The only person more annoying than an influencer on social media is an influencer in your family.

Redditor FinallyAnonymous6 claims to be the son of an influencer, the catchall term for viral personalities ranging from bikini models to mommy bloggers. They asked the "Am I The A-hole?" forum whether it was a jerk move to protest their mom's incessant posting by getting hoodies made that they "No Photos."

Being your mom's content in addition to being their kid sounds pretty awful.

They wrote:

I am a teenager and my mom is kinda famous on Instagram and blogging. She had a mommy blog all when I was growing up and of course me and my sister were always involved.

It sucks because there's so much our there about us and it's what's gonna come up when I'm looking for a job, when I'm dating, when anyone looks up my name.

I found a website that will print custom jackets, print all over the front and back and arms... And I ordered some hoodies that say a bunch of phrases all over them.

"No photos" "no videos" "i do not consent to be photographed" "no means no" "respect my privacy" "no cameras" "no profiting off my image"

It sounds silly but it looks pretty sick actually. I got one for me and one for my nine year old sister who's started to not always want photos.

And I guess the idea is that my mom can't take good looking pictures, even candid ones, with us in the hoodies without them having a pretty strong message that we don't want to be in pictures.

Mom was not amused, and kept arguing her right to post photos:

My mom was mad when they showed up, and really mad when I'm wearing mine. Like she says she just wants pictures to remember my young years by, she won't post ones without asking.

But I know that's a whole mess anyway; she always says that and then negotiates me into letting her post, like either by saying that's how she makes income so if I want money for something, to stop arguing about pictures. Or posting without asking and then saying I thought it would be ok because you're face wasn't visible / you're just in the background, etc.

And I'm always like "no you didn't THINK. if you thought at all you'd remember what I said I want. No new pictures of me or mentions of me online. Remove all pictures that include me that you've ever posted. and delete any writing that mentions me.

FinallyAnonymous6 wrote that they wear their "No Photos" hoodie every day, which pisses their mom off for both saying "No Photos" and being a hoodie.

They ask the internet if they've gone too far with this act of civil disobedience, and the AITA jury rules:

Not The A-hole.

This was a refreshing read for people who have been worried about influencer spawn for years.

"FINALLY Y'ALL ARE OLD ENOUGH TO COMPLAIN," 8Ariadnesthread8 commented.

"We have been worried about kids in your position for years but they were all too young to stand up for themselves. You are a part of a larger reckoning. Contact other kids in your situation. Start a club. Sue the sh*t out of your parents maybe one day."

mastifftimetraveler chimed in with an interesting, professional opinion. " From a brand manager position, she’s ruining your ability to market yourself in the future. From a human position, she’s exploiting you."

Influencers' kids of the world: Unite! The revolution will not be televised, because you value your privacy.

Unlike all the years to come before it, 2020 was supposed to be our year! Things were going to be different! We were going to turn everything around! And yet, so far, it's been the pits. The impeachment process has stretched on endlessly and hopelessly, Australia was on fire, and we lost Kobe Bryant. It's been January 2020 for 29 days but it feels like it's been much, much longer—and there's still two whole days left! If you've had it up to here with this terrible month, you're not alone. But where there's darkness, the internet will find light, in the form of jokes and memes.

Here are the 20 funniest reactions to January 2020 lasting forever to help you survive until February:

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One thing Americans are good at is exporting our culture and media to other countries, whether they like it or not. And it turns out a lot of the things we see as totally normal are mind-blowing or hilarious to people in other countries.

In fact, in some cases, they don't even believe some of the things we put in our movies and TV shows are real.

A recent Reddit thread asked people who aren't from America to name the weirdest stuff they'd seen in U.S.-centric movies. Here are some of the best.

1. Apparently, school buses aren't a thing in other countries.

I wondered if school busses were a real thing. Most kids that take buses to school here just use a public one - Jack1715

Lol, when me and my wife went to Orlando I do remember, on the bus to Universal, seeing yellow school busses drive by saying out loud: "oh they DO use those over here! How 'bout that?" - nightwing0243

2. Yeah, it's tough to picture a pep rally happening anywhere but America.

3. Telling people to get a room Is a time-honored US tradition.

In a lot of movies some character would say "Get a room!" which I thought was such a lame joke. My surprise was when hearing some americans actually mentioning the joke. - Lensinner

4. Turkeys are pretty hilarious, if you think about it.

So, I'm very American but have spent a reasonable amount of time abroad. So much so that I saw the original Tobey Maguire Spiderman in a movie theater in Spain. There's a Thanksgiving scene. So, to me the turkey there was on the big side but not totally outrageous. The theater lost their shit at the turkey. Hooting, hollering, laughing, whistling. - ShamelesslyPlugged

5. We don't know either.

A friend of mine that I used to talk to from Wales always told me she doesn't understand why Americans use Red Solo Cups in every "high school party movies" - ApathyPandav20

6. Wow, if this is only an American thing, that's pretty sad.

Maybe this is more for cartoons: kids not eating vegetables, saying they are disgusting. - Melinoe231

7. Pretty sure this is partially why we have a student debt crisis.

You know what I don't see in American media? Students who go to college while still living at home with their parents. I know this happens but do the majority of you really move out during college? Doesn't seem very economical. The majority of people I know and went to school with stayed with their parents, usually up until a year in to their first career job. Even opting for long commutes (1-2 hrs) or drive just cause it's still cheaper than dorm living. The only people who do move into dorms are international students or live at least 3-4 hours away by any commute.

8. Tumbleweeds: not just movie props!

Tumbleweed. I was convinced that was made up for Westerns. Lived here for 14 years before one blew across the road in front of me in Seligman AZ. I had to stop and take a photo because I couldn’t believe it was actually a thing.

9. Steam is real, but still mysterious.

I always thought that steam gushing out of sewers / drains / manhole covers was just a cheesy movie thing for dramatic effect. I guess I thought the props team must enjoy a smoke machine, I don’t know. It wasn’t until I moved to the US a few years ago that I realized it actually happens! I grew up in the U.K. and hadn’t seen it in real life before. Probably lacking that hot + raining combination

10. Garbage disposals were huge in the '90s for some reason.

Garbage disposals. Always found them unusual being British never seen one before until I started going over to the states. - macnerd93

11. Fun fact: in some countries, sex isn't considered evil and deviant by default!

Fathers actually trying to kill a boy who had sex with their daughter. Or any other (in my European mind) overreaction to teens having sex. - ------iMartinj------

12. Yes, this is weird and culty and it is very real.

classroom scenes where children stand up, hand over their hearts and recite the pledge. seems weird. like a cult indoctrination. - loveandrubyshoes

We all know kids can be picky eaters — but what happens if they never grow out of it?

That's what one woman is asking herself after her picky husband had a meltdown over their different eating styles.

She's asking Reddit for advice because her husband not only refuses to eat what she cooks, but refuses to sit at the dinner table with her and their child so that the kid won't grow up with messed up eating habits.

The woman says her husband's been a nightmare eater from the jump:

Husband has always been a picky eater. It has been a huge source of contention between us because I LOVE food. He has the palete of a 5 year old. He won’t eat vegetables or anything with “weird” textures. He sticks to pizza, hot dogs, chicken nuggets, etc.

She got over it for a while but now that they have a kid, it's starting to bug her again:

While dating, this was a huge issue, however we were able to reach a compromise. Now that we have a kid, however, its becoming an issue again. I brought up this issue before we had kids. I wanted to teach our kids good eating habits and I was concerned over his pickiness rubbing off on the kids. He agrees that his habits are unhealthy and he does not want our kids to learn his eating habits.

She does her best to prepare meals the whole family will like, but he still raises a stink:

For awhile I’ve been cooking food that “hides” healthy stuff (i.e. broccoli pesto, finely chopped veggies in fried rice etc.) which my husband will eat (kinda, he picks out the veggies). But I want to actively encourage my kid to enjoy healthy food. My kid loves purple, so I decided to make a purple dinner last night. I had some sautéed eggplant and purple carrots and peppers on top of some purple pasta. Kid was excited to try it and seemed like he was actually enjoying it.

Her husband goes so far as to make faces at their food and choose microwave pizza instead:

Then husband comes home, looks at the food and makes a face, goes and microwaves a pizza before joining us. Kid notices the pizza and asks for that too. And he says “this is daddies food, eat your food”. And kid starts throwing a tantrum about wanting pizza. I get frustrated and say “can you eat that in the other room?”, husband looks annoyed but complies. Then I calm down our son and get him to finish his meal.

The wife's request for the husband to eat his junk food elsewhere sparked an argument:

Laster we get into a huge fight. He says he should allowed to eat dinner with the family in our dining room and shouldn’t be shooed away. I am frustrated because I worked really hard on making my kid a healthy meal and he’s ruining my efforts by eating all this junk food in front of him. He’s annoyed and basically says that we’re the adults and he should do as we say not as we do and yada yada. But I feel that at some point the kid is going to see that his dad is allowed to eat as much unhealthy stuff as he wants and he isn’t and is going to feel some type of way about that.

So she's wondering if her request is out of line:

[Am I the a-hole] for asking my husband to hide his picky eating from our son while we are trying to teach him good eating habits?

Pretty much everyone agrees that her husband's being immature.

MissEssquire says she's right to be afraid that her kid will cotton onto the dad's diet and stop wanting vegetables:

Kids will absolutely want to eat pizza instead of veggies if it’s in front of them. There is no “daddy’s food” and “kid food” everyone should eat the same thing. At the very least your husband can fake it and eat dinner with you guys and sneak a pizza later on. But eating junk in front of your kid is ABSOLUTELY going to rub off on your kid.

