Is it ok to play a practical joke on your sister-in-law to protect your unconventional sex life?

Family relationships in general can sometimes get awkward, but in-laws are usually a whole different kind of challenge. The "nobody is good enough" stereotype is sometimes unfortunately very real and partners can feel totally left out and isolated from people who they are supposed to consider their own family. When it comes to your sex life, though, that's usually off limits for judgment. What two (or three) consenting adults do behind closed doors is their private business and they should be free to do what makes them happy. Prudes are a buzzkill!

However, family members can often still find a way to offer their opinions on your sexual choices or preferences. So, for all of humanity's moral dilemmas, Reddit's "Am I the As*hole" is here to save the day. Let's dive in, shall we?

AITA (Am I the As*hole?) for pretending that my husband cheated when my prudish SIL came over?

I've been married for 7 years. We have a great marriage, though his brother's wife V has always been highly judgmental. She didn't think I was good enough to marry into the family and since we both had kids at the same time things have gotten worse. She doesn't like my parenting, my marriage, well anything really.

So my husband and I have a semi open marriage. We're interested in swinging and threesomes, but if the other person isn't there it's crossing a line. My two daughters were out of the house last night so we invited my best friend/ our sometimes threesome partner for a sleepover.

V ended up coming over in the morning to drop something off. I kind of remembered her saying she was going to, but I didn't think we'd picked a day and I thought she would text. She wanted to use the bathroom, which is fine, but while I was downstairs she went into my master bathroom (she's nosy and has done this before, there is a guest one on the first floor of the house) and saw my husband and friend in bed.

V came down stairs very upset and I pretended that I was shocked. I guess I was convincing because V went upstairs and went off on my husband about how he's the same man he's always been, she's so lucky she got the good brother, he should be ashamed.

He was sort of hungover and confused, but I gave it away my laughing and then I flopped on the bed with them. Yeah, she doesn't think I'm funny. My BIL called very upset saying we shouldn't expose our sex lives like that and that I've always been a "mean girl" For the record my husband thinks this is hilarious, and my friend doesn't care at all, she's much more open about her lifestyle then we are, so I'm curious AITA (Am I the As*hole?)

People were quick to offer advice:

I was prepared to mad but honestly that’s hilarious, and it’s entirely your SIL’s fault for going upstairs and going into your bedroom and your bathroom when she had a different one available. You weren’t shoving anything into her face she invaded what should have been have been your own private space. - idiosyncraticquirk

Not at all! She went into your private bedroom and exposed herself to your sex life.

It's not your fault she's uptight. - Afoolsjourney

This is hilarious. The "mean girl" is the one who's walking into other people's bedrooms looking for something to gripe about. - ListeningToday

This reminds me of those college kids who kept getting harassed by Jehovah’s Witness trying to force themselves in at 6am... so they all got naked and did a bunch of satanic shit and were never bothered again... point is, maybe this will teach her not to be so nosy. - VShadowOfLightV

Some people weren't totally on her side, though:

She went and defended your honor! I think that's sort of sweet she gave him a piece of her mind and stood up for you. Then she was just the butt of your joke. Bit mean-girlish. - InterestingLook3

the joke was made at her expense and it was mean spirited - shieraseastar13

In general though, most people agreed that this sister-in-law shouldn't have gone snooping and she probably got what she deserved for being so judgmental. Good luck, everyone!

The internet has been teeming with viral videos of racist white women losing it the past few weeks.

The "Karen" videos show a white woman calling the cops on a Black bird watcher, another Karen screaming slurs at a Black woman and then attempting to file a police report, yet another getting into a physical fight after telling a Native American woman to "go back to Mexico," and sadly, the list doesn't end there.

Because of the prolific nature of these Karen videos, when people scroll past a clip of a white woman screaming, it's often assumed to be yet another prejudice melt-down.

Luckily, there are exceptions to any internet trend, and one viral clip deemed an "Anti-Karen" video shows a white woman yelling about voter repression and solidarity.

For context, on June 9th, Georgia held a primary election, and unfortunately it was blighted by long lines, bureaucratic ineptitude, and voter repression.

All of these factors have been at play for years, but social media makes it easier to witness how voter repression takes shape, and the complications of COVID-19 has made the process even more wrought.

While documenting Georgia's primary, Barmel Lyons, a freelance reporter for CBS46, captured a clip of a white woman yelling about the perniciousness of voter repression:

She yelled:

"You guys, I'm terrified. I ran for office, I worked for president Obama in the White House. This is wrong! This is America. Please, god, help us. I mean it. This is a crisis in our world to make us not exercise our right to vote. I tweeted all the major networks, so, everybody tweet the networks! The radio stations, everybody, please everybody. We can not tolerate this. I love you! I love civil disobedience, let's work together. I have to go home to take medicine, but I love you."

People quickly responded to the video, echoing the woman's concerns over voter repression.

Many suggested that Brian Kemp leveraged voter repression to beat Stacey Abrams in 2018, while others expressed concern over how this will affect the 2020 general presidential election.

When people called the white woman a Karen, others were quick to point out that her sentiments were the opposite of a Karen.

More than a few people expressed relief that this video wasn't of a racist rant, but rather, a woman justifiably frustrated by her state's voting practices.

Hopefully, this woman's concerns - and the concerns of so many of her neighbors, will reach the major networks and pull Governor Brian Kemp towards accountability.

Before there were endless online marketplaces and dating apps, there was Craigslist: the one-stop-shop for an array of secondhand items, unregulated goods and services, and sex. It's anonymous, doesn't use a rating system, has almost no oversight, and is basically one step below the Dark Web in terms of its reputation for lawlessness and chaos. There's even a sub-Reddit called Crackhead Craigslist devoted to compiling some of the craziest things people have ever tried to sell.

Here are 33 of the weirdest and funniest Craigslist ads ever posted that highlight the fact that people will go to almost any length to make a few extra bucks:

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If you've ever gotten high, you know what it's like to feel your brain drift into another realm while you think turn over absurd thoughts and struggle with basic activities.

While it can easily go from fun and dreamy to stressful and disorienting, getting too high makes for some very funny moments, and when you document it on social media, you have something to look back on and laugh at.

I have gathered 25 posts from (or about) people who got too high, and I recommend scrolling through if you need a laugh.

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It's hard to see the forest for the trees when you're in a toxic relationship. Which is to say, if you're dating someone emotionally manipulative, you may spot a few toxic invidual traits without realizing that's the root of the entire forest.

While other people's opinions on relationships aren't always a useful metric, there are times when it takes an outside perspective to pinpoint what's really happening between two people. For this reason, the Am I The A*shole subreddit is often overflowing with posts from people seeking out relationship advice.

One recent post was written by a woman wondering if it was wrong of her to snoop through her boyfriend's phone after finding out he was posting her nudes without consent.

AITA for going through my boyfriends phone after he had been posting explicit pictures of me online with out my knowledge?

OP recently found out that her boyfriend of three years has been posting explicit photos of her on a secret porn account.

So this happened literally a few days back but I’m still shaken.

My boyfriend of 3 years had a secret porn account I did not know about where he had been posting explicit pictures of me to subreddits with out my knowledge, even trading other women’s pictures for mine and etc.

OP found out about the photos while browsing Reddit's NSFW platforms, and upon that discovery, went through his phone to find more evidence.

I found this out while browsing through Reddit’s NSFW platforms and saw my pictures being posted online, these were pictures I had only ever sent to him and him alone so I was horrified. That night I took his phone while he slept and went through it and discovered his secret reddit account where he had been messaging people and posting my pictures online.

Through his phone, OP found out her boyfriend had been trading nudes of her for pictures of other women, entering himself into competitions to receive nudes, and smoking and drinking behind her back.

I went through his entire phone, from his pictures to his texts to see exactly how far he had taken this, not only had he traded my pictures but he’s been lying to me about a multitude of things. His ex had been hitting on him and while he didn’t make any advances he simply just didn’t tell me, he had a kik account he used to trade pictures of me for other women’s pictures and send pictures of himself to “compete” for other women’s pictures. He also has been smoking and drinking behind my back (he’s been trying to quit because it’s affecting his health but I guess that was a lie) and just so many things I thought I could trust him on.

The morning after these discoveries, OP confronted him about his behavior, and he flipped the script on her. He claimed that looking through his phone was as much a betrayal of trust as

That next morning I told him I knew everything and asked him why he would do what he did, he said he was sorry for posting the pictures but that I extremely violated his privacy by going through his phone and that I should’ve just confronted him with out doing that. I don’t know how to feel as I’ve been crying non stop over the fact that my pictures have been posted out for the world to see and my family and coworkers could know it’s me. My boyfriend is insisting I also breached his trust by going through his phone and am equally at fault for breach of trust.

