybe didn’t realize she was spoiling it for you, but she should have known better. Hopefully you forgive her but only after telling her how upset you are and that you are really sad you will NEVER get that proposal moment back, and she took it from you."
"Then I would send and share around pictures of your real proposal with everyone besides her. Let her be the last to know lol"
"NTA. I don’t think your sister was malicious, but she was in the wrong and completely stupid and disregarded your feelings. You have the right to be mad, but I wouldn’t let it wreck your relationship or anything. I’d tell her off though.
"If she was doing it to be malicious though, I wouldn’t blame you for completely cutting you off. But she’s young, she probably doesn’t realize how important this is. Hopefully the proposal will still come as a surprise!"
It appears the internet unanimously agrees that OP has every right to feel upset, but it shouldn't ruin the sister dynamic long term.
"By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher."
-Socrates
Married people, you're so lucky. Not only have you found someone to spend the rest of your life with, but you also have found this list of hilarious memes. What more could you ask for in life? #Blessed.
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Kids are kids and should be able to wear whatever they want. Same with adults, tbh. Pants, dresses, a clown costume: as long as your outfit isn't hurting anyone else, there's no reason not to wear whatever keeps you comfortable and protects you from the elements, since that's what clothes are for. But we live in a society that is weirdly still obsessed with the "gender" of clothing, as this story illustrates.
The dad explains on Reddit that he gets their kids ready for school in the morning since his wife works a graveyard shift. His son has a twin sister, so while they were getting dressed, the boy insisted that he wanted to wear one of his sister's dresses. Since they were running late, the dad let him. He says he's "politically neutral" and didn't really care what his son wore, as long as he wouldn't be late for work.
My son started second grade last week. I get the kids ready for school while my wife sleeps (she's got a graveyard shift).
He's got a twin sister. I told them both it was time to get ready for school and his twin sister pulled a bunch of dresses out of her closet. My son picked one up and said "I want to wear this." I'm thinking, whatever dude, we're running late just put some kind of clothes on and let's get out the door. I'm pretty politically neutral so while I wouldn't say I was particularly happy he wanted to wear a dress, it also wasn't nearly as upsetting to me as the idea that I could be late for work if we didn't get out the door.
I figured ok, I wouldn't ever tell my daughter not to do something because it wasn't ladylike so I shouldn't tell my son not to do something because it isn't manly.
I drop him off and get to work. Three hours later we get a call to come pick up our son because his outfit is distracting to the other kids and he's being bullied. He was very sad when my wife got there and the whole morning had been upsetting for him.
She seems to think the son will be scarred for life. The dad says "everyone else" he's consulted agrees with her.
My wife is irate asking how I couldn't have realized that was inappropriate and I was setting our son up to fail. So is just about everyone else I've run this by. My wife thinks damage has been permanently done because he'll be in the same school system as these kids the rest of his life and he'll be known as "the one who wore a dress" and I was being thoughtless or willfully ignorant because I was in a rush and our son suffered for it.
At the time, I truly didn't think it was that big a deal, but that doesn't change that I put my son in harm's way so now I'm not sure whether I made the wrong decision or not or how to feel about it. AITA
catchingnightmares writes:
NTA what a refreshing take on parenthood. It seems today so many people are set on telling women they can be anything but men still have to be men and act traditionally manly. You did what your son asked and I think that makes you a pretty great parent. Good on you OP!
CassowaryCrow writes:
A gentle ESH*
I don't think there's anything wrong with a boy wearing a dress, and neither do you, which is great, but you should have realized that letting him walk into school like that was a recipe for disaster. Most people do not think a guy should wear a dress, and that includes little kids, who can and will be cruel. Hopefully the other kids will forget about in a month or so, but for now your son is going to face some taunting when he gets to school.
*Everyone Sucks Here
And Desperate_Anonymous writes:
YTA* 100%. Until he's old enough to understand the potential social ramifications and decide whether he's up for the challenge, OR until kids stop bullying others over stuff that's odd to them, you decide to take your kids out of harm's way and then you do it. You inadvertently made a social/political statement at your son's expense.
*You're The A**hole
And Call_Me_Clark writes:
YTA - wanting to teach your kid tolerance and open mindedness is admirable, but you did it in exactly the wrong way. You let him make a stupid decision that subjected him to humiliation that he and his classmates will not soon forget. That’s dumb.
Anyone on the “let boys wear dresses” train has good ideals, but it’s parents jobs to help them navigate the world they live in, not live out fantasies of a better one.
If you ask me, the school is the a**hole here. They could've handled this much differently by teaching the kid's classmates a lesson about bullying, instead of sending the boy home. So it seems odd to punish the dad, who was just trying to do right by his kid. But at the same time, it sucks that the boy had to suffer when the dad could have prevented it.
What do you think?
The journey to total body acceptance, representation of different kids of bodies in media and eliminating body shaming is a complicated one. Slowly but surely, more and more people are getting on board with supporting others who are comfortable in their own skin, loving their own bodies, and acknowledging that everyone is beautiful.
However, a question on Reddit about a body acceptance support group sparked an interesting debate...
I'm one of the two people in charge of running a body acceptance support group, we hold meetings for free at a community center after closing hours every Saturday. We don't have a sign up process, you can just show up, write down your name and sit down to share. We make it clear that our support group is made strictly for people with body deformities, amputations, severe scarring, disfiguration of some sort... It is not for people who struggle with self esteem and need a boost.
At our first August meeting, a girl showed up whom we'll call Ashley. There wasn't anything visibly "wrong" with Ashley, but we didn't give it much thought since in some cases the scarring or whatever else can be hidden underneath clothes. (In my case, a long sleeved shirt hides nearly all of my upper body burn scarring). However, whenever Ashley spoke, she would never mention what she was struggling with just that she was disgusted with her body. The first two sessions, I thought it was fine, to each their pace and I didn't want to force her to share anything she wasn't comfortable with sharing. Even when we would wrap up the meetings and the members would chat to each other, she didn't reveal what exactly it was that made her seek out our support group.