The mom responded to this, saying:

That's all I am asking for tbh. I don't expect him to eat healthy, that ship has sailed. I expect him to PRETEND for the sake of our child or at least hide his habits from our child because it will rub off. For the record, I was a picky eater as a child and learned from my parents. It took me going to college to finally try foods I was uncomfortable with and ended up loving everything.

But also_anon_dc suggests the husband may have a deeper issue:

He shouldn't "fake it" he should get help for his eating disorder. Being a super picky eater can be a manifestation of any number of things like anxiety or OCD. Has he ever considered going to therapy to address this? You are of course NTA but also you should have talked to him about this issue BEFORE bringing a kid into the situation.

Ladyughsalot1 agrees that something's amiss, but points out that acting visibly grossed out by the food his wife cooks is just plain rude:

I mean he can talk to his therapist about being picky. But his choice to visibly “recoil” and act grossed out by the meals you make is so beyond rude and disrespectful it’s a separate issue.

TheLightsOff suggested he may have some sort of eating disorder, like AFRID:

He could have sensory issues that have caused an eating disorder known as AFRID. Tbh as someone with this disorder having people constantly call you annoying is horrible to your self essteem.

LittleMungBean pointed out that it's the attitude that's the issue:

He's not annoying solely because he's picky. He's annoying because his pickiness is actively undermining her attempts to raise their kid to eat a f****** vegetable. He's annoying because, despite agreeing that his picky eating could set a bad example to their child, he throws a b****fit when asked to not set a bad example for their child who doesn't potentially have an ED. And, if he even does have ARFID, he's annoying because he refuses to look into treatment while expecting his wife to sacrifice and bend over backwards for him and his child.

In the end, the woman added to her post to clarify her intentions:

edit: since it keeps coming up. I want to make it clear here. I DO NOT expect my husband to eat vegetables. That ship has sailed. All I expect is that he does not eat his junk dinner in front of our kid for the sake of promoting healthy eating habits in our child.

And to tell people to stop bashing her husband:

edit 2: A lot of people have suggested looking into r/ARFID and I will probably send that to him when we're both calmer. However, this has been a source of contention for years and I've asked him to ask his doctors & therapists about his eating habits before. His perspective is that he's an adult and he should be allowed to eat what he wants. Plus he is "healthy" (in terms of BMI, heart rate, blood pressure, etc.) according to his general practitioner's charts. There's only so much I can do here.

At the end of the day, I cannot force a grown adult to change his eating habits. I just ask that he does not influence our children's eating habits. And honestly, I'm really tired of these armchair therapists on here. You do not know for certain he has an eating disorder, that's for him and his doctors to figure out. And no he is not autistic. No he’s not fat, we both work out and he runs.

Things escalated quickly!

edit 3: Damn some of y'all are out for blood huh? My husband is not a terrible person. Our marriage is not in danger of falling apart, this is just ONE issue that we have in our TEN YEARS of being in a happy and healthy relationship. I'm all about "accepting your judgement", but I'm an asshole for marrying a man I love who happens to be picky? Really? So picky eaters just shouldn't get married? I AM NOT DIVORCING MY HUSBAND. If that makes me an a****** so be it.

This marriage sounds like a wild ride. Anyone in the mood for some broccoli pesto with the veggies picked out??

Mornings are crazy, but laughter will help keep you sane. This random collection of memes is here to put a smile on your face and help you start your day off on the right foot. It's just that simple.

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On a good date, you feel butterflies swirling as you gaze into the glowing face of a new love interest, and it can feel as if the whole world is cracking open for you.

But on a bad date, you can physically feel your stomach drop to the floor as you realize the person sitting across from you is capable of making your evening a bizarre nightmare.

Of course, the comfort of bad dates comes from the story factor. In many cases, a weird night with someone incompatible makes for more entertaining brunch conversation than a completely smooth, easygoing time.

At least, that's what we tell ourselves to feel better after another exhausting attempt at placing faith in the possibility of love. Luckily, the internet serves as a cathartic place to share these horror stories and bask in the hell of other people's dating lives.

In a recent Twitter thread, the writer Tyler Oakley asked people to share their worst date horror stories and the internet quickly delivered some fresh nightmare fuel.

1. This incest porn of a date.

2. The date who was too goth for his own good.

3. This horrible preview of the relationship.

4. This entitled body-shaming date.

5. The date with a weird idea of bonding.

6. The date that was literally from hell.

7. The milk chugging date.

8. The date that went too far, too soon.

9. The date that criticizes children's theater.

10. The date that ended up having a mutual friend.

11. The date that tried to pull a Mrs. Doubtfire.

12. The date who ghosted on sight.

13. This date with an arm chair psychologist.

14. The date who ghosted on a Carly Rae Jepsen concert.

15. This date who wanted to take a ride on a bike, in more ways than one.

16. This date with an "accidental" pedophile.

17. This date that ended in a fist fight in Olive Garden.

18. This date who thought kissing caused orgasms.

Crafting the perfect "friendly but passive aggressive" email is an art.

In an office setting, staying calm and polite will certainly win you more favor than being anxious and hostile. Even if you're so mad at you're co-worker or client that you want to claw your skin off and disappear into the "Lost and Found" box in the break room, professionalism must be maintained at all times. If your friend is being an idiot, you send them an all-caps text message saying, "HEY! DO YOU KNOW HOW TO READ LOL?" but if it's your job, something such as, "Sorry if I wasn't clear, how can I help?" is obviously much more appropriate.

While everyone is aware of the unspoken code of passive aggression jargon, it's always a risk to come forward and address the true meaning behind phrases such as, "per my last email" in an actual email. When writer Delia Paunescu, @delia_p, confessed her obsession with secret corporate language on Twitter, 9-5 workers everywhere were ready to join this cathartic vent session. Take off the smile mask, everyone! This is a safe space.

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Bank loans: The original GoFundMe.

People on Reddit who work at banks are sharing the strangest loan applications they've had the pleasure of denying.

Maybe your idea to start a Monster Truck RV company isn't so bizarre after all?

1. Dontneedanything didn't Bigfoot the bill.

We had a guy who needed just a little more money to catch the Sasquatch. He had a guy that was willing to pay him billions of dollars once he caught it.

It sounds like a joke but the guy was dead serious.

2. A boob job is a job, ANoobConvert.

One of my coworkers had a customer get approved for a business credit card and he quickly used that to spend 10k on breast enhancement for his wife.... When we asked him how this could even be considered a business expense he told us, "well she's in sales..."

3. Nyet, ostentia.

I worked as a bank teller in college. My branch had a guy try to take out a $60,000 personal loan to help his girlfriend in Russia pay off border control so she could finally come join him in the US after a two-year exclusively text-based relationship. No matter what we said, he remained firmly convinced that she existed and was in love with him and that the $30,000 he'd already sent "her" was money well spent.

We didn't give him the loan. He closed his accounts on the spot, taking the entire <1,000 he had left with him.

4. Duke1246 wants ribs on ribs on ribs.

My aunt’s old ex boyfriend was a banker. Always told us about how someone wanted a loan for a small business that was a BBQ joint with strippers but the strippers are eating BBQ and people are watching and throwing money.

5. goldgecko4 flies high.

Not too crazy, but an airplane. Not just a single-prop Cesna or anything like that, but this plane could seat like 8-10 people and had climate control and everything.

My head underwriter didn't want me to use the plane itself as collateral, as "he could just take off with it and end up anywhere on the planet!" After explaining that was pretty much true with a car/boat loan too, she acquiesced.

I'm not going to tell you for privacy sake how much it was, but let's say that I could have not sold another loan for about 6 months and still exceeded all of my goals.

6. That's meta, Spoonfork59.

A woman called asking for a personal loan to pay the negative balance in her account that she owed us.

7. Yikes, kopkiwi.

$500 for diapers and other related items. "my baby is born tomorrow and we haven't bought anything". Yeah, you had 9 months to plan this, declined.

8. xXweebhunterXx had follow-up questions.

I used to practice the art of personal loans, someone wanted $10,000 to buy a ranch in Tennessee, and we were in L.A., so I asked him how he planned to buy a ranch in Tennessee with only $10k. He then ran away without a word. To this day I still wonder what he really would have done with the 10k if I had given it to him.

9. drifty-moo got catty.

Guy came in to the bank bragging about how many properties he owned, how much he made, nice house etc...

Dude also had a bunch of cats.

Applied for a 250k loan to buy an island in the Caribbean for the cats to live freely on and himself to retire. Was mad when he got denied.

10. MyShrooms couldn't be influenced.

$500 for an Instagram influencer to market his product.

One month later: $5500 to pay his mortgage that he's behind on just because of some PayPal issues. Oh, plus $500 to pay an influencer because then he'll be rich he has everything figured out, just needs a single $legit Instagram post to set the plan in motion.

11. obnoxioususername69 is a monster.

Gentleman came into my small local credit union to apply for a car loan. Great, what kind of car is it? "A Jeep." Awesome! What's the exact model? "Uh, it's custom." Well, what year is it? "1989." Oh, hmm, a little on the older side... And the mileage? "Not sure, the guy I'm buying it from is in [different state]." Oh, I'm sorry sir, it would have to be registered in-state. "Oh. Well do you know how to register a monster truck with the DMV?" ...Excuse me? "Yeah, the Jeep's been converted to a monster truck. I'm not just gonna drive it around." Oh... I'm so sorry, we won't be able to finance your... out-of-state, vintage, monster truck.