AITA?

KimeeS66 urged OP to get out of the relationship as soon as possible.

WOAH. What he did was massively illegal and absolutely not okay. He’s gaslighting you as well. GET OUT.

nan1ta encouraged OP to take legal action against him.

Usually I would go for YTA for going through someone's phone, BUT.

"He said he was sorry for posting the pictures but that I extremely violated his privacy by going through his phone and that I should’ve just confronted him with out doing that."

Yeah, no. He doesn't get to complain about his privacy when yours have been violated.

NTA and sue the living hell out of him.

stormscaper is baffled and disgusted by OP's boyfriend's hypocrisy and thoughtlessness.

He had the nerve. to say that you “violated his privacy” after he POSTED YOUR INTIMATE PICS ONLINE.

NTA a thousand times over!! Usually I’m all for phone privacy but in this case you were completely justified. Get that man outta your life, OP, and preferably make sure he deletes his account in front of you before he leaves.

KiaraZim echoed others by urging OP to get out of the relationship ASAP.

This is a tough one. First of all, he is right that you shouldn’t have gone through his phone without his permission BUT your reaction was normal and I really dont blame you; I think i’d have done the same. Here's what I would do next.

1. Get out of that relationship. NOW. He is manipulative and emotionally abusive.

2. Cut all ties with him, dont let him back in your life.

Good luck stay safe.

After receiving unanimous advice to dump her boyfriend, OP jumped back in to share that she is making plans to leave him.

Update: I have read everyone’s advice and realize I do need to make a plan to leave. I’ve been looking at all sources given to me and making a list. I packed a few things and have gone to my mom's house, I haven’t told her anything just that I wanted to see her but she can tell something's up. I’m still not ready to open up to loved ones about this but I have at least gotten out of the house.

I apologize for not responding to all the comments but I appreciate all the feedback, I’m still hurting a lot and trying to process everything so I need to take breaks and breathe before reading more comments. Thank you for the kind advice and private messages

Update 2: I talked to my mom and told her what happened, she cried and I cried and basically she just held me and told me she would do anything to make sure he was punished. I’m happy she was supportive.

A lot of you are mentioning that I should delete the pictures and yeah, I should’ve but like an idiot I didn’t. When I was looking through his phone I was so afraid I would get caught all I did was look, I didn’t think to delete anything and I don’t know if I’ll be able to get to it now. Right now my mom is making some phone calls for me while I take time to breathe, I haven’t told my boyfriend I’m leaving yet because I want to make sure he doesn’t post my pictures again or does something like that so I’m taking it slow. Thank you for all the advice.

This is one of the many instances in which the internet can be a force for immediate and postive change. Hopefully OP is able to get closure and have all of those pictures scrubbed from the internet.

Every once in awhile you start a seemingly normal small-talk conversation with a stranger that escalates rapidly into the other person sharing some seriously deep, dark, twisted secrets...

Some people have no filter when it comes to strangers, and sometimes it's more comfortable to share intimate details about your life with someone who doesn't have any reference point or previous information to inform their opinion of you. However, things can get seriously awkward when someone shares something so personal and cringe-inducing that you feel secondhand pain for them while they act as if it's nothing. Let's just say there's always a handful of people out there that take the question "how are you" very literally...

So, when a recent Reddit user asked, "What is the most horrific thing that someone has told you super casually?" people were ready to reveal the darkest, most shocking and scarring twists to a regular conversation they ever experienced.

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I once asked my grandfather, "how you doing grandpa?"

And he said, "Not good, not good. I moved my bowels three times already today. Went to the doctors and they put a tube in my penis".

Should I mention we were at a family funeral? - queer_no_evil

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I called my cousin and at the beginning of the convo I asked what she was doing, she said: "oh just standing at the counter looking at my hand." I thought it was a little weird but my cousin is a little weird so I forgot about it, anyway half-an-hour later she goes "the blood has now stained my shirt I think I should hang up and go to the ER." I was like "WHAT?" so she replied, "oh I stabbed myself with the meat cleaver 10 minutes before you called and the knife is still in my hand, I'm fine but my shirt is now ruined." - Savannah_P_Frost

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A couple of years ago I was on one of those music festival cruises. I was sitting down waiting on my friends to finish their drinks and what not when this lady sits down next to me. Somehow we get to talking about dogs. I tell her about mine, she tells me that hers is a comfort dog. I didn’t ask her to elaborate because it wasn’t any of my business, but she tells me it’s because she didn’t leave her house for five years. Again, I didn’t ask why. She went on to tell me, a perfect stranger who’d been talking to her for all of 5 minutes, that her ex boyfriend was stalking her and broke into her house so she had to shoot him and kill him. - lemcke3743

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Lawyer here. I was representing a teenaged boy charged with molesting a younger relative. His mother told me, "what's the big deal? I was molested as a kid and it didn't hurt me." - JournalOfFailure

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When I was twenty something back in the 90s I was sitting on the front steps of my condo waiting for my sister’s husband to pick me up.

Nice old fellow, a tenant of my building, sat down next to me. His first sentence he’d ever spoken to me was “Did you hear that they’re taking my testicles off on Thursday?” I responded that I had not. He continued “yep, don’t use them much anymore after the Mrs died”.

Mercifully at that moment my brother in law drove up. - baudtothebone

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My roommate and I are casually playing video games. Third roommate enters.

“Man, don’t you guys hate it when you sh*t a bunch of blood?”

“Uhhh...we don’t sh*t blood...“

“Really? You don’t sh*t and have some blood come out every once in a while?”

“Bro you need to go to the doctor.”

Apparently it was just a hemorrhoid but still. - gunterzwei

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I once had a customer ,who was an RN, tell me “I’ve changed patients charts because the doctor didn’t know what they were doing.” - mistresscatgirl

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The woman who waxed my eyebrows casually dropped into the conversation that she was married at fourteen. Her parents got her married overseas. The government thinks she four years older than she actually is. She was still married to the guy and seemed perfectly fine with this arrangement. - kesh_from_downunder

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When I worked at a grocery store some dude I worked with made a comment about how “days like this really make me want to stick a bomb (he literally named a specific military-type bomb) in the store. I know exactly where I’d put it too.” I reported him, never heard or saw anything from him again. - FembotFemputer

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I was sitting in a pub with an "acquaintance" so friend of a friend sort of thing. He was always a bit quiet. I think the rest of the group were either at the bar or toilet, not sure.

Out of the blue he says "I killed someone last month."

Ookkaayyy!

"He was a pedophile, had been abusing my younger cousin for years. So my elder cousins and me shot him, buried him in a shallow grave."

I asked why he was telling me this and he looked me in the eye and said "I'm not sure if we did the right thing but I had to tell someone."

And it was never mentioned again. - tribble0001

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GF and I was sitting at a café While on holiday in Croatia. A guy at the next table notice our language and starts chatting with us. He tells a little about how he moved to our country in the 90’s, but comes home to Croatia for holidays. Then he casually mentions, that it was all after he was put in a concentration camp during the Balkan Wars. - LeakyLeadPipes

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Coworker told me her older sister got kicked out of the house a few weeks before 18th birthday and no one has hear from her since. Co-worker is now 54 years old. No one has heard from her sister in over 30 years. She told me the story as casually as if she was telling me about her weekend. Didn’t understand my shock - Play-Keno-In-Vegas

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Smoking in a Vegas casino I was approached by a guy around my age asking to have a cigarette so I hand one to him and my bf walks up with our drinks. The guy seemed nice, chatting for a minute, then says “me and some Friends are going to do mushrooms all weekend, wanna join? we have a guest room, and extra poop bags” ...we were confused and didn’t say anything, he continues “we eat the mushrooms then poop in the bags so we can get high off them again, don’t worry we bake it into cookies so you don’t taste it” 0_0 We politely declined trying to walk away casually and he said if we changed our minds he would be at the poker table for the next few hours. - Luvzmykunt

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My brother told me to my face after getting me grounded for a week that seeing me cry gives the most joy in the world, he was 7 - B0TT0M_TEXTT

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I was on a date with this girl and we drove by a fast food joint and a shared parking lot. She dead pan said, "my mom used to park here and shoot heroin with her bf while me and my brother sat in the backseat"

Me: oh, wow..

"I was a heroin baby, my mom was using while she was pregnant"

Me: oh. - Spicyfrijoles

Between the summer heat and social distancing, people on dating apps are feeling especially thirsty.