At our third meeting, Ashley showed up wearing a crop top and very short shorts, and again there was nothing visibly "wrong". She dodged every question I directed towards her asking about why exactly she was here, asking her if she was a veteran, if she had a surgery... She left quickly when we wrapped up and I couldn't speak with her. Other members asked me what the deal with her was since she went on an other tangent about how disgusting her body was when it was her turn to speak without talking about what her physical defect was exactly or how it was impacting her day to day life.
Last saturday's meeting, I approached Ashley before the meeting to voice my concerns alongside those of the rest of the members. Ashley responded saying we weren't very "nice", and that whenever she would speak up negatively about her body and such, we would never counter her with a compliment, we would just stay silent or tell her some "mumbojumbo" about how it takes time to come to terms with it. I was getting pretty angry, and I directly asked her why is it that she was here, and I told her if she couldn't give me an answer I'm afraid I would have to kick her out. She didn't answer so I asked her to leave.
She contacted my co-runner (he organizes and plans timings, deals with the community center...) and he seems to think what I did is not justified, and that I shouldn't turn away anyone or kick them out because of the way they grieve or deal with trauma. When I tried to explain that I doubted she had any physical defects to begin with, he shut it down saying I'm being an asshole for judging someone as not "disabled enough".
Am I the asshole for kicking her out?
This is tricky because it wasn't just a standard body acceptance/self acceptance group. The post thoroughly explains that this group was made for a specific kind of struggle and this woman was either unable to share her problems or simply struggling with self esteem and abusing the group. Crashing support groups when you don't have the same problems is a funny movie and television concept, but disrespectful in real life.
Of course, the internet weighed in:
So...if I'm getting this straight you've got someone coming into a support group for people who have suffered injuries or body defining illnesses, without any. Talks about feeling gross about her body and then says you're mean for not complimenting her?
Uh...yeah going to say NTA if this is true. That's someone using a therapy group for validation. She could just as easily post to facebook or some sub-reddits wherever if she wants to fish for compliments.
Though also INFO have they been supportive to others at all? By the sounds of it, the other members think she's a detriment.
I could easily have been this woman. After childbirth a lot of very private areas of my body changed drastically, both in the way they look and feel/function. It's very hard to discyss them explicitly but it does make me feel awful about my body and grieve for what has been lost.
You would never expect there was anything wrong with me from a casual inspection, and I too wear tank tops and shorts because sometimes it's fucking hot out.
I think OP showed a lack of compassion and could easily have approached this from a place of "it's ok if your injury is something too private to discuss but it would help others if you could say so," rather than just assuming there was no injury and insisting she did not deserve support.
You are doing your job protecting the other people in the group.
Your supervisor is just trying to cover his ass without trying to understand what actually happened
I’m thinking ESH (Everyones Sucks Here). I’ve had multiple abdominal surgeries leaving multiple scars and loose skin I can never heal or remove without thousands of dollars (mandatory for health and to prevent hernias, which I’ve already had, but considered cosmetic only and 10k our of pocket in the good ol’ USA!!), and have had immune flares leaving welts all over my body. I wear crop tops and short shorts sometimes, because I’m good at hiding it. Has it been debilitating at times to deal with? Absolutely yes. I would have loved to be part of a group like this if I knew it existed, but I try very hard to look and feel normal.
YTA. I think this is a road you shouldn't go down. I've had a bilateral mastectomy. When I'm wearing clothes, you can't tell. But my body repulses me. But I have a feeling I wouldn't be scarred enough to pass your test. And it would take me more than 2-3 meetings with a group of complete strangers to reveal what my issue is. And I'm baffled as to why the meeting members are required to disclose private medical information to you. Do the members with visible scars have to tell you how they acquired the scars? You sound like a creepy gatekeeper. I guess this girl didn't medal high enough in the Suffering Olympics.
So, there you have it! The internet is conflicted. While it seems like many people supported the fact that the original poster was just trying to protect other members of the group, it also seems as though they were quick to judge "Ashley," who may have actually been struggling in a way that coincided with the group's description.
Timothee Chalamet and Lily-Rose Depp are sitting in a tree, k-i-s-s-i-n-g, first comes love (some PDA spotted by the paparazzi), then comes marriage (some juicy memes), then comes the baby with the baby carriage (we all die, eventually).
The young actors were spotted making out on a boat in Italy over the weekend and the photos quickly got memed by thirsty fans, as well as concerned adults convinced the pair would swallow each other whole.
While they aren't officially a couple and have consistently shied away from giving the voyeuristic masses any sort of label, the smooch filled photos suggest the two are very close, at least physically.
Yes, the internet has no boundaries and we should all probably have a moment of deep self-reflection about how voyeuristic our culture has become. But also, this is peak Twitter content. A photo of two young beloved actors with perfect cheekbones kissing is basically what the internet was invented for, ask Bill Gates.
To be fair, who among us wouldn't look ridiculous if we had stalkers taking photos of our moments of passion?!
There's a lot of bad news out there, so seeing young people getting down and dirty feels fun and harmless.
Chalamet's arms can only hold so many people, he is just one very pale man.
At the end of the day, I think it's safe to assume that most of us would like to be making out on a yacht in Italy.
Democrats are running on the platform of being better human beings than Trump. It's not that hard to assert your moral superiority over a pussy-grabbing child imprisoning con man, but Kamala Harris had a lil' slip up.
At a campaign event in New Hampshire on Friday, an attendee brought up Trump's possible impeachment and asked, ""What are you going to do in the next one year, to diminish the mentally r****ed actions."
The R-word is a horrible slur, as exhibited by the fact that we call it "the R-word" and I asterisked out most of the letters. In the moment, Harris laughed and said, "well said, well said."
People were understandably upset, and Harris spent the weekend apologizing—and insisting that she "did not hear" the slur.
People aren't buying the excuse, andThe View spent the morning discussing R-word-gate, all but assuring that the scandal lives another day.
