Celebrities and influencers are in hot water after promoting a music festival in Saudi Arabia called MDL Beast.

Sofia Richie, Jourdan Dunn, Halima Aden, Irina Shayk, Stella Maxwell, Armie Hammer and Ryan Phillippe are some of the stars being blasted after they posted photos of themselves at the festival or in Saudi Arabia, with captions gushing about the country.

They're being criticized online due to the country's human rights abuses and its bad record when it comes to treatment of LGBT people, women and journalists.

The fashion watchdog Instagram account Diet Prada posted about the trip, saying:

What’s worse than an all white @revolve influencer trip? Cashing big fat checks in exchange for #content creation (aka propaganda) to rehabilitate the image of Saudi Arabia, a country said to be causing “the world’s worst humanitarian crisis”, according to the United Nations. According to anonymous sources, six-figure sums were offered for attendance and geo-tagged posts.

Some recent human rights violations in Saudi Arabia included the murder of journalist Jamal Khashoggi and the arrest of women's rights activist Loujain al-Hathloul.

Diet Prada also pointed out that homosexuality is a crime in Saudi Arabia and bloggers and journalists are frequently jailed or worse. The account asserts that Saudi Arabia has been spending money "to change its image in the west," a claim that's backed up by an October New York Times article about influencers accepting cash to promote tourism to the kingdom.

For the people who posted from the Saudi festival, social media criticism is abundant.

Armie Hammer posted a slideshow with photos of men enjoying themselves at the festival, along with a lengthy caption.

He also posted a picture of himself with another man, movie producer Moal Turki.

One person pointed out how disingenuous it is for Armie to compare the festival to Woodstock.

Others are pointing out very recent human rights violations.

Khashoggi's former editor, Karen Attiah, has been vocal about the influencers promoting Saudi Arabian tourism.

She also called Glamour UK to task for getting involved with the festival.

Models Teddy Quinlivan and Emily Ratajkowski say they both turned down deals with the music festival. Ratajkowski said in a statement to Diet Prada:

It is very important to me to make clear my support for the rights of women, the LGBTQ community, freedom of expression and the right to a free press. I hope coming forward on this brings more attention to the injustices happening there.

It's pretty normal to hate your job. Doing the same thing day in, day out for most of our lives can take a mental and emotional toll. And co-workers, no matter how well-intentioned, start to grate on your nerves after a while (I work from home so the only co-worker I have to worry about is me, and I annoy the sh*t out of myself). But lots of people actually like what they do for work. It is possible!!!!!

Someone asked Reddit: "People who actually like their jobs, what do you do for a living?" Here are 34 of the best responses from the happily employed. You might be surprised by some of the professions that bring people joy.

And if you're miserable at your job, it's never too late to consider a career change! Employment doesn't have to be a soul-crushing death trap. Maybe consider one of these options for yourself.

1.) From whitesaab:

I am a park ranger. Just me and the trees.

2.) From Icy9kills:

HVAC technician. I basically walk into your house to pet your dogs

3.) From Shred_turner:

Ski patrol. I make shit money and live a dirtbag lifestyle but I get to spend 130 days a year on skis.

Edit. For those of you who are interested here is what a route morning looks like in December. Photos taken from the top of Jack Creek in the Headwaters, Moonlight Basin.

https://imgur.com/a/rntJvUL

4.) From NoWordOfALie:

Wildlife biologist. Long hours, shit pay, but amazing experiences that I usually enjoy waking up for.

5.) From RustyBulkhead:

Fabrication at a company that sells products for haunt attractions and escape rooms.

6.) From FdlMWEI:

For the railroad as a signalman, i work at a small station, so im alone all shift can browse redditdont need to deal with office drama, an if no train is on my section of the line i can watch Netflix

7.) From AC_Zeno:

Legal for a toy company. All my law school friends are stressing for billable hours while I look at action figure packaging.

8.) From QuipLogic:

I'm a server in a restaurant owned by a celebrity chef. Only work 32-34 hours a week. Consistently make about $1400/week before taxes. 401k is matched. Eat two meals prepared by professional chefs everyday I work. Bring home free bottles of wine to "study" so I'm capable of describing it to our guests. Only work nights so I sleep in til at least noon everyday.

9.) From JennaWraithe:

Librarian. I freaking LOVE my job. I love to read, and love the smell of books and paper. I love the wealth of information I read, and I love to help people find answers in my resources or just doing research myself (my library is focused on education-research).

I love my job, but sometimes it's the people I can't stand.

10.) From Kaapstad2018:

I’m a postman. I love it! I’m outside, I’m on my own. I’ve been a waiter, sales assistant, call centre agent, car booking agent, office administrator. I’ve done my share of shitty jobs to really appreciate the simplicity, the hours and ease of the job. Granted this time of year is crazy and the weather is nasty. But damn I’ve had worse jobs!

11.) From Aromatic_Pause:

I work for Costco. I like 80% of my job. Those peeps pay super well.

12.) From sean__christian:

Industrial Designer. I draw, model, 3D print, and make products. My whole life is about creativity and I have a blast. There's more to it than a sentence, but I honestly never feel like its 'work.' I love it!

13.) From brp:

I work from home designing metro, long haul, and submarine fiber optic telecommunications networks.

14.) From PLEASE_PM_ME_UR_FISH:

I work in a nursing home. People think I'm crazy for loving it but its honest and rewarding, and making someone's day makes mine (I do get paid peanuts tho)

15.) From Aksi_Gu:

I count boxes.

I'm a goods in operative in a warehouse. It pays enough to cover my bills and give me spending money each week, and I live pretty simply.

Sure, it might not be my "vocation", it might not be anything fancy, or even afford me a "middle class" standard of living...

But I've got 40 hours a week contracted, 1.5x for overtime (which is usually pretty abundant), I get no hassle from management, and in fact get a fair amount of respect as they know I'll get shit done without pissing and moaning about it. I can afford to maintain a nice studio apartment all by myself without having to look at housesharing, or living in sketchy areas.

I wake up, do the days labor then go home. No stress, no fuss, no expectation beyond hitting my (laughably low) productivity targets.

I get an extra days holiday per year of service (currently sitting on 23, as the site closes on bank holidays), I get multiple weeks of full sick pay and the job itself is hilariously easy.

sure, it can be a little dull at times. But I'm physically active all day, and there's always jobs to be done somewhere.

16.) From holytriplem:

I've just started a new job as a planetary scientist, looking for signs of life or geological activity in the atmosphere of Mars.

17.) From masterroadtripper:

Search and Rescue.

Feels like I'm actually doing something with my life - making a difference

18.) From JDLovesTurk:

I’m an airline pilot. Love it. I don’t know what else I would do.

19.) From rohttn13:

teach 6th grade geography...this is my 20th year...love it

20.) From volvbro:

I make maps. It can get tedious, but I enjoy it

21.) From MC_Crit:

I wash dishes.

Sounds lame, but it isn't.

I get the same schedule every week and it's good hours, I make more than minimum wage, I get bonus checks on holidays and have other benefits like insurance and more PTO than my state mandates, and that's just the tip of the iceberg

We're allowed to wear earbuds at work and listen to music as long as we keep one earbud out for safety reasons

I have really great managers and all my coworkers are great people who are just a TREAT to work with (seriously, they're like family. It's awesome. I love being around them).

I get $14 free to spend on food every day that I'm at work, so 5 days a week. It's really, really good food. I've tried nearly everything we sell and I haven't yet tried something I didn't LOVE. It's really good food.

There's so much more but in the interest of time I'll leave it here.

22.) From Grizelda_Gunderson;

I own a sign business, run from my basement. I get to show up for work in my pajamas if I want, get to choose the clients I do business with, and get to be creative on a daily basis. I don't make quite as much as I used to working for others, due to taxes, but I've never been happier and more at peace. My business is growing (triple from last year), and we are looking to expand to some online sales soon.

23.) From captainmander:

I'm a children's librarian. It's basically my dream job.

24.) From Jessehoff95:

I manage a pet store :)

25.) From Lusterkx2:

Yes a question I can answer!

I’m a janitor! I love being a janitor. Why? Because I have OCD!!! I love cleaning. I don’t care about poop or mess anywhere. I will clean it. I want things to shine and look amazing.

I’m so happy too because I have a state job as a janitor. So I don’t make regular pay. And that makes me even happier. I feel so relieved going home knowing my building is spotless clean.

Wanna know the best part? Since I clean trash a lot I find some amazing throw away. Someone threw away an old stereo and I took it home to make it into a nice decoration.

Another plus side is since I clean out the recycling bin. I can take home the cans and bottles to recycle for extra money. It’s so awesome.

I clean at work and get paid well. Then I go home and clean some more.

Another plus is no one talks to me. Occasionally people say hi and I do too. But no one talks to me so I can listen to my favorite podcast all day!

26.) From JekyllandJavert:

I work in the fraud department of a large bank. I don't do the investigative work anymore. I deal with compliance/regulatory issues, gaps in our processes, internal and external audits, etc. It sounds boring, and it is at times. But I like that my department is so small and close-knit. There's no real micro-managing. It's very much a culture where you can do whatever you want as long as you get your job done. It's still somewhat new, and the things we're working on are constantly changing. We also get to work with a lot of different people from a lot of different areas of the business. It's a good way to network and to help figure out where you want to go in your career.

27.) From Korbem:

I am a pediatric physical therapist at a rehabilitation center for children with acquired brain injury.

28.) From jonathanownbey:

Software developer. I like my job about 60% of the time. I feel like it's hard to ask for more than that really.

29.) From JJGreenwire:

Fly private jets for wealthy folks.

30.) From buttmike1:

I am an on-call bioarchaeologist. I go to incredible places few in this world get to see. I look at human bones to analyze who they may be and why they are there. I have been on high mountaintops and deep into caves. No one cares if I look clean and neat because I have no one to impress. In fact, it is preferred I return from a site covered in mud and dirt. I work hard, sleep well, and sometimes get invited to colleges to speak to students interested in archaeology. I publish my research and present my adventures at academic conferences. Like all archaeologists I am poor as can be but what I lack in financial gains is more than balanced by spreading knowledge.

31.) From natgoeshome:

I work as a case manager for an eviction prevention program in my local government. Basically, I hand out free money ($2000 per family) to people who are incredibly stressed out and hoping for a miracle. I get to ensure that people stay in their homes, and I help them find access to affordable child care, better employment, and food. I often work with teachers, single moms, veterans, and the elderly. People are so incredibly grateful and sweet, and I love being the person who gets to call and say “Good news! You get to stay in your home and your next month of rent is covered!” They often cry, which then makes me cry, and the best part is I get to manage their case for another 3 months to set them up for success.

Bonus: the presentation I created for our program is being shown in Washington, DC next summer, and we might help encourage other states to hop on board!

32.) From depressedtaterz:

Pet sitter/house sitter. Nuff said. Fur babies and fancy shitters

33.) From ReineDuChocolat:

I'm a party princess. I dress up and act as a princess at children's birthday parties. I always loved signing and somewhat acting so it's great to put these skills to use. I also love making children smile. It's great job for me because it's part time and not always at the same time every weekend so as a student its the perfect job. I also like the fact that for every party I have almost no idea what to expect: it keeps me on my toes and my improv skills sharp.

34.) From thebravestoaster:

I nanny. I play, I make up games, I read awesome books out loud. I come up with art projects. I sing loudly in the car. I comfort and cuddle kids.

I talk to growing minds about what’s going on in the world. We talk about their day. What was good what was hard. I get to tease them. I watch their performances. I make dope snacks. I watch soccer games.

Overall, it’s a really fun job, but the most important thing is finding the right family.

'Tis the season of giving and is there anything more valuable than advice?

While there have been many rom-coms that ask the question of "What Women Want," the holiday season is a good time to reflect on what the people you love actually do want. Hint: It's probably not a new microwave. And it's definitely not a Peloton bike...