The months in quarantine have given people the opportunity to test out new openers, make their dirty jokes even dirtier, and engage in infinate swiping.

Here are some of the funniest back-and-forths singles have had online these past couple of weeks.

1. It's a family affair.

2. Memes are a love language.

3. That....escalated.

4. It's the Wild West out there.

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6. Feel the schadenfreude.

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8. This belongs on CreedThoughts.gov

9. They're on a break.

10. "Invasion of the Body Snatchers" reboot?

11. This guy is clearly very proud of this one.

12. Gimme gimme gimme a man after midnight.

13. Minnesota Nice.

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16. New Zealand is one huge flex.

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A photographer is being applauded on Twitter for her fiery response to a bride demanding a refund because of her support for the Black Lives Matter movement.

In a text message, the bride claimed that photographer Shakira Rochelle must be "unstable" because of her recent post in support of the Black Lives Matter movement and said it would be "embarrassing" to have her photograph her wedding. She insisted that she can only hire someone who believes "all lives matter," and demanded her deposit back. Rochelle's powerful and funny response went viral on Twitter and people are now blowing up her photography page with positive reviews.

This is a recent post on the Instagram page of Rochelle's photography business:

"Shakira Rochelle Photography stands in solidarity with the black community. The black lives matter movement has my endless support ✊🏼" she wrote in the caption.

A woman on Twitter who goes by "Q," possibly a friend of the photographer's, shared two screenshots of DM's Rochelle received from a bride who had hired her to photograph her wedding.

In the first DM, the bride requests a refund on the deposit she put down for Rochelle to photograph her wedding, explaining that she and her husband "cannot bring themselves" to support anyone who is "so outspoken" about the Black Lives Matter movement.

Rochelle responded to explain that the deposit is non-refundable, wished the woman a "lifetime of growth," and then dropped the mic.

"Thank you for your donation to Black Lives Matter," ends her message.

The bride responded: "You will be hearing from our attorney".

Q's tweet about the back-and-forth, which she captioned "I love it here," has exploded on Twitter, with over 30k retweets since this morning.

She followed up by sharing the photographer's business and contact information in case anyone wants to book her (and no doubt people will).

As far as the bride's threat of legal repercussions, she doesn't have much of a leg to stand on. As this person pointed out, there's not much a lawyer could do:

And many are pointing out that the whole point of a deposit is it's non-refundable:

And if Rochelle does end up needing a lawyer, this one offered to help free of charge:

But it's the "thank you for your donation" line that everyone's talking about.

Looks like this photographer won't have much trouble finding new clients anytime soon.

If you live in the Cincinnati, Ohio, area and are looking to hire a photographer, check out Rochelle's page here. But act fast because I have a feeling she's going to be all booked up for a while.

Most wedding party drama we read about or watch on TV happens on the bride's side, so it's inspiring to the movement for gender equality that men can be petty and inconsiderate, too!

A guy wrote into "Am I The A**hole?" asking whether he'd be a jerk to boycott his friend's wedding after the friend demoted him from Best Man...after the bachelor party. The ex-Best Man put in all of the work, but on the day of the wedding, wouldn't receive any of the glory including a prime place in pictures and a seat at the head table from which to ogle bridesmaids.

The story plays out like a frat boy drama that will give you college flashbacks.

He wrote:

Last year my best childhood friend (28M) asked me (28M) to be best man at his wedding, and I happily agreed. I think the process brought us closer together as we talked weekly for the next few months planning logistics and the bachelor party.

I worked hard on the bachelor party, which was a far away vacation. I spent months planning, and lots of money. I found time in everyone's schedule and booked an amazing vacation, it was a blast! I was his only childhood friend at the bachelor party, and everyone else was from his college frat. It was therefore like a typical college party setting, I did my best to learn all the drinking games they already knew how to play, and I thought we had a great time.

I guess I was out of my element, however, because my friend later told me that he felt like he bonded with his other friends better that weekend, and how he wants one of them to be the best man instead.

The groom no longer felt "the bond," and OP did not appreciate the promotion.

So I calmly told him that's fine, and that I won't be coming to the wedding because I feel like my efforts as a pre-best man were underappreciated, and I feel uncomfortable traveling to spend a days with people who make me feel that way.

He got upset, and his fiance told me I should "grow up" and be a good friend; I told them that we're all grownups, and we have no obligation to each other just because we're childhood friends. Friend and his fiance called me an a**hole, so AITA?

TL;DR: I agreed to be friend's best man, then he changed his mind over a year later after I fulfilled pre-wedding bestman duties, and I decided not to go to the wedding.

The people od Reddit were sympathetic towards the ex-best man, criticizing the groom for not being, well, the best man.

"NTA (Not The A**hole) - You don’t ask someone to be your best man and then demote them. Especially not to pick someone who is just a 'spur of the moment best friend' vs. a lifelong best friend," bruuhh1234 ruled.

Karllobo assured OP like he was going through a breakup.

"He swapped you out after you spent the time to plan his stag do. What an absolute melt. You're better off without him," they wrote.

NTA - Demoting someone from best man status AFTER you've spent a shit ton of money for an actual vacation as a bachelor party because you didn't immediately become besties with his frat brothers is an a**hole move," CelticSkye explained. "He's basically saying that you aren't good enough. You'd have been the AH if you had thrown a fit but you didn't. It appears you respected his decision even though it had to hurt very much. I wouldn't want to go to the wedding or be a part of it after that."

Odds are that this groom is going to need another best man at his next wedding. If he's willing to demote a lifelong friend from best man, he's almost certain to demote his wife to "ex-wife."

“In olden times, sacrifices were made at the altar, a practice which is still very much practiced.”

—Helen Rowland

Marriage is all about love and sacrifice, loving your partner while also sacrificing your desire to kill someone who continues to leave their wet towel on the floor. This meme list will be funny and relatable to anyone who's ever said, "I do." At least that's one thing you and your spouse will be able to agree on today.

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"The secret of staying young is to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age."
– Lucille Ball

Getting older is rough. One day you're dancing on a bar and the next you need a bar to hold on to while you squat over a public toilet. It all happens so fast. Take a little time out from complaining about your bills and back pain and have some laughs. Remember, you're only as old as you tell people you are.

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There's a common misconception that sociopaths and psychopaths are all violent criminals when in reality, they can seem totally normal — and sometimes their biggest crime is just being an a-hole to people around them.

A recent Reddit thread asked people to share what it was like to date a sociopath or psychopath. Here are 21 of the answers.

1. This sociopath had two other families...

I had a friend who married one. He changed 100% the night they got married. He went from a nice normal guy to super cold. He moved her out of state, got her pregnant, and had 2 other families on the side... she finally got out of it. F*cked her up for a long time

They got engaged at a little under 1.5 years and had a 6 month engagement. So on the faster end of a relationship but still with in the average - Harveyquinn6

2. Sociopaths know how to hook people.

A friend of mine dated a diagnosed sociopath, and she said it was frustrating because there wasn't any logic behind her attraction to him. She realized he was not good to her, but she couldn't stop going back to him. She described him as both the best and worst thing in her life when she was with him - Dinoflagellates

3. This person couldn't even get the police on her side.

He was a classic, into animal torture and stuff like that.

The way he got to talk endlessly about animal torture was by pretending he felt bad for it and looking for sympathy. "I can't believe I did [x] and [y], I feel so bad" - he kept mentioning it so much. He thought it was funny when me or the baby had pain. At one point he told me that it was so long ago, that by now I should also think it was funny that he had gotten my blood and pieces of my flesh on him.

He said that me having empathy was proof that I was mentally ill, because "empathy doesn't exist. You just learn in your teens that there's consequences for being bad to other people"

He also said that "nobody cares about women. They're like steak in the supermarket" and that when he saw a woman in the streets, he thought about raping them.

He is incredibly charismatic and the police said that I made a false report. He is still harassing me through the legal system. - OpenOpportunity

4. Gaslighting is common among sociopaths.

It was traumatizing. I felt like I was losing my mind from the casual cruelty and gaslighting. Took forever for me to trust obvious truths again, since he was skilled at maliciously twisting them.

.03/10, would not recommend. - Babblewocky

5. This person has permanent scars.

Yes, I dated a narcissistic sociopath. It was terrible, and left permanent scars. It took time but I realize now that everything was a lie. Well, his name was correct - but what he thought, felt, did, his plans and his history - I know none of those things.

He is a complete stranger and I never knew him at all.