12. That's dope, avenueirregular.

A guy wanted $200 for concert tickets. His credit score was 420. He did not get a loan.

13. What....supplies....PrestigiousSystem0?

I once had a client apply for a loan for porn supplies, I was the unfortunate one who had to tell him that we would not be giving him the $150,000 loan.

14. You can't lead a horse to an apartment, CristianXcz.

A horse, he lived with his mom in a small apartment and had no income. He was 38 male. We didn't approve the loan and he was really mad. Also the loan was for $1500.

Weddings are complicated and stressful and put an extraordinary amount of pressure on everyone, especially the bride (thanks, society!). This may explain the ongoing epidemic of "bridezilla" behavior—but it doesn't necessarily excuse it.

A bride-to-be took to Reddit to share a story in which she comes across as a bridezilla for being upset that her soon-to-be step-daughter wants to make her wedding speech about her late mother.

The bride explains that her fiancé has a 15-year-old daughter with his late wife, who passed away two years ago. The bride met her soon-to-be husband and his daughter before the wife passed, which has made the girl "incredibly distrustful" of her—even though she insists nothing happened with her fiancé until after his wife passed.

So my fiancé (37M) and I (30F) are getting married in April. He has a 15 year old daughter who currently lives with us but will be moving in with her grandparents soon for school.

Her mother (my fiancé’s first wife) passed away 2 years ago from cancer. I met my fiancé while he was married but nothing romantic happened between us until after she passed. However just the fact that I’ve met his daughter as a family friend during that time has made her incredibly distrustful of me, even though we never had an affair and I’ve made that very clear to her.

The girl wants to read a poem at her dad and future step-mom's wedding followed by a short speech. The poem is about "loss and family" and she wants to dedicate it to her late mom.

Anyways, recently she told my fiancé that she’d like to read a poem at our wedding during the speech portions. It’s one based on loss and family, and is quite a nice poem, but she’d like to publicly dedicate it to her late mom with a short speech after.

The bride read a draft of the speech and is "incredibly unhappy" with it, because the girl talks about how "happy" her dad and her mom used to be, describing their relationship as "the stuff of fairy tales."

The bride is interpreting this as a slight towards her, even though the speech ends by wishing her and her fiance "a fairy tale of their own."

I read the draft of it and am incredibly unhappy with how it sounds. Essentially she wants to talk about how happy her dad and her mom used to be while she was alive, and how their marriage was the stuff of fairy tales. She ends it with a “I hope [me and my fiance] will have a fairy tale of their own” which is a nice sentiment if that was only thing she’s reading. Basically, I feel like she’d be using our wedding to reminisce how my fiancé’s last marriage was the unobtainable stuff of fairytales and I’d just be lucky to get a tiny piece of what they had. It sure feels like a intentional jab towards me.

The bride fears that the speech will somehow taint or ruin her wedding. She's also devastated because her fiancé read the poem and sees nothing wrong with it.

I get that she’s still grieving and she’s a kid and all that. But I really don’t want this read at our wedding, which I want to be a celebration of new beginnings, not death or grief or ex wives. I’ve talked to my fiancé and he sees 100% NOTHING wrong with the speech which has frankly upset me beyond what I’d imagined. I feel like he’s insisting on prioritizing her during a day that should be about me and him ONLY, not his kid or ex.

She's considering asking the teen to cut the speech and just read the poem, asking Reddit "Am I The A**hole if I do this or something similar?"

I’ve mulled over asking her directly to cut the speech portion and just read the poem, perhaps with a nice “dedicated to my mom” at the end and nothing more. AITA if I do this or something similar?

Commenters swiftly sided with the teen, pointing out how selfish the bride is being for not considering the girl's or her fiancé's feelings.

10487518386 writes:

YTA [You're The A**hole]

Let’s see.

1. Your fiancé’s kid lost her mom only TWO years ago! When she was 13! How long until you started dating her dad? Give her a fucking break. Most teenagers have it hard enough with living parents divorcing.

2. You are marrying a WIDOWER, not some random guy with an ex. That’s his late wife by the way, not his “ex”, and these type of relationships mean his late wife will always have more or less a presence in yours.

3. No, a wedding with a person with kids is not just about you and him. It includes the kids’ futures as well. No one attending this wedding is under any delusion that you’re marrying a guy without significant baggage here.

4. “I feel like he’s weirdly prioritizing her during a day that should be about me and him ONLY, not his kid or ex.” There’s literally so much wrong in this one sentence that I’m convinced you’re leaving out a ton of nasty shit.

And Financelady32 writes:

YTA.

"I feel like he’s prioritizing her during a day that should be about me and him, not his kid."

The wedding day should be about you, him and the daughter you are taking as your own now. Coming together as a family. A new beginning together as the three of you but not forgetting the past.

Others are calling her out for her "demeaning" use of the word "ex" to describe her fiance's deceased wife.

Compannacube writes:

I agree - YTA.

Speaking about his first wife like she is the "ex" is very demeaning and dismissive. If your fiancé's daughter ever heard you refer to her mom as an "ex," it's no wonder she's suspicious of you. The day isn't just about you and your fiancé, it's also about merging families.

And Razmataz8406 writes:

YTA and you're being self centered. Y'all are becoming a family, the wedding is not just about you. Also, she's not his ex wife. She's his late wife. She is not your competition. You don't need to feel intimidated by their fairytale. She's dead. Let the girl grieve.

Some are even suggesting that her suspicious use of the word "ex" indicates something may have happened between them before the wife passed away.

pentuppinup writes:

Every time I see her say ex I believe there was something going on during the wife’s final days with cancer. Ugh.

Some are offering suggestions for how to compromise and make things right with her future step-child.

whimsicalacumen writes:

I would think as a step-mom your priority would be to love on this poor girl and embrace her as much as she will allow because this girl is the daughter of the man you’re marrying!!! She is an extension of him, and if you’re marrying, she’s becoming your child, too.

I’m not sure if you would be open to this, but I would recommend instead of rejecting the poem, embracing it and maybe writing a speech to give after the poem about how much YOU LOVE HER. Talk about how you know you can never replace her mom, but that you will love and protect her as a “fairy godmother” would. Tell them how you respect and so admire how the two of them started a loving life together with their now LATE (not ex) WIFE/MOTHER. Tell them how appreciative you are of them welcoming you into their loving family, and that you intend to maintain and expand even more upon that loving family dynamic. Tell them how you’re excited to write the next chapter of the fairytale story with them.

And maybe take some steps so that little girl (because a 15 year old is still just that) can come home and feel safe and accepted.

Hopefully this bride-to-be takes these comments to heart and makes amends, because we all know things rarely work out well in the end for the "evil Step-Mother."

Setting boundaries when it comes to family can be difficult...

Of course, we can't choose our families, but we can choose how much time we choose to spend with them. If you have a tumultuous relationship with your family, there are always some standard ways to get through a holiday or other obligation. Smiling, suppressing your feelings, and chugging wine in a corner are some go-to tricks, but every once in awhile you have to set real boundaries and put your foot down on the emotional energy you're willing to exert.

Remember, most familial conflicts emerge because of insecurity, hurt, or the desire to be accepted and loved so it's always good to think about that before you "ruin" your nephew's second birthday party by "telling the truth."

When a recent Reddit user consulted the moral compass of the internet, Reddit's "Am I the As*hole?" section about whether or not he should cut off his parents, people were there for him. Weddings can bring out the worst in everyone--not just Bridezillas...

WIBTA (Would I be the As*hole?) for cutting my family off over a honeymoon?

My wife and I got married on Saturday. We had a small wedding so that we could have an awesome honeymoon and still have savings left. We paid for it ourselves, if that matters. When we mentioned our plans, my parents wanted to come with us and make a family vacation of our honeymoon. I shut that down immediately. But in the last few months they started "joking" about "just showing up" where we were planning to go. Half because of this and half because we found a great deal, we decided to go to another, even cooler, place but didn't tell my parents. Her parents are watching our dogs so we had to tell them how contact us.

Sunday night I get a bunch of texts from my mom, dad and brother wanting to know where we are. Yep, they showed up at the original honeymoon location "as a fun surprise!!" Like, what the actual F*CK? They were pissed that I "betrayed" them by lying and even more pissed that I refuse to tell them where we are now. Somehow they figured out that her parents know where we are and have apparently been pestering them for info. When that didn't work they did apologize, as well as saying that they "forgive me for ruining their first family vacation in a decade." They want to just put this behind us and move on.

But the thing is, I don't want to. I don't want their apology. I want them to never have pulled this shit in the first place. I love my family a lot. I hurts so bad to think of never speaking to them again. And I know it will hurt them deeply if I cut them off. My mom has anxiety and this will probably cause her to spiral, which my dad and brother will have to deal with it. But I just can't deal with this anymore. I just can't keep being the only adult with three adult children needing my constant attention. WIBTA if I cut my family off over this even though they apologized?

He later edited the post:

Edit: Thanks to everyone who replied, even the YTAs, Sorry I haven't commented more but, well, honeymoon. I'm reading all the comments through.

Edit 2: They've done stuff like this all my life- shown up on my dates, stopped me going to my best friend's funeral, unpaid debt/bills in my name. They always apologize and then do it again. But they also went into debt when we were kids so that we could have trips and toys.

Edit 3: I think I'll put them in time out for a while, but I"m pretty sure that will make them cut me off for "betrayal"

Luckily, people were ready to help...