The good news for Harris is that it's only a matter of time before President Trump says the R-word himself, and/or does an impression.
The Atlantic has a new cover story on the Trumps called "The Heir," which is an overview of the real life Succession antics amongst the world's worst family since Manson's. Reporter McKay Coppins describes Trump as "a distant and domineering father who has long pitted his offspring against one another," which could just as well be written about Logan Roy.
The describes Ivanka and Don Jr. as battling to be the face of daddy's legacy, and it's gotten so nasty, that Ivanka is reportedly trashing Junior in the press:
But as Don’s visibility grew, the cold war between him and Ivanka intensified. Now that each had their own teams of allies and advisers, they had grown paranoid that the other’s henchmen were planting damaging stories about them in the press. A few days before the midterms, McClatchy published a story under the headline “Trump Kids on the Campaign Trail: Don Jr. Wows, Ivanka Disappoints.” Ivanka’s camp was enraged, and suspected that Don was behind the story. Later, Don confronted Ivanka over rumors that her team was undermining him in off-the-record conversations with reporters. “Tell your people to stop trashing me to the media,” he said, according to someone familiar with the conversation. (Spokespeople for Don and Ivanka disputed this account and denied that there is a rift between them.)
Very normal games among siblings!
Coppins writes that Shiv Roy Ivanka and Tom Wamsgans Jared Kushner have fallen out of favor with the boss, and Don Jr. is on the rise because of his ability to be just as racist and sexist as Don Sr.
Don Jr. was the most requested speaker at Republican rallies during the 2018 midterms, and it was he who introduced Trump at his reelection kickoff, an honor Ivanka had back in 2015.
Coppins also roasted Ivanka's play of being Trumpism's "friendly face," because there's no constituency for it. He highlights the #UnwantedIvanka meme that went viral after she pretended to be a world leader at the G20 summit:
The episode laid bare the depth of Ivanka’s miscalculation. She had thought when her father took office that the surest path to power and status was to plant herself in the West Wing and mingle with the global elite. But after two and a half years of trying to burnish her credentials as a geopolitical player, Ivanka had become an international punch line. There was, it turned out, no market for a genteel brand of Trumpism.
MAGAheads want a blowhard like both Donald Trumps. Everyone else wants nothing to do with Trumps. It turns out that the Ivanka constituency is...Ivanka.
Timothée Chalamet, the young heartthrob who became the Internet's boyfriend with his Sexy Feivel charm, is dating gorgeous ethereal toothpick Lily-Rose Depp.
Seeing as they are both individually beautiful people, you'd think that they would look stunning together in their romantic moments. Recent paparazzi photos, however, have captured them kissing, and it looks absolutely disgusting.
Ew, is this what kissing is? Glad I'm not missing out.
The sloppiness became a meme, and cooled the internet's boner for the boy.
We can't all be peaches.
Hannah Jones, a college student in Ohio, decided to surprise her mom by coming home from school—and got a surprise of her own.
Her mother, in the house alone, thought that Hannah was an intruder and fired off her gun.
21 News has a transcript of the 911 call made by Jones's boyfriend:
CALLER:
"My girlfriend just came home from college and her mom didn't know, like honestly -- she accidentally shot her and we don't know what to do."
DISPATCHER:
"She accidentally shot her?"
CALLER:
"Yes, I believe in the arm."
DISPATCHER:
"Okay and how bad is she bleeding?"
CALLER:
"IT'S PRETTY BAD."
If you fear an intruder, maybe you should reach for your phone and call 911, rather than immediately pull the trigger? I don't know, I'm just spitballin' here.
The bullet landed in Jones's bicep, and she lives to tell the tale.
If she wants to, the daughter could absolutely leverage her mother's guilt into getting a pony for her birthday.
A guy in Montello, Wisconsin fulfilled his dream of being in somebody else's custody.
The Columbia County Sheriff's Office reports that they had received a call from a woman, who had received text messages from her husband saying that he was "held against his will."
Darrel Moll, 45, was zip tied to a chair, making demands to his wife via text message.
The deputies looked into the messages and located the man, who claimed that he was "knocked unconscious" and woke up in that position. The police began investigating his claims, and Moll sucked it up and admitted that he lied about kidnapping and did the zip-tieing himself.
Moll was arrested, booked into the jail, and charged with obstructing an officer and unlawful use of a phone. A self-kidnapping is quite the self-own.
"The Golden Rule of Parenting is; do unto your children as you wish your parents had done unto you."
-Louise Hart
If my parents had laughed at more memes when I was a kid, I'd be living in a beachfront mansion right now having my bartender bring me another midday martini. Be a good parent, laugh at more memes.
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If hell is other people, wedding hell is contending with other people's expectations. Weddings are supposed to be a time to publicly gush love for your partner, while surrounded by well-dressed friends who simply cannot take their eyes off you. It's supposed to be an event full of expensive cake and champagne and a DJ playing T-Pain until the single wedding party members pair off to have sex in the bathroom.
But sadly for many, prickly family dynamics have a way of complicating what should be a party brimming with joy. In some cases, the stress of parsing who to invite and who to exclude can become so large it looms over the wedding planning process like a menacing cloud.
"Throwaway~A bit long winded, but, here we go.
I recently got engaged to the man of my dreams in April 2019. Set to be married in September of 2020. Even before we got engaged, my fiancee and I agreed that we were going to keep it on the smaller side and only invite our close friends/family. Now, I have four other siblings that I'm not close to. I only "talk" to one and that's putting it lightly. I've chosen not to invite the remaining three and only invite the one that I speak to. My mother wasn't particularly pleased, but, she understood at the time."
"We already went through bullsh*t with his side of the family due to the fact that I didn't want to invite everyone from his side of the family, which would be an additional 60+ people to our list. My fiancee and I had already had a list of everyone he wanted to invite on his side of the family and mine. It was a huge thing where we eventually compromised on inviting a large portion, but, not all. They essentially threatened to not help pay for the wedding, so, I felt a bit bullied into giving in."