I'm doing fine now, although once in a while I stop and shake my head because I feel so goddam dumb. - tequilamockingbird666

6. This person had a genius plan for breaking things off.

There wasn’t any diagnosis, but I was casually with a guy who was sending up some pretty serious red flags, and it suddenly clicked that he was a sociopath. No empathy. Would absolutely lie to people’s faces. Huge plans that went nowhere. Nothing was ever his fault. Rules were for other people.

When I drifted away from him or hung out with someone else, he would start putting lots of effort in again. And of course there was the cheating, lying, etc etc.

Luckily for me, I had recognized it early, and I realized I needed to be carful about how I went about detaching myself from him. So here is what I did, and hopefully it can help someone: I never actually broke things off with him or told him we were done.

Obviously this only works if you’re casual, but maybe some variation could work. So an example would be that when he asked me for something, I knew he wanted it right then. So whenever he contacted me to ask for something I’d say “sure, that sounds great! I get off of work in 3 hours and I’ll come right over with (whatever he wanted) after that!” He’d say no, never mind. I’d act like I was disappointed about it, so he thought he had successfully ‘punished’ me.

He thought I was still on the hook. I’d do this over and over until he stopped thinking of me as someone he could get things from. It took a while and a lot of acting upset when he would berate me or snap at me (I specifically remember sitting in his room while he yelled at me about where I put my purse down thinking “okay remember Vi, this is very upsetting. Look sad...”) but it did work without him going to any extremes. And we lived in the same building, so it was hard to just avoid him altogether.

Obviously your mileage may vary. - _violentlightning_

7. It's easy to develop trust issues after dating a sociopath.

Traumatic. I'm in therapy, but I'm scared of people now. I don't know if I want to get married or have kids.

I beat myself up for it because there were SO MANY SIGNS he was a sociopath. But I still wanted him. Even after a few years we first broke up.

He never cared about me and only cared about himself. He used me. I get really mad at myself when I think about it.

Even typing this out my anxiety is slightly hitting me.

I learned that I was in love with the idea of being in love and that my self-esteem was so low.

It's probably going to be a long time before I trust people again.

One of my biggest fears is falling into that again. Even worse, not leaving.

I'm thankful that I have family and friends so that helps me. I don't feel alone. I feel love all the time. - Wonderful_Upstairs

8. Being cheated on by a sociopath sucks.

I was a married to one. It was traumatizing. We had a child and he cheated while I was pregnant with a woman I specifically said “I don’t trust her, please avoid being alone with her” when she joined my group. (Other friends basically invited her in). He was verbally and mentally abusive. He told me no one would want me because I was a young single mom so I may as well come home and just let him cheat with whoever he felt like cheating with. I moved across the country to escape his insanity.

The best way I learned to deal with him is to ignore him and not give a shit. It messed with his ego big time. He really doesn’t know how to deal with someone who actually gives zero shots about him. He would try to tell me about whatever was going on in his life and I’d say “Why are you telling me this? I don’t care. Don’t speak to me unless it’s about our son.”

He kidnapped my child during a visit. Because our divorce was final in our home state, nothing could be done. It took me two years of fighting to win full sole custody of my son who is now grown and doesn’t have much to do with his dad.

There is of course a lot more to the story. Psychological warfare and such. He tried to make me think I was going crazy when I started to become suspicious. He tried to torture me for 18 years. I haven’t spoken to him in 5 years and I feel free. He has been told if he so much as tries to speak to me at events for my son (Graduation, college graduation, military basic training graduation) that I will walk away. I have nothing to say to the man and he has nothing to say to me. My son learned on his own what type of person his dad is and is remarkably well adjusted and full of empathy. - middlegracie

9. "The level of delusion is unreal."

Was married to one for 4 years. Definitely would not repeat. The level of delusion is unreal-- and trying to get him to understand someone else's pain, trying to get him to see how his actions were f*cked up-- was like trying to force a colorblind person to differentiate red and green. His vast lack of empathy was unyielding. Not even his therapist could make progress, and requested to meet with me for help in getting through to him. He truly lives in a fictional world where he can do no wrong, and it's f*cking terrifying. I moved a thousand miles away first chance I got. - -guarded713

10. That pickup line...

my first boyfriend told me on our first date that he was a sociopath and “i don’t feel anything but i sure know i like you” and because i was sixteen and naïve i completely fell for it. Cue being manipulated into sex, telling him i struggled with my relationship with food and body image only to be told i was “flabby” afterwards, and all the exhausting mind games. Even through all of that and more, i still utterly adored him and repressed all of my instinctual feelings that were telling me to leave, something i still feel dumb about.

I honestly think i was just a toy for him to manipulate and hurt, something he made sure to tell me about after our relationship ended. The way his face would change from “loving” to like someone i didn’t know was kind of terrifying really. it all f*cked me up pretty badly and i still find it hard to trust people - ineedaccount2answer

11. It's common for people like this to isolate you from your friends.

I was with a man who was never diagnosed, so I can't say for certain, but even being with someone who had the potential to be was traumatizing. I also had a therapist who said he most likely had antisocial personality disorder, and I told her very little about him.

He had me under has control for almost ten years. I had no friends in college because he made me believe he was my entire world. He made me feel sexually inept so that there were things I was unable to do with later partners. He told me he loved me even though it was something he could not feel because he knew it was something that would make me even more easy to manipulate.

He slept with countless women when we were together and then led me to honestly believe it was my fault. If I even spoke to other men we got in a fight.He got me to let him read my journals and then was mad that he made me so depressed. I got pregnant and he asked if he was really the father. My relationship with my fiancé ended because he made me believe I was still in love with him.

I felt bad about myself for a long time because I let him treat me so poorly and get away with so much. But the more I read and researched I knew it was not me. I grew as a person and worked on everything holding me down and now he means nothing to me. I don't hate him, want him, or wish to go back in time. I feel nothing and it is the most liberating thing I have ever experienced. - sharkslutz

12. "I regularly have breakdowns over it."

Extremely. Still haven’t recovered and I regularly have breakdowns over it. Thankfully I’m in a healthy relationship now, but feel it a shame the emotional pains and trust issues from my previous relationship can sometimes cause issues. Waiting to have therapy after lockdown. This happened about a year ago now, and I think it’ll always stay with me. Honestly, his eyes were so soulless it was like glimpsing the gates of hell. - meowmeowfig

13. "I'd end up apologizing for things I never did."

I was 19, he was a year older than me. He has a way of talking in circles until I found myself agreeing to things I didn't agree with but not really sure what had just happened. Gave me whiplash. He gaslighted me constantly and made me feel like I was crazy. I'd end up apologizing for things I never did.

The worst was when he tricked me into getting engaged to him. I'm not really sure how it happened, because the memory is kind of a blur. But at the end of the conversation he was like, "So, we're engaged now." And I was like, hang on, what? I had no desire to marry him. I was too young and I'd already begun to hate him at that point. But before I had the opportunity to figure out what was going on and how the hell we had just gotten engaged, he announced our engagement to 200 people. People were congratulating me and I just felt so hollow and broken inside.

He ended up moving and that's the only way I got free of him. I'd tried breaking up with him a few times before then but somehow he always made it seem like I had to stay. The day he moved I blocked him on everything, and swore I'd never talk to him again. I still have trauma and am triggered surprisingly frequently, considering it's been over 2 years.

But yeah. That's what it's like dating a sociopath. - shoshilyawkward

14. "Whenever we had any kind of a tuffle, he'd shut me out and ignore me for days until I dropped it."

I found this out recently about someone I dated, from their ex. The relationship was abusive. He gaslighted me all the time, put me down, called me names, loved bringing in racially charged shit into bed, reveled in it. Whenever we had any kind of a tuffle, he'd shut me out and ignore me for days until I dropped it. In fact, that's how he ended the relationship, by disappearing after two years.

Just gone one day, never heard from him again. Presumably, it was because I hung out with a male friend*.* I was younger then, but it certainly did a number on me.

His ex contacted me later and revealed that he had mentioned to her before that he had ASPD. Though, from what I understand, they're rarely that self-aware.

Anyway, turns out, he was also a white supremacist who believed in the "tiered value" of the races.

Probably the scariest part was discovering this piece of fiction he had written a couple years ago about "owning" a thirteen year old girl, starving her, keeping her on a leash, just general terrifying disgusting bullshit. The premise was a story about a man and his dog, how he abuses and neglects the dog, but the dog still sits around to get fed. It gets quite graphic, and at the end of it, it's revealed to readers via a cop character that the emaciated dog is actually a small child.

yep, need to work on my radar - atinkleintime

15. This guy kept notes on his girlfriend...

He never once yelled. Never raised his voice. It made me feel like I was the insane one.