"CakeisaDie" wrote:

Congrats on your wedding. You made your boundaries clear and they aren't respecting them. So you need to escalate unfortunately.

"1_JustBreakup" wrote:

what the f*ck. A honeymoon is for the newly wedded couple to be able to spend time away, as a couple, ALONE. Your family has major boundary issues

"waterwitch602" wrote:

I'm reading your comments and the decades of behavior you're describing isn't love. It's control and obsession. It doesn't mean that they don't love you, but saying you feel guilty because they love you is doing yourself an incredible disservice. NTA (Not the As*hole) and I hope whatever choice you make will allow you to have a healthier life.

"internetpointsiguana" wrote:

Even if they did show up where y’all are, what are they expecting??? Do they not understand what a honeymoon entails? Did they plan on just watching y’all f*ck the entire time? Please, if you haven’t cut them off yet, ask them. I’m dying to know

"casinoLF" wrote:

this is a giant boundary violation. Maybe you don't have to cut them off forever but I think you should make a clear declaration that what they did was massively inappropriate and you need some space for awhile. Periodically reevaluate how you feel about them, maybe take a few months at first and see if you miss them.

So, there you have it! Parents, sit the honeymoon out, ok? It's not for you.

Without a doubt, one of the hardest parts about working any job undercover is making sure you don't break your front, even when you find yourself in deeply compromising positions. Being able to keep cool in stressful or morally terrifying situations is one of the job requirements for any working as a detective, undercover cop, or really any job that requires clandestine action.

Since secrecy is the whole point of this line of work, it's rare us outsiders get a scoop of what it's like on the job. But the anonymity of Reddit, and internet forums in general, provide a place where people can exchange stories without blowing their cover.

In a popular Reddit thread, people who have worked undercover shared stories of wild, terrifying, and surprising things they witnessed on the job.

1. EnihcamAmgine helped catch a thief.

IDK if I'd count this as me being undercover but I'll give it a whirl.

I used to own a game store where we buy and sell MTG cards in Maryland. There was a big tournament in Pittsburgh the weekend before where someone's collection was stolen, worth a few thousand dollars.

That day, we were visited by someone we'd never seen in the store before looking to sell a collection, a collection matching the description of the stolen collection.

I told them that we were interested but needed to set up a longer time to sit down and look through the collection. We set up a time for the next Tuesday and they went on their way. We then called the police in Pittsburgh who connected us with the detective. He worked with our local Montgomery county police and they set up a sting.

There were three cops in the store pretending to play (One actually knew how and is now a regular) and two more cars outside. When the guy came into the store, I did exactly what I would have done with a regular collection. Rung it up, negotiated and paid the guy for the collection. Once the money exchanged hands, the cops busted him. Collection was returned to the kid in Pittsburgh and the guy ended up with some plea deal involving probation.

2. pcoon43456 hates Firestone.

I once took my vehicle ton an independent shop for routine maintenance. I said I was dropping it off for as long as it might take as I was "going to take a long trip the following month." I sat across the street in a diner eating soup and drinking coffee. I got a call that my vehicle needed about $4,500 worth of work an hour and a half later. It never left the parking spot. I told them I didn't want anything done, they said it was half apart already. F*CK YOU FIRESTONE. I am an assistant service manager at a dealership. That Firestone was turned into a parking lot.

3. nlderek worked as a "ghost passenger."

Worked as a "ghost passenger" for an airline. Basically I flew around and graded flight attendant's performance. While still parked at the gate with the door open one flight attendant began berating passengers who were using their smart phones (which was completely permitted at the gate). She threatened to have the person in front of me thrown off the plane if she didn't put hers away.

She also threatened me. After we left the gate and were taxiing to the runway I looked back to see her sitting in her jump seat....using her phone. Took a photo of it and included that in my report. She initially denied using the phone and claimed I was being unruly on the aircraft. After she saw the photo she changed her tune.

4. hephaestion2 has seen animals greatly mistreated.

I work as a researcher studying illegal wildlife trade. In markets, I have seen critically endangered animals being sold openly for pretty low prices. I've also seen plenty of animals dead or dying in these markets with no food or water in the baking sun. But worse than that, I have friends who have had to watch slow lorises having their teeth pulled out with nail clippers and not been able to do anything.

5. Parrothead1970 listened to a woman have sex with a criminal on wire.

I was running a wire. We were looking to arrest a guy who beat a two year old so bad she had broken femurs. We wired up mom and had her go to the boyfriends house and try and get him to confess. Mom started out great, led the boyfriend along and.......... Started to f*cking blow him.

He then f*cked her. The man who beat her daughter so bad she was lifeflighted. She. F*cked. Him. On. Wire. I was punching my dashboard and wishing I could arrest her as well. It was awful.

6. Acekevorkian worked undercover in the drug world.

Helped manufacture methicathinone so that I could get arrested with the suspects and spend time in the cells to discover how the drugs were being brought into the prisons. Was recruited due to my work circumstances, age and environment; had to change provinces when I was finished with the deal.

EDIT: Apostrophe removed. "States" now provinces.

Decided to do an AMA, https://www.reddit.com/r/AMA/comments/51udjb/i_worked_as_a_snitch_for_the_nia_in_south_africa/

Will post some stuff and answer any questions about the system!

7. RiskyBusinessThrowIt experienced horrific genital pain while undercover.

I am a private investigator, contracted by Government to check massage shops to see if they're soliciting. I usually get sent to shops which have had multiple complaints and an investigation is in its final stages and they need evidence to support their case.

So, I go to one place, everything seems normal except for being asked to strip bare for an oil massage. Eventually I am asked to flip over, therapist without asking just starts rubbing some "gel" on my 'parts'. At this point, I am obligated to refuse and finish the session. I ask her to stop but halfway through the sentence I am hit with the most intense pain. Turns out, she was new and was unaware that alcohol gel is not the same as massage oil.

Long story short, manager was convicted of coercing staff on the basis of their visas being revoked if they didn't comply. And I had to stand in court and tell the events of that day.

8. daggerncloak quickly found out how many companies violate HIPAA.

I worked as a HIPAA inspector for a bit. Sh*t is scary. I'd go in and say I was looking for my mom that they called me she was in an accident. (I was early 20's). Pretty much every place I went gave me all kinds of protected info on the patient [the company would have placed fake records in the computer].

One smaller urgent care place was like "hm, no one with that name- here's our sign in log for the week, take a look!" with last names, first names and "reason for visit." Yikes.

9. c3h8pro saw a Latin King try to intimidate with a needle point.

I worked for an Armored car service for a while as a under cover guard. When a place had a lot of money or if it was a risky area two plain clothes guards would arrive before the truck. I would scout the place and outside to make sure the uniform guys could get in and out safe. We wore a color of the day and the local cops knew who we were as did the uniformed guards. It was a pretty easy job and I only once waved off a pickup because of a bunch of Latin kings sitting on benches out front.

I hung out a while to see what was going on and hoping they would leave so we could make the pickup. As I sat on a bus bench across the road I watched one of the guys take out his needle point. I never would think that a gang member would tote his needle point to a stick up job.

Edit only the top paragraph showed up. I guess I fucked up format or something. Im not good on my phone.

10. Angrymanspokane has seen it all on tape.

Former Loss Prevention here (best job ever by the way) Witnessed so much sex in the stockrooms, couples, singles, trios, you name it. We had cameras everywhere of course, especially in the stockrooms due to rampant employee theft. We had countless hours of employee sex on tape. We couldn't reveal the cameras, which would tip off the thieves, so all we could do was watch.

11. punkwalrus was part of an FBI sting operation.

I used to work for furniture showroom stores that sold out of catalogs. I ran two stores and helped others. One of my jobs was to go to other stores and pretend to be a customer. Most of the scenarios involved various selling points, product knowledge, and up sells. I had to get a written estimate as proof. But also I checked store security, the condition of the store, and so on.

Worst was I entered a store and there was no one in there. It was during open hours, but the entire show room was vacant. So I wandered into the back room, I changed a few things around, and I went into the till, and put in a note on the back of my business card that I had been in their till. After half an hour, I just left. I would've locked the store up if I had the key.

I called the manager and let her know, and she got in her car and immediately drove to the store. There were employees in there by the time she got there, but she checked under the till and saw my business card. She spoke to the employees, who said that they were there the whole time, but were at a loss to explain the business card and the stuff in the back room I had messed up. I think she fired her staff on the spot, I can't remember what happened after that.

Another time I was part of an FBI sting. There was a group of people that were using stolen credit cards to buy large ticket items and have them delivered to the store for "Parking Lot Pickup," which was an option that a lot of people that lived in rural areas where delivery was not available. But of course, you wouldn't have to verify your address, either. All we cared was that you showed up and picked up the merchandise you ordered.

The group of people that were using stolen credit cards were actually made up of a few former employees of the company who knew how to game the system. But the FBI was wise to a lot of their thefts, and they set up a sting operation at my store with the drivers. All they had to do was sign for the furniture to complete the deal that they had picked up the stolen merchandise that they had paid for with stolen credit cards.

Once they did that, several armored men with guns jumped out of the back of the truck and surrounded the 4-5 people, ordered them to the ground, where they were handcuffed and carried away. They didn't even resist, so except for that one moment where you knew that a bunch of agents were going to jump out of a delivery truck, was actually kind of boring.

12. filteredspam had to watch a woman sell herself in a documentary.