When the hashtag #WhatWomenDontWantFromMen started trending on Twitter, women everywhere were ready to be honest about what they absolutely do not want from men. Aside from gifts that miss the mark (no more heart necklaces, please), this also largely includes: telling women to smile and telling women what to do with their bodies.

Of course, most women appreciate the men in their lives and anything they are thoughtful enough to give. However, 2020 is a new year and maybe we could cancel a few of these...

1. No Pelotons. Or any exercise-related, diet-restricting gifts.

2. Babies aren't for everyone!

3. PLEASE stop this.

4. Stay away from our choices about our bodies.

5. Nobody wants this.

6. Women aren't the Joker.

7. It's almost 2020.

8. Thanks for the chores!

9. WE'RE ALL VERY CALM.

10. No more weird staring.

11. Ha!

12. FULL OF NONSENSE.

13. Stop.

14. Yup.

15. No more.

16. It's simple!

17. Definitely don't do this.

18. For real.

19. It's my life, don't you forget.

20. This one is worthy of a repeat.

5. Armie Hammer, because he's getting called out for doing Saudi Arabian propaganda.

Celebrities and other influencers are under fire (like Yemen) for doing sponsored content for the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia.

Armie Hammer, Sofia Richie, Ryan Phillippe and other hot people Instagrammed over the weekend from the MDL Beast Festival in Riyadh, after being paid to do so by the Saudi government in their attempt to rebrand while committing massive human rights violations.

Hammer recently starred in Call Me By Your Name, a gorgeous gay romance in which he and Timothée Chalamet have sex (and Chalamet also has sex with a peach, but that's neither here nor there). Homosexuality is punishable by death in Saudi Arabia, as is speaking out against the government in any way, shape or form.

Supermodel Emily Ratajkowski revealed that she turned down the opportunity to partake in the propaganda party, making it all the more embarrassing for the shameless party animals who did.

Do these actors and models, who are already rich, need Saudi blood money to party?

They should leave the pro-Saudia Arabia propaganda to Jared Kushner.

4. Bill Cosby, because he's complaining about Eddie Murphy's joke from prison.

On Saturday night, Eddie Murphy returned to Saturday Night Livefor the first time in 35 years, and in his monologue, he addressed how much the times have changed.

Murphy mentioned that he now had 10 children, and "if you had told me 30 years ago that I would be this boring stay-at-home house dad and Bill Cosby would be in jail, even I would have took that bet. Who is America’s dad now?!"

Back in the '80s, Cosby used to self-righteously criticize black comics like Eddie Murphy for doing dirty jokes, instead presenting himself as squeaky clean.

While pretending to be "America's Dad" on stage, Cosby was committing horrific crimes behind the scenes, and over 35 women have come forward with their stories of how he drugged and raped them.

Cosby's team did NOT like Murphy's joke, releasing a statement calling Murphy "a Hollywood slave," accusing him of joking about an imprisoned rapist for "click bait."

You know what's worse than a joke with swears in it? Rape.

3. JJ Abrams, because everybody hated his Star War.

$175.65 million might sound like a lot of money in this galaxy, but in a galaxy far, far away, it's considered peanuts.

Star Wars Episode IX: The Rise of Skywalker opened last Thursday night, providing the conclusion to the Skywalker Saga 42 years after it began with A New Hope. The notoriously cranky fans were unhappy with the movie, and it wasn't just because women talk, which was their problem with The Last Jedi. The box office was considered a disappointment by Star Wars standards, and critics panned the movie, leading to its rotten score on Rotten Tomatoes.

Fans place the blame squarely on the shoulders of director JJ Abrams, who co-wrote the screenplay, taking the reins from The Last Jedi's Rian Johnson and throwing Johnson down the reactor shaft like Vader killed Palpatine...or so we thought.

Abrams responded to criticism of the film by essentially saying that there are very fine people on both sides:

“I’d say [the film’s critics are] right. The people who love it more than anything are also right. We knew going in—I was asked just seven hours ago, ‘So how do you go about pleasing everyone?’ and I was like ‘What?’ Not to say that that should be what anyone tries to do anyway, but how would one even go about it? Especially with Star Wars.”

Lucky for Abrams, he is not alone in facing the wrath of nerds for the way in which he chose to wrap up a beloved franchise. He, David Benioff, and D.B. Weiss are currently hiding from the public in a bunker made of money.

2. Everyone involved with Cats, because it's a bomb that's still getting groomed.

Nearly everybody who knew about Cats and movies thought that a Cats movie was a bad idea...and this weekend they were proven right.

The furry fantasia on jellicle themes made $6.5 million at the domestic box office, which is abysmal in the context of its $100 million price tag.

Critics and viewers were turned off by the terrifying CGI, and after release, the creative team is still trying to make fixes. The Hollywood Reporter reports that thousands of theatres "will be receiving an updated version of Tom Hooper’s troubled film with 'some improved visual effects.'"

Hopefully that updated version includes Jason Derulo's previously edited-out bulge.

1. The guy who accidentally shot himself in the leg while trying to steal a puppy.

Karma came for a guy in Canada who shot himself in the leg after fleeing with a puppy he stole at gunpoint.

CBC News reports that the precious puppy is a nine-week-old purebred American bulldog named Tarzan, and when his owner arranged to sell him, the dude whipped out a gun.

The would-be thief's injury's are non-life-threatening, so we can laugh about it.

Looks like his dog days are over.

There is a time and a place for lies, and at your family home during the holidays is one of those times and places. Just because we're sharing a dinner table with our family members doesn't mean they need to know how we really feel about them. Because in the words of Lizzo, "truth hurts." And holidays are painful enough without adding honesty into the mix.

People on Reddit are answering the question: "What is something you don’t have the heart to tell to your family?" Here are 25 people who made a decision to omit the truth for the good of their families. Now that's love.

1.) From Shade0X:

that I'm getting annoyed by all the negativity they keep spreading

it feels like they don't even want to be happy

2.) From ilovetotransfuse:

I lost all respect for my Dad, I'm starting to get sick of the family gatherings around Christmas time and I'm seriously thinking about just taking vacation around the holidays to Florida.

3.) From _-Boredatwork-_:

My wife hates them.

4.) From EmperorOfNipples:

I still drink too much.

I have just got much better at managing when I drink and when to stop so I can turn up fresh to family events and work.

Maybe I am getting better.

5.) From LearningLifeAsIGo:

How many of them I have blocked on social media.

6.) From AndrewLBailey:

My parents house is about 4-5 degrees too warm. Makes it just a tad uncomfortable.

Samesies.

7.) From flooferkitty:

How much I truly loathe Christmas since my fiancée died and how I’d really rather not celebrate. It would really hurt them.

8.) From OliviRamon:

The reason I stay in my room so much is to escape them. Whenever I am not in my room or out of the house, they insult me.

10.) From Mizznomer:

The amount of my student loan debt. My mother would faint.

11.) From apizzascience:

I had been going to a therapist and psychiatrist because of my family's constant discouragement to my career aspirations. I had other reasons to see a therapist, but this made me reach out for help.

12.) From Leelluu:

That the way they raised me was abuse and it seriously damaged me as a person. My parents think they were great parents, especially my mom, who was the more abusive one. And it's not even that I don't have the heart to tell them because I don't want to burst their bubble. I don't have the heart to tell them because I don't have the heart to sit through an hours-long lecture/beratement on why I'm wrong and how what they did doesn't count as abuse and I have no right to be upset.

I just keep not answering or returning their phone calls and texts, but they keep obliviously trying to reach out to me thinking that I'm the asshole here and they have a right to speak to and see their daughter regardless of my feelings.

13.) From TTR1981:

That the reason I hardly visit any more is because there is no effort.

I take 2 flights across 3 states, rent a car, spend a decent amount of coin, and get to my folks house to find that they haven't even made the bed in the spare room. Or cleaned it up. Or taken some time off work. Or want to go anywhere or do anything.

I love them dearly. They love me. But that always stings a bit. I don't want the world to stop, or revolve around me, but a bit would be nice.

14.) From Corporate-Asset-6375:

Well mine is, uh, less impactful than what’s already on here but...they’re all terrible cooks. Like don’t even understand fundamental cooking techniques. I’m no chef but their food is borderline inedible and it’s a miracle they haven’t given each other food poisoning multiple times.

Problem is they LOVE cooking and are proud of their repulsive standard dishes. I could never tell them the truth and I don’t want to ruin our family memories. So I roll with it, have a small helping of everything, and just hit a drive thu on the way home whenever I eat with them.

15.) From strvvy:

that i know you cheated on my mom.

16.) From PM-ME-UR-KNICKERS:

You’re getting really old and I’m not ready to lose either of you. My dad is gonna be 76 in a few months and I’m dreading him not being there for me. And to my younger brother. Get a fucking divorce bro

17.) From sesamedrive:

I really really need to go back to therapy.

18.) From Ferorius:

That I was actually traveling all over Europe and not studying in a university. After which I faked my University papers so that my parents would not worry. Though while traveling I met a good friend of mine, who is now my business partner. We started a small IT-business, I was able to earn a good amount and finally get my degree a few years back. So basically, no harm done. But I will never tell them that... Ever.

19.) From TourmalineDreams:

That I'm so exhausted 24/7 that I just want to sleep and fade away. I'm still battling depression every day, but I'm "functional" because I'm still able to get up and work and I'm not suicidal. I'm just constantly overwhelmed and so fucking tired.

20.) From TinyDino425:

That the reason none of my friends came over when I was a kid is because I never invited them. I was embarrassed of my insane mom and messy house

21.) From ChewbaccasStylist:

Hi fellow grown siblings,

Now that our parents are both dead, it's become very apparent that we really have nothing in common. No real rapport. I don't feel like I really know you as people as you won't share anything real about your lives with me.

And every time I tell you personal things about my life, you give me one word "hmm" or "yeah" answers that make me feel like you don't give a shit what I just told you. And then the subject changes to some meaningless bullshit topic. That's the one who actually answers the phone, the other one won't even do that or ever return a phone call.

And if not for being related, I can't imagine why we would spend time together.

And I also felt this uneasy detachment my whole life, but always blamed myself, and now that I am older I realize it's not just me, or maybe not me at all.

And not only that but I kind of realize what a bunch of self centered jerks you all have been. And I feel like I went above and beyond to make things fair, work together, help and be supportive, while you guys just looked out for yourselves. And that hurts.

It all hurts. And it hurts to realize now that I am an adult, I never knew better. I always just thought it was something I did.

And I see how that set me up in life to be a people pleaser and a door mat, always trying to be a little more supportive, give a little more. While you all just looked out for yourselves.

Thanks assholes,

Your sibling

22.) From lambofgun:

i wish everyone just bought one sentimental and well thought out gift for eachother and save our time and money for things that matter like helping eachother with dr bills from extreme health problems, or other enormous bankrupting disasters, or large donations for the poor, or sending money to places that were crushed by hurricanes, or donation to our local community, or even saving money for ourselves when thats not needed and improving our families’ lives. instead we spend thousands on bullshit and stress our selves out, turning what should be an honest and exciting time for friends and family into some materialistic contest where everyone is anxious that they didnt buy enough or spend enough

23.) From quivx:

That I’m questioning whether or not I still believe in God.

24.) From NoAwkwardHere:

That my husband and I are divorced. I moved out a year ago. He and I can’t bring ourselves to tell our families because we don’t want to hurt them and we don’t want to talk about it.

After 16 years, we don’t want to upset the families.

Mine and his family spend all of the holidays together at either his or my parents’ house. We still do the holidays together because we don’t want to talk to them about it.

Our parents are up there in ages...so that’s that.

25.) From dick-nipples:

That my Reddit username is Dick Nipples

You'd take time off from school or work for a longterm physical illness, right? So why wouldn't you do the same for mental health? A woman on Twitter is sharing the story of how her mom went against the Principal's wishes when she took her brother out of school for a month to work on his mental health.