I was young and going through a very hard time (also had been badly abused by my father and stepmother for several years, so this kind of behavior was oddly comforting and familiar), and I had convinced myself that I loved him.

I found out that he kept detailed notes on what I liked and didn't like, who I spent time with, what I ate, everything. Every time I would get up the courage to leave, he'd find some way to weasel back into my life. Going so far as to get himself hired at my jobsite and pretending it was "fate". - sweetalkersweetalker

16. This person still can't get over it.

I didn't realize he was a sociopath until after it had all ended, but it made everything click into place & make sense. He treated everyone around him like NPCs whose lives are inconsequential. He led a double life, manipulating & gaslighting me the entire time. He drew from my well until I had nothing left to give, ultimately making me believe anything that went wrong was my fault.

And when he was finally backed into a corner, played up a big fear/panic response to keep his job and his fiancee. She wouldn't listen to me, and here we are. It's been almost 4 years now, and I still can't trust people. I thought I could, but it's become clear to me recently that I'm not as "over it" as I thought I was. I find myself unshakably terrified of emotional closeness. And much to my dismay, no amount of "wanting to be over it" will actually force me into being "over it". There are uncountably many ways that that experience changed who I am and how I approach the world

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The worst part? His hooks were still very much deep in me when I first forced the [figurative] door between him & myself shut. I had to do a LOT to distance myself from him: he kept trying to reach out to me (and my family!) long after I'd cut him off, and it was more difficult to resist than I'd like to admit. At one point I even sent an email to all relevant mutual connections to ask them to hold me accountable to never speaking to him again, and to not allow him to communicate to me through them. I faltered a couple of times. But I haven't spoken to him in 3.5 years, and I'm pretty proud of that. - kid_ronnie

17. This sociopath's biggest issue was a lack of affection.

He was brilliant, handsome, and charming, and made good money at a globally recognized law firm despite being barely 30. He was attracted to me but it was a take-it-or-leave-it kind of attraction. He was more curious about me than anything else. He'd play mind games and was surprised when I started catching on (I'm from a very intelligent and slightly crazy family myself).

He had no feelings for his family, who worried about him but he never responded to their calls or messages. I found that very off-putting until he told me his diagnosis. Honestly he could be a bit of a dick in general, but he didn't treat me badly while I was with him (or so I thought). I tired of his lack of affection eventually and broke things off after a particularly pointless mind game of his. He then told me he'd been hooking up with girls in clubs the whole time. I was surprised but not disappointed, as my view of him was pretty low by then. He ended up giving me hpv. Thanks a**hole. - High-Tops-Kitty

18. This person sums it up well.

Suffice it to say I looked over my shoulder for at least 15 yrs after the relationship ended. - decidealready

19. This person is thankful for the experience they had.

Yes. Tried to separate me from my friends, completely shut down socially when I may have been having a better time than her, threatened to jump off a cliff when I broke it off, etc.

Luckily aforementioned friends are excellent people who told me to get out early and helped me through the post breakup shock.

Honestly though, I grew closer to my friends and my mum because of it so it was a good bad experience. - CaptainBananaAwesome

20. Some sociopaths try not to hurt people.

Yep. I think I might be the only one here with a positive experience. Briefly dated a close childhood/high school friend when we were in college. He once asked me why people had friends, and told me that he didn’t think he could love anyone, not even his family.

He was a good person, though; even though he could sometimes unknowingly say cruel things to people, as he was very socially inept, he tried his best to be considerate of others. Was also fascinated with animal corpses and gore, but never violent. He was actually great with animals, and was a good friend to me, when I went through a hard time. Very strange guy, but I enjoyed my time with him. - toss-my-potatoes

21. "Love is a hell of a drug."

So, like most, my ex was not a card carrying sociopath. At the risk of sounding like an armchair psychologist, I’ve diagnosed her as one and a narcissistic one at that. To put it bluntly: it’s exhausting. Living everyday unsure of how they’ll choose to behave. Constantly wondering whether they’re remaining faithful/being genuine/manipulating me constantly stimulates the fight or flight response and living in that environment for nearly six years has left lasting scars.

I am more defensive now, less prone to intimacy, and have higher walls. The worst part is that her tendencies became my normal and reshaping that idea of what a good relationship is has been a battle. Love is a hell of a drug. - jyndtalld

The saying goes that honesty is the best policy — but what if being honest about your life causes you to lose out on $7 million?

A man is asking for advice about whether he should tell his niece to stay in the closet until her grandparents die. And it's not just to spare some elderly homophobes' feelings — it's because she might lose out on a big chunk of change if she comes out.

The man specifies that he supports his niece, but isn't sure she should share the news with his parents:

My (42M) niece (17F) recently confided in me that she is a lesbian. I supported her, let her know I'd be there, etc. Usual ally stuff.

However, she told me she was going to come out to the whole world this week. I let her know she should absolutely wait for her grandparents (my parents) to pass. My father is incredibly wealthy and has tens of millions of dollars in assets that he will be passing down once he is gone.

His dad is a "raging hompphobe," he says:

My father is a raging homophobe who has flat out stated any gay individual in our family would be written out of the will. And to make sure the rest of us don't just split more money with said gay relative, they will, instead, have that portion of the inheritance (put aside for that family member) donated to charitable causes. That money will be erased from the inheritance.

He says his parents are probably not going to make it much longer anyway:

Since both my father and mother are incredibly poor health, (stage 4 cancer and debilitating dementia respectively) I told my niece she should stay in the closet for a while longer. If she comes out as a lesbian and they find out, she will quite literally lose out on 7 million dollars.

His niece was sad, but understood. His wife, on the other hand:

She was a little sad but was also appreciative since that is obviously a life-changing amount of money that will allow her to live luxuriously until she dies.

My wife, however, said that I am being an a**hole. I am telling this poor girl to hide who she is just to appease old bigots. That is true, I am asking her to appease old bigots. But I feel like her life quality will be much better with 7 million dollars at the cost of 1-2 years in the closet at tops.

He specifies that the $7 million number isn't just an estimate:

I have also seen my father's will and know who is getting what, so my niece IS definitely going to receive 7 million as long as my father doesn't rewrite or edit his will.

Am I the a**hole for telling my niece to stay in the closet so she can be a millionaire?

Most people agree that the biggest a-holes in this scenario are the grandparents.

tompaine37 says:

Oh God, I'm torn. This is honestly an excellent case study for an ethics class. My gut instinct is to say that you should never encourage someone to stay in the closet longer than they want to, but yeesh, that's a life-changing amount of money.

[No a-holes here], besides your parents for being raging homophobes.

And i_need_jeesos_christ says staying in the closet is the best course of action:

For ethical reasons think of it this way: she stays in the closet for the next couple years, inherits the money of a homophobe, then once she has the inheritance have a nice gay life and not have to worry about her homophobic grandparents bothering her for who she loves.

Cabbagge9988 says giving advice in this situation is fine:

You’re just advising her, not forcing her. She still gets to choose.

DawnaZeeee also thinks telling her is the right thing to do:

I would say I’m gay, straight, or BI for a year if it meant that I’d get 7 million!

This is critical information that you rightly shared with her! She could still decide to forgo the money and announce it to the world as you’re not forcing her to keep quiet. I hope she can keep quiet for now, as that’s a life changing amount of money.

Starlighter18 says this is a sad reality, but probably worth it:

I totally agree that staying hidden until they pass is the right course of action. I mean, why would she risk millions of dollars just so she tells them one part of herself? It's crazy. A sad part of the LGBT community is that sometimes we've gotta stay quiet about it, but in your niece's case, it'll pay off big time.

In the end, the man updated the post to say he and his wife have agreed he was right to tell his niece their thoughts:

Small update: my wife apologized for getting snippy with me and now agrees she should hide it for a year or two. She is a powerful advocate of LGBTQ+ rights so she had an angry knee-jerk reaction to my dad's bigotry.

Hope this girl gets her $7 million and her happily ever after.

"Life is a long process of getting tired."

– Samuel Butler

I'm tired when I wake up and tired when I go to sleep. Some stuff usually happens in between, but I'm too tired to remember. While I go load up on ungodly quantities of caffeine, you enjoy the hilariously random comedy in this epic collection of memes.

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Getting a call from the wrong number is usually a pretty uneventful "ok, no problem," but things can get seriously interesting when someone is convinced you're a totally different person...