I am so, so, so late to this party, but here it goes... I'm a TV Producer. I was working on a popular documentary a while ago. We were following a woman who was addicted to heroin and had resorted to prostitution in order to make money to support her habits. One day, a friend of hers got thrown into jail. She decided she needed to work really hard to bail them out. So she called her friend who owned a crack-house that he let girls like her turn tricks in at about $10 a pop.

To answer OP's question, I witnessed this girl share needles with many people and watched as john after john came into the house and disappeared into the bedroom with her for a little bit.

13. BigGreenYamo saw a lot.

Like some others here, I also worked as a private detective. Nothing too "taboo" that I couldn't intervene in, but when you do mostly workman's comp, there's a lot of completely despicable sh*t going on. Other times, you get some weird sh*t.

Some examples.

1. There was a guy we were watching that was completely dominating some handicap competitions in the state. He really sold the handicap. Big time. The ONLY time he broke character was when he would stand up and unload his wheelchair from his van, in his privacy-fenced backyard.

2. Where are all of the school district's computers going? To people who buy them from the security guards at the warehouse. That one actually made the news.

Where is all this soda going? TO THE TRUCK DRIVERS! This one I actually was interviewed and hired into the company to watch what happens on night shift.

14. amberb has seen a lot as a secret shopper.

Was secret shopping at a high end restaurant, around $100 per plate.

The busser came over and re-filled my water glass (that I had already drank out of) and over filled it, so he poured part back in the pitcher from my glass and proceeded to re-fill everyone else at the table from the same pitcher.

I really wanted to throw a fit, but could only include it in my report. Ewww.

15. MyithV went into full-on spy mode.

So I can answer this one. I do Social Engineering for financial institutions (Banks, Credit Unions etc). I went to a credit union in Texas where the entire place failed on a miserable basis for security. I walked in with a fake badge that stated I worked for a made up company and I was there to an inspection of the building. I dressed in a polo and khaki pants with matching colors to my badge and walked in to the front desk. The girl there was probably in college or just out of school.

She immediately let me into the back room and I walked into offices and desks that were unoccupied but located in rooms with other employee's. I walked up to empty computers in use and plugged USB drives in, huge no no, and began typing random things into computers and taking pictures of myself at the computers. Employee's would literally look at my and go back to their jobs without thinking anything of a guy taking selfies at their friends work desk.

Once I had been in every office I went to the Vice Presidents office and opened her desk and looked through files to find personal peoples information, found tons. I went into the file room and took personal loan documents off the shelf and took pictures of myself accessing them.

When I was done I walked to the person who had contracted my company and laid out all the information I had found and all the things I had done and the guy just sighed. This scenario has happened a couple of different times, most places fail somehow. Sometimes its fun and interesting, sometimes its boring and there's nothing worth staying.

Edit - I should mention that to answer OP's question everything I did is a huge taboo for the organization in my industry, if the organization above had followed their compliance rules and regulations I would have been escorted out within 5 minutes or not even let in the building to begin with. Towards the end of this particular engagement I was practically begging for someone to catch me.

16. blondeandtall felt bad snitching.

I worked as a secret shopper for a while for a small store. The most egregious thing i found were employees would hide inventory if they knew a sale was coming up. I'd also go in and ask questions about what equipment I should use just to test their general knowledge. Most failed but they were young kids getting paid sh*t so I felt bad squealing on them.

I also forgot to add that I had to put up with being hit on by teenagers and creepy older guys. I had to play along and see if they knew their sh*t despite throwing terrible game.

17. Atwelve lived a Sylvester Stallone movie.

I used to investigate insurance fraud.

The one thing I saw that made me the maddest was when I was working in the run down area near the Philly zoo and saw a strung out mother walking with her toddler and jerking his arm and screaming at him for not keeping up with her quick walking pace. The kid was not even two years old. I really wanted to get out of the car...

The funniest one was where I had to go undercover in a bar to investigate this one person. You ever see the Stallone movie Over the Top? Yeah, that's pretty much what this guy ended up doing right on the bar, right in front of my hidden camera, and looking direct into my camera lens. It was awesome. The arm wrestling match went on for minutes and this by a guy "too hurt to work".

At times it was very entertaining to work undercover...

18. Makabajones saw a producer mess up his life.

When I worked QA for a video game publisher, they had me work an E3 as a secret player, basically I got to play new games for that publisher and act like they were amazing in front of press. while I was taking a break I saw one of the producers hooking up with a booth babe. he didn't recognize me, but I new he was married and had a kid on the way, I didn't say sh*t, he got laid off when the rest of us did about a year later. but that's just kinda how E3 goes.

When you have a 9-to-5, sometimes it feels like you have no power and are simply a tiny cog in the big capitalist machine. But there are little things you can do to take some of the power back that can help you feel less like a robot and more like a human being—it's basically what The Office characters do best. Just be careful that your office rebellions don't cross the line into a fireable offense (and if they do, don't get caught!).

Someone asked desk workers of Reddit: "what are the ways in which you secretly rebel against the man?" These 27 office workers share the rebellious behaviors that would make Jim and Pam proud:

1.) From ass_burgers_:

I stick it to the man by wasting time at work (like everybody else). So when I'm not browsing Reddit, I do the following:

There's this sales guy that works in a cubicle near mine. He has a Rubik's Cube on his desk that he is always messing around with on conference calls, but he can never solve it or even get close. It always gets him super frustrated. He hasn't learned that it's pretty much impossible to solve them just by playing around with it.

Anyway, I'm no competitive cuber but I can solve them in about 2-3 minutes. So for the last few weeks, I've been solving the cube before he gets into work in the morning. It kind of freaked him out the first time it happened, and he started asking people around who did it. I denied it, of course, and he kind of shrugged it off. But it slowly has started to drive him crazy. Every single morning, he comes in and the cube is exactly where he left it, but it has been solved.

He has started telling people around him that he thinks there's a "Good Will Hunting"-like janitor that keeps solving his cube. He's fascinated by it. One time he actually left his laptop at work overnight with the webcam on, pointed at the cube with the "motion capture" setting. Of course I knew this because he told me he was doing it, so I covered the camera right after he left for the day. Another time he brought in an extra cube to see if they would both be solved (they were). I think he is slowly losing his mind.

2.) From JustAnotherConMan:

Every morning when I arrive at my desk, I pull out a stack of papers from my drawer that are old and useless and I scatter them around. Whenever bossman comes around I hide my internet browser, which usually has something not work-related on it, pick up the papers and "organize" them or pretend to read them. At the end of day I put them back into my drawer to be retrieved the next day.

I'm considered one of the top performers in my group so I'm not really sure what my coworkers are doing.

3.) From AlexanderGQ:

Got my offfice in on doing "Pushups on the hour". We all get together and do 25 pushups. The whole process takes about 5 minutes, because people like to BS. They think I'm helping them focuse on their health, I'm focused on getting away from my desk as much as possible.

4.) From toxik0n:

I drink lots of water so I can get up every hour to go stretch my legs and pee. The healthiest form of rebellion!

5.) From onichris:

I'm only allowed to have 2 personal items at my desk, but I actually have 3!

6.) From [deleted]:

I wear dinosaur T-shirts to work when I'm alone in the shift. We're supposed to look professional all the time, but that doesn't matter when I'm at the office and not visiting customers...

7.) From crystalfrostfire:

I ride my bike to work, I work for an oil company.

8.) From postoasties:

My boss is very anal about how staplers and other such office materials are arranged and is very adamant about keeping them in order. For the longest time, I've been secretly nudging one of the staplers out of place just the tiniest bit randomly throughout the week just so I can witness the horror and discomfort in his eyes when he walks by the stapler and can't help but fix it.

9.) From [deleted]:

I spend all day teaching myself new skills, then find a task to apply them for so I can say I did X Y and Z at my job then apply for a higer paying job.

10.) From throwaway890899:

When writing emails, spelling out SUCK IT, F*CK OFF etc with the first letter of each sentence.

ETA: The last one was along these lines:

Sorry for the delay. Usually we’d have got this back to you sooner but we have been lacking junior staff recently. Client has already agreed to the previous fee quote, please the attached email to confirm. Kindly also find attached the TPS report as requested. I have cc’d the manager (Benjamin Dover) and the senior manager (Phillip McCracken) as requested, because of all the usual corporate bollocks.

Thanks and kind regards.

Fellow Hapless Drone

11.) From rockerchu:

Most of my job involves removing staples from documents I later scan in. I hoard the staples I remove. Someday, I will make it rain pain.

12.) From ajtroedel:

I got stuck on extra duty while in Iraq for questionable reasons. As a result, I had to clean the Battalion building every night. As payback, I moved the desk of my rather rotund Command Sergeant Major one inch closer to the back wall every night. My goal was to make him think he was getting fatter as the space behind his desk gradually shrunk.

13.) From [deleted]:

My work has 30min lunch breaks and recently eliminated 15min breaks. That shit shouldn't be legal.

I take my lunch break outside the office approx. 20-25 minutes before my boss and many of my coworkers, take almost a full hour, and return to the office before everyone else gets back from lunch. They think I was gone for half an hour, but I was really gone 45-50 minutes.

Then, I'll take 15 bathroom breaks and just Reddit.

This only works because I'm salary and don't have to punch in. I feel sorry for the hourly employees that have to put up with this shit.

14.) From bulltrout:

Read receipt request on the email you sent me? I will always click NO. ANARCHY FOREVER!

15.) From [deleted]:

I never answer my phone. I let all calls go to voicemail. I wait a few hours to return calls and about 90% of the time I get the other person's voicemail. We play voicemail tag for days even weeks.