Twitter user Titi opened up about how her brother was struggling with depression in the third grade and when their mother told her son's teachers and principal that she wanted to pull him from school to help him work on his health, the school did not support their mom.

The school only reiterated how he'd fall behind a grade if she took her son out of school.

"MY son is not okay. I don’t care if he gets expelled. He is DEPRESSED," the boy's mom told his educators.

The mom ignored the educator's wishes and left school that day with her son. Titi describes how for the next month, her mom left work early every day to spend quality time with her brother.

"[She] did activities with him, went out for hot chocolate, really TALKED with him," Titi added.

Titi explained that once mom knew her son was "mentally okay," she put him back in school where he "thrived, excelled and finished top of his class ."

Then, and here's the kicker, the principal — who never supported Titi's mom — called to apologize for being wrong.

Titi ended her thread with this battle cry to other parents to take stock of their children's mental health, even if their educators won't take it seriously.

"Guys, listen to your kids. My mom has always been big on mental health. She didn’t give no fucks...she just needed her son back. If it wasn’t for that month off...who knows how my brother would be today," Titi added.

And for the record, that former third grader is now this happy, healthy, adult.

Others on social media raced in to share their praise of the boy's mom and how seriously she took his mental health.

Just another reminder that mental health is just as serious as physical health and that moms seriously know best.

There are plenty of reasons to not go to someone's wedding. It's too expensive, it's too far away, you've already used up all your vacation days on everyone else's dumb weddings. But if you don't go to your sister's wedding, something serious must have gone down.

One woman took to Reddit's "Am I The Asshole" to figure out if she's the asshole for refusing to attend her sister's wedding because her sister is marrying her ex-boyfriend of three years. At first glance, it would seem as if the original poster is NOT the asshole for not wanting to see her ex-boyfriend marry her sister, but it's a bit more complicated than that, and hoo boy, let's get into it.

OP describes how she was in a three-year relationship with a man we'll call Tonio. She detailed how he paid for most of her meals and almost the entirety of their shared rent, but "the one thing we could never agree on is how frequently we would be intimate."

Their difference in libido ended their relationship, but Tonio was kind about it and even paid her share of the rent while she spent two months looking for a new place to live. But as OP put it, "I was heartbroken, as a truly thought we'd get married one day."

Cut to three years later, and OP learns that her little sister is pregnant and engaged to her ex boyfriend!

Fast forward 3 years, and my little sister announces she's engaged. Not only that, but she's 1 month pregnant, and is expediting the wedding so the child is born in wedlock. Apparently her fiance is kind to her, is covering all the wedding expenses, and is even paying for her master's degree program and all expenses so she can be a stay at home mom as long as she wants. I've been invited to her wedding, but was worried when she told me it might be "hard for me": her soon-to-be husband is Tonio. Naturally, I'm depressed and angry and every possible emotion all at once.

Yiiikkeeeess.

According to OPs subsequent posts in the thread, her sister kept her relationship with Tonio a secret for three whole years and was able to pull it off because the two sisters lived on opposite coasts.

To make matters worse, OP thinks her sister and Tonio got together while she and Tonio were still dating.

Apparently they got together "officially" about 3 months after Tonio left me. I don't buy it. I remember that my sister was the one person whom I confided in to that Tonio and I were arguing due to "mismatched libidos". Based on various little stories about their first dates, it sounds like they became a number just around the time Tonio ended the relationship.

If the story ended there, OP would be completely within her right to refuse to attend her sister's wedding to the man she used to love, who may have also cheated on her, but oh does the plot thicken.

OP then slut-shamed her sister and accused her of getting with Tonio for a "free ride," and then the sister shamed OP right back, and yikes all around.

I basically call her a whore would gets a free ride through life and gets to be a stay-at-home-soccer mom all because she tactically (and frequently) spreads her legs for the man, while my sister shouts back "you had a good man, but you're not woman-enough to keep him".

OP even ended her tirade with: "She's getting a free ride through life by stealing my man, as far as I'm concerned."

OP wants to know if she's the asshole for "refusing to attend my sister's wedding or ever be in the same room as her husband-to-be," but Reddit was extremely split and a lot of people weighed in to say that everyone in this story sucks.

Penelope_pig weighed in to say that OP and her ex left on good terms and that the way she slut-shamed her sister is "disgusting."

Your slut-shaming of your sister is disgusting. Some women have very high sex drives. Some don't. Both are fine. Tonio is totally entitled to decide that the disparity in your sex drives was a deal breaker for him. It sounds like he was kind to you and did nothing wrong in terms of how he treated you. You say you're devastated by this, but your relationship with him ended three years ago. It doesn't add up.

WhizmoAlke agreed that OP is not the asshole for refusing to attend the wedding, but everyone in this story is still pretty lame.

Only for calling your sister a whore...She didn't steal your man, he left you because his needs weren't being met. Which was not your fault at all you weren't compatible. Your sister sucks because you shouldn't hook up with an ex of someone you're close to. You are being reasonable in not wanting to attend or be in their lives. Your sister should not expect you to be supportive since it's your ex. I feel for you because that's a pretty big blow but don't blame people for their sex drive.

Zaxscdvfbgbgnhmjj insinuated that the fiance sucks for dating two sisters.

I would say that dating two sisters (especially back to back like that) is not treating either of them well. Creating division like that in a family is terrible IMO.

Andromach97 also agreed that everyone sucks here.

Your sister sucks for dating/marrying your ex. Tonio sucks for dating/marrying his ex's sister, and you suck for making this all about her "free ride through life."

Johnnyg8024 came down hard on the OP, only labelling her"the asshole."

It sounds like he was very supportive of you during and even after your breakup, and mismatched libidos are a perfectly valid reason to end a relationship. It doesn't sound like he did wrong by you in any way. You, however, are slut shaming your own sister for having sex with the man she's marrying and having a child with. Maybe worse, that you're saying she did so tactically, like it was nothing but a scheme to somehow steal him to make sure she's financially supported. your focus throughout your post on money and who gets financial support makes it sound like this is nothing but anger that you're not going to be getting him as a husband to continue handling all your financial needs. I know you're upset and may not be thinking clearly, but it honestly sounds like Tonio might have dodged a bullet by breaking up with you.

Some people did come down on team OP, like r3l_b who called out the rest of the family.

A lot of people are saying you are [the asshole], and that mismatched libidos is a good enough reason to end a relationship, which it is. But your sister is the asshole here. To put you in a position where your ex boyfriend who hurt you is going to be around for the rest of your life makes her an asshole. Tonio is also the asshole, for going after your sister. It’s common sense and a general rule to not do shit like that.

So what did we learn here? I dunno, maybe don't date your sister's ex and also maybe don't slut shame her either? But yeah, everyone sucks here. Case closed.

People are peeved at Kim Kardashian for so many reasons this Christmas, all stemming from one very big-ticket gift.

The reality star bought her daughter North West, 6, a jacket once owned by Michael Jackson. She reportedly paid $65,000 for the garment, and posted a video of it on her Instagram.

Kim says she got the jacket temporarily hemmed so North can wear it, and adds that her daughter is very grateful for the gift because she's a huge Michael Jackson fan.

Pretty much no one can handle it.

Some find it inappropriate that she spent such a huge chunk of change on a child.

Others are like, "You gave jacket once owned by an alleged child abuser... to a child?"

But the Kardashians have been tight with the Jackson family for years, so it seems like they choose to ignore the allegations.

And then there are the Michael Jackson stans, who are attacking those who attacked Kim.

And the MJ mega-fans who are just jealous of a six-year-old.

So that's *checks notes* four different controversies springing from one Kim Kardashian Christmas gift. To quote Kim herself, not bad for a girl with no talent. Thanks for logging in to work over the holidays, Kim!

Does anyone ever have a perfect Christmas?

Probably not — and some Christmases are way, way more disastrous than others.

A recent Reddit thread had people spilling the stories of what ruined their Christmas this year. From parents ghosting children to fighting over grandma's will, it's safe to say these people's Christmases were probably worse than yours.

1. Estate issues can put a damper on your holiday.

My dad and his sibilings fighting over my recently passed grandmother’s house - DannyMorrow29

2. Puking in the boss's car will definitely make for a memorable Christmas.

Me. Was invited to a lovely dinner by my boss with his extended family. Everything went amazingly well, even though I was nervous. I didn’t drink anything due to medications, yet still managed to vomit profusely all over his car when he was giving me a ride home. - KyooTeaPie

3. As long as they're all okay, this sounds HILARIOUS.

My cousins got a mini bounce house and it popped with like 10 kids inside all under 8. The amount of crying broke my eardrums - xClovis7

4. Whose idea was it to put Christmas smack in the middle of flu season?

I caught some sort of stomach bug at 5:00 this morning, threw up eight times since and couldn’t go to my dad’s for Christmas (split parents) or my grandparents’ house for dinner. I’ve been more excited for Christmas this year than any other and now I have to spend it in bed. Woohoo. - collllllin

5. There's a special place in hell for cheaters who ruin Christmas.

I found out I was cheated on a few days ago... [...] I haven't told many people about what happened, because it's kind of humiliating...especially after raving to everyone about how great he was. - Look_a_Squirre_1

6. Being far away from the family is rough.

My sister couldn’t come home. She moved to another country and couldn’t make it back for Christmas. I didn’t think I would mind that much. I’m so lonely without her though. We had so many Christmas traditions and I didn’t have anyone to laugh with me about everything during dinner. I’m thankful that she’s still alive and physically here on earth, but it was just more lonely that I expected to not have her around. It wasn’t a bad Christmas, it just didn’t really feel like Christmas. - ogflavorcheezits

7. Stealing from your loved ones is an interesting holiday choice.

My cousin stole my $250 and once she got caught said: “But I need it and OP (Me) is too spoiled anyways.” She then proceeded to get half of it after crying a fit and refused to give it back until she got some and after all that I still don’t know why her parents don’t punish her since there actually half decent. - joey_kbt

8. Just some casual yuletide racism.

My dad called my girlfriend a beaner when we went over to visit, shes Honduran. Kinda had to leave after that one, especially when he refused to apologize because "that's what they're called" - JustAnArsonist

9. Guess the terrible apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

My uncle grabbing my ass and my whole family laughing about it - ugga_bugga_boi

10. Why do so many old people think food allergies are optional?

My mother in law tried to feed my eldest child mango, which she’s been allergic to for the past 11 years. My eldest said “what are you doing??!! Grandma I’m allergic!” Grandma said “it’ll be okay, it’s Christmas.”

Um, no. Food allergies don’t take Christmas off you idiot. - emlovescoffee

11. I'm not a conspiracy theorist but this sounds like it was an inside job...

My niece and nephew’s uncle on the other side of the family. His car was found randomly abandoned on the side of the road this morning, phone inside, vomit in the car, back tire shredded. Whole family had to go out looking for him. He also didn’t bother to get his own children any presents because “they were stolen out of his car”. - starryknight2010

12. What is it about being single and childless that transforms you into a butler, chauffeur and scullery maid for the whole family?

It was suggested that I drive 4 hrs round trip to pick up my grandmother for the day. We live the furthest away and I guess I can spend all that time doing it because I’m single with no kids. Luckily my mother shot that down, but it pisses me off just thinking about how it’s fine for me, but not other family that’s in the same fucking town. - OhioMegi

13. Sounds like World War 3...

My brother picking a fight with my sister over who won WWII. He was wrong and she refused to agree with him. We left when he started yelling.

My sister has a degree in political science and her teaching credential in World History and Geography. - everybodylovesmemore

14. A truly twisted parent would call the dog pee karmic retribution for the snooping.

My 5 year old looked at all his Christmas presents 3 days before Christmas, and the dog peed on the tree, which also got on many gifts. - mrsstressedmom

15. Ghosting your kids on Christmas is really another level.

My ex-wife not having the guts to tell me she was doing Christmas dinner with her sugar daddy’s family. I don’t give a shit if she was here but she just ghosted my daughters and me. I even asked her yesterday if she was going to be with us for dinner and she said, ‘of course I will, why wouldn’t I?’ It brought back horrible memories about why I left her ass in the first place.