Calls from a wrong number are a window into a stranger's life and if they happen to be going through family or relationship drama, you get a front row seat. While wrong numbers are more common with landlines and people usually don't answer unsaved numbers on their cell phones, next time you see a restricted call you might want to answer it for a solid dinner party story. Sure, it could just be another robo-call trying to scam you into giving away your credit card number so they can purchase unlimited gift cards, but it could also be someone accusing you of having a juicy affair with their spouse, your new long-distance friend, or the grandmother you always wanted. Take a chance!

So, when a recent Reddit user asked, "What is your best 'sorry wrong number' moment?" people were ready to share the funniest and weirdest interactions they had with confused strangers on the phone.

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Back when I was a kid, we lived 3,000 miles away from our grandparents so we didn't get to see them very often. One evening the phone rang, I answered and had a really nice chat with my grandma for about 10 minutes. She called me the wrong name to say goodbye and I was confused and we both realized she'd dialed the wrong number. - whateverspicegirl

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I woke up to a MASSIVE string of texts accusing me of being the man that was cheating with someone's girlfriend or wife. (I'm a woman, I didn't work at the place mentioned). They were super apologetic when I texted them back in the morning on the plus side. - Overcookedcookie

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Someone phoned my parents landline, in tears, saying that they had proof that my husband was having an affair with his girlfriend. I explained that I was 14 and my parents were in their 40s. He apologized for having the wrong number and hung up.

This was around 17 years ago - Killer_leutttece

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It was actually a voicemail left on my work phone. It was a woman going on and on about how the intended recipient was a "very naughty boy and he deserved a spanking." I was mortified and deleted it after a few minutes but I should have kept it. In hindsight it was hilarious. - PaintedLady5519

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I remember getting a wrong number call a few days ago. They introduced themselves in a very intimidating manner, stating that everything spoken over the phone would be recorded and used against me in court. But then they asked for "Rebecca" and I mentioned that they had the wrong number.

Their tone of voice COMPLETELY changed afterwards and they apologized and hung up. - TempoThePringleKing

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Had a whole party call my number and sing me Happy Birthday over the phone. I didn't have the heart to stop them midway so I stayed quiet until the end. "Sorry guys but my birthday is in december, not june" We had a good laugh about it and that was that. - Macmula

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Whenever someone called AT&T’s 411 Info line, and asked for the time of day for Seattle Washington. They would get connected with my cell phone number. I got sooo many voicemails of old people who were pissed. I got tired of answering my phone saying “idk why they listed my number but the time is 1:30 pm” The at&t guy thought I was insane trying to explain until I made him call and when I answered I was like “YEPPP, it’s meeeeee” -wendall93

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Literally today I called the wrong number trying to set up a dental appointment.

Old lady on the other line "Well I guess I could get my husband to work on your teeth if you want, he's not a dentist or anything though" - hott_beans

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One time when I was about 11 years old my mom wanted me to call my grandma and read off a recipe for pound cake, because my grandma wanted to make one. I dialed the number, someone answered, then I promptly started reciting the recipe my mom gave me. When I got to the end the person snorted and said uh I think you have the wrong number. I said I was sorry and hung up lol. - Ok_Sherbert2140

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I was working retail at a pet store and got a phone call from an old lady asking to pay her phone bill. She said she had been transferred twice now, and, yes, this had happened before. I told her I was working on a pet store in Alaska, as to which she was very angry, “How dare you lie to me? I have been talking to ______ Phone Company in Florida, and now you want me to believe I’m talking to a pet store in Alaska?!” I told her “Yep. I have no clue how you got transferred to me. But what is your name and number? And what service are you trying to get done?” She gave me her name and phone number, and told me that she was just trying to pay an overdue bill on a different phone so she could use her phone again. I checked with her to make sure what company she was calling, I told her I need to check something and I’d be right back.

I looked up the company on my computer at work, and called. They asked what I wanted and I asked if I could just be transferred to a manager as it would be easier to explain. I explained that I had a customer who had been trying to call and was transferred, the manager knew the account and the lady, and I asked if he could give the gal a call on her landline which I had gotten; and they agreed they would within a few minutes.

I hung up, took the lady off of hold, and told her something akin to, “Hey, so I got the phone company to agree to call your landline and you should be able to pay that way. If they don’t follow through, here’s my personal cell line, and let me know.” She said thanks and hung up.

About a half hour later I get a text from a number in Florida that says, “Hey, my phone works again! Thank you!” And I send a picture back of me standing in front of the pet store with snow and mountains in the background, saying, “Glad we here in Alaska could help!” - WeedWooloo

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I got a text on my new phone that said "WYD BB Girl?"

I replied "I'm pregnant"

Phone rang in like 2 seconds... he was pissed when a guy answered the phone and told me I was an as*hole for making him panic. - goblinmarketeer

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When I first got my current phone number, it took about six months before all of the previous owner's contacts had called me once and realized he'd changed numbers.

I am 99% sure he sold pot, but he wasn't anyone's go-to dealer. He was the emergency 'my usual guy is out, are you holding?' weed guy.

They always had some weird code-word for what they wanted in the time it took me to explain this was my number now. I'll never forget the guy who called up and said, "Yeah... My usual guy is out, man. I'm looking for.... Turtle food?" - faceintheblue

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My half sister ‘Kathy’ was about 18 months at the time. Someone called my Dad’s landline phone in the 70’s and asked if Kathy was there.

My Dad replied yes, then the caller asked what she was doing. My Dad replied, “She’s running down the hall with her clothes off.”

Some poor girl probably had to explain to her boyfriend that she wasn’t running around with her clothes off. - TealTemptress

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I once misdialed and got a very upper class gentleman. I asked for my friend and he said “I think you’ve dialed a wrong number” I replied “oh, what number have I dialed?” Quick as lightning he said “I don’t know I’m not there” and hung up. I stared at the handset for a solid thirty seconds trying to figure out how I’d been check mated in the conversation so effectively and so quickly. Well played sir, well played. - Hisnibbs

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My landlady once sent this obscene joke via text and then called a few minutes later with horror in her voice to apologize profusely. A friend of hers was the contact below me so she accidentally sent the text to the wrong one. - Mind101

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When I was in my 20's, I met a guy (lets call him J) while out with friends. He gave me his number (landline) and I called him a few days later. Turns out he gave me his friends phone number (we will call the friend C). I ended up chatting with C via phone for several days and we made plans to go out. I hadn't even seen what he looked like, but he was just really funny and we really enjoyed talking. C told J what happened with the calls. met up with C and he was super handsome & so fun. We ended up dating for about a year and J ended up becoming a good friend. 20+ years later, I am still friends with both J & C....and C is married now and his wife was my daughters 1st grade teacher. - jsmalltri

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My mother in law gets a call and is chatting away for several minutes. She gets off and we ask who it was. It was a wrong number. She likes to be "friendly". - JLPWasHere

For the past week, the world has been in mourning over the death of two Black trans women: Dominique "Rem'mie" Fells,' and Riah Milton.

Both women were murdered on different days, in horrific ways that triggered fresh grief for both the Black and LGBTQ communities, as both communities are dealing with an influx of hate crimes.

Sadly, because transphobia is still such a rampant issue, Milton's sister, Ariel Mary Ann, had to call out a handful of news outlets for misgendering her sister. On top of that, the HRC accidentally posted a picture of Mary Ann's recently deceased aunt Shanna, a cis woman, instead of Milton.

The Human Rights Campaign was quick to remove the inaccurate photo and post an apology on Twitter.

Unfortunately, that error was replicated on a larger scale when Kim Kardashian posted that same incorrect photo of Rem'mie Fells and Milton's aunt.

It wasn't long before Milton's family replied to the (now deleted) post asking Kardashian to correct her error.

Both Milton's sister Mary Ann and her cousin pointed out the fact that most outlets got the picture right. So, for Kardashian to mess it up with her huge platform felt like a reckless lack of care and attention.

By the time Kardashian deleted the tweet it had already received over 3,000 retweets and 22,000 likes, at the time of writing this, Kardashian still hasn't posted an official apology or correction.

If you want to support people in the Black trans community, The Okra Project is a great organization providing mental health resources and can always use donations.

The only thing more frustrating than having a crazy girlfriend or boyfriend is having a crazy ex-girlfriend or boyfriend.

They know your secrets, they know your address, and they're out for revenge.

People on Reddit shared stories of what makes their exes fit the trope of the "crazy ex," and the stories range from the darkly funny to the straight up criminal. Nothing says "heartbreak" like a break-in.