"Flash forward to the past few weeks. My mother has had a falling out with the one sibling I speak to and now wants me to invite one of the ones who I have literally no relationship with. I've told her no many times and to please be civil and respect my wishes. Today, she threw the fact that we are inviting my fiancee's family to the wedding (though it was a different scenario in my opinion) and said she isn't coming to the wedding unless I invite him."
"At this point, I'm over all of it. I haven't been able to enjoy being engaged because it's been family drama and I'm not even looking forward to planning the wedding. We have planned a large portion and most of everything has been paid for out of our pocket. I suggested we just cancel the damn thing and elope to my fiancee and he agreed.
WIBTA to cancel it and just elope?"
"NTA. If you and your fiancee are on the same page, that's all that matters. From the sound of it, you wouldn't even enjoy this wedding you planned."
"Heck no, NTA, elope! Very similar situation with my wedding a few years ago. After 7 months of planning hitting roadblock after roadblock we finally said fuck it and got married. Invited my parents and siblings and that was basically it. 0 regrets other than I wish I’d taken more time with the dress. His family had made things so difficult at one point his mother threatened to “drop kick” my family if they even looked at her. To this day we still don’t know why she said that since she hadn’t met my family at that point. You do you boo. It’s YOUR wedding"
"NTA at all. I can’t stand weddings for this very reason - it takes away from the TRUE meaning of a wedding, which is celebrating your marriage. You want who YOU want at your celebration. I think an intimate ceremony of your choosing between you and your husband is perfect (aka eloping). And you can celebrate even more on an amazing honeymoon."
"TLDR at the bottom!
Hello, all! It's been some time since I laid out all the bullshit my fiance and I were dealing with in regards to planning our wedding and such. We were so overwhelmed with the immense response and support, so, thank you to everyone who contributed and offered advice. Now, on to what happened!"
"My fiance and I talked it through, the pros and cons, etc. We both realized how unhappy we were with how things were going and decided that we were going to cancel the wedding and move forward with eloping. We decided that we didn't want it to be just us, but a small group of family and friends as well. We were both ecstatic, but, also EXTREMELY worried at how our parents were going to take it. Especially considering our guest list went from over 120 people, to 20. But, we were both committed and he decided to tell his parents and I would then tell mine."
"Surprisingly, his parents were SO supportive and extremely ecstatic that we were getting eloped. They were even more excited when we let them know we wanted them there and they booked their flight soon after! They also handled telling their families and friends in Texas that we were eloping and to get over it. So, that saved us the trouble! His other family was very supportive and wished us the best. My father also was incredibly supportive and couldn't wait to be there. My mother on the hand, was FURIOUS."
"The phone call to her started off calmly enough and I did let her know before beginning the conversation that she most likely wouldn't enjoy this. But, I pressed forward. I told her our reasons, our stresses, how we felt disrespected and disregarding concerning everything, I laid it all out in a calm and collected manner. Once finished, she was very quite and simply said, alright. I knew immediately that I was pretty well fucked, but, we ended the phone call with her stating she understood."
"Less than 24 hours later, she texts me asking if my brother (whom one of our biggest stressors was about) was invited. I was pissed because I had just had this conversation with her and explicitly told her who was invited and etc. I responded back with a simple no and that my father, grandmother and herself were invited. Well, shit hit the fan."
"She sent me a wall of texts, calling me all sorts of names, throwing my fiance's family in my face and how we took their side, how I never truly gave a shit about her feelings, all the good stuff. I remained calm and before sending each response, consulted my fiance as to not sound like a total bitch. Long story short, she said unless my brother is invited, she won't be coming. So, I told her not to come. I was over it and stopped responding to her texts."
"For days she texted me, saying all the same as before and kept asking if my brother was invited. I responded once and told her that until she apologized (she won't) that I wouldn't be seeing or speaking to her about anything regarding the wedding. I offered an open seat to our wedding, whether she shows or not, is completely up to her."
"My fiance and I have already booked a small venue for our elopement and are more excited planning this than our previous wedding and are looking forward to our future!"
"TLDR: We are eloping, bitches!
Edit; Since everyone here has become a dictionary for the word "elopement", take it however you like. Small wedding/elopement, I don't care. I'm marrying the love of my life in the way I want, so, I won either way"
It's nice to see a resolution to one of the many Am I The *sshole discussions, since so much of the time we're all left to wonder about the outcome.
Not all childhood bullies grow up to be adult bullies. A recent Reddit thread highlights the moments former childhood bullies realized they were the "bad guy" and decided to change their behaviors. These stories offer some insight into what makes someone a bully in the first place—they are often acting from a place of fear or anger, or were bullied themselves. Whatever the reason, none of them seem to regret leaving their bullying ways in the past. Many ended up befriending the people they once bullied, or even marrying them!
Here are 15 uplifting stories from recovering bullies who realized they were wrong:
1.) From DopeAzFuk:
I was always bullied growing up so when the new kid joined the drum line in middle school my friend and I made his life a living hell. He was really shy and his teeth were super crooked so he had a pretty bad speech impediment and he couldn’t play the drums for shit. One day after we were walking out of the band room I saw him talking to the guidance counselor and he was basically snitching on us, trying to tell her all of the horrible ways we were putting him down since he came to the school and at first I was mad but then...the counselor...straight up ignored him. The look of defeat and hopelessness on his face when she just kinda said “yeah okay” and walked away made me feel so bad for the kid. I left him alone after that.
2.) From Overclockworked:
Mine was a weird case because I didn't even realize I was bullying someone. But this older kid who was my "friend" would repeatedly punch me during like lunch and after school shit, and I would in turn smash kids in my own grade.
F*cked up part was someone saw the bruises on my arms, told the principle, and the dude just stopped. I don't think even he realized what he was doing. The whole chain of bullying just kinda ended there.
3.) From DustinDirt:
I grew up in an ultra violent household, and I took it out on everybody. After f*cking with this girl for I dont know how long; she stood up to me.