To be fair, I had a great evening with my daughters but there was a gnawing anger in the back of my mind that I couldn’t let go of. - csudebate

16. This is why you don't buy kids expensive toys.

My child yeeted a brand new nintendo switch controller into the wall by accident trying to shake it to fling super mario's hat in Odyssey. - Dopecombatweasel

The holiday season is about reflecting on the past, expressing gratitude and spending time with family and friends.

Of course, it's also about surviving around three days of family chaos with intermittent wine and cookie breaks. However, when you're a celebrity Christmas can be a time for spending $65,000 on a jacket for your six-year-old daughter? We can't all be the Kardashian family and get offered a million dollars to post a sponsored ad on your Instagram, but the joy of giving doesn't have to come with a hefty price tag.

Turns out, even if you celebrated Christmas in the sunshine of Hollywood, everyone could use some some holiday magic. Here are some celebs who are really feeling the Holiday spirit of 2019:

1. Heidi Klum spent time with her family and a...gorgeous sparkling white piano.

2. Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban went down under.

3. Chelsea Handler had a different kind of mistletoe.

4. Kris Kardashian bought Stormi a...castle?

5. Christina Aguilera shared her holiday looks through the years.

6. Britney Spears wanted us to remember that Santa needs milk and cookies.

7. Eva Mendes asked other moms for help.

8. Tegan and Sara shared an adorable childhood memory.

9. Jonathan Van Ness wanted every Queen to have a great holiday.

10. Zooey Deschanel posed like an adorable Christmas elf.

11. Carrie Underwood showed off her gorgeously decorated tree.

12. Newlywed Hilary Duff shared a cute family pic.

13. Joe Jonas let his dogs do the talking.

14. How can we get adopted into Reese Witherspoon's family?

15. Kim Kardashian and Kanye West wished everyone a happy holidays with some...paparazzi shots?

16. DJ Diplo did the fustal shuffle.

17. Laura Dern and Courtney Cox had a very exclusive party.

18. Jennifer Lopez was spending the holiday in the sun.

19. Matthew McConaughey shared his mom's Christmas tradition.

We all know America is the land of the free except for healthcare, and the home of the brave, because you have to be brave to tackle our restaurant portion sizes. But what are some of the more surprising aspects of life in the USA?

A bunch of non-Americans answered questions about what shocked them about American life. From our aggressive friendliness to our gigantic everything, here's what they said.

1. Yes, we have a major hard-on for our military service members.

I went to seaworld with my mum when I was in my mid teens. Halfway through the show, the performer (Not the whale) asked everybody in the military to stand up and the whole crowd gave them a round of applause. They sat back down and the show continued as if nothing had happened. Couldn't imagine anything similar happening back in Blighty [the UK]. - Daverotti

2. This is because our toilets are less skid-mark-prone.

Not seeing toilet brushes in hotels. I know, I know, room service and stuff, but is my family expected to look at my skid marks meanwhile? - jursla

Americans might argue that if Europeans just used more water in their toilets, they wouldn't need to brush them all the time either.

3. Everything in America is massive for no real reason.

Everything in America is huge. I don't just mean the people or portion sizes, because we all know about that- but the roads, the buildings, the ceilings, the space between everything... America is gigantic. It just feels larger than it does here. I'm Australian but I've been to Asia and size-wise it's similar to Australia, and I've seen Europeans say the same about America. Everything is bigger. - betterthansteve

4. We just like our things to be gigantic.

Car dealerships have huge flags. I don’t get why you’d have a flag the size of ten RVs. - linerys

5. We are just as confused as you are when it comes to the toilet stall doors.

what’s up with the gaps in the toilet stall doors and no bidet? - Inaka__

As for the bidet... that's what the shower is for!

6. Americans are psychotically friendly in a way that creeps other people out.

The weirdest thing is that Americans will ask what you are doing for thanksgiving. Are you going to your family etc... When you say no. They invite you to their home.

(I was a student, My family was thousands of miles away, and I'm happy that the local Cracker Barrel is open and looking forward to a meal there)

My Professor did that. Invited me to his home. I had a good time, but it was strange. I'm meeting his uncles and aunts. and one little girl threw a tantrum, I had to take her to calm her down etc...

It was weird. But also wonderful. In my country things like this would never happen. You don't bring a stranger to a family event.

But I'm thankful things like this happen here. - tinkrman

7. We also live for drugs that take us to that elusive edge between "playing with puppies" and "sudden death."

When you have ads for drugs and half of the ad is telling you how the drug will kill you while also showing puppies. It’s weird. - Sp1NnX

8. This is arguably the safest way to get your kicks at a gas station in Montana.

I'm not sure if they find it weird or not but as a Canadian who has been to a few states:

Gambling at gas stations in Montana. So damn weird.

[...] I'm talking about slot/poker machines and sometimes a poker table or two in regular gas stations. Not just truck stops, not on native land. Find a street corner with some gas stations on it in Missoula and odds are at least one of them has a mini casino inside. - drailCA

9. How dare we make fun of any other country's cuisine when Ranch exists.

Ranch; it is somehow both delicious and revolting. And changes which with every mouthful. - Kiki200490

10. Again, American friendliness can be jarring. But it's not fake!

Americans are super friendly to the point that I (Australian) thought it was sarcasm or fake. - dinosaur-pudge

11. We don't call it the "land of plenty" for nothing.

Free refills. Went to a restaurant with my dad (both German) and all of a sudden the waiter took away my drink with another perfectly good sipp in it and I must have looked pretty shocked. It was only then when my dad explained to me that you guys have free refills. - AnLe21

12. You probably don't even notice squirrels if you're American, but they're a big deal to others.

Went to the zoo with a Polish girl once and was super surprised when she found the squirrels more fascinating than all the large animal. - ssfc

13. Especially in the suburbs, we live for a billboard with a realtor's/lawyer's/car dealership owners' face on it.

You advertise not businesses but personalities a lot. So it’s not that KGH Estate Agents will well your property but MARY HUGHTON WILL PERSONALLY SELL YOUR HOUSE (with a big picture of her face). - OIiver

14. Why go to a bar if not to interact with strangers?!

You guys actually sit at the bar in bars. When we go to a pub/bar, we’ll go with friends and rarely interact outside of that group really. You guys jump up at that bar and just start chatting. - OIiver

15. Say a prayer for Brazil's pedestrians.

My Brazilian wife says she was amazed that we actually respect pedestrians here. - BlackNOrange89

16. This means a lot coming from Canada, a country whose entire national identity is "we're more polite than America."

Canadian here, I was blown away by how weirdly social people are with strangers. Like some random guy I've never seen before just starts telling me his life story on the street. He is super normal, and doesn't seem crazy, just wants to talk to me for some reason. But then also, the dude at Wendy's is loudly threatening some 16 year old cashier in front of like 45 people. I got the impression the Wendy's guy was uncool, but the other guy seemed normal, and where I live I generally assume that a stranger talking to me for no reason is either crazy or high. - mr_cristy

17. This is the cutest story of seeing bugs ever.

I live in the south and one time I was hanging out with a friend smoking by a lake in late spring / early summer. He was Egyptian and had just moved here over the winter. All of a sudden he freaked out saying he was seeing weird lights in the trees. I thought he was too high or something before I realized he meant the lightning bugs. He'd never seen them and didn't know what they were, so I started catching them and he was mind blown that they were just a normal seasonal thing - theBurgundyBoi

18. Yes, Americans do love ourselves a good suburb.

When we were flying between cities, I found it weird to look out of the side of the plane and see towns midflight. In Australia, once you leave the city's airspace the landscape is completely barren until you arrive at your destination. - victimsoftheemuwars

19. And unfortunately, advertising.

Ads in general actually, it is so hard to go anywhere without having something in obnoxiously large text trying to get your attention. Whether it be on the road, on tv, on the internet, and hell even in people’s phones. - Escrovenjah

20. Again, we just like all our stuff to be huge ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Canadian here, canadas fast food restaurants have signs that fairly normal height, just enough to get the point across while not being obnoxious, cross over to the usa and within 5 seconds of leaving customs you can see fast food signs hundreds of feet in the air on giant poles. 2 - 3 times taller than here in Canada, why!? - rustyplayer1515

21. And we can never turn down an opportunity to fix something that ain't broke.

also finding peanut butter and jelly swirled into the same jar was shocking. - rustyplayer1515

22. Of course they stand out, that's the point of neon signs.

Neon signs for a fucking funeral home will always stand out. - sassygaycriminal

23. A man on vacation in Florida has learned a lot.

Your food portion sizes are f*ckin huge

Walmart is f*ckin huge.

Everyone wants to talk to us, were British so were used to sitting in uncomfortable silence. We keep making friends.

I'm driving for the first time over here. You guys just turn right through red lights wtf!!!

How tf does 4 way junctions work? So farm I've been going for it and hoping for the best? Seems like a mad free for all to me.

I actually really like how driving here works. All the roads are like bob on straight. 10 mile back home would take me 50 minutes, here it's like 10 minutes through town.

Your houses are weirdly un-secure?? Like..... there is a glass window pane all the way down the side of the door - I could break my hand through and unlock it in all of 3 seconds. The back doors have a tent around the pool? And the rear door is a glass sliding one. Single glazed. I could force it open with a tooth pick.

I ordered chips and got a weird look at a resteraunts night - the waitress brought me some lays chips (bless).

That's all I can think of right now, were staying in Orlando for anyone wondering.

Edit: thank you all for your help and advice! Were having a lovely time so far and love america :)!

Edit 2: some stuff I forgot - you guys are super quick on your horns! Also apparently nobody breaks in because they'll get shot, and everyone trashes florida? It's been great so far! - angrymale

Adele set fire to the internet this week when she took to Instagram to share photos from her Christmas party in which she is posing with a Grinch and a guy in a Santa suit (who may or may not be Santa, who's to say?!). And it wasn't the Grinch or Santa that got people in their feelings. It was the 31-year-old singer's svelte figure.

Many commenters are calling Adele "unrecognizable" in the photos, alluding to her significant weight loss. The media, and many of her fans, are praising the singer's "transformation."

But others are suggesting that it's not OK to comment on someone's weight, even if the comments are celebratory.

Jameela Jamil, pioneer of the body positive movement, pointed out that praising Adele's weight loss is part of a greater problem with the way society ascribes value to thinness and obsesses over women's physical appearances.

Twitter user Audra Williams shared a thread, which has gone viral, explaining why celebrating Adele's weight loss is a "garbage thing to do."

She writes:

Celebrating Adele's weight loss is a garbage thing to do for a million reasons. Here are two: 1. It tells your fat friends you think their bodies are a problem to be solved. 2. The weight loss could be the result of physical or mental health struggles. Weird to cheer about!

Williams shared her own story about how a nervous breakdown left her "unable to eat," and that her extreme weight loss at the time was neither healthy nor an "achievement."

She explains that we have "no idea how/why Adele lost weight," and that by celebrating her physical transformation, we could unknowingly be applauding an illness or an eating disorder.

She points out that you can't assess someone's health by looking at them.

She continues that she's not criticizing Adele's size or Adele in general; she's criticizing the people commenting on and celebrating the visual changes in her body.

The subject of weight loss and body positivity, as it so often does, has ignited an emotional controversy. Many people are insisting that thinner = healthier, and sharing their own weight loss stories.

People are shaming Williams for shaming people for fat-shaming.

But Williams continues to point out the problem with assuming that Adele was unhealthy before and is healthier now.

A few people have pointed to this earlier Instagram from Adele in which she seems to suggest that she's been working out, writing "I used to cry but now I sweat."

But Williams responded that exercise doesn't necessarily equate with weight loss.

Like so many controversial subjects, this debate seems to center around people projecting based on their own experiences.