16.) From RyanDestroy:

I sit by the copier, somtimes ill make a few copies of a paperclip on the glass, the reload them into the paper tray. it's hilarious watching people look for the clip on the glass but finding none.

17.) From F*ck_You_Downvote:

My previous manager would bring in bagels every Friday. In all other ways he was a slap-dick-do-nothing, but at least every Friday, I could count on breakfast.

Fast forward to new manager. First thing I tell him is that we have a pact, he brings in bagels on Fridays, and everything is cool. He laughs it off as a joke, but there are 30 people here who are quiet used to being f*cking fed on Fridays.

First couple weeks, there are bagels and all is right with the world. Then he misses a week. People are upset, but people are human.

Then another week. Then 2 weeks in a row. Then they show up again. Then they are gone.

Things are descending into chaos. People bring breakfast on Fridays only to discover free bagels were waiting for them. People skip breakfast because the bagels never showed up.

After about three months of spotty bagel service, I need to take maters into my own hands.

I bring my waffle maker and make f*cking waffles. Syrup and butter and everything. People smile. Hey, thanks.

Boss shows up. No bagels, comments half-heartily, thanking me for making waffles. He thinks it is a one time thing.

Next week. He brings bagels, but it is too late, 1/2 the office already ate waffles cause he is rolling in at 9 in the morning.

Week after, he shows up with bagels, but again I am there making waffles.

There is a little tension. People are unsure where their loyalties lie. Do we eat waffles and side with our co-worker, or do we eat bagels and side with the new boss.

Some people split the difference and eat BOTH waffles and bagels.

This goes on for awhile. The famous Carb war of 2010.

For about four months bagels and waffles are trading blows and then, after awhile the bagels peater out.

LIKE I KNEW THEY WOULD.

I knew his plan all along was to stop bringing in the bagels, that he expenses to the office, basically free bagels. He was going to kill them eventually, but the waffles brought up the question in everyone's mind. Who is the boss here?

I continue making waffles. There is a new boss and he wonders why I make waffles on Friday, three f*cking years after they stopped bringing in bagels.

I am known around the office and around the company as the waffle guy. I pay for the waffle mix myself, along with the butter and the syrup. I spend $400 a year on waffle making supplies, that I pay out of my own pocket to feed the entire office on Fridays.

And I do it with a smile. Because I know I won. Every waffle is a little f*ck you to changing the rules and taking away what little we had.

I have been making waffles for almost 4 years now. A lot of the office has turned over, and not everyone was there for the bagel wars. To them, waffles are the norm. Just something nice I do.

To others, they are in on it, and they know. Never forget. Don't let them take away what makes you special, no matter how small and petty.

Edit: Thanks everyone.

For those of you that asked, this is the waffle maker I use :[GE Flip Rotating waffle maker] (http://www.walmart.com/ip/GE-Rotating-Waffle-Maker/15063552)

I can make a waffle in about 3 min. The trick I learned is that you do not want to flip it all the way, not the full 180 degrees. If you go 90 degrees, (up and down) the steam exits the waffle maker faster.

I do not make it from scratch, it is from a mix krustez.

I also do not add any eggs, basically it is just 1/2 a stick of butter, and then the other 1/2 I melt slightly and leave on the table.

If you add more water, the waffles are thinner and crispier. If you add less water they are thick and you do not get as many.

Some waffle making tricks Cinnamon Roll Waffles.

These cook in about 30 seconds and you need a lot of spray otherwise they stick.

You can make bacon in the waffle maker too, you just have to cook it the day before. Same thing goes for chicken, but I found that adding just chicken skin to the waffles is better then actually making fried chicken the day before (for chicken and waffles).

If you are going to use fresh blueberries, you want to roll them in the dry mix first. I lost a waffle maker by using fresh blueberries. The mess was too great and just easier to get a new waffle iron.

Each box of mix will make around 10 - 14 waffles, and many times people do not want to eat a full one, so leave some empty plates around and you will end up with "waffle buddies". These are people who may not know each other but split waffles every Friday since they do not want to be seen eating a whole waffle.

My waffle making has been grandfathered in but I think if I ever left jobs I would insist that the new company would need to pay for my waffle making supplies on Friday.

18.) From kssummer:

One day in each month

All my emails are haikus

Today is that day

19.) From AngryJigglypuff:

The bottled water is only for clients.

I drink the bottled water.

F*ck the man.

20.) From jonah4342:

My boss hates the sound of cabinets closing, so when she's not looking I open and close them repeatedly and pretend to look for things. She's also incredibly neurotic about the spices being organized, first by the region where they're used most and then by color. I put the cumin in the Asian section and she loses her mind.

21.) From dueljester:

As one of the few people that aren't related to the sales department I find my office empty, a lot. A good portion of the time the big cheese takes sales & sales assistants to lunch while ignoring the rest of us.

So in that time of passive "why aren't you people selling" windows I have done the following:

• Switched all the coffee to decaf

• Switched around personal photos (you'd be amazed at how long it takes someone to notice)

• Removed all the staples from staplers but three or four. Put the rest away in the boxes, and put the boxes on the empty desk

• Mouse moving to slow? Time for it to start moving at mach 5

And my favorite:

When the annual "we need to lose weight ladies!" party arrives there is always a prize to the two gals (men never partake) who lose the most. I will go to coscto and spend some $50 or so on the tastiest junk food you can find. Through the time they have the competition I'll leave bountiful bowls of candy around, and occasionally I'll have the misses make a batch of coffee cream muffins for the office. Not once have I been caught doing this, instead; they will turn on whoever seems to be doing the best or is already the smallest gal in the lot. It's like watching a nature show seeing these women turn on themselves.

22.) From notnicholas:

I work from home but we have a "virtual office" environment (instant messenger and we have to keep "office hours").

I keep my laptop next to my bed. Log in at 7:30 and answer a few emails and accept a few meeting invitations before other people are up, then rollover and get another hour of sleep.

I'll also usually get some work done before I go to sleep at night but save it in draft form so I can send it randomly throughout the morning. I don't want to give the impression that I routinely am available after 5:00 pm.

23.) From OK4U2LOVE:

someone while back on Reddit recommended an office prank that involved an official HP notice print out saying "this printer has been equipped with voice technology" and it said step 1: say your name step 2: say function (scan, print, etc). I had my manager yelling at the printer 3 times, "ERIK, ERIK, ERIK" he was even mad, it didn't recognized his name. The entire office was making fun of him for a while and I felt like the man.

24.) From THE_LOUDEST_PENIS:

They say I can't drink energy drinks at my desk. I pour my red bull into an empty Coke can and drink to my heart's content.

25.) From jezmi:

In the corridor I hold the door open for some people when they are slightly too far away, so they have to jog a little bit to catch up.

26.) From SamSham:

Everyone has a container of paper clips on their desks, and since I work at a construction company and I am alone for 90% of the day, I go around and make paper clip chains at everyone's desks and then shove it back into the container. It is the best to watch their faces as they reach to grab one paper clip and they get a chain of 100+.

27.) From workacct20910:

I got a job as a federal attorney. I rebel by trying to make government actually function in a progressive manner.

28.) From CANOODLING_SOCIOPATH:

Every time I see a sign I do the opposite of what it says.

Pull with two hands to get paper towels. What am I your slave? One hand in the middle and let that bitch rip.

29.) From Ravinac:

In our office we are allowed to have either 2 posters and a picture at our desk or 2 pictures and a poster. Well I have 2 posters, one is a list of Chuck Norris facts and the other is from a show I watch. I have a picture of my dog haning next to the show poster.

One day I got bored at work and had nothing to do, so I went online and became a minister of The Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster just for shits and giggles.

So I get my certificate and forget about the stupid limit on personal items. So along comes my asshole of a boss who everybody in the office hates, telling me that something has to go. Well rather than give into his demands for an honest mistake on my part, I decide to claim religouse profiling, and that he was discriminating against my "faith". I argued that my certificate should be exempt because it is niether a picture nor a poster. Well my boss doesn't like it so he presses the issue, so I call up an HR rep and talk to them about it. Long story short boss gets in trouble for religious profiling, and I get to keep the certificate.

30.) From [deleted]:

I steal coffee creamer. I don't even drink coffee.

31.) From markstrech:

You can get back at the man by opening your own business and becoming the man.

If your guilty pleasure is watching reality TV, you're not alone. Most people are simply addicted to the drama. Any die-hard reality fan will find these memes hilarious and relatable as hell. Oh, and if you don't like reality shows, that's ok. I didn't come here to make friends.

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There's already so much that can go wrong at weddings, so at the very least, it should be guaranteed that the people getting married do, in fact, love each other.

People on Reddit shared stories of moments they saw at weddings that spelled doom for the couple, which statistically, happens A LOT.

1. Grandma knows everything, EDDIE_BR0CK.

At my brother's (first) wedding, my Grandma apparently saw a brief exchange of looks between the bride and her boss. She kept her mouth shut and sure enough, within the year, they were divorced, Bride was f*cking her boss.

2. That'll do it, gegg1.

When the hotel had to at the last minute organise a seperate room for the newly married man.

3. Back2Bach wouldn't go behind her back.

The wedding couple came to see me about a month in advance of the ceremony to choose music for the occasion.

They couldn't agree about anything - from the processional to the recessional, and everything in between. She wanted the organ to be soft as she entered - he wanted the organ to be big and "triumphant" (his words).

On the actual wedding day, long before the event began, he came up to the organ with his best man and offered me a "tip" if I'd do it his way and play a big organ piece instead of the softer, smaller-scaled entrance she preferred. I told him we needed to honor what had been agreed upon and not change it at the 11th hour behind her back.