"Im not afraid of you."
That brought it all together for me. She was just like me. Hella poor, exposed to shit she shouldnt have been, just like me. I really miss her.
4.) From Asylem:
Accidental bully here. My friends used to call this kid Koolaid because he was a tiny bit chubby and wore a red shirt once (you know how nicknames go). He seemed to embrace it. He even used it as his screen name for everything so we thought he genuinely liked it!
Then a few years later, he and I started dating and I learned the nickname absolutely crushed him and gave him a horribly negative body image.
I felt like shit.
5.) From ktfan67:
When someone pointed out that just because I was getting bullied didn't make it ok for me to pick on the weaker kids
6.) From MemberANON:
I don't know if I was a 'bully' per se. The girl I used to make fun of made my school life miserable when I first started at that school. It was a private school and the only reason I could study there was cause my mom was a teacher there so had a full scholarship. So there was a bit of a class system and I went to the absolute bottom of that ladder. I also had a unibrow so there was that bit of name calling as well.
That girl however was on the heavier side, when some boys started making fun of her for her weight I realised I could push her down as well and get my revenge.
We both realised our shitty ways and are great friends.
7.) From MisterMaster117:
I accidentally used to bully my younger brothers. When we were younger, we would get along really well because I'd reach my younger brother how to play games and stuff, and he'd understand and play the way I wanted. Then, as he started getting older, he started thinking more for himself, and I'd get really mad and frustrated whenever he didn't do something the way I wanted. Same with my youngest brother (though he's still in that stage).
I realized how bad it was a few years ago. My parents would often be gone and running errands while we stayed at home and did our schoolwork. I would try and make them do something with me, and when they wouldn't, or would want to change it up, I would get really mad. Sometimes I would even hit them. I noticed that they started acting scared of me in general, and would often try to avoid me as a whole.
At that point I was like, "wow I'm a shitty older brother and they deserve better."
I'm 16 now, and I've been a lot better with them and we're pretty darn close now. I'm just really thankful that didn't permanently traumatize them and that they're happy to be my brother and spend time with me.
8.) From Yesillhavethesex:
I wasn't a childhood bully but, at my first job I was an absolute inexcusable bitch to this girl named Hannah. She was in her early twenties and I was 15 but, I made fun of literally any story she told about her life and some of them were really sad, looking back. I knew I was being mean at the time and I was intentionally being mean because I viewed it as unfair she was given special treatment. Turned out she had some pretty bad mental and physical health issues and our workplace was trying to accommodate her needs. She's also kind of illiterate so that was even worse. She found me on Facebook and sent me a lengthy message detailing how my assholery hurt her and I had to take a few days to respond because I honestly had no words and then all I could do was try to convey how sincerely sorry I was. There's absolutely no excuse for my behaviour. It's been several years since we chatted but, every so often I think of her message and it's like the wind gets knocked out of me. I am a shitty excuse for a human being.
9.) From Afloss1126:
I was constantly bullied growing up and somehow, in 4th grade, one of the school bullies decided I was friend worthy and I immediately accepted that chance to have a friend. A few days into school and she tells me to go talk to the new kid and tell him to say "Japanese beetles". Sure, why not? So I do and out comes "Jathanethe Beethelth". She laughed, I laughed, everyone but he laughed. He was just the most sweet, genuine kid that wanted kids to like him. 100% a real life Ben Hanscom. We made fun of him for years. I hated it and definitely knew I was a bully but I also knew if I wasn't helping the bully, I would be the one bullied.
A few months later he wrote me a love letter, asking if i liked him. I showed f*cking everyone and my friend crumpled it up and threw it away.
That was 18 years ago and that boy has been my husband for the last 8. That letter is folded up at my house.
10.) From aperhapshand:
When my own bullies decided I was cool.
There was a pack of guys grade 10 - 12 who would not get off my back. Walking to class was hell, I stopped eating in the cafeteria, and skipped classes I had with them constantly.
One day, we were in art class (I had to go because it was our sculpting final) and they sat a kid next to me who was socially awkward and pretty "nerdy" by asshole highschooler standards - think any kid in a highschool movie named "Eugene" and that was him.
Anyways, I was pounding my clay on the board and the vibrations knocked over my water jug. It flooded the whole table, ruined people's sketches - it was awful. I was mortified, particularly in front of those assholes, so I immediately turned around and blamed the other kid for it - like, "JESUS, Aaron, are you a f*cking r****d?! What's wrong with you?" to deflect the embarrassment. I went OFF on him.
I regretted it instantly because he was visibly and clearly crushed. He didn't even defend himself. He just picked up his stuff and ran out.
And then I heard MY bullies laughing. Hysterically.
I looked over and they were all looking at me with such approval, yelling and cheering for me. One of them came over and tried to give me a fist bump.
I was NEVER deliberately mean to anyone else again. That one experience made it so vividly clear why people bully - it's instant approval from other insecure assholes, and it's way easier to make someone else the target than risk being the target yourself.
I caught up to him a few years later and apologized. He was INCREDIBLY gracious about it, and he knew why I did it even without me having to explain. He's gone on to absolutely crush life and I couldn't be happier for him.
11.) From Dusty_Old_Bones:
There was this kid I went to elementary with who was the twin brother of a girl I was close friends with. Turns out he was gay and felt more comfortable with girls as friends, but in 2nd grade none of us knew that. So he was always hanging around with his sister’s friends, and as bratty girls we always tried to make him go away. I took part in making fun of his big, pointy ears, and in bullying him about not having any guy friends. I know we made him cry once, but I’m sure he cried in private on many occasions.
Later, as we all matured, we were more welcoming of him as a friend. He ended up being one of my closest friends by the end of high school, he felt like a family member almost. But I will always cringe in shame at being a mean bully girl to him when we were young.