This is a tricky issue—as someone who has overcome an eating disorder, I recognize the important of Williams' point and am inclined to agree with her. But I also recognize that for many people, losing weight is associated with increased health and happiness, and in those cases it is something to be celebrated.

But I think we can all agree on one thing: we just want Adele to be happy. But not so happy that she stops producing devastating breakup songs to help us get over all of our exes.

Online dating is definitely an enter-at-your-own risk situation...

While there are a lot of lonely weirdos waiting in the wings during last call at a dive bar, there are about a thousand weirdos for every one of those in the wonderful world of the internet. Of course, many people find the true loves of their lives on dating apps and they can be a great tool to learn what kind of relationship works for you or what traits you desire in a partner. Sometimes, though, online dating can feel like you're wading through a cauldron of quicksand if the quicksand was made of unsolicited nude photos...

If you're hopeful that 2020 is the year for your love life, take comfort in the fact that the struggles of being single are universal. Here are the funniest, worst and most uncomfortable Tinder messages we could find. It's the Wild West out there trying to find love!

1. Three hours is the funniest part of this.

2. "Instead of just going after the hottest girl I can hook up with."

3. NO. NO, THANKS.

4. Oops.

5. WHY TINDER WHY?

6. Wow.

7. Is a McGorgeous on the dollar menu?

8. No help wanted, thanks.

9. AHHHHH.

10. REPORT HIM NOW.

11. Do you have a thing for socks?

12. Don't attack former looks.

13. Don't Tinder high.

14. SWING AND A MISS.

15. ...

16. OH NO.

17. Wow. Just. Wow.

18. This one is complicated.

Popular slang is usually cool for about five minutes and then cringe-inducing for the rest of recorded time.

Like, there was once a time when "cool beans" and "I'll catch you on the flippity flop" were awesome things to say.

So what is the "nifty" or "neat-o" or even, dare I say it, the "for shizzle" of this accursed decade? Pop culture writer Joe Berkowitz polled Twitter to find out once and for all.

Here are the words that will no doubt haunt our generation, forever painting us as cornballs and squares.

1. "All the feels" was a great way to express every emotion without being able to accurately name one.

And today, saying "all the feels" is also a great way to get punched in the face.

2. Similarly, saying something "is everything" is basically saying it's nothing.

3. "Amazeballs" will send a shiver of douche chills down the spine of any millennial.

4. This is the decade we coined the term humblebrag, and "I did a thing" is a perfect(ly annoying) way to pretend you're modest when you're really gassing yourself up.

5. Ah yes, "I can't even," the catchphrase of network TV mean girl characters everywhere.

6. "Broseph" really was everywhere for a solid year or two, never to be heard from again.

See also its many permutations: Brosephine, Bro Biden, Wolfgang Amadeus Brozart.

7. "Totally here for it"? Totally... where?

8. The people who latched onto the whole "adulting" trend really outed themselves as giant nightmare babies, huh?

9. "On fleek" came from one of the world's most perfect Vines, so we almost want to give it a pass.

10. "Lit" really helped us weed out the f*ckboys from about 2015 to 2018. RIP.

11. Didn't this one die with HBO's "Girls"?

12. Some slang words teach us that no matter how modern we think we are, garden variety misogyny still exists. "Thot" is one of those words.

13. On the bright side, I bet a lot of the people who popularized "bae" have since been dumped.

14. "Littles" is proof that millennials are really good at making parenting as annoying as possible.

15. Owning a dog turned into a personality trait this decade. "Doggo" and "pupper" are the unfortunately linguistic side effects.

16. "Karen" definitely crossed into slang territory in this decade, and the people who use it are more annoying than the Karens they lampoon.

17. Okay but calling something "iconic" is iconic.

18. "Stan" culture crossed into the mainstream and you can actually thank Eminem for the terminology.

19. People who tack "said no one ever" onto a statement are always so satisfied with themselves, too.

20. "I just threw up in my mouth": funny when Leslie Mann said it in "The 40-Year-Old Virgin," horrifying when your co-worker says it.

21. "Totes" was bad, "totes magoats" was apocalyptic.

22. And finally, "YOLO": the innocuous acronym that Drake turned into an omnipresent harbinger of the end times.

But also, it's still kind of hilarious.

Online dating is pretty much the norm these days when it comes to looking for love. But just because everyone's doing it (and doing it), doesn't mean everyone's doing it well. There are so many components: you have to make a compelling profile, woo someone electronically, and then transition into an in-person interaction without one or both of you dying of awkwardness and/or being disappointed. If you've struck out with online dating, you're in good (and plentiful) company.

People on Reddit are sharing their online dating fails. Here are 25 stories from people whose attempts at finding electronic love ended in disappointment and/or disaster:

1.) From Fen_Misting:

Matched with someone on a dating website (before Tinder). Got to talking, seemed like a chill dude, even though there were red flags (he insisted we were dating before we met and I wasn't allowed to talk to anyone). Agreed to meet up with him at a cafe by work. Organised with my receptionist she would ring me at an allotted time and tell me I had to come back to work, so I had an out. Met with the guy for coffee, it seemed well enough, then my girl rang me, so I told him I had to get back. His response was "I've got my work van here, do you want to jump in the back and have a quickie?". I noped out of there and went back to work.

A couple of months later he ended up coming into my work to see my boss. I made polite small talk with him then when he left my boss called me into her office to ask how I knew him. Turned out he was married to my bosses niece and I dodged a fucking bullet.

2.) From NeelKnuts:

I have a duck and I accidentaly wrote "dick"

3.) From MattSouth:

Chatted with them a year by phone, once we met we had nothing to talk about and it was the most awkward encounter of my life.

4.) From brucekeller:

Not being exciting or witty enough in the text game. In real life my expressions and demeanor save me, not so much online.

5.) From brucekeller:

Not being exciting or witty enough in the text game. In real life my expressions and demeanor save me, not so much online.

6.) From ealoft:

Not realizing how much can be lost in the absence of voice inflection and physical social queues.

7.) From dinnersateight:

Oh man, the first time I contacted someone (it was via The Onion personals, which were really a thing in 2005), I just made fun of a band she said she liked. I wrote something like, “My only problem is that you are into (band)” She replied (as she should have), “My only problem is that the only thing you offer is a criticism”. I still cringe.

8.) From hotchocolatelover:

Putting all my eggs in one basket. Once I start a conversation with one person, I just stick with that person until I know it's not going to go anywhere. I can't deal with trying to remember stuff about two+ people at the same time. I don't mind though if the person I'm talking to is talking to more than one person as long as if we're on a date, they're not on the phone to them or mix us up.

9.) From toaster_jack:

Not trying it sooner. At the end of the day, we’re all just people looking to connect and share a Netflix account.

10.) From D_Thought:

Matched a girl who seemed too good to be true. Assumed she was a bot and left a snarky message about it (nobody was gonna read it anyway).

She replied, upset, and then unmatched me.

11.) From zetecvan:

Using Plenty Of Fish, the free dating site. It was like the Netto of dating sites. I chatted briefly with one woman before telling her I was going out for a few drinks.

Next day I checked my messages and she had sent some. It started with "why don't you come round to mine and get drunk together", progressing to "why are you ignoring me", then to "I think you're gorgeous and we will be good together" and finally "don't you Fucking ignore me".

I sent her a message the next day to never contact me again.

12.) From alaf44:

Getting hundreds of matches on tinder but not going on a single date with someone I initially met from the app.

13.) From Sinnes-loeschen:

Agreeing to meet someone with a topless profile pic.

My god he was vain.

14.) From hayisforhorses101:

She was being flirty but I just kept asking "how's your day going" "what are you up to" and other generic questions until she stopped and never messaged me back

15.) From ThatsASaabStory:

I met with this very attractive woman off Upper middle class tinder (Bumble).

She was way hotter than me.

At some point during the evening, she leans forward on her bar stool, narrows her eyes and goes "I know there was some reason I swiped right on you".

Because at this point she could not remember 😂

16.) From chinnick967:

Went on a date with a girl from Tinder one time who told me that she found children very attractive...

After that I stopped mentioning that I had a child on my profile (and took down the pic of me and my daughter) and just brought it up with the girls that I felt were likely to stick around after meeting in person.

17.) From AstroZombie357:

Making a profile then never signing back in even when I get an email notification that someones interested.

18.) Not exactly a fail, from yeetingsmillenials:

Finding a wonderful guy and then cancelling the date last minute because I wasn't over my ex.

Joke's on me, we rematched 10 months later, he gave me shit about my behaviour last time and told me because of that I had to come up with an idea now. March will mark our 1 year anniversary^{^}

19.) From Just_an_Empath:

I got more matches on Tinder posing as Adolf Hitler than myself.

20.) From walee1:

I end up befriending the girls I meet instead of dating them. To me a girlfriend should be a friend too but that doesn't work for most people so I just have a lot of friends now. Which is all cool until you end up crushing after one of them who doesn't feel the same way about you

21.) From triedbone:

Not realizing that the guys who look like they don't have much going on are normally the chill, kind, humble kind of guys I'm looking for. Just met the most amazing one! Also, any time a guy says he is a nice guy... RUN!

22.) From djm2491:

Met with a girl at a bar in Philadelphia on a Friday night around 6PM. It was fun and we drank a lot, but I noticed that she was pacing MUCH faster than me. I had around 4 beers in the time it too her to drink 7 martinis ($15 a glass). We are getting along well and she says that she needs to use the rest room. She took her jacket and purse to the restroom. I didn't think much of it but after an hour of sitting at the bar alone waiting I realized that I got used for a heavy pregame.

The bartender kinda realized it. When I asked for the tab he shrugged and was like "shit happens mate. I took two drinks off your tab."

23.) From Kittii_Kat:

Most of the fails are typical not-super-hot guy problems (almost no matches or messages, depending on the site)

The biggest fail in my ex. We spent 5.5yrs together, I was super supportive of her (getting her on her feet in life, covering expenses for the first two years until she stabilized.. helped her find her first job, helped her through college, helped her get her first job after college, helped her with her first job after college..)

But then the moment I start struggling with money/finding a job (we moved across the country for the one she got), she kicks me out. I mean, I was struggling for a while.. about a year.

A month after she kicked me out, I managed to land a job. Good times.

24.) From jenax:

For the last five years, my biggest tinder fail was when people would look at my profile and see that I am Asian and then not read the very first thing that I’ve written, which is that I’m 5’10”/1.77m. And then they would be shocked when I show up at or above eye level. One person had the gall to tell me he “had a great time, but I really thought you were more, you know, petite" while gesturing at my figure and then compacting it.

That is no longer the worst thing to come out of tinder. A few months ago I went on a date with a self proclaimed communist. He said this loudly, in a Chinese restaurant. When asked what kind of communist philosophy he was drawn by, he replied “oh you know, normal communism. Not North Korea communism” and all I could think of was how most communist countries were totalitarian regimes who starved their people and wondered if this is what he meant by normal.

He proceeded douse the stir fry we ordered with chili oil instead of partitioning off a serving for himself and seasoning that. It stood out to me as a particularly classless cherry on top of a heaping shit sundae.

25.) From doctaliz:

Dated a guy who was in a Poli-sci PhD program (confirmed) who had a law degree (confirmed) but had “left practice because he didn’t enjoy it.”
Nope. Had been arrested for a federal hate crime as a neo-Nazi and was ineligible to practice. Thank god for google.

26.) From Udderside:

I thought I had a pretty sick pickup line, which was ‘you’re so cute you make a baby deer look like a pile of shit.’

Needless to say, I’m still single

It's the most wonderful time of the year to dig up childhood resentments! One thing almost every human being has in common is that we are all at least a little bit screwed up by something our parent(s) or guardians did (or didn't do). And no one knows more about the things our parents did wrong than therapists. Parenting mistakes are their bread-and-butter.

Someone asked therapists of Reddit: "what is the number one thing parents did to screw up their kid so they had to seek help in adulthood?" These 19 therapists weigh in on the biggest mistakes parents make that are keeping them steadily employed:

(Read with caution, cookies, and Kleenex on hand as these answers may be triggering if you have imperfect parents, which most of us do.)

1.) From Chubuwee:

Behavioral therapist here

Catch your kids being good!

Parents are always telling kids what they did wrong. You have to balance it out by telling them what they are doing right.

2.) From Polyfuckery:

Teaching them that failure is unacceptable/a sign of laziness or that they just didn't want it enough. It results in people who can't take no for an answer or stay it terrible situations because that's what they've chosen so they have to make it work.

3.) From radleraz:

Psychologist here, parents are frequently their child's first bully. #1 thing is probably being too distracted by addictions, grief, mental health issues to be emotionally present for their child. Too many adults walking around unaware of their worth because they were never shown or told that they matter.

4.) From PsychoPhilosopher:

Actual therapist: Failing to admit it when you're wrong.

Kids need to see adults fail and that be OK. Take your lumps with grace and they'll learn to do the same as they get older. Fight and deny and they'll do two things:

5.) From iammissx:

Actual therapist here- not offering their children unconditional love.

When a child does something wrong, it’s important to explain to them what they’ve done wrong. It’s a matter of saying ‘I love you so I want to explain why this is an issue for me’. Parents need to be open to a conversation with their children about why something is an issue, instead of storming off or shouting at them.

Children need to feel loved no matter what. That’s honestly the most valuable thing I’ve learnt as a therapist.

6.) From ammavel:

Therapist here (LMFT). Probably the biggest and most common fuck up I see is parents shaming their child for having their own identity and personal interests separate from the parent(s).

Just support your kid and don't try to force them to be someone they're not. Don't call them weird or tell them their likes are stupid. Show interest in the things they like and let them teach you about those things.

Also, don't take it personally if your child is not an exact replica of you. Kids are human, and like all humans, despite all our similarities, there vast differences as well. You can learn to celebrate and value those differences, or EVERYONE can be miserable.

7.) From magicpurplecat:

Made the child take care of the parents emotions. Its supposed to be the other way around. You control your sadness, anger, disappointment, don't make your kid anticipate your emotional response and work to regulate you.

8.) From robrtsmtn:

Social Worker for 25 years. Inconsistencies: poor kiddo never knows how to react because they never get a consistent response.

9.) From p3rviepanda:

Therapist here also.

I see a number of teens and some of the things I have noticed in the population that really does a number on them are:

Parents failing to keep their promises and consistently repeating the promises and never fulfill them

When your child does something wrong - don't sweep it under the carpet, be passive aggressive or stonewalling.

Not trusting them enough - always in helicopter mode

Not validating their feelings - hey it is okay you are angry. Anger is an emotion. Your kids have the right to feel that. This also goes for not encouraging them to discuss their emotions

Not apologizing when you should. You are a human as much as your child irrespective of how old he or she is. When you are in the wrong, say sorry and talk about what you can do differently next time. You are setting a positive model for your child ( please remember )

Lack of communication - I cannot even emphasize enough how many teens I see or clients in general lack communication skills.

10.) From GetMeTheJohnsonFile:

Therapist here, the most common thing I hear from clients is they never had proper modelling of emotions, and they now have the inability to identify or articulate their own emotions effectively. The most common intervention I use with clients is to show them the Wheel of Emotion and encourage them to check in with it a few times a day--I like to do it when I refill my water bottle.

11.) From SoYouThinkTHATWasBad:

Ignoring a child's emotional life by scolding them for having one or telling them to "suck it up." It's remarkable the amount of clients I see that need to learn that having feelings is OK and not a cause for alarm or punishment.

12.) ​​​​​​From aMoustachioedMan:

I used to work as a Counsellor. The thing that stood out the most to me was the number of people, usually women and the oldest female sibling, who were saddled with the left over parenting duties the actual parents couldn’t handle.. whether it was babysitting all the time, being the parents’ shoulder to cry on, being responsible for all of the housework, dealing with the financial burden of raising a family.... This led to wonderful, smart young women who were so used to caring for everyone else, being the “rock” that their teenage years/childhoods were essentially non existent and their adult relationships suffered as a result. From memory it’s called Parentification. And it is incredibly unfair young people find themselves in this type of situation.

13.) From mdadvocate:

Constant invalidation.

"You shouldn't feel sad, you were being too hyper and that is why you are being punished."

Seems innocent enough even without context.

"Shouldn't feel sad" is a problematic statement though. People feel what they feel no matter the context, so you need to talk to your child "Why are you sad? Is it because you are being punished? Timeout won't last forever, you only have 1 minute left. I still love you blah blah blah."... whatever works for your family dynamic, but children need to be able to appropriately label their feelings from a young age.

I am sad because I didn't get what I wanted. I can do better in the future and maybe get what I want. BOOM. I'm out of a job. Hint, their are many parents who cannot do this, and they cannot teach their children to do it either.

14.) From piss-mud:

My therapist has been making me realize my dad and stepmom don’t validate my emotions and has been trying to teach them how to, it’s crazy because I never really noticed it before really. If I’d get upset about something my dad would always be like “don’t get upset” or “you don’t need to cry “ stuff like that

15.) From loritree:

Teacher here. My best advice is only have kids if you want kids. If you treat your kids poorly, doesn’t matter the reason, they learn poor treatment. Treat you kids like you love them.

16.) From Headshothero:

There are a few things:

1. "Cry it out" and other forms of emotional disconnection/neglect. - look into Dr. Bruce Perry's work on the impacts of neglect.

2. Controlling behaviours - it backfires. Have a chunky kid, do not try and control the food, look at the underlying purpose of over eating. Controlling the access to food will develop an unhealthy relationship with food.

3. Reduce the amount you praise your kids. It's not awful, but encouragement is far more effective. "You worked hard on that, you must be proud" vs "you're amazing!".

4. Neglect in general - abuse sucks, but at a minimum, the victim can sometimes externalize their experience (although most often they will internalize regardless).. but neglect... that's damn near guaranteed internalized victimization.

5. Ongoing trauma. Seeing your mom get a black eye or getting hit by a parent one time is easier to dismiss than constant abuse/mistreatment. Even if the constant abuse is less 'harsh' it is the normalization of the behaviour.

17.) ​​​​​​​From Insectshelf3:

don’t fucking discourage the use of medicine to fix mental health issues for fucks sake.

fuck you mom

18.) From Subtlelights:

Emotionally invalidating your children

Example:

Child comes running up to mummy screaming with a minor cut.

Child: it hurts!

Parent: no it doesn't, you're ok! Its just small, keep playing.

Yes the cut is small and the kid is ok but that wasn't the point. The child was trying to tell you something important TO THEM and you told them it wasn't real.

This enforces the idea that you wont listen and eventually that child becomes the angry sullen teen who screams the same.

19.) From Highplowp:

Therapist here- The most common issue I come across us enabling children. Some parents have the ability to actually make excuses or reasons for every challenging behavior and place blame on other people. They are more interested in being seen as friends with their kids than actually parenting and seeing that their children are learning/making mistakes. It creates a type of child that is a lazy perfectionist, unwilling to be accountable or try anything outside of their comfort zone. I fear adulthood for these kids

Marriage can be tough — so tough, in fact, it might take a couple of tries with the same person to get it right.

A recent Reddit thread asked people who married the same person twice to share their stories. Some of them work out, some of them don't.

1. Some people just need to live apart for a while.

My mom and dad married out of high school. When they were 26 they got divorced. They divorced because of the stress of three kids, my dad was in the Air Force and was deployed all the time, and while neither parent has confirmed it but based on some jokes I believe my dad was also unfaithful and in general he was just very immature. My mom left him because in her words she had, "three kids to take care of, grad school to get through, and didn't have time for his bullshit."

They both went on to have different relationships and lives. They barely saw each other unless it was to trade us kids off. Then around the time my sister and I started playing sports my dad started to come around more to watch us. We lived about 6 hours away and mom let him stay at the house when needed. He went from sleeping on the couch to her bedroom within a football season. They got married again the next summer after 6-7 years apart. Been together ever since and practically do everything together. - crimsoneagle1

2. This couple couldn't have a rational conversation until they got divorced.

The wife and I got in a year long fight. We married young at 22 and were not on the same page about being married. She wanted to sow her wild oats and I wanted us to start growing up and take on more responsibility.

We ultimately got divorced at my urging because I wanted to move on.

About a month after the divorce was final we started talking to each other like adults. We had some hard conversations about what wasn't working. We started dating after cautiously considering if we were frickin' crazy.

A year later we got married in Vegas. It's been 16 years since the divorce and we're happily married with 2 great kids. Our journey has taken some wrong turns but it's our journey and we wouldn't change it for anything.

The lesson we share with everyone who asks is getting married young isn't for everyone. Don't rush into a relationship. Make sure to make time to be yourself and appreciate your partner for who they are, not who you want them to be. - brokenindu

3. This couple was brought back together by a baby.

My mom and dad split when I was 5 and my sister was 7. They were young with two kids and incredibly broke. I don’t know the full story or all the details but I’m sure those things all just caught up to them in the end. It was a really rough divorce, especially for us kids. They were separated for 3 years or so. Lived in separate apartments etc. My mom started seeing a new guy - although we never saw my dad with anyone - I’m sure he was seeing people too.

Some years passed - their rebounds came and went. They both got stable jobs and started seeing each other more. Showing up at Christmas together - attending soccer games together. When I was 9 or so they decided to rent a house. One year later they found out they were pregnant with my little sister. They got remarried about a year after my little sister was born. That was 21 years ago. They are sincerely one of the happiest couples I’ve ever been around. You never would have thunk it 25 years or so ago.

Sometimes space and refocus is actually all you need! Happy Christmas! - nggaswithaptitude

4. Sometimes re-marriages don't end up working out.

My parents got pregnant in their senior year of high school and married over the summer on my mom’s 18th birthday because she wouldn’t ask her parents to sign the marriage certificate. My brother was born a few months later and they stuck it out for a year before divorcing.

Then my dad got drafted to Vietnam and when he came home 19 months later went straight to my mom to see my brother. They remarried, trying to do the right thing. All they got out of that marriage was me, they divorced a few years later before my first birthday.

They’ve always remained civil, even friendly but I have no idea how they stayed married as long as they did, they’re very different, non-compatible personalities. - cmeinsea

5. Other times they're symptomatic of a bad pattern.

My mom did this, with my now-former stepfather. I can say for certain that it was daddy father issues [Edit: my apologies, apparently the phrase “daddy issues” carries some sexist connotations that I was unaware of]. Her father died when she was young, and it left her with an unresolved terror of loneliness and abandonment, so she kept getting sucked back into a toxic relationship wherein both she and I were getting abused.

It took her a long time to begin understanding her own root causes, way too long after the fact, but at least she finally and completely kicked him to the curb. - gnosticpopsicle

6. This just seems like a waste of paperwork.

Had a friend once who married her high school sweetheart, then divorced on their 5 year anniversary just so they could get married again - LyteRay1943

7. This man escaped addiction to get his family back.

I knew a guy who's wife and kids left him because he was an alcoholic. Kept getting arrested and couldn't hold a job. He finally decided to get sober and quit drinking. Started his own rental property management business. Got his feet on the ground and started to reach out and help other alcoholics. Eventually got back together with his ex wife and they got remarried. The sad part is that he died in a freak accident fixing their RV a few years ago then his son died a few months later in a school shooting. - zismahname

8. This one's like a soap opera.

A family friend did this. They split up the first time because she was cheating on him and they both remarried. Original wife then cheated on her new husband with original husband, and the original husband left his new wife for the original wife *. They re-marry. Everyone is counting down the days until it goes wrong.

Original wife then cheats on and leaves original husband. They divorce. Again.

/* To make this even worse the new husband of original wife hung himself when she left him, and new wife of original husband had a nervous breakdown. */ - MyKettleExploded

9. This couple might have initially married a little too young, but it worked out.

My first husband and I married pretty young after college. We were generally happy, but it seemed like our lives were moving in different directions (geographically and metaphysically). We split up. We dated other people: went through the motions, mechanically-- loved other people, sure; but without the sense of destiny and certainty we had with one another. Finally, over a decade after breaking it off, we got back together and have never been happier. Now we have the life experience to know that what we have is irreplaceably special. The stupid small things that seemed problematic back then, we now know to be non-issues. We've seen so many other couples fight and struggle for what we have naturally. We're so, so lucky. - throwitfaaaaaraway12

10. This couple took care of their mental health before giving it another go.

I dated my girlfriend for about 5 years before we split up. We had been living together but her anxiety and my depression led to a pretty terrible situation. After being apart for 1 1/2 years, we had both worked on our mental health and gotten good jobs. We both realized that we liked just talking to each other more than being with anyone else. We got married in 2017 and are still going strong. - Bully3510

11. And this couple worked out after the man sought help for his issues.

My sister did this. They divorced because he was controlling. Not physically abusive as far as I'm aware. After the divorce he went into counseling and got his shit together. They later remarried 1 or 2 years later. - Gogo726

12. And finally, there's this situation.

My biological parents married and divorced each other twice all before I was 5yrs old. They’ve gone on the marry other ppl (two each) but they have been cheating with each other on and off throughout their other marriages. She’s got bpd and he’s a narcissist. They are a match made in hell and they truly deserve each other. - barista_ennui

A man (who else?) accused Lizzo of being popular just because of her weight, and she completely called him out.

The concern troll attributed Lizzo's popularity to the obesity epidemic in America.

This is a wild suggestion to make, in part because there are only like three overweight celebs at any given moment. People are in awe of Lizzo because of her talent. Her refusal to be shamed into silence by shamers like Watkins is a major bonus. But without the immense talent and hard work, she probably wouldn't be where she is.

Watkins didn't stop there. He added a few more nasty tweets implying she's a "buffoon" and bringing up the Lakers game thong that men just can't seem to get over.

Then he threw in something about R. Kelly and female role models that I just cannot understand no matter how hard I try.

Lizzo apparently saw the tweets and was not amused.

She responded with a call-out and an appeal for him to do better:

People are applauding her for putting the guy in his place.

And back on Watkins' page, people are roundly roasting him.

They're pointing out that even if Watkins really did genuinely care about Lizzo's health, shaming her is not the answer.

Most of all, it's obvious to anyone that Lizzo's popularity is due to her hard work and talent.

Hopefully in the next decade, men will get over Lizzo's body shape.

As a city dweller who won't stray more than six blocks from a 7-eleven, I find the woods terrifying even in bright sunlight. Not sure what's scarier: the potential bear attacks, or the lack of access to Diet Coke and protein bars. The woods at night is another level of horror I can't even begin to imagine. But there are people who venture into the woods after dark of their own volition—for "fun"! And many of them have even survived to talk about it.

Overnight hikers, hunters, and other brave outdoorsy souls are sharing the creepiest things they've encountered in the woods at night. These 19 hair-raising stories may just prevent you from ever leaving an urban environment—or your home—ever again:

1.) From Jimmy6shoes:

Breathing... just heavy breathing right outside my tent loud enough to wake me up. Not like fat guy going up the stairs breathing. Very large intense clear breathing. Middle of the night, no animal sounds no grunting no foot steps, just breathing from something large. I loaded my shotgun and pointed it in the direction it was coming from and waited for what seemed like a lifetime (probably 2-3 min) until it just stopped. I did not sleep the rest of the night and I didn’t go out until the morning. No signs of any animals or people in my camp, no footprints, nothing disturbed. Still to this day I don’t know what it was. As an experienced hunter who has chased away bears from my camp I have never been so scared.

2.) From Subliminal_Image:

A number of years ago I was up in the northern end of BC in the islands out by Port Hardy. I set up camp right by the beach close to shore did the normal catch a fish cook it for dinner on the campfire thing. Perfect really.

A few hours pass and its getting dark I climb into the tent and fall asleep quickly. I get woken up by extremely heavy breathing on the beach from something BIG. In the area of my fire but the tide was in now so the waves would have covered it. My first thought is bear but on the islands where I was bear were not common at all to the point that there hasnt been one documented ever. This is blasting though my mind but than the urban talk of Bigfoot runs through my mind, at this point I am like there is no such thing as bigfoot so what the hell is it?!

I gain my courage and open my tent. I shine my flashlight around but I dont see anything so I get out of my tent. I am shining my light around when I hear it again. This huge breath but followed by a small splash. I focus my light on the beach when I see a massive Orca rolling around on the kelp right about where my fire was. This behemoth of a marine mammal scared the living shit out of it but it turned into being one of the most amazing events I ever witnessed. As I sat watching this massive animal rolling and playing yards from me I noticed more of them just off shore just bobbing there prob half asleep. Needless to say I did not sleep after that until they left.

3.) From mobius5150:

Hiking alone in Washington. Late fall so it’s cold and few people on the trail.

I’m halfway up a steep, switchbacked climb and laying down to take a break when two guys come along descending the trail. I wave and they wave back. As they get close one of them suddenly says “oh, you’re alone” and then smiles at his friend. I get a little freaked out and I guess my dog sensed it because she stood up and stared sternly at them. She’s an 80lb black lab and full of love, but can look very intimidating.

The guys saw her and completely changed and quickly hurried on their way. I’m not sure if they were gonna do something creepy, but I picked a much less obvious campsite that night.

4.) From Nothivemindedatall:

...Was riding my horse down a trail. Heard a noise, tink tink, like glass. Looked down and saw a mouse in a glass bottle; it couldn't get out. Stopped, tipped the bottle and let the little one go...

..was riding my horse down a trail and heard a dog whine... real quiet... i whistled it started barking. Rode that way and found the dog; it was a german shorthair hunting dog who had tried to get out of a creek and had gotten his collar hung up in a root. Goodness knows how long he was there, he was skinny. On his last legs if you know what i mean. Had a collar with owner info engraved; called them and they were speechless. That dog had been missing for three weeks. He surely was in the water that long....

Edit: yes the dog survived. Life is tough. It was a hot summer, the dog was very physically fit and well taken care of (active competitive hunting dog).

5.) From -Extendochicken-:

I was solo camping the chatooga River. It was maybe midnight when I felt my hammock start to shake violently. I poke my head out and it’s a goddamn raccoon trying to steal my boots, This was my first time solo camping and I nearly shit a hole through my pants. And it didn’t end there. Those little gremlins tormented me all night long. Constantly trying to steal my shit. Moral to the story, Don’t feed the animals people.

6.) From puppyduckydoo:

1. I'm sleeping in my hammock in the woods off the Appalachian Trail somewhere and am woken up by something walking very quietly under me. It was tall enough to lift my feet up as it went under me, which is terrifying to wake up to in the middle of the night. Probably a deer, but scared the crap out of me.

2. Hiking in Africa with a group of about 8 friends: I felt something behind me so I turn around and find myself eye to eye with a giant alpha male baboon. I handed over my backpack, which is what he was reaching for, and he proceeded to carry it a few meters away, sit down, and stare at me while he unzipped the zippers and inspected every item. He ate what was food and left the rest. He then proceeded to stalk/chase us all the way out of the gorge, coming back twice for more stuff. We tried scaring him off and even pepper sprayed him in the face but he just shook it off. It was one of the most awesome and terrifying experiences of my life that I hope to never repeat.

7.) From Stentata:

Was deep in a state park in North Carolina at a primitive campsite with my mom. We were setting up camp after hiking 15 miles in and it started getting dark. We had a fire going but needed more wood to keep it burning through the night so we were poking around the perimeter of the firelight picking up sticks. My mom started reaching for a long branch behind a log but something about it gave her pause. She pulled another stick from the bundle she’d already gathered and hit the one on the ground. It started writhing, coiled up and started rattling at her. We both jumped back and watched as a 7 ft rattlesnake slithered away into the woods. We decided we had enough wood.

8.) From Dekkars:

I was out camping in the white mountains during winter time, when all of a sudden I start hearing branches cracking and snow crunching. I peer out of my tent to see a moose, maybe ten feet away, it's head down to the ground staring at me.

I slowly crawled back into my tent and it kept eating twigs. I was more worried it was going to accidentally step on me.

9.) From Kagalera:

Not exactly hiker/hunter/etc but... I was walking back to my parents country house a bunch of years ago. It was this time of the year so it got dark pretty soon.

I was around 16 years old and coming back from meeting friends.1 km remaining of walk, on the other side of the road I saw a lantern, couldn't see any details of the person however. Seconds later, he/she aims at me with the light for what I felt so long, then it gets turned off and disappears in the darkness. I don't think I have ran faster in my life.

10.) From transparentfortress:

My boyfriend and I were camping in Peter Lougheed Provincial Park (AB) this past summer. On the last night of our stay, as I'm falling asleep my bf tells me I've been pushing him off his side of the air mattress (I was trying to steal heat from him, as he's a human furnace) and asks me to give him room. Sounds good, we go to sleep.

I wake up to him shoving me and think I'm crowding him by accident, so I move over a little. He shoves me harder and I'm annoyed now because I already moved and I'm tired so I somewhat loudly say "I'm moving!" And he grabs be and shushes me. I know something is wrong and am awake right away.

He whispers very softly, "do you hear something?" And right away I hear the unmistakable exhaling huff of a bear right by my head. My heart is pounding because at this point I can hear it sniffing us and huffing (which is not good if you know grizzlies). My bf says we need to get to our truck and I agree, but from what I can hear, the bear is between our tent and truck. Luckily we have command start and our truck has a very aggressive start, so when my bf started the truck, I heard some crashing through the trees and we both ran to the truck.

We drove a lap around our campground to make sure the bear hadnt gone into anyone else's site, but didn't see it. We slept in the truck until it was light out and let the wildlife hotline in the area know before we left. We started second guessing ourselves because this all happened at about 1:30am, but when we were packing up the tent that next day we found coarse, brown hair all over the side of the tent where our heads were and on the grill of the truck. I've never been so terrified and full of adrenaline in my life.

11.) From DarkoEnterprises:

My friend and I were searching for the perfect camping spot for about a year. After trying out quite a few we found one that seemed perfect. It was about a half hour walk from any trail or road and on top of a large cliff over a river. We got camp set up and decided to scout out around the area. It was getting dark so we started heading back, following the sound of the river to guide us when we spotted something... A shack.

We stop and look at each other, and decide we better investigate because it is pretty close to where we are going to be sleeping and this is weird. We get closer and realize it is basically a teepee made from scraps of aluminum and other sheet metal and a tarp. There is a inflated air mattress inside, and wine and whisky bottles EVERYWHERE. There was also porn and a lot of extremely weird objects that someone normally would not have out camping. This place is a couple hours from any town and like I said, at least a half hour from any road or trail. There were no vehicles parked anywhere even remotely close because we would have seen them in our travels. We came to the conclusion that whoever had been here must have left, and they obviously did not want to be found.

Then, on our way out, I noticed the campfire was still smouldering.

We got the fuck out of there. Immediately packed up camp and blindly made our way back to the road. Fuck that, ive watched enough horror movies to know that us teenage white boys would not be waking up that morning.

12.) From PM_YOUR_TOYOTA:

I was spending three days kayaking on the Coorong. I was having a great time and really enjoying the serenity and listening to the native birds and just appreciating nature. On the first day I heard what I could have sworn was a human not screaming, screeching I guess?

I didn't think much of it and kept paddling. I saw what looked like a body close to the shore and found a seal that had just been eviscerated. Honestly this thing was spread all over the beach. No footprints of any kind, just a seal in a hundred pieces. After the screeching and the seal I was a little creeped out but just continued my trip. Nothing of event really happened that night except that I kept hearing splashes from the water in front of me, yet when I checked there was nothing there.

The next day I went out again with the same plan. Just paddle until I got tired and then set up camp and go to bed. Unfortunately for me I got stuck on mud bog and had to spend a solid hour dragging my kayak across this thing to get to the other side of the water where I saw a deeper channel and a bunch of sand dunes.

After what feels like maybe 40 minutes of struggling with my kayak and this bog I saw a figure atop one of the sand dunes. Logically it was probably a random tourist like me or maybe a kangaroo, I stared at it for a second before getting back to trying to cross this bog. When I looked back it was gone. Weird...

Anyway, i set up camp for my last night, I was a bit creeped out by the seal and the noises and now this figure so I made sure I had my knife with me. I set up my tent a bit away from the water in an open area so I could see everything around me. As I was eating dinner I couldn't help but feel I was being watched, as it was a total fire ban in the area I didn't have a fire so I couldn't see much. I chalked it up to nerves and went for a short walk to explore the area I was in and wander down to the beach.

Now for some context the beach nearby is LOUD, you can't hear much other than crashing waves which makes what happened next especially eerie. I heard that fucking screeching again and looked back to where I came from. Again a figure was standing in right by the path where I walked to the beach. Fuck that I thought, I pulled by knife out and approached where I thought I saw this thing, there was just a week old fish that looked like it had been hung on the fence and forgotten.

As I walked back down the path I heard what sounded like a kangaroo or wallaby just lightly hopping behind me, but when I looked back there was nothing there. Honestly I just climbed into my tent and prayed to god there was nothing around. It's kind of anti climactic but nothing else really happened, I think I heard that screeching once more and then I didn't hear it again.

Apparently there are a few indigenous graveyards in the area, I'm not one for superstition but if I'm being honest this experience really spooked me.

13.) From m47playon:

I was hunting in Wyoming staying in a box trailer near the edge of a big open field. I woke up around one or two A.M and had to use the bathroom. So I went outside behind the trailer and started to relieve my self, as I’m doing my business I looked to my left and saw three sets of eyes staring back at me from the edge of the field I noped back to the trailer so fast.

14.) From anawfuldisgrace:

Backpacking in the woods with a group. I'm a bit of an insomniac, so I was up far after everyone else. We wanted to pack as light as possible and it was summer so we just had a tarp on the ground and put our sleeping bags on top of it. So we are completely out in the open.

It was after midnight and I was still tossing and turning. Then I hear footsteps. I had heard a deer/coyote or something else with four legs running through the brush earlier, but this was definitely bipedal.

What/whoever it was came right to the edge of the clearing, about 15ft from us. I could just barely make out a shadow of the figure, but it was pitched black out and hard to tell what it looked like. It looked like it was swaying side to side, or looking around the clearing.

Then it turned and rushed into the woods, and I heard the running footsteps. Once they faded into the distance I finally felt like I could breath, I was considering waking someone up.

Then I heard the most blood curtling scream from the direction the thing went. I shook my friend awake(who was more experienced and familiar with the area) . All he said was,"dude its just a fox, go back to sleep."

I told him I heard the footsteps and saw it and it was not a fox, but he just dismissed it completely and insisted I go back to sleep.

I sat there for what felt like forever feeling paranoid and scared, until I just gave up and took and extra dose of my sleep meds because I figured the anticipation was worse than being killed in my sleep.

15.) From insert-bacon-emoji:

This memory is over 20 years old, and super foggy because I was super little, but here goes. We used to camp at this same spot every year, until we moved. Anyway, this one summer I remember when we were first pitching our tent, the nearest campers came over to say hello and pass on some advice that had been spreading across the campground. Something about bears, and how everyone should haul their food up in the trees or something. I remember the guy offering my Dad some spare rope, if he needed any. All seemed fine and dandy. Mom was antsy, but Dad assured her a bear wouldn't come into a campground this busy.

On Night Two or Three, everyone was woken to a crash, and the sounds of a car alarm. I remember pressing my hand over my sister's mouth because I was afraid that if she cried the bear would come over. Or something silly like that. There was some distant shouting, and my Dad decided to investigate. So he grabbed the tiny little skillet and his equally dis-sized (but in the opposite proportions) flashlight, and exited the tent. I remember rolling over, because there was this little tear I'd discovered the last time it rained. There were a lot of flashlights and people over by the bathroom, where a car's lights were flashing.

It wasn't a bear that had been breaking into people's cars and stealing shit all summer. It was a crazy homeless guy who'd been hiding out in the woods. They were actually pretty sure he was the same guy who'd tried to attack two teenage girls at one of the nearby hiking trails a few weeks prior, leading to it being closed for the time being.

16.) From dagofin:

Was hiking along the north shore of Lake Superior in Minnesota, if you've never been, it's really thick old growth forest. There's a ~360 mile hiking trail from Duluth to the Canadian border, really well developed campsites and enough traffic that I wouldn't feel unsafe on it anywhere.

For this particular trip, we(my hiking buddy and I), wanted to turn it into a loop instead of an out and back on the same trail. Scoped out a section that's connected with some back roads and a snowmobile trail that would work as our loop.

As we're hiking on one of the dirt back roads, see a random dirt biker approach us, stop maybe a hundred yards back, and stare for a while. Kinda unnerving with him just staring at us for a while, but he eventually turned and left.

We eventually get to a log shelter on the snowmobile trail that we planned as campsite 1. Nice relaxing campsite, go to bed. Woke up in the middle of the night (full moon), and I swore there were two moonlit silhouettes standing on either side of my tent. Not sure if I dreamed it or it was real, but freaky as fuuuuuuuck, remember just staying as still/silent as possible for as long as possible.

17.) From deaths_merchant:

I was out camping one night by myself and started hearing voices, I was playing music and it was around 2 in the morning my grandmas house was about 2 miles down the river and o thought it might have been my grandpa, so I turned off my music so I could tell back but I heard a dog and my grandma or Grandpa don't have dogs, then I heard someone say " the noise was this way" this genuinely freaked me out so I climbed one of the pine trees and sat up there about 5-7 minutes later I saw a flashlight in the distance and saw two people walking up, they were both men and there was a I believe a husky German hybrid with them they ransacked my camp and I swear they should've noticed me cuz they shined the lights around and pasted right over me, after they left I started to walk home cuz you know fuck that shit, I heard 2 loud bangs (sounded like a rifle) and I booked it when I got home I stood in the porch for a second and saw their lights at the edge of the woods, I can assure you I will never camp alone again, it wasn't even hunting season so they shouldnt have even been out with a gun and if they were it should have been at least a handgun not a rifle, but I'm still not sure what kind of gun it was, I hate dark forests now though and I got hella bad paranoia from this

18.) From passw:

Hiking deep into a National forest and I found a campfire in the middle of nowhere at night. Not weird or uncommon by any means, people tend to pop up where you least expect them outdoors. But upon further examination in the fire was a US army uniform and what seemed to be some of their possessions. Tried to pull out the wallet with their military ID but It was pretty much a glob or plastic. Something just felt unnerving about the situation.

19.) From SuperBattleBros:

We were camping at Long Beach, Washington for the kite festival, and decided to take a late night drive.

We found ourselves on some back roads in the woods, cruising along slowly with no music on and the windows down. No other cars but us, and suddenly everything just felt wrong. It was dark, but the light seemed different somehow. I remember the hair on the back of my neck standing up and just having the thought, "this isn't right, we shouldn't be here". I look over and my wife is wide eyed and clearly feeling the same way. I decided to pull over so I could turn around and head back the way we came.

Then we noticed deer were coming out of the woods and standing on the sides of the road, and they were just...staring at us. Realize the woods are oddly quiet, which just made things seem more strange. Look up and the branches were full of birds on both sides of the road. There must have been hundreds of them, all perched and alert.

My wife said, "we need to go". So we left. Eventually, once we had gone far enough, everything seemed normal again.

I'm a pretty big fan of the idea of multiple worlds/dimensions, and honestly wonder if we accidentally drove through a "thin spot" and briefly wound up somewhere we shouldn't have been.

Everyone has at least one story from their childhood when they majorly messed up.

Whether or not it keeps you up at night, it's fun to remember how dumb we all were before our frontal lobes were fully developed. A recent Reddit thread has people recounting the most messed up things they did when they were kids.

1. Nothing like a corn prong to the foot to teach you a lesson.

I thought it would be a great practical joke to bury a corn holder, small handle with two sharp prongs to hold corn on the cob, pointy side up in my yard and wait for someone to step on it. Of course, being a kid after all, I lost interest after a time and forgot. Sometime later in the summer, while walking bare foot, yes, I stepped on it. Fuck that hurt. Learned a valuable lesson about practical jokes. - phil8248

2. According to the responses, this is an insanely common thing... yikes.

I was 12 and tried searching everywhere for [adult images and videos] of children of my age because I didn’t like looking at adults.

Boy, was I stupid. - Botastiac

3. Ah, the ol' fireball to the chest. Common mistake.

When I was 11, my friend and I soaked a tennis ball in gasoline and lit it on fire and with gloves on tossed it around with my friend. Just cause.

Ended up throwing it to him in an arc and he missed and it slid down his chest, leaving a on fire gasoline trail on his shirt. Had 1st degree burns and we really got in trouble for that one. - TriscuitCracker

4. Sure, you "didn't know."

Gave my little brother ex-lax and told him it was chocolate when we were under 10. I knew it would give him diarrhea, but I didn’t know how badly. It was f***** up. - pettybage

5. This is why poisoning people is so hard.

I tried to poison my mom's boyfriend. I was probably around 11. I had one of those science kits from the Scholastic book fair. I took the citric acid and dumped the whole container into his drink. He sipped it and just said, "this tastes like s***" and dumped it out lol - Zipperpants

6. Just a casual wall of fire in the street.

Friends and I would hang out on a side street with a 1 gallon gas can and a lighter. When we saw a car coming one of us would run across the street while pouring gas and the other friend would light the gas after he was clear. - Quazzy75513

7. *throws up*

I was pretty young when this happened maybe 13 years old? I was in a hot tub with my friends and I thought I had to fart... it was not a fart. Pooped in my bathing suit so I casually grabbed it with my hand and while no one was looking a dropped it behind the hot tub. - SayianPrincess9

8. This is what happens when your parents join a pyramid scheme.

I was at some Amway function at a lake with my parents, I couldn’t have been more than 11 years old. I had to shit and didn’t know where the bathrooms were so I swam out a little ways and pooped. A few minutes later the tide brought my solidly formed log floating towards the gaggle of us kiddos resulting in many screams and frantic splashing as they tried to escape my predatory turd. - mseuro

9. Some seven-year-olds just live for drama.

In 7th grade my best friend asked me if I would go and ask the boy she liked if he liked her and if he would go out with her.

I went over and asked him if he liked her, he said no, then I asked if he liked me, he said yes, and then I asked him to be my boyfriend, he said yes.

Then I went right back to my friend and told her that he didn't like her, but that he liked me and was now my boyfriend.

I don't know why I did that. - alikatbar

10. This kid took "doing the robot" to another level.

When I was 6 or so I convinced the girl who lived next door, who was intellectually disabled and a couple years older, that I had built a robot clone of myself. I would go inside and come back out acting like a robot, complete with glitchy speech and movement. Then when I got tired of pretending to be a robot I would tell her I needed to "recharge" and switch back. - 2FAtemybaby

11. Kool-Aid? That's disgusting.

I made my brother and his friends a jug of kool-aid with water from the toilet - basillemonaid

12. Sounds like a pretty fun ride to be fair.

Dropped a rope out of my second story window, tied it to a plastic tricycle, asked my neighbor if he wanted to go for a ride, and lifted him up to the window with the help of my brother and sister. Then we dropped him, and caught the rope before he hit the ground. It was stupid, but none of us had parents responsible enough to watch us or teach us anything. - screwylouidooey

13. Problem solved.

I helped a Jewish kid steal a Christmas tree. He complained his family never had a Christmas tree - Redkachowski