I remember the exchange vividly - making me wonder this: If he were this devious now and uncaring about her wishes before being married, what would it be like after the exchange of rings and vows?

4. Classic Bob, ThesolutionismeNAT.

At my best friends wedding, the groom's dad was dropping some things off at the church. Just to make small talk, I said, "Bob, are you ready for the big day." He said "Well, you know what they say, everyone's gotta have a first wife."

5. mpschan's friend deserves better.

My best friend since middle school was getting married. He is really good at piano and singing, so he wrote a song and sang it to his wife at the reception. He was super nervous but he killed it. EVERY woman was in tears it was such a lovely song ...

Except for the bride. Stood right next to the piano with what I interpreted as a forced smile. The attention wasnt on her for 5 minutes ...

Divorced 2 years later.

6. Very Real Housewives, streamstroller.

The bride wouldn't stop hugging my husband, who, unbeknownst to us, was her 'first true love'. He thought they were good friends, all HER friends knew that she was in love with him and were shocked that he showed up for the wedding. My husband was clueless. She was clinging to him and crying. It was horrible and we bolted as soon as possible.

7. Sadly, MZ603's story is reality TV material, too.

I witnessed the very tail end of an argument where she grabbed the half-finished cocktail out of his hand and smash the glass against the side of the building.

I have no idea what they were fighting about and I don't think they even saw me. They are still married, but I know he isn't happy. He will never end it, because they have a kid. I hate visiting them.

8. L'chaim, RepetitiveDolphin.

They had split up a couple of years previously because he drank too much and got violent. When they reconnected years later, it was on the understanding that he would never drink again.

I found him drinking neat spirits behind a bush at their reception.

9. Please write this romance novel, redhairedlibrarian.

When the best man's speech talked about how much he was in love with the groom, how they had been together since long before she showed up, and if there was any truth, justice, or beauty in the world it would have been the two of them being married.

Bride and groom tried but c'mon, what do you do with that. Marriage over in a year, he cut off his lover who ended up drinking a lot for about ten years but is doing ok now (married to a different guy)

10. Confidence is key, HowlingIronWolf.

Wedding of a friend's roommate, who was crazy, jealous, and temperamental. The bride's vows were a study in low self-esteem. "When we first met, I couldn't believe that he could ever have liked me! I thought no one would ever be attracted to me!" (she is at least a 5 or 6, not ugly by any means) etc. They got divorced after a couple of years. It was initiated by her, surprisingly enough. Guess she found some self esteem?

11. Eye contact is key, MartijnCvB.

My friend was getting married to his neighbour. I hardly knew her, didn't know he was into her, the wedding was rather sudden.

They were both from very religious families, she had gotten pregnant after they had had sex once in "a moment of weakness and drunkenness", their families pressured them into the marriage. At the wedding, they barely looked at each other, they argued (though with enough taste to do it quietly and away from most guests) over several details, and the bride got very drunk (had I mentioned yet that she was pregnant?). The baby was born with dark hair though both my friend and his wife were blond, DNA test confirmed the baby wasn't his and they divorced, less than 6 months after the marriage.

12. Turn the other cheek, damn_jexy.

When the priest said "you may now kiss the bride" and he going for it and she turn the cheek into his lips.

13. D'oh, Eyerockets.

It was my wedding. We were having a small ceremony at home, and he insisted on pausing it to watch The Simpsons. I went along with it, but it made me feel like he wasn't taking our wedding seriously.

Shockingly, that marriage didn't last.

14. Wait, what KarizmaWithaK?

During the vows, the groom was repeating after the minister and when it came to the part of "Forsaking all others until death do you part," the groom stopped and said, "Wait, what?" The minister repeated the phrase and the groom said, "Uh, okay?" Of course he cheated throughout the marriage.

15. Ouch, Gustlock.

I'm a wedding photographer and once while we were shooting a couples "first look" I had told the groom he could turn around to see his stunning new bride for the first time. Now most grooms will have a huge smile on their face...some will even cry...but this guy....he was like a friggin robot. Nothing. No smile...no crying...nothing. He just stood there staring at her as she smiled back at him. Finally she whispered to him very shyly, "well aren't you gonna tell me I look beautiful?" He shrugs his shoulders....and I was at a complete loss for words. So then I try to lighten the moment up and tell him "Hey...it's ok to touch her"...hoping he would at lease give her a hug. He then proceeded (and I kid you not) to reach out and poke her with his finger. It was all I could do not to throw my camera at the prick. This poor girl had been dreaming about this moment since she was 6....and this guy just took a that moment and flushed it down the toilet forever.

16. That's not fair to the sandwich, wil1i5.

At the reception, the groom's brother kept throwing peanuts at the groom when he turned his back. It really pissed him off. He thought it was his new wife. Groom turned around and smashed his sandwich in her face. Classy.

17. Yikes, BriarRose21.

The groom wouldn't stop hitting on me.

I was the bartender who happened to be assigned to that banquet hall, and I had never met him before in my life.

Grief is a horrible and inexplicable experience that buries you in waves of sadness and disassociation, and can make the concept of returning to "normal" seem impossible. While some losses hit people harder than others, comparing tragedy is a senseless activity that attempts to quantify pain in a way erases its complexities.

Losing a child feels different than losing a parent, just as losing a close friend feels different than losing an aunt - all grief is filtered through individual relationship and your own personality. So, when people try to measure pain or assume sameness because you've both experienced loss it can be incredibly triggering.

In a recent post on the Am I The A*shole subreddit, a man asked if he was wrong for snapping at his friend after she compared the recent loss of her dog to the loss of his son.

AITA for telling a friend that her dog dying is not the same as my kid?

Looking at the title I know you’ll probably think NTA, but there’s a bit of context involved.

OP shared that as of this week, his good friend lost her dog of 16 years.

Naturally, she is in the throes of grieving, so friends have been visiting and offering consoling words.

So yesterday, my friend’s 16-year-old dog that she had since she was ten passed away. The dog was her best friend and she’s been a wreck. We’ve all been visiting to take care of her because all she wants to do is just lie in bed and cry. Today she was a bit better and she asked for me specifically.

When OP had a moment alone with his friend, she told him she now understands how he felt when he lost his 5-year-old son years ago.

She said, “Now I know what it felt like for you. Losing a kid is so, so hard.” I’m 26M, my girlfriend got pregnant at fourteen and I was a father at fifteen. He was the best little boy ever and I was in love with him. I had a job and her parents kicked her out so she moved in with mine and by the time I was 19, I was happy and me and her moved into an apartment together. But when the next year, when he was five years old, he got hit by a truck and passed away. It’s been six years and I still think of him every day.

OP, feeling emotional whiplash from the intense statement, immediately corrected his friend by saying that losing a dog is nowhere comparable to losing a son.

Whem she doubled down on the comparison and brought up the fact that her dog was alive longer than OP's son, he got angry and left.

I told her, maybe a little insensitively, “You didn’t lose a kid.” She looked taken aback and said she did and something about how “fur babies” were kids too. I said losing a kid is nothing like losing a dog and she started getting angry and told me she raised her dog for way longer than my son. I got mad, and yelled at her to never talk about my son again and then I stormed out.

Since the fight, OP has received a variety of mixed messages from mutual friends, some of whom think he was too harsh on his grieving friend, and others who understand his reaction.

Her best friend sent me a long message about how she understands I’m grieving about my kid but her grief is fresh and I’ve had six years to deal with it. My friends are divided on this, some say I should have just nodded along, others say she was out of line mentioning my kid. AITA?

Initial_Elderberry pointed out a key difference: pet owners know they'll have to grieve their animal eventually.

Everyone saying you're TA doesnt realize that you willingly take on the death of a pet when you adopt them. It hurts and we all hate losing them, but that's just life.

Losing your child is 100% different because you plan for them to bury you, not the other way around. Your friend may be grieving but she had no right to bring up your child like that. Even people who have had miscarriages 20+ years ago can still hardly talk about it because it's so painful.

NTA.

Allthepizza99 loves their animals, but knows losing an older dog is nothing like losing a young child.

This! I don’t have kids and I love my dogs like my children, I will grieve for them hard when they pass but I know that losing them is not the same as losing an actual child.

Like you said, a mature pet owner understands that animals have a shorter life span and will, likely, pass during a persons lifetime. With a pet, especially if you’ve had them most of their life, you will go through those stages of life with them and, especially as they age, their passing shouldn’t come as a huge surprise. A dog passing at 16, as devastating as it is for the owner, shouldn’t come as a huge surprise.

OP didn’t get to go through those life stages with his son and his loss was a shock. No one expects to lose a child at such a young age. He lost his child, he’s never going to teach him how to shave or teach him to drive or have those parent moments he was probably really looking forward to and that is more painful than losing a pet will ever be.

smolboi1995 thinks there's no comparison, and that OP's friend is lucky he called her out.

NTA, while I love dogs and obviously think of them very highly, this dog had a long and full life. Comparing it to the death of your six year old human child is wildly inappropriate. I don’t know how else she expected you to react. Obviously it would have been better if you said nothing, but I don’t think she should be going around making this comparison to anyone else. It’s lucky you are a friend because another person may have punched her.

raesin45 has lost a cat and now has kids and could never compare the two.