12.) From heyhelgapataki:
Looking back I honestly think I had behavior and emotional issues caused by early childhood anxiety. When I was really young I would run around and just straight up scratch the shit out of people. My nails were always really long and I think it felt like having some power. I don’t remember getting in much trouble and I think it was because I was the smallest girl unfortunately. It was around this time- 1st grade- that I started having panic attacks about going to art class after the (normally very nice and sweet) teacher screamed at a kid next to me.
Later on I was just a huge bitch to all my friends because I thought making fun of people was okay and funny. It’s pretty much the only way my dad showed affection and my older sister and I followed suit. One time I made fun of a childhood friend’s Crocs in junior year of high school and she didn’t speak to me for a year because it was the final straw. My other friend would get it the worst from me because she was very unique and very outspoken and proudly beautifully weird and I would try to shut her down so she wouldn’t draw so much attention. I used to make fun of her looks- I think if you asked her now she would say she had a definite glow up but it was still f*cked up that I ever said anything, knowing I was projecting all my insecurities on her and putting her down to make myself feel better.
I apologized to her several years ago now and she actually forgave me and reminded me that when she was getting severely bullied in a weirdly invasive way I told the kids they needed to stop and they did. It doesn’t make up for anything I did but I think it says a lot about her as a person, that she could still see value in our friendship. I definitely do- she taught me a lot about confidence and being yourself.
13.) From Sebaren:
Not the bully, but the bullied. For one of my bullies, it was when she realised that she had hurt me. She had fully intended on hurting me, but when it came down to it, she was very distanced from the matter, like she knew that she was doing it, but she hadn't processed it. I recall the exact moment when it hit home for her. We were in high school. She had just pushed me down the last few steps of the staircase, and while I wasn't really injured, it hurt quite a bit. She was standing above me, laughing at me, and I remember asking her why hurting me was so funny to her. Just like that, the laughter stopped, and she stared at me for a few seconds. Then, without an apology, she just walked away. She didn't say anything hurtful from then on, nor did she physically hurt me.
One day, a few years later, she admitted to me that, the moment I called attention to it, that was the moment when it became real. Suddenly, it wasn't funny anymore. I didn't get an apology, and she was obviously feeling very awkward about it, but it definitely taught me something about her, and potentially about other bullies. Some step up their game when they achieve their goal of hurting someone. Some are indifferent. For some, though, it's all they need to hear.
14.) From Redheadeddanger:
It happened when I moved out of my parents house and was introduced to the real world. A lot of people in my family are assholes so I thought it was normal to act like an asshole. In high school I actually used to believe that everyone else was the asshole, which is something my parents also agreed on, because they never got along with any of my classmates parents... it makes a lot of sense now, but when I was a kid I just didn’t see it. When I got to college everyone I met was really nice, so I was nice, which is how I slowly discovered everything is better when you’re not an asshole. You have more friends, more positive experiences, less rage for me idk about others, and I like myself more now.
15.) From LunaxVenus:
When I stopped being friends with the main bully and reflected how mean I was to people, especially one girl, thankfully, I’m close friends with her now (she’s genuinely very nice) and I’m doing my best to be as nice as I can
While no scandal seems to stick to Donald Trump, Donald Trump is stuck on the idea that a hurricane was going to hit Alabama, and he's taking his fixation to new, authoritarian heights.
The New York Timesreported that Commerce Secretary and Jiminy Cricket Lookalike Wilbur Ross threatened to fire any employees at the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration who dared to contradict the president with facts.
Meanwhile, White House staffer Ivanka Trump continues to operate as if everything is fine, as if children aren't suffering at the border and the president's brain turns to soup. Ivanka, who has only ever worked for her father, is a self-proclaimed "Advisor to POTUS on job creation + economic empowerment, workforce development & entrepreneurship," and her latest taxpayer-funded trip is to Alabama this Tuesday.
No word on whether she will be taking a plane, or taking flight with her sleeves.
Ivanka is going Alabama, as in the place Trump drew a Sharpie around to insist that they were in Hurricane Dorian's path.
Everyone is making the same joke, and it's a funny one.
Please do survey the hurricane destruction and don't forget the paper towels...
— Angela Belcamino (@AngelaBelcamino) September 9, 2019
Two natural disasters in one week?
— John Pavlovitz (@johnpavlovitz) September 9, 2019
Give these poor people a break.
Why doesn't he just draw you in with a Sharpie then you don't even have to go
— markchildress (@markchildress) September 9, 2019
I thought the state was under water? Who am I supposed to believe now??
— Allison Winn Scotch (@aswinn) September 9, 2019
While Trump is fixated on fake consequences of the hurricane, he's creating a nightmare for people suffering real ones. Trump likely heard "the Bahamas" as "Alabama," and Hurricane Dorian hit the islands for real. Dozens of Bahamian families were kicked off a boat headed to safety in the United States.
Can Trump draw some houses in Sharpie for them?
The drive-through area of a fast food restaurant has to be one of the most consistently chaotic spaces in the world. And the people working those windows get to experience it all firsthand, streamed directly into their ears through a headset, often without customers fully realizing it. Someone recently asked Reddit: "People who work at a drive through window, what are some things that you've overheard on the headset that customers don't know you heard?" Turns out, they've heard just about everything. Here are some highlights:
1.) From Oreopoop:
We had ran out of salads and I was taking a drive through order. The dude said one second please and called his mom.They get into a 3 min argument where I recall him saying “I’m not gonna drive all around the city for a fucking salad mom!”
2.) From Tyler5656:
One time these three guys who were stoned out of their minds came through. It took like a full five minutes to get through the order because they couldn't stop laughing. Also, the guy was ordering "Whoppers" and I don't work at Burger King.
Then at the window, they had to change a bunch of the order and he was still saying "Whoppers." I told him we don't serve Whoppers and they all started laughing again.
3.) From CloffWrangler:
When I was working a drive-through window I was more worried that the customer would overhear what I was saying about them. One time I called a guy an idiot under my breath (wasn't holding down the talk button) and he pulled up to the window to pay and it was my pastor.