Read these crazy ex stories to make sure you're not one of them.

1. Messy.

She tried to sacrifice me to a god of the sea (?) so she could have a child. -small-gay

2. A not-so-smooth criminal.

When he called the police to tell them I was “receiving drugs through the mail slot in my front door” then parked in front of my house after HE put drugs through my mail slot.

When the police arrived to talk to me my neighbor told them they had seen him do it and that he was still sitting in his car on the street watching. He was then arrested and charged with Possession, distribution, and violating a trespassing & restraining order. -213MC

3. Not to kink-shame but that's........unsanitary.

Had a diaper fetish.....they would wear a diaper and enjoyed wetting themselves in it and wearing all day after doing so repeatedly. -Kyoshi20

4. The best of the worst.

She broke into my apartment and folded my laundry. Before she left she left a post-it note on my desktop (remember sticky notes from Win 7 or whatever?) that just said "SORRY"... and that's it.

I come home to find my clothes folded and put away and a note apologizing to me for it. F*cking insanity. -Catorak

5. Send her to the doghouse.

Climbed through doggie doors twice. Once to steal household items, the second time to steal dogs. Still think her new boyfriend may have been accomplice in at least one of the unlawful entries. His problem now. -rbdparker

6. More criminal creepiness.

He put a tracking app on my phone, put cameras in our house and would refuse to go to events with me but then show up and sit outside in his car watching me. -AesopFabel

7. He was more of a Jacob.

Besides trying to get me to act more like Edward from Twilight? Making out with some other guy at a party and then crying on my patio until 4:00am until I would let her in. LOL nope. -NotTechnicallyaCop

8. Thanks for the warning.

She flatly informed me during that she had been planning to cheat on me with my best friend.

And then she succeeded and I lost my best friend, and eventually she cheated on him and called me asking to make up. Like what? -Nopefeelins

9. Hit the road, Jack.

She intentionally ran me over with her car. -rabidoverlord

10. Trespassing, larceny, and pizza theft.

Broke into my house, stole my dad's phone, and wrote a letter on the back of my door in sharpie: "I love you and I always will. Love Jessica." At least the note made it easy for the cops.

Oh and she ate my f*cking pizza. -RockArmMan

11. Not gonna lie, that sounds hilarious.

She pissed on my living room floor, hit me with a frying pan and kicked a police officer square in the nuts. -Willie-Madison

12. Reports of her death were greatly exaggerated.

He said his ex had passed away from breast cancer, but that to save him from hurt... she'd broken up with him under the guise that she'd gotten drunk and slept with another guy.

Nope. She definitely cheated and she was very much alive and well. This was just one of the many lies he fed me, but this was an absolute mind f*ck. -_pikapoo

13. Yikes.

He sent messages about what an awful person I am to all my friends and to my mother. The one to my mom also included a suicide note. He also sent me a picture of him setting fire to a stuffed animal that was supposed to symbolize our happy years. -lilbabymarshmallow

14. These bros are accomplices.

After telling him I wanted nothing to do with his drama, he got some of his friends to text & call me nonstop for nearly a full week. Apparently if I responded they were to convince me I was the dramatic one.

He and his friends also would pop in randomly to my place of work after that, leaving bs complaints with management (half the time they'd be ignored b/c they'd make a complaint without making sure I worked that day tho lol). Was pretty uncomfortable that these LGBT+-activist folks basically forced me to out myself at work to explain to my bosses what was going on.

Took a new phone number, new apartment, and new job to finally shake him off my back. -MeesterPepper

15. Disgusting father-son bonding.

The short and sweet version? He never confronted his father for demanding to see half naked photos of me. He then lectured me about my reaction to the situation. This_is_stoopid

16. Better luck in her next life.

"Oh I hate the Catholic Church."

"Yeah? Why?"

"They killed my husband."

"You were married?"

"During the Crusades." -SubcommanderShran

17. Jesus is in the eye of the beholder.

She broke up with me for a daddy fetish erotica writer who lived 1000 miles away. She said he looked like Jesus. He did not. She wasn't remotely religious either. -​​​​​​TransportationNo8783

Escape rooms are kind of like interactive horror movies for people who don't find life scary and challenging enough (count me out, please!). They're a live entertainment experience that involves you and your friends trying to "escape" the site of the game by cooperatively solving puzzles, finding clues, and accomplishing tasks. Customers in escape rooms will go to extreme lengths to escape and "win" the game, often bending the rules or breaking them entirely in a desire to break free.

Someone asked escape room workers of Reddit: "what's the most absurd thing players have done?" Here are 15 stories from people who've worked at escape rooms about players who took the game too far:

1.) From Statement-Any:

A kid I knew from school, his family owns an escape room business. The most things that happen is people trying to take things when it's clearly nailed down or nailed to the wall then he said that a little kid pissed in a bottle.

2.) From OdaSet:

Had a group come in, I noticed they had been drinking a little, but seemed mostly fine. So I let them into the room and start the clock.

They were just wandering around. At the half an hour mark they were laying on the floor and rolling around. They didn’t do any harm to the room. I don’t remember if they even solved one puzzle. When I let them out after an hour they claimed it was fun. But they didn’t really do anything? And did they remember it the next day? Idk

3.) From trash_confetti:

I one had a group of drunk guys go in and they ran through their allotted hints pretty quickly. They asked for another hint and we said over the speakers that they were out of hints.

One of the guys threatened to start taking off his clothes until we gave another hint.

EDIT: For everyone asking, we didn't even have to give him the extra hint. His friends chilled him out and ended up finding the next clue pretty shortly after that.

4.) From BoysClub1989:

I work at an Escape Room and too many customers come to play and then put the torches in their mouth, disgusting. We’ve had a couple get in the room and start to get frisky instead of playing the game. Had one who was super drunk and just started to piss in the corner of one room. Another lady who had been drinking who decided to stay in the room and puke everywhere and then put props over the top of piles of puke instead of leaving the room to go to the toilet.

And many others.

5.) From TortanusTheShuttle:

One guy pissed on the wall, thinking the plaster was snow.

6.) From frozonesmite:

First thing I had to learn working at an escape room: Everything, yes EVERYTHING, in the room was going to be dismantled, pulled on, or messed with in some way. Have a screwdriver in the room? Maybe there's a clue in the light switch cover. Blacklight? Must have to take it completely apart. TV for clues? Must have to unplug/change inputs. And anything not nailed down is bound to be broken

7.) From bustypirate:

A group came in that disassembled some of the furniture (a bed and a desk), ripped some of the wallpaper off the walls and pulled the heads off some stuffed animals

8.) From LordSnooBoo:

One of them believed the clue was inside them

9.) From lw2797:

Pulled the air vent covers off the walls/floor. Had to add in an official disclaimer in the rules shpeal i did before they went in the room, “NO CLUES IN THE AIR VENTS!” Customers were stupid a lot, but it was a pretty sweet gig overall!

10.) From Xxlonewolf76xX:

My dad owns an escape room in a smöl town in norway and the wierdest thing someone has done is probably trying to punch the camera, the guy was like 150cm tall and couldnt reach it After trying 3 times to punch it he gave up.

11.) From Griffin777XD:

So I’m usually not cruel with my escapees, if I see them looking at the serial number for a prop I usually send them a message saying that they have a good eye but it won’t be relevant to the room.

The biggest thing that happens is couples doing the room and fracturing under the slightest bit of pressure. I’ve legit had people break up in the room because they couldn’t handle working through stress together. One time a couple said they were done and kept doing the room, which was extremely awkward for me, who was the poor sap who had to watch them for an hour.

12.) From Thesunwillshineonus:

One time, a group was trying to figure out the code to a locked compartment. So this huge guy In the group decided this was a waste of time and tried to rip off the compartment door with his bare hands. He was almost successful, but we stopped him before he could do further damage to the door. He didn’t understand what was wrong.

Another one happened where a group were handcuffed and they couldn’t find the key. The game master was trying to give them clues to find the key but they still couldn’t find it. So one group member thought it would be best to use his leg. There was a table in the room with some items on it. He proceeded to knock over all the items with one kick. That group didn’t win.

13.) From Genocide_Fan:

I interviewed for a job at an escape room. They told me that one of their standard instructions you MUST tell every group is to not stick things in electrical outlets because too many people did it.

14.) From clovisson:

People do dumb shit in escape rooms constantly, but that’s the whole point, and it’s usually in good fun. The best part of my old escape room job was that it was literally right next door to a brothel. People would frequently come to our door not realising that they were one door over from where they wanted to be and ask “hey, how much”

Me, in my customer service voice: “Well it depends on how many people you bring, it’s $40 each if you’re a group of two, and goes down to $32 each if you’re a group of eight. Usually we recommend groups of 4 to 6 people, that seems to be the sweet spot.”