I agree so much with this. I love animals and I’ve always had pets growing up and I loved them all, especially a cat I had for 14 years. When she died It was the hardest heartbreak I’ve had to go through (at the age of 19). Now I’m 29 with two kids and if I lost one I wouldn’t think “oh no, not this again” because it wouldn’t be the same as losing a beloved pet, it’s unimaginable and every parents worst nightmare.

His “friends” should get their heads out of each other’s asses. “Fur babies” are not comparable to human babies.

Her best friend sent me a long message about how she understands I’m grieving about my kid but her grief is fresh and I’ve had six years to deal with it.

Tears_of_skeletons brought up the fact that mourning a child involves mourning their future almost as much as mourning what was.

NTA. And her words are one of the things I hate most about people who haven't lost a child. There is no "it's already been six years". You didn't just lose your five-year-old son. You lost who he could have been and who he was going to be. You will think of him on his 10th birthday when he should have been hitting double digits. You'll miss him on his 13th birthday when you realize these should have been his teenage years. You'll miss the day when he should have been graduating high school, going to college.

You'll grieve and miss the day that he could have been getting married and having kids. You mourn your son as a person, not as some entity that was here for just a few years. And having a dog, cat, chicken, horse, or any other non human creature, will never ever compare to the loss of your child. Fur babies are not babies. Period. It's a bad idea to compare bullet wounds, always. I'm so sorry for your loss.

While at this point the internet empathizes most with OP's plight, the post has opened up an interesting discussion about the different ways grief manifests, a conversation that most of us could use more of - since grief is an inevitability for us all.

Girl Scout Cookies are the crack cocaine of the dessert world. They are wildly addictive and you have to get them through a dealer. At least Girl Scout cookies won't ruin your life, just your diet. Snack on these hilarious Girl Scout Cookie memes and kill time until you can get your next fix.

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We all have a few of those embarrassing stories that keep us up at night. And so, so many of them happen at school.

A recent Reddit thread asked people to share the cringiest things they ever did as a kid at school. The results are painfully relatable.

1. To be fair, this sounds more entertaining than half the comedy specials on Netflix.

Did a stand-up comedy routine at the elementary school talent show that was just me retelling an entire Pinky and the Brain episode. The only things I remember were me awkwardly stopping to remember parts of it, doing a lot of that "and, um, and then" that kids do when they're trying to tell a story, and the noticeably fake laughter from the faculty. - HerptyDerpty

2. Those desks are a total health hazard.

Leaned too far forward in my desk and tipped it over. It was the kind where the chair is attached to the desk so I actually got stuck in it. Everyone in the classroom watched as my TA had to run over and tip the desk back upright with me still in it. It was pretty embarrassing and the worst part was when I tried to make a joke about it afterwards, nobody laughed. - naanbud

3. Every detail of this makes it worse.

We were given extra credit to dress up while presenting a report on a historical figure. I dressed up as a slave trader, I'm female so I even used eyeliner to draw a nice beard... This was college and he had meant dress formal. Teacher gave me 10 extra credit points for my humiliation. - wizardsluv_spiders

4. So now art is against school rules??

Got caught by the Principal (she saw me through the window during her rounds) while drawing my English teacher nude during her lecture. And she showed the drawing to my father. - dapoorv

5. This is why underwear is always a good idea.

Playing an icebreaker where you have to pick a cereal box off the ground with your teeth and cannot let your knees or elbows touch the ground. When successful you rip that piece off and the box gets smaller and the task gets harder.

Well, we were down to just a small piece at the end of the game that you’d have to be able to touch your face to the ground essentially to pick it up.

Up for the challenge, I go and try to win the game for those of us remaining who haven’t failed yet. I bend down but my tight khakis ripped right at the crotch level. Oh and I wasn’t wearing boxers.

Picture me, squatted as low as possible teabagging a tiny piece of cardboard with my balls COMPLETELY hanging out in the middle of a circle of like 40 people. - leakinglego

6. Who doesn't wish their boyfriend would just dissociate every once in a while?

I used to pretend that I had multiple personalities because I thought it made me cool and attractive - Zachfulger

7. Pretty metal.

In 3rd grade I wrote a love letter to a girl I liked, and signed it "iron raptor" because I thought that sounded so fucking cool.

I'm 33 and thinking about it now makes me want to smash my head through the window I'm sitting next to and bleed out on the side of my house. - pawnmarcher

8. Sometimes the punishment of a blank stare is enough.

I farted during story time around 2nd or 3rd grade. Everyone just looked at me. - youngblock69696

9. Ask a public question, get a public answer.

Super early powerpoint, like, power point 1.0. I added a slide:

"[Girl], would you go out with [my name]?"

into the middle of the teacher's slide deck.

It flashed onto the screen, all the kids laugh at me and she just said "NO" very loudly. - billpapa

10. Batman is for real, though.

I argued with my high school biology teacher that exhaust from a car's tailpipe can indeed catch fire. He asked if I had seen it happen before. I said of course I had - in "Batman." - Chizwick

11. Oof.

I had walked around school all day in light wash jeans covered in period blood. I thought my period was over (it wasn’t) and no one told me that I was bleeding. Please tell your friends if they’re bleeding though their pants.

Nobody wants to write thank-you notes.

It's just something we all agreed to torture ourselves with, probably centuries ago. And for anyone who doesn't write thank-you notes, a lifetime of shame awaits.

One bride is trying to get out of thank-you duty after learning that her in-laws said some not-nice things about her at the wedding. Now she's asking the internet: is it okay to forego thank-yous?

The story starts with the bride admitting she doesn't get along with her in-laws:

So my partner (28M) and I (25F) recently got married. We had a wonderful wedding that we paid for ourselves (with some help as wedding presents from family). I've admittedly had problems with my in-laws for a while. They've called me some really nasty names and blamed me for moving my partner and I out of state.

But she was surprised to learn the level of smack-talk that went on behind her back at her own wedding:

I've found out that the day of our wedding my in-laws again said some really nasty things about my relationship with my partner. Including suggesting we get an annulment because "it won't last long enough". During our wedding we paid for the rooms and food for our weekend wedding because we knew family was coming from out of state.

So she's thinking of skipping the whole thank-you note thing:

It's now around that time to send "thank you" cards for people who attended our wedding. I'm currently in school and my partner regularly works 55+ hours a week. I'm really having trouble bringing myself to make, pay for and address "thank you" cards mostly for people who really look down on my relationship. At the end of the day my side of the family won't care too much because they love both of us, so reddit, am I the asshole for not wanting to send my in-laws "thank you" cards for a wedding that they actively degraded ?

She adds that she could do emails as a cheaper, less time-consuming option:

I know my in-laws said to my husband "get an annulment and don't have kids or you'll be stuck with her". I would happily do emails with no problem, I just don't want to get cards and spend money I don't have on people who actively insulted me to my husband.

And that she didn't even want to do the wedding in the first place:

I also planned and executed the entire wedding despite not wanting one. I wanted to elope but my partner wanted a wedding so I pulled it together. I honestly don't think if I ask him to write out thank you that he will. (Also fun fact: I didn't realize I only had to send something to people who sent gifts, so thanks reddit!)

Still, people are saying that if the couple skips thank-you notes, she and her husband are the a-holes in this situation.

Elaina__rose says she should "take the high road":

You send a thank you card to anyone who gave you a gift. Even if they suck. Why give them even more fodder against you? Take the high road and be as polite and kind to them as you can possibly be. Nothing will make them angrier.

TravelingBride agrees:

it’s really not that hard to grab a pack of thank you cards at Target and scribble a brief thank you for coming/for the gift. It’s just basic etiquette. It’s never fun but we all have to do it when we get married. Have your husband wrote the thank you notes for his side of it really bothers you that much.

misstiff1971 had a nice passive-aggressive suggestion:

send a card to acknowledge the gift they gave and just for fun - add "We want to thank you for the all well wishes for the happiness for our future. The support you expressed on our wedding day will never be forgotten." :-)

And vanastalem points out that it's the husband's job, too:

Why can't you compromise? You can both do the cards to your own family, so you wouldn't be responsibe for your spouse's side.

And daydreamer8893 points out that the rudeness is a separate issue:

it sucks a handful of people were rude during your wedding weekend but that doesn’t really excuse being rude back. This is two separate issues - if you have a problem with your in-laws behavior you should discuss with your spouse how to handle that. But if people got you gifts it’s super rude not to thank them. Email/card whatever - send something .

So, sorry bride... you're just gonna have to waste money and time on filling out pieces of paper with generic messages of thanks, as tradition dictates!

Another day another opportunity to laugh at memes. I've got a whole new batch of hilarious jokes that are sure to tickle your funny bone this morning.

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A new novel by Jeanine Cummins about Mexicans crossing the border has inspired a meme about stereotypes on Twitter.

The book, titled, "American Dirt," has already landed a movie deal and it has been added to Oprah's renowned book club. However, many people don't think she should be able to write a story about Mexican immigrants, as she's never experienced any of the hardship she wrote about. According to Vice, Cummins "asserts she is white," though has a Puerto Rican grandmother. At the end of the novel, she added a note that reads, "I wished someone slightly browner than me would write it. But then I thought, if you’re a person who has the capacity to be a bridge, why not be a bridge? So I began." While some of the feedback is that she doesn't have a right to be that bridge at all, others say that she should've just tried to write a more realistic story.

The debate continued about whether authors and creatives should stick to the "write what you know" mentality, only creating work based on experiences they've lived and are familiar with and that this book is the result of a publishing industry that desperately lacks diverse authors.

Luckily, a hilarious meme was born that mocks the regional and cultural stereotypes depicted in novels versus the reality.

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