4.) From qyooo:
worked at a McDonald's, most memorable one was a woman who got a call after she placed an order and burst out crying.
person in her passenger side asks: "what's wrong?"
she responds, window still down: "my dad just died."
taking her payment was extremely uncomfortable.
5.) From pm-me-ur-nsfw:
A girls orgasm. Late teens/early 20's girl and her boyfriend were coming through McDonald's drive-through. Apparently, she was enjoying a bit of manual magic from her boyfriend under the blanket while waiting to order on a busy night. She was very flushed when they got to the window. No shame at all.
6.) From pendeja4life:
a couple had a full on boxing match at the speaker. I just said "let me know when you're ready to order" as I heard the punches land on each other's faces while they yelled at each other..then the lady yelled I WISH YOU WERE DEAD and the guy laughed manically....then they ordered like they didn't just go Rocky vs Drago
7.) From VTMOIL:
Sooo many parents yelling at their kids to "make up their minds." Also once had a guy ask for "Jail-a-peen-os" on his sandwich, I started laughing, and he got super mad and demanded to talk to my manager
8.) From Alexander4334:
"I'm hungry and horny"
I said, "Well, we can help with the first, you are on your own for the 2nd one."
He took it in stride, and was still laughing when he got to the window.
9.) From _Spinosaurus:
I was working drive and I had a customer pull up to the speaker and then order. Then afterwards she didn’t pull up to the window. And I can still hear what she says even tho I’m not taking her order. She then started having a loud phone conversation and started talking about how was cheating on her boyfriend. I gave her a little time and then said “you can pull up mam”
10.) From Mariakatss:
Most costumers don't realize that everyone at work can hear the conversations in the drive through. We sell Angus burgers at nu work. A costumer once ordered an "Anus burger" in the drive through, and the entire staff was in tears laughing at the poor guy.
11.) From Michael4343r:
A KFC in the town over had someone selling weed through the drivethu. His customers would ask for "extra biscuits" with their order, and he would put the weed in the bag.
A soccer mom one day went through, had about 5 kids with her. She orders extra biscuits for them.
That guy was fired pretty quickly. Made the evening news, too.
12.) From soljjr:
Most if not all of Starbucks drive thrus have a camera, so we can see you. We can see when you flip us off, we can see when your doing something you shouldn’t be. We can see the faces and hateful glares you make. And more importantly we can see when you and your SO are for some reason trying to get it on in the DT lane. Like y’all can’t wait and pull into the parking lot for that?
13.) From Zachman97:
When I worked at McDicks a lady pulled up and started saying how she hates coming here because the drive though person is always an idiot and never gets her order right. And how McDonald’s only hires idiots.
I greeted her with “hello mam, sorry for your past experiences but not all of us are idiots, and in fact we all can hear you on the headsets as soon as you pull up”
She drove off
14.) From SBI992:
There were two homeless people fighting in the Parking lot. Some guy rolled up to the speaker with two kids in the back and I hear him say "Do you guys want to watch them fight?... Ok I'll go thru and get the food you guys stay here." I was watching on the security camera as this man let's out 2 kids, around 6 & 8 years old, so they could stand by the dumpster and watch two drunk guys beat the crap out of each other with bricks.
15.) From ClutchCinnabon:
One time we had a person sit in the lane for seven minutes having an argument with the other person in the car over their divorce. On top of that, there's conversations about dead-beat baby daddys and whatnot. Stuff can get weird.
16.) From cecisredditaccount:
I used to be a drive thru bank teller and this woman drop 1 hundred dollar bill from her withdrawal envelope inside her car. She accused me of stealing. and while I rechecked my drawer, she call me a racial slur that came to her country to steal from Americans bc she tought the microphone was off. My manager overheard the while interaction. Well, by time the woman came into the bank screaming, her younger son came running after her bc he found the bill underneath the driver's seat. My manager closed her bank account and told her to not come back.
17.) From ThunderDrummer4:
A mom got out of her car and began wrestling her children in the back seat. The dad just said “We need a moment.”
18.) From kristenmkw:
talking about me“Geez, she sounds like Minnie Mouse. Someone take the helium away from that kid”
19.) From AcidSause:
Worked at Mcd's for 3 years. Funniest I'd heard was a guy asking the passenger what he could get for a Big Mac. There's s legit hooker in my town who does discount apparently for fast food. Worst, had to listen to a women list off std's her doctor told her she had and what treatments to get, literally begged the grill team to hurry and move the line.
20.) OfficeChairHero:
When I was in high school, I worked at a fast food place at night. It was about 2 minutes before closing and two guys came through the drive through super drunk. We were out of something they wanted, so the guy tells his friend that I'm a cunt and that he's going to go in and rape me until he gets his food. My friend was also working that night. She didn't tell me until later, but she had picked all the veggies for his burger out of the bottom of the garbage bin where we had just thrown a bunch of expired meat (plus hours worth of other gross stuff.) I don't really believe in messing with people's food, but fuck that guy. I still thank my friend to this day.
Sometimes it's as innocent as stealing a few extra desserts when they thought you were asleep while there are some teenage activities we'd all be truly mortified if our parents ever knew.
Most of the time, parents are savvier than we think. They're onto all of us and bad kids usually grow up to be even more skeptical parents. They knew what they were up to so they can only assume you're up to something much worse. With the internet and constant means of communication, it's impossible to keep kids from accessing information or keeping in constant contact with their friends but it is possible to try and keep them safe.
When a recent Reddit user asked, "What’s something your parents don’t know about you?" the internet was ready to spill their secrets. Shut your eyes, mom and dad!
That I have a tattoo. It's been 4.5 years and they have never seen it.
First time I saw a naked woman, I was with my grandpa. He showed me the photos.
That I'm married
That I share a bed (and more) with my "roommate."