Their looks of horror will make me laugh forever.

15.) From IWisdomI:

So we have a strip club themed room and the craziest group had one drunk dude who asked me if I would give him an extra clue if he showed me his penis. My manager said to allow it and he actually flashed his penis on camera lol

And here are 8 more stories of bizarre escape room antics from players and fans:

16.) From steun88:

In the Netherlands there is this prison escape room where everyone is a prisoner and you have to escape prison (it is done in an actual ancient prison). There are about 300 participants and 85 actors (mostly prison guards and some prisoners).

They have over 15 storylines which you can follow and there are other inmates (actors) which will lead those storylines and send you one quests.

Coming back to the question, at the beginning they warned everyone that no physical contact is allowed because during the first time people would actually threat each other to get money and guards have been attacked. Also they had to warn people that you weren't supposed to try climbing the 50 feet high prison wall...

17.) From indigoneutrino:

I feel kinda bad about the time our group unscrewed half the pictures on the wall using a paper clip, since none of us had the sense to think that maybe the pictures being screwed down was a sign we weren’t supposed to look behind them.

18.) From Palindromic_:

At an escape room near me they had a group of lads on a stag do.

These guys got very drunk and during the escape room, thought they could escape via the sewers. The managed to rip out the manhole cover which was bolted down into concrete. This cover is now permanently broken as its too expensive to fix they said. Advised us to not escape via the sewers...

19.) From mizboring:

Not sure if this counts. I did an escape room with a group of friends. At the end, you found a flash drive which was supposed to be plugged into a computer. We opened the document and there were instructions to print. We got print, and the printer gave us an "out of ink" error. We assumed this was part of the game and started looking for a magenta cartridge. Then an employee slipped in the room, replaced the cartridge, and told us to hit print again.

Apparently it was not part of the game. They just ran out of ink.

20.) From riotoustripod:

Escape room enthusiast here. We spent far more time than I care to admit trying to figure out what the hell the numbers written in sharpie on the underside of the rug in the middle of the room meant.

Turns out they were an inventory number from the thrift store the designer bought the thing from, and nobody else had ever noticed them before. We still won, but that wasted a LOT of our time.

21.) From chazminor6:

I did an escape room with my family and the workers have to tell you not to lick the light bulb. This is because some guy thought if he licked the light bulb the answer would be revealed on the light bulb. The only answer he found was light bulbs are hot and can burn you.

22.) From othybear:

There was an escape room by me that had a terrorist themed room. You get “kidnapped” and locked in a room with “a bomb on the door”. To up the realism, your host was dressed to fit the roll of kidnapper and would come over the radio for hints in persona. Eventually “the cops” would start coming over the radio to guide you out of the room.

Anyway, someone walking by the escape room saw people getting “kidnapped” and called the actual police. The police came by, and the escape room workers explained, but the actual police wanted to confirm with the people in the room. They knocked on the door and said “salt lake city police, open up” and the group responded “we can’t because there’s a bomb strapped to the door.” Luckily it ended well with everyone laughing afterwards.

News summary.

23.) From JokerSix:

Attended a "Saw series" themed escape room with my SO and some randoms since the room required 4-6.

We get locked in to start, chained to fixtures like the dark room scene from the movie - lights are off. As soon as the thing starts one of the randos says, "I have a gun in case we need to shoot someone."

I thought he was joking. We all did.

Eventually the lights turn on and he pulls out a real gun and sits it in the sink and says, "I'm leaving the gun in the sink in case something happens to me. It's for everyone."

As the Black Lives Matter movement inspires actions around the world, many churches and other insitutions with prime sign real estate are using their platform to voice their support.

Members of the clergy are quoting their fellow reverand, Dr. Martin Luther King, and calling on their communities to love thy neighbor.

1. Good Samaritan Church, Florida

2. Unifour Church, North Carolina

3. Brockton Assembly of God, Massachusetts

4. Hope United Church of Christ, Missouri

5. St. Paul's United Church

6. St. John's Church, D.C.

7. Crescent Fort Rouge United Church, Manitoba, Canada

8. Allendale United Methodist Church, Florida

9. Lutheran Church of Reformation, D.C.

10. Govans Presbyterian Church, Maryland

11. Allendale United Methodist Church, Florida

12. Grace Cathedral, California

13. Allendale United Methodist Church, Florida

Growing up is exciting, but adulthood can also be an exhausting series of seemingly endless chores while your back hurts from simply waking up...

Paying taxes, going to the dentist, constantly fixing broken things in your house, vacuuming and bleaching the shower, remembering to stretch and floss, wearing suncreen, learning how to properly apologize--being an adult is pretty hard. Especially now, when many of the benefits of adulthood are a thing of the past such as afforadable health insurance, stable career opportunities from a college degree or home ownership, the blissful existence of childhood sounds pretty good.

Of course, the grass is always greener as a lot of us spent our teen years dying to finally grow up and have the freedom of every character in their twenties on a sitcom only to realize quickly that nobody can afford Monica's apartment. Living in NYC with a barista salary when you're an objectively bad barista? Come on, "Friends." So, when a recent Reddit user asked, "What is an adult problem you were not prepared for?" people were ready to share the biggest surprises of growing up. Take notes, kids!

1.

Realizing that not even your parents have all the answers. And finally understanding that they were just figuring it out as they went just like we are. - Snow_Da_92

2.

The endless teeny tiny implications of adult freedom.

"You have your own medical insurance plan now, you need to pick a primary care physician."

Ok who should I pick?

"Up to you"

But like where should I start, how do i know which doctor to choose?

"Up to you"

How do other people find one?

"They just pick the one they like"

I don't know any of these doctors! - ablondedude

3.

The utter soul crushing search for a job - MaxTheSoccerDog

4.

It's entirely possible to lose your job through no fault of your own. - Aperture_T

5.

Being able to not cook the same meal everyday while balancing hundreds of other tasks. I will always admire my mom for how she was able to cook, have a clean house, work 43 hours and help her children do homework all while taking time to work out at the end of everyday.

I could mention other common problems like money management and common tasks that I haven't mastered, but what really hit me like a train was the actual transition of adulthood. Im talking about having to make my own appointments and having to keep tabs on myself instead of handing every single document to my mom. I realized how unorganized I was when I found my birth certificate in the same drawer where i have junk receipts. - IrishNalvo

6.

Not being able to sleep due to stress. Yet here I lay, exhausted but wide awake.

When I was younger I could sleep anytime, anywhere. - JohnnyWax

7.

Dealing with your parents acting like children. - rchaw

8.

Having a presentable place, and debating myself on why it matters. It always frustrated me when my parents had a guest over and we had to deep clean the whole house. Like if it’s my close friend of 8 years visiting, why do I care what they care about my cleanliness? And yet, every time people are over I find myself cleaning the apartment up for some reason. - slothbarns7

9.

How expensive living is. I worked all through high school, but my only "bill" was the gas I put in my car. 30 hours a week on minimum wage goes a long way on shopping sprees and nail salons when you don't have any other expenses. I developed nasty spending habits, not the "value of a hard-earned dollar" my parents were hoping for.

I'm not in crippling debt or anything, but sometimes having to spend money on groceries or utilities depresses me more than it rationally should. - isweatglitter17

10.

How often you have to clean to maintain a clean house. - DecadenceXO

11.

Back hurting just from sleeping wrong - badninj4

12.

Having others rely on you as an emotional ballast. I can barely stay sane myself, let alone carry the weight of someone else's sanity. - Bliss-for-sale

13.

The constant obsessive feeling that I'm fast running out of time to have an enjoyable life even though I'm only in my twenties. - DeathBat92

14.

How many adults I actually dislike. When I was younger, I thought my parents liked all our neighbours, all my teachers, all my coaches, etc. I've since found out that they thought most people were morons....kind of like I do. - Chaseybabe

15.

No one else is going to kill that bug - GaryBettmanSucks

16.

The lack of time for myself. Life is all work, housework, yard work, child care, bills, emails, phone calls... - HawaiianShirtsOR

17.

Adults never actually growing up. - [deleted]

18.

Drifting away from school friends because moving away, but then struggling to make new friends in a new city. - msgrnwd

19.

How quickly fruits and vegetable actually go bad when you buy them yourself - sea_ewe_in_tea

20.

How expensive lamps are. - heyitsbev