Wedding planning is a minefield no matter what — but this woman's story includes just about every touchy subject you can think of.

A Black woman wrote to Reddit asking for advice after her white mother and siblings insisted that she help plan a wedding on a Southern plantation — and told her her feelings were no big deal when she voiced concerns.

To make matters worse, her brother — the groom — is just getting over cancer. And her future sister-in-law ended up finding the Reddit post. Oof.

Buckle up, y'all!

The woman says her choice to back out of the wedding is causing a massive rift.

My refusal to help pay and attend my brothers plantation wedding has caused a massive rift between myself,my family and future sil.

My maternal side of the family is white and I am the only black person on that side of my family. My mother had my siblings with her first husband who died of cancer and then she had me after a short lived fling with a Black British man. My brothers are white and so are their partners.

She told her brother it was wrong to hold his wedding at a plantation as soon as she got the invitation:

Now I received my wedding invite a little over a week ago and after finding out the wedding venue is at plantation I called my brother and told him how highly disrespectful and cruel it is for them to be planning a celebration at such a place. I told him that I wouldn’t attend and neither would my family. Sometime before my brother had asked me to gift them $10000 to help pay for things, since my brother just overcame cancer and medical bills had eaten up his savings, I happily agreed to this is before I knew it was going to be held at a plantation.

She'd agreed to gift him $10,000 to help pay for the wedding due to medical issues, but she decided to rescind the offer:

I told my brother that I could no longer gift him this money if he was going to use it to pay for a plantation wedding. My brother was pretty angry he said that he had been counting on this money to pay for vendors, the honeymoon and other things. And now they have a venue but not much money for all the other things.

He called our mother who then called me and basically she spent an hour yelling and chastising me, and for the past few days I have been in constant verbal/text battle with everyone and I am starting to feel like I am going crazy for not wanting to go or have my money be used in that way.

Despite her family's protests, she won't budge — and now they're trying to gaslight her into relenting:

I am morally and ethically against it and they just keep saying it’s not a big deal and that it isn’t disrespectful or hurtful. I of course disagree.

I live in the UK married to a Black British man with children. My husband also refuses to attend and he’s against us giving money if this is what it’s going to be used for.

Her sister-in-law is taking it personally:

My future sil texted me earlier today saying I have always hated her (long history/hurt between me and her) and that I hate my brother. That I am ruining my brothers first few months of being cancer free and that he had to be hospitalised due to all the stress(he still has a lot of complications from the treatments/surgeries and isn’t in the greatest health right now)

I know I am not in the wrong here but after this text,all the emotional abuse,the constant back and forth I am drained and starting to feel like I am.

She's asking for advice because she's worried that her brother might not make it much longer due to the cancer:

The only reason I feel this terrible is because my brother may no longer have cancer but his health is on very shaky ground due to a lot of side effects from the treatments,surgeries,medication and varies complications from cancer. This wedding is being rushed for this summer because we are not certain if he will still be walking before the end of the year.

She tried writing an email to her family to explain in excruciating detail why a plantation wedding is inappropriate:

Just sent a long *ss email detailing nearly every atrocity that was committed at that plantation specifically including the names and ages of many slaves, to every family member and the wedding group-chat sil added me. (did hours of research on that plantation) including the brutality and death toll of slavery. And with a reminder that I and my family are descendants of enslaved people,not more than two generations ago.

F*ck’em

As responses started rolling in, and some people urged her to get over the past, the woman stood her ground:

Edit 5: To every a**hole boohooing right now f*ck you and: There is no difference between this and asking the descendants of Jewish people who survived nazi’s, to not only attend but to help pay for a wedding that will be held at Auschwitz.

A plantation is a concentration camp.

Then, the worst happened: the bride found her Reddit post:

Woke up to get ready for work and just saw a text from mom apparently sil found this post and now she has done got the vapors!

Mom just found out what reddit is and texted “You are embarrassing us in front of the English” me- Mom the internet is for all. So this s*** is international!

It is like 3am over there and Sil (she is not planning to sleep tonight I guess) just called my husband. He picked up and first thing he said to her was- Mate I’m not being funny yeah but like I’m with my missus on this.

A roller coaster! So what do the people of Reddit think?

Many of them are confused as to why the woman is giving her brother money for his wedding.

"I have never heard of a sibling giving TEN THOUSAND DOLLARS to their brother/sister for a wedding," mblizzy909 wrote. "Given how they treated you, I would give $0."

But as the woman explained, she's being so generous because her brother is just getting over cancer. It's not the norm, but it's nice.

Many think the brother's lack of funds is enough of a sign that this plantation wedding isn't meant to be.

"Don’t have a wedding if you can’t afford it," wrote sawandconquered.

"Especially if you're accepting money from your Black relative as a gift to pay for the wedding and then decide to have it on a plantation? that's f***** up," sawandshoka added.

As realwomenwearrompers pointed out, though, the real issue is the insensitivity:

Wow talk about tone-deaf and insensitive. I don’t blame you for standing your ground, especially the 10k “gift”... that takes big balls to basically demand money from someone. Good for you for standing up for what’s right. Often times the right thing is also the uncomfortable thing to do.

MetaCalm added that the family should really know better:

F*ck'em. Do not pay a cent if they go ahead with plantation wedding.

The level of audacity is beyond belief!

A lot more is expected of a mixed racial family. They, better than anybody else, should appreciate historical sensitivities having grown in and around it.

VeryVeryTexan offered a suggestion: explain to the family exactly what went on in the different areas of the plantation:

Maybe if you put it in easier to comprehend chunks, they'd get it.

This is the garden, where the reception will be held. It used to be where the slave quarters were stationed, which is where I'd be sent.

This is the house, where we're having the reception. It's where I'd only be allowed if I was working, and where I'd be beaten for speaking. That's the stove I could be burned on for talking back, speaking up, or just because it's Tuesday.

They went on:

We can take the family photos, of course, I wouldn't be welcome in them, given that the only way a family that looks like you would have a daughter like me in a house like this is if the owner of her mother forced her into having sex while his wife was down the hall blaming the woman being raped.

Aren't these lovely trees in the grove? I bet there's a lot of history in them. Do know why they call the gnarled ones hanging trees?

Etc, etc, etc.

"Should I have to put up with this, Mom? Or do you care at all?"

And liketheguyontv summed up how much this woman has given to her family already.

You are not in the wrong. And it's sad that your brothers or family can't see your perspective. Also, 10K is a pretty big gift. And helping with medical bills and flying back and forth. You are very kind.

Most people agree the woman is in the right. And hey, at least she'll save money on plane tickets by skipping this one.

Women can ask men for help with, you know, raising their own dang children all they want —but sometimes it takes a little light dad-shaming from men to really hammer the message home.

That was the case with one male friend group, and one of the guys is concerned he went a little too hard on his lazy dad bro. He asked Reddit for advice about who's the a-hole in the situation.

It started with an all-dude poker night. The man specifies that his buddy can be self-centered:

So I'm playing poker with a few friends last night. Most of them are dads. We're all in our 30s.

This friend of mine has a 3 month old. He's a weird guy in general (I've known him forever, he's never been giving; ie, tipping 5% when we go out, asking to split the check with his girlfriends on their birthdays, etc). I should also say that he is semi-employed, sets his own hours, and works from home. Anyway, I ask him how fatherhood is treating him, and he said great.

He asked the friend about his sleep schedule, knowing this can be the worst part of new parenthood:

I said, isn't it hard to get sleep with a newborn? And he said "my wife deals with night time. I sleep through the night." Another friend asked him what that meant -- he said "I need to sleep because I have work." And I said "but don't most dads help out at night?" and he said "I can't. I need to be rested for work" -- at this point, all the dads --- who have full time jobs, unlike my friend -- are laughing and saying things like "yeah, so do I. But I'm not sleeping!"

Incredulous, he pressed his friend:

So I say "but isn't your wife kind of working all the time herself?" and he again says "I have to work in the morning" and I just break out laughing. Like I can't stop. He looks at me like "WTF" and I say "dude, you can't help your wife at night? Like change a diaper?" and then he seemed to get mad and said "I have to sleep to be ready to work in the morning!"

Now he's wondering if he was wrong for dissolving into hysterics at his semi-deadbeat dad friend:

Anyway, am I the asshole for laughing at him? His wife is a little meek, so she'd definitely never say anything to him, but I'm kind of glad we all made fun of him for not helping his wife at night?

The people of Reddit pretty much unanimously agreed that he was totally within his rights to laugh at his buddy — and that he probably did the man's wife a massive favor.

"You should call him out on it more often so maybe he’ll change his ways," Stompsie suggested.

A fellow dad named BigPZ agreed:

I have a 2.5 year old and 6 month old. I work a full-time Monday to Friday 9-5 job. I make damn sure that I get up at absolute minimum, the first time every night, often multiple times a night. My wife deals with them all day every day, the least I can do is as much as possible when I'm home.

And cosmiccanis agreed:

It’s so outdated for men to act like they don’t need to help with a newborn baby. I think it’s awesome than another man called him out on it, especially amongst a group of dads who all agree. It’s extremely misogynistic to think the woman should handle all the tough parts of having a child. She should be able to get some sleep too, poor thing just pushed out a whole a** human being three months ago!!

AlokFluff made a great observation:

Social pressure from good men is the only way many s***** men change tbh

Froggy101_Scranton pointed out that it's problematic to even frame nighttime care as "helping":

It’s not “helping their wives” it’s being a f****** parent. Parenting isn’t the woman’s job and the man should help, they should be equally parenting the human they are equal parents to.

Now let's hope the original poster forwards this thread to his friend so that new mom can get some sleep...

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.”

-Helen Keller

Every day is truly an adventure. Will I wake up in time for work? Will I consume enough calories to sustain a killer whale? Will I catch my dog eating my underwear again? One thing I know for sure, I will definitely be laughing at some funny memes.

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Sometimes people have the best intentions when giving gifts, but they unfortunately miss the mark...

While it's easy to spring for a gift card or shove cash into an envelope, finding a thoughtful gift for someone you love shows that you know, support and listen to the things they're passionate about. The risk with picking out a unique birthday gift, though, is that you might not actually know that person as well as you thought...

When a recent Reddit user asked, "What was the most unexpected birthday gift someone gave you?" birthday boys and girls everywhere were ready to share the most memorable and surprising gifts they've ever received.

1. This is adorable, "Tanaisy."

A few years ago my siblings and I hosted a 70th birthday party for my dad on my birthday. My birthday is in July, his in February. We had him fooled into thinking the surprise party was for me and he was shocked when he walked in and realized it was his party. Half the fun was watching him almost spoil the surprise about a half a dozen times.

Fast forward to yesterday, I get a package in the mail with a super cozy sweatshirt and note from dad saying is was a birthday gift for me on his birthday. Included in the note, he stated, "I couldn't think of better person I would want to swap birthday's with." I'm not gonna lie, the note was the real gift.

2. Amazing, "TempleOfCyclops."

A few days before my 30th birthday, my (now ex) wife told me she had a meeting in the city and would be home late - but she actually drove to the airport and picked up my best friend who had secretly flown in from out of state to surprise me.

The next day she took us to a spot a few hours away where we spent my birthday weekend with a bunch of my other friends. One of the best weekends of my life!

3. Wow, "AggieChristie."

I have an old silver watch that a nun gave me when I was in my teens. I would visit her in the nursing home when I was doing my required service hours for school. She was so sweet and I always looked forward to seeing her every day. My senior year she passed away, but gave me her watch before she did. I wore that watch every day until finally it stopped working. A couple years after I moved in with my now fiance I accidentally lost it and was really upset for a long time because of that. For my birthday last year I told my fiance that I didn't want him to spend any money on me so we can save for our wedding. That morning he handed me a small box. Inside was the watch, which he found at the bottom of a box in the basement, and he had cleaned it and fixed it. I still wear that watch everyday and that was honestly the best gift I'd ever received.

4. Definitely stole this from the parents, "IssMeMario."

not even joking, in fourth grade my friend gave me a 3 hour couples massage coupon

5. Oh no, "Probablyprofanity."

My Grandma got me a book for my thirteenth birthday because I loved to read. The unexpected part was the book being bondage porn.

6. Amazing, "Fatherof10."

Met a girl surfing when I 19 and living on a small sailboat in Port Aransas, TX. We talked a bit between sets and somewhere I mentioned my 20th birthday. I said I had always wanted chocolate chip cupcakes, but my parents died when I was young and raising myself I never had birthdays.

On my 20th birthday I got back to the boat after work and there was a card, balloon and a plate of chocolate chip cupcakes.

Thanks stranger they were wonderful!

7. Crying, "peachpy."

My husband and I were trying to have a baby, and not having success. For my 34th birthday my mom sent me a sleep giraffe for my future baby nursery. Turns out it was the last birthday gift I would get from her, she died 10 months after that birthday in 2016. I found out I was pregnant in early 2017, and never got to share that news with her. I remember being annoyed when I opened the box, but now I realize it was just a sweet sentiment from her telling me not to give up. After she passed, going through her things, I found a congratulations card meant for me in the event I had a baby, a card she never got to send.

I look at that sleep giraffe every day, it's the first thing I see every morning when I wake up, and she tells me every morning "don't give up."

8. Terrifying, "HerrMilkmann."

My friends and I frequently hung out at a hotel that had an indoor pool since my buddy knew the owner and they would let us swim for free. We got some people together and went there to swim on my birthday and one by one I noticed my friends vanishing from the pool. One of my buddies pulled me out of the pool to go get changed and when I walked into the men's room, out of the stall walked one of my best friends in full clown costume/make up and said "I heard it was somebody's birthday!" I'm not afraid of clowns at all but this one definitely caught me off guard! Also he rented a room to stay at for the nigh and filled it with balloons and streamers .

9. So nice, "sketchy_coffee_cup."

Typically, my friends and I never really did birthday presents. The crew would get together for a nice dinner or a night at a bar, and the birthday person ate and/or drank for free. Presents were never a thing with us.

So, when I had turned 30, my girlfriend at the time and I had recently moved aboard a boat full time. Now I don't remember precisely how we celebrated my birthday that year, but I think it was dinner and drinks, per normal.

So I was totally surprised when 2 of my buddies told me they had chipped in and got me a birthday/boatwarming gift, and they both seemed pretty excited about it. I told em that it wasnt necessary but they insisted.

So I open the box and find a vintage style bronze telescope in a leather case, engraved with, "To a dear friend on his birthday. Happy 30th, (name)"

I was floored. It seemed so out of character for our crew (10+ years as friends) and it was thoughtful and just fucking perfect.

I put that bad boy on display right next to the compass on the lower steering station, and that was its home the 7 years I lived there.

10. Wow, "jonescevonte."

my 18th birthday, I had a friend give me a pocket p*ssy labeled "Ultra Super Sucker w/ extra lubrication" in front of other friends, my siblings, and my parents.. needless to say everyone was shocked.

11. Weird, "ViceroyFizzlebottom."

A gun rack. Despite the fact that I don't own a gun let alone many guns to necessitate an entire rack.

12. Thanks, grandpa. "inhumanbagel."

300 dollars worth of nickels from my grandfather

13. Ha, "Halloween_Cake."

A f*cking calendar.

14. True fans, "lanams."

My best friends are twins. I went to their place that day and when I saw their room I almost cried. They designed the room for me office themed. Like the one jim and Dwight did. IT IS YOUR BIRTHDAY.

15. Sad, "AsWetAsWater."

A school supplies holder. From my college girlfriend. I was 23.... how exciting.... I think I had previously bought her a digital camera for her birthday. She was into photography. I was not into school supplies.

16. Protection is key, "netslaveone."

A cousin thought that it was hilarious to get me a 12 pack of condoms at my early 20s, in front of the entire family.

I wanted to die.

17. This wins, "bluehairedmommyof1."

For my 18th birthday my late mother gave me a meat tenderizing hammer tied to a balloon

It's not breaking news that being a parent is a serious challenge.

If you're raising a child with your partner, the main benefit is that you have someone to share the responsibilities. However, sometimes it's not always an equal split when it comes to childcare. We've become more progressive since the days when fathers would sit at a bar smoking cigars while their wives were in labor, but we still have a long way to go. Many fathers still think babies are a "woman's job," but when mothers have jobs as well, the workload can get too heavy.

When a recent Reddit user consulted "Am I the As*hole?" to ask the moral compass of the internet about a disagreement he got into with his friend about being a good father and husband, people were there to give him advice. Things can get pretty awkward when you have to judge or critique someone else's parenting method, but sometimes you don't have a choice...

AITA for laughing at my friend for being a bad dad?

So I'm playing poker with a few friends last night. Most of them are dads. We're all in our 30s.

This friend of mine has a 3 month old. He's a weird guy in general (I've known him forever, he's never been giving; ie, tipping 5% when we go out, asking to split the check with his girlfriends on their birthdays, etc). I should also say that he is semi-employed, sets his own hours, and works from home. Anyway, I ask him how fatherhood is treating him, and he said great.

I said, isn't it hard to get sleep with a newborn? And he said "my wife deals with night time. I sleep through the night." Another friend asked him what that meant -- he said "I need to sleep because I have work." And I said "but don't most dads help out at night?" and he said "I can't. I need to be rested for work" -- at this point, all the dads --- who have full time jobs, unlike my friend -- are laughing and saying things like "yeah, so do I. But I'm not sleeping!"

So I say "but isn't your wife kind of working all the time herself?" and he again says "I have to work in the morning" and I just break out laughing. Like I can't stop. He looks at me like "WTF" and I say "dude, you can't help your wife at night? Like change a diaper?" and then he seemed to get mad and said "I have to sleep to be ready to work in the morning!"

Anyway, am I the asshole for laughing at him? His wife is a little meek, so she'd definitely never say anything to him, but I'm kind of glad we all made fun of him for not helping his wife at night?

Later, the post was edited to include:

EDIT: they don't have an arrangement where he helps out during the day

Luckily, people were ready to help:

"Stompsie" wrote:

You should call him out on it more often so maybe he’ll change his ways.

"comiccanis" wrote:

it’s so outdated for men to act like they don’t need to help with a newborn baby. I think it’s awesome that another man called him out on it, especially among a group of dads who all agree. It’s extremely misogynistic to think the woman should handle all the tough parts of having a child. She should be able to get some sleep too, poor thing just pushed out a whole ass human being three months ago!!

"spongeyboio" wrote:

It's great that you called him out on his BS. Fathers like him should help out their wives in these kind of situations. Childcare isn't a one person job.

"Electric_Angel" wrote:

He kinda deserved to get made fun of if he's gonna be lazy like that. I hope he and his wife can start taking turns with the night shift. Especially since he can set his own hours. He could set them later in the day so he can help out his wife at night.

"Tesmarin" wrote:

that's a child raising a child right there. His poor wife...

So, there you have it! Parenting is a job that seriously benefits from a partnership and if you're not willing to work and support your partner then you need to step it up.

We hear a lot about people's "famous last words," but what about their last thoughts?

People were candid about what went through their heads and how they coped during moments in which they thought they were going to die. We're grateful they survived so they could share this with us.

1. ShardAnders almost drowned.

I was moments away from drowning at nine years old. I'd gotten to the stage of acceptance and overwhelming love and compassion. I accepted my fate, wished my family well and was ready to embrace death. Next thing I knew I was hacking up water at the side of the pool. No one helped me. No one got me out and I don't remember how I got there.

2. Cleverusername18 with a PSA:

Back in July I was riding my motorcycle and was turning into my driveway. A girl came from behind me around a sharp turn and T-boned me, she was going at least 60mph up until a couple seconds before impact when she hit her brakes. She hit me because she was either texting or dicking around with something in here car, either way she wasn't paying attention. I remember hearing tires screeching and seeing the car half a second before impact then everything went black. I broke the windshield with my head, broke the mirror with my hip, then landed face first on the road. I do remember being scared because I wasn't sure if there were more cars so adrenaline kicked in and I caught myself with my hands and knees and pushed myself to my feet to run off the road, that's where I regained my vision. The bike was totaled but thanks to my helmet and pure rage at being hit I managed to literally walk away with only a concussion, nasty bruises, and a deep bone bruise on my left foot, no broken bones at all. It's been ~8 months and I'm still recovering from the concussion, my toe barely hurts, and the leg that took the impact has a dent in the muscle but other than that I'm fine. If I wouldn't have been wearing a helmet then I have no doubt that I would be dead now, wear your damn helmets kids!

3. Patricyo666's adrenaline is powerful.

I got hit by a car and lost consciousness for a few seconds. I remember the moment I saw the car the moment I got hit and had a thousand thoughts going through my head. Like in a dream. And then there I am in the middle of the road, I woke up and ran to the side of it as fast as I could, little did I know I was running with a broken leg

4. ButImNotNice learned to walk again.

Hit a stopped car going over 65 mph. Spent 2 years in a wheelchair, 6 months of that was learning to walk again. Honestly thought I was going to die in the seconds before impact. I can still clearly see the people in the other car, the other traffic around us (car was stopped to turn on a highway with no middle turning lane). I was the only one injured though, and I'm still sort of grateful for that because I swear there was a kid in the backseat of the other car. (I wasn't the driver, front-seat passenger of a reckless driver).

5. cat_daddylambo had a gallbladder infection.

I was really sick when I was 12. Missed a whole semester of school. I was throwing up every day and had no energy. Doctors couldn't figure it out. Had test after test, visited specialist after specialist and nothing. All we did know is my liver wasn't functioning (I was pretty jaundiced) I was pretty sure I would die before we knew what was wrong. It's hard to explain but I came to terms with it. Like I was more comfortable with death as a concept when I was 12 than I am now at 25.

Turns out it was my gallbladder. They had checked it for gallstones early on but that wasn't the issue. My particular malfunction didn't show up on an ultrasound. The bile duct into my stomach didn't form correctly from birth and it was hindering complete bile drainage leading to sepsis in my gallbladder/liver. One surgery and two weeks bed rest and I was back to normal.

6. WitchyPixie couldn't find the right words.

I woke up in the morning to get ready for work, bent to tie my shoe, and when I stood back up the sight in my right eye was entirely gone. I did the usual thing of blinking and shaking my head a little, thinking maybe blood rushed to my head weird or whatever, but it wouldn't come back. I tried to explain to my partner that I was in trouble, but when I spoke the wrong words kept coming out. I don't remember exactly what I said, but I definitely said "tree" instead of "hospital" at one point.

I figured I was having a stroke or an aneurysm had ruptured, or something brain tumoury...who knows? Whatever the case I spent the entire ride to the hospital crying and telling my partner over and over that I loved him. It felt like I couldn't say it enough.

Turns out I was preparing for my first migraine (cluster headaches, I do not recommend them), and the migraine aura I get is blindness and aphasia because I'm a lucky girl like that I guess?

7. jess-jess-jesse got a divorce, and hopefully his ex got help.

Woke up immediately wide awake in the middle of the night without moving and the hair standing up on the back of my neck because my now-ex-wife was standing in our bedroom holding a large kitchen knife and staring at my feet. She had had a schizophrenic break a few months earlier and had started referring to me as "the enemy." I laid there without moving. She stood there for over an hour. Have no idea how long she was there before I woke up. Anyway, she leaves the room and comes back without the knife, gets into bed, and cuddles in little spoon style like she made a decision. Then she made me waffles for breakfast. Best believe I put on my best "oh wow, amazing wife. These waffles are yum" voice.

8. Cthulhu_Ferrigno and their friends all survived.

A couple friends and I were driving home from a birthday party and we got rear ended by a drunk driver who was going about 120. on impact all of the windows exploded and the tires caved inwards and we were going about 70 so there was a sort of slingshot effect that made us pick up some speed - we were just careening down the freeway with zero control. the car swerved around a bunch, almost hits another car and a pole and eventually rolled into an area just right of the shoulder. luckily it ended up back upright on the tires and somehow ended up facing the complete opposite direction we were initially going. we thought our friend in the backseat was dead but she was just unconscious and ended up having some pretty bad whiplash. my other friend and i were basically unharmed except for some cuts and bruises and just overall body ache for a little bit. this was in 2007 and i still think about pretty frequently, we all probably should've died for sure.

9. Pdawg311 worried about his wife finding his body.

This happened about 4-5 months ago. I was home alone eating steak tip kebabs for dinner. My wife was at work and due home in about an hour. I choked on one of the pieces of steak(chew thoroughly people).

At first I thought I just needed to swallow harder. Bad idea, as now it was firmly lodged in my throat. I tried coughing it up, punching myself in the stomach, and pulling it out with my hand, none of which helped. I then ran over to the kitchen and tried to wash it down with some water. The water just sat in a pool in my mouth, my throat was completely blocked.

At this point I contemplated calling 911, but I knew I'd be long dead before they'd arrive. The thought of my wife(we just celebrated our 1st anniversary and recently decided to start trying to conceive) coming home to find my dead body was by far the scariest part. I remember looking at my cats, but they just stared at me, confused at my odd behavior.

Eventually I reached what felt like my whole hand down my throat and pulled a chunk of the obstruction out. This loosened it enough to let me cough out the remainder. I was so close to passing out. Vomit everywhere. Total time in throat around 90 seconds. I couldn't talk for a day due to the physical trauma on my throat. Drove myself to the hospital. Cried in front of my wife when I saw her. The next few days were surreal. It was like I was living in an alternate timeline. I dont find choking gags in movies/tv amusing anymore. Still have mild PTSD about it.

10. mydogisamy is grateful they had a healthy baseline condition.

Caught Norovirus a few years ago. I didn't realize how bad it could be before it struck.

No fluids would stay in for more than a few seconds. I ended up really dehydrated almost overnight. Like if you pushed on my skin it would stay sunk. I couldn't move or any muscles would full cramp - legs, jaw, arms, abs - all of them.

I didn't think I would survive. At the very least thought my heart would cramp.

But I got over it after five or six days.

I can totally see how it kills old people though. If I was any less averagely healthy for an adult male, I'm sure I'd be dead.

11. Hopefully the pranksters got expelled, Ihaveaname314.

We had a lockdown at my school. Teacher didn't know what was going on. We heard a loud series of banging sounds as we huddled in the corner, and we all started texting our friends and family goodbye. I remember my mom sending me photos of our cat to try and help me stay calm, I can only imagine how terrifying it must have been for her. I really thought I was going to die. As it turned out there was no real threat, it was a stupid prank. I don't know what the banging sound was but it was probably chairs moving.

12. cumstar came to the right conclusion.

When I was in high school I ate a couple hits of acid and went body surfing while there was a hurricane off the coast. One wave would crash into me and as soon as I could recover from it and get my head above water there goes another wave sending me tumbling around in circles under water. Then there was the riptide to contend with. The last thing I remember was getting sucked out to sea and the lights from the beach getting further and further away.

I have no idea how I made it back to the beach, but when I woke up every muscle in my arms and legs felt like they were on fire and I was puking up what felt like 2 gallons of water. In retrospect, I think body surfing while tripping balls in a hurricane was a bad idea.

13. reds2032 was beyond their years.

I had an emotional trauma induced seizure (basically you brain stops and reboots) I had this feeling of fading into a warmth, I saw a warm yellow light at first but it all faded into a blackness. I remember thinking “I don’t know what’s happening but I think I’m about to die” i had a moment of reflection as I “fell”. I felt like I was being held by something calm telling me it may just be my time. I was 14.

14. K2 is not OK, BigMackDoublestack.

In 2009/2010, when all that K2 and Spice "incense" was really popular. I was in the Army at the time and couldn't risk smoking weed on the regular, so i puffed on some K2. Didn't feel anything immediately, so I started hitting it pretty hard. Felt pretty good for a bit, so I grabbed a beer and polished the pewter real quick but then the feeling turned. My heart started racing out of control, got really dizzy, followed by an insane headache and began to black out. Laid back on my futon/bed, staring at the ceiling fan, wondering if I would wake up.

Well, I woke up at 4:30 AM, feeling like crap and managed to drag myself into work. Fast forward 8 years in school and I learned that that shit was responsible for countless cardiac events among people my age.

I'll never forget how fast my heart was beating. Still feel like I dodged a bullet, and haven't really messed around with any substances since, other than the classics ;)

15. Thank you for your service, KaleyedoscopeVision.

Was ambushed by a bomb (IED) thrown off a bridge as we were driving under the underpass, completely disabled the first vehicle which caused the second to hit it at 45 mph (armored humvees). Suddenly I’m the only gunner conscious and we are in a firefight taking fire primarily from a partially constructed multi-story building.

It took everyone maybe 60-90 seconds to pull their shit together and get into the fight but that minute to minute and a half was the longest Ive ever lived. Fortunately another convoy was close by and responded to our call within 5 minutes.

16. Cizzlrcool worried about their parents.

Home invasion. Heard of the Golden State Killer? It was so close to that in how it happened (middle of the night, guy wakes us up, tied up my [girlfriend] and I), and the timing of when he operated, but in a different state. And yes, I am trying to see if it was the same guy but it’s hard to find police records from 30 years ago. I’m still working that.

Absolutely frightening event, and at one point I felt the pistol against my head when I yelled out. Oddly, it wasn’t like “ omg, I’m too young to die”, it was more “damn, my brother will likely have to tell my parents, they’re all gonna be wrecked by this”.

He ghosted right after that. I think me yelling scared the guy that our neighbors would wake up (it was in a street of duplexes, we were close to everyone). He left, we untied ourselves, called the police (after reconnecting the phone he disconnected) and started the next part of our lives. And yes, I know what PTSD is now too, I had to go through counseling so I could learn to fall asleep again.

If you have a job of any kind, there are two guarantees: 1) you will, at some point or another, make a mistake. 2) You will not be able to look your co-workers in the eyes after the office holiday party. Often, these two things overlap, but not always.

Everyone messes up at work—unless you're my boss reading this, in which case, I'm the one exception! Most work mistakes can be easily resolved and/or quickly forgotten about. But sometimes, messing up at work can have major consequences and the experience can haunt you for the rest of your life. If you've made this kind of work mistake, rest assured that you're not the only one.

A man named Steve Doherty asked Twitter this question: "What's the biggest mistake you've ever made at work?" and followed up with a few of his own mess-ups.

Loads of people are responding with their own stories of mortifying and disastrous work faux pas. Here are 35 stories that will make you feel better about the time you accidentally sent a NSFW text to your boss*:

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Is it a fair rule that nurses accept science and not spread propaganda that could impact public health?

A woman asked Reddit's "Am I The A**hole?" forum whether or not it would be a jerk mood to tell a hospital that one of their nurses has been sharing anti-vaxxer memes on Facebook.

xiledone wrote:

Long story short, an old boss of mine's wife is a floor nurse (LPN) at a local hospital. She's an avid anti-vaxxer , and shares the mis information over Facebook and will argue anyone left and right when they try to correct her. I know the hospital has a policy on them being able to use your Facebook as means for disciplinary action.

What I feel bad about is that she, to my knowledge, didn't share her view with patients, although she might or could have. I also feel bad that she could lose her job, but I feel that, as a nurse, you shouldn't be helping the misinformation, and be rightfully informed yourself.

While the nurse in question claims that her anti-science view doesn't affect her job, one could argue that enabling the spread of illnesses could fall under the Nightingale Pledge, aka the nurses' Hippocratic Oath.

The AITA (Am I The A**hole?) jury unanimously rules that the concerned citizen is NTA (Not the A**hole).

"Only had to read the title. NTA," Afroliam commented, garnering over 5,000 upvotes.

"This person shouldn’t be anywhere near to people struggling with health, who might be sick, desperate and weak. She is considered to be a medical professional, kind of expert for normal people," panlevap wrote. "No matter how big your city is, facebook isn’t your living room and whatever you post might spread as rodent reproduction. NTA, you would be if you don’t report her."

cupcakes_and_vodka shared the story of a nurse they know of who was said to let her conspiracy theories impact her treatment of patients:

NTA at all. A relative of mine is a nurse at a peds practice. There was a nurse who was anti Vax who pretended to give shots... Meaning she stuck the kids but never released the meds. She didn't get caught until another nurse had to help her with a difficult patient saw what she did. She told a nurse supervisor who unlocked the sharp box... And it had plenty of full syringes in it. The woman didn't even lie when she was busted and said she had done it for years.

The worst part? No one was told the truth. Parents received letters that there may have been issues with vaccines under a certain doctor for several years and kids would need them redone. They weren't told the truth. The nurse was fired but the hospital covered its a** to avoid lawsuits and lied about the whole situation.

So again, NTA because who knows how far someone with firm anti-vax beliefs is willing to go.

The verdict: you're not the a**hole if you harm the career of a healthcare provider who is doing harm despite pledging to Do No Harm.

One rule of the feared Wedding Industrial Complex is that bridesmaids have to put up with all kinds of expensive and demanding bullsh*t in the interest of pleasing/spoiling the bride-to-be. But even bridesmaids have a breaking point.

A bridesmaid took to Reddit's "Am I The A**hole?" forum to ask if she would be wrong to back out of being her future sister-in-law's bridesmaid after receiving a demanding and expensive list of "wedding duties" from the entitled bride.

To begin with, the 42-year-old sister-in-law says she "hates" being a bridesmaid but was guilted in to it by the 29-year-old bride-to-be:

I (42F) would like to back out of being a bridesmaid in my husband's sister's (29F) wedding. I hate being a bridesmaid. My sister-in-law asked me to be a bridesmaid knowing this. She said that otherwise I would be the only sibling in her family that wouldn't be in the wedding party and as my husband is a groomsman "people would talk" and that would distract from "her day". So, I agreed.

The bride then sent her a document listing her expensive, demanding and time-consuming wedding duties.

Cut to this week. She has sent me a document that includes my duties for the wedding. I have expressed that I am not willing/able to do this list. But, she insists that it is normal and I would be selfish to not make it perfect.

The bride's extensive list includes asking her sister-in-law, who is a professional designer, to design all of her wedding materials for free. She also expects her to spend thousands of dollars overall on festivities and attire, including items of clothing and accessories that would be uncomfortable and painful for her to wear.

Here's the full list:

• Design all of her invitations, programs, signage, website, etc. for free. I am a full-time professional designer. She also refuses to sign my pro-bono contract that stipulates things like number of revision rounds, licenses, etc. "because we are family." She did not ask me to do this. She said it would be "my special job". The other bridesmaids' "special jobs" are things like collecting and dropping off tuxes after the wedding.

• Drive to (6.5 hour drive) and pay for overnight accommodations for every event she has planned, including 2 wedding dress shopping weekends, a wedding planning weekend, bridal shower, dress fitting, a decoration weekend, and be in town for a full week before the wedding to assist her in "whatever comes up". Her other bridesmaids live less than 2 hours from her.

• Attend her destination bachelorette party for 6 days for $2400 (this cost covers me and a share of her expense so that she pays nothing).

• Purchase and wear a tube top dress (held up with only elastic bands above and below the bust) made of a single layer of lightweight fabric ($120). Problems: 1) I am a heavier, older woman who needs a G-cup supportive bra with straps. 2) Her wedding is outdoors in November in Wisconsin.

• Purchase and wear a bra, underwear, and robe set ($175) that she has picked out and wear it while getting ready and be photographed in it. The largest size is a size too small and am very uncomfortable about being photographed even if it is only for her "personal album".

• Purchase two pairs of shoes ($120) that she has picked out: heels for the ceremony and ballet flats for the reception. I get ingrown nails easily and so my podiatrist has told me not to wear these types of shoes that push down on my nails. My sister-in-law said that it would only be for a "few" hours (approx. 2PM-1AM) and so I should be able to deal with it.

• Purchase and wear a set of costume jewelry that she picked out ($50). I have a major allergy to most metals that make me break out in hives if worn for any period of time.

Bridezilla, in classic bridezilla fashion, is apparently unwilling to compromise on any of these demands.

Now her future sister-in-law wants to back out as bridesmaid, but she asked Reddit if she would be "the a**hole" for doing this since she already agreed to do it.

With her unwillingness to make any concessions, I would like to tell her I cannot be in the wedding. She already has (without me included) seven bridesmaids (all of which are between the ages of 20 and 29, BTW). WIBTA if I backed out even though I agreed to do it and it would mean being the only one not in the wedding party?

Good news for this sister-in-law: the internet is on her side.

Not only are commenters urging her to back out of the bridal party, they are calling this one of the worst cases of bridezilla behavior they've ever seen.

Ratchafratch writes:

"Design all of her invitations, programs, signage, website, etc. for free. I am a full-time professional designer."

Literally stopped reading right there. NTA.

Edit to say, ok I read the rest of it, HOLY LIVING MONSTER WHO ATE NEW YORK LEVEL BRIDEZILLA.

Of course you should back out, immediately if not sooner. If she wasn't your husband's sister I would suggest you send her the link to this AITA after everyone rules her a gigantic AH.

GeeWhiskers, a designer, agrees that the first item on the list alone is an absurd and ridiculous ask:

As a fellow designer, I know wedding design is a huge ask. It’s many hours if you’re lucky and it’s looking highly unlikely luck is on your side. I’m having visions of letterpress debossed invitations with an intricately die cut edge and silver foil, personalized for each invitee with artwork based on 3 Etsy shops, 2 bridal magazines and a Crane’s crest sample book. Nope nope nope. NTA.