My parents don’t know that one of there Halloween decorations was f***ed by a dear one night and they think it was the wind but I saw it all from my widow they fixed it and still use it to this day
I watched all 8 seasons of GOT without my parents knowing. My mom would never let me watch it but I told my dad after I was done and we talk about it all the time when she’s not around
I’m a teen and they’re somewhat strict - they don’t let me have my phone after 10:00 at night. So I found my moms old phone, reset it, set it up with my ID so that it would forward text messages from my normal phone to it, and I keep it in my room.
How much homework, work, self-discovery, cocaine, writing, reading, and studying I do
That I open mouth kissed a horse once.
When I was 15, I found my parents collection of uhhhh...whips and chains, dildos, DVDs, some edible underwear and finally a rubber squeaky chicken.
I’m being totally honest and
I still don’t know what the chicken was about.
I eat a shitload of popsicles
I'm a camgirl.
That my husband and I are swingers, or that I'm bi-sexual.
My parents still think I don't like the taste of alcohol
I'm 21 and living in Europe
all the sex i had in our basement my senior year of high school. sorry mom
I smoke weed. I'm 29 years old. Sorry mom.
Don Jr. is getting roasted online, again. This installment of Don Jr. Makes A Post And Gets Dragged To An Emotional Guillotine is inspired by a recent promo for a new line of Trump inspired casual wear fatigues. If the very concept of Trump fatigues makes you feel so fatigued (this wordplay was begging to be included) you want to lay down in a war zone until a bullet skims your coronary arteries, well, you aren't alone.
The collection truly has it all, equally ugly socks, pants, t-shirts, and even a flask to wash down the cognitive dissonance of voting for a failed businessman/rapist who would sooner throw you in a detention center than pass humane legislation.
Not to mention, none of the immediate Trump family has served.
I have no doubt there are people silently buying pieces from this collection (I am shuddering at the thought). But as of now, all of the top comments on the thread are firing on Don Jr. all cylinders.
Women: the mysterious 51% of the female species, complicated enigmas with needs no man can understand.
That's what men will have you believe, based on how they write about women.
Women are generously offering insights into what men should know about them—everything from our desire for pockets to our desire for sex.
WHAT IS HAPPENING? This is a complicated story, but the internet has become the moral compass of humanity and while this is a decision that should probably be made between the birth mother and the biological father who is planning to adopt the twins, here we are, complete strangers, weighing in...
When a recent Reddit user who is pregnant with twins, consulted the internet to determine whether or not she is "the as*hole," people were eager to help her.
This is a bit of a weird one, thanks for bearing with me.
I’m pregnant with twins at the moment, something I’m struggling with a lot as I don’t want to and will not keep them. Due to loads of personal reasons I decided not to be involved in their lives. (Even strongly considered abortion before. )
My plan was to give them up for adoption, but their father (who I have no relationship with) decided he wants to keep them and there’s not much I can do about that. However, I made it clear to him that I will move away once they’re born and want to know nothing about them, sign away my rights, etc.
In my last appointment he wanted to come, and I agreed, though I said I didn’t want to find out their gender. He asked if HE alone could find out and he wouldn’t tell me. (He can come across quite strong and I struggle with being assertive like that, so I agreed.)
Little bit later and he already let me slip what they are, which has made me incredibly upset. He says he didn’t do it on purpose but I don’t believe him. (He wants me be to be their mom.)
I told him I don’t want him joining any of my appointments ever again and would prefer to see him as less as possible until they’re born. He thinks I’m completely overreacting and as he will be their only parent, he should be there ‘so at least one person who cares about them is there’. He wants to be as involved as possible now.
AITA for telling him he can’t ever come to my appointments anymore (taking away this experience from him) and I don’t want to speak to him anymore (not more than necessary)?
Damn. This is a lot. On one hand, she's entitled to her decision to not want to be a part of her twins' lives. On the other hand, she's still going to probably have to pay child support since the biological father is raising them. This isn't a traditional closed adoption situation so it might be in his rights as the parent planning to raise them to be a part of the birth process? I'm not a lawyer, and I'm assuming all of these Reddit commenters aren't either...
NTA (Not the Asshole). Contrary to the people accusing you of selfishness, what you are doing is actually very selfless--you are bearing these kids so that he can have them and raise them. I would tell him to back off. I would also make sure that you know how to go about legally terminating your parental rights and more importantly obligations. It is not that easy to get out of being on the hook for child support, and I would noway nohow trust this pushy dude's word that he's going to let you go without trying to keep you involved.
NTA. You’re acting very selflessly by essentially being a surrogate for him, and he’s pushing your boundaries, pretty clearly trying to convince you to parent with him. You mentioned you have trouble being assertive, but you need to shut that shit down. You’ve both made your decisions clear, but he doesn’t seem to want to let you go through with yours.
NTA, but you should really consult an attorney about this. You can sign away custody but you're still going to be on the hook for child support.
NTA It may be his child, but it's not his pregnancy, he has all the time in the world to bond after the baby's birth, since bonding doesn't exactly happen before birth.
You didn't ask for him to want the kids, so you shouldn't be forced to deal with him at your appointments. You're basically a surrogate mother. It vaguely sounds like he's trying to coax you into staying and being a parent though, and allowing him at the appointments would mean he can attempt to coax you more.
Eh.... Yta (You're the As*hole). I think you're being callus for no reason other to want to make him miserable like you feel. You don't want the babies, and the father wants them. He wants to enjoy them, and you don't. Most people want to enjoy their children being born.
BTW, even if you sign your rights away, you will be paying child support.
YTA
I can't believe this is even a thing. I'm a 100% pro-choice, I don't have an doubt about that in my mind, but what you are suggesting here is to abandon your child and with that, abandon also any responsability attached to them. And some users here are so atonishingly progressive that they call you brave and try to give you all sorts of legal advices to avoid any fuc***g responsability, because you are that brave.
This is so WRONG in so many levels that I want to think that is BS.
What do you think?
“Find out what you like doing best, and get someone to pay you for it.”
-Katharine Whitehorn
If you read these memes at work, then technically you're being paid to laugh. Now, that's something to brag about at your next high school reunion.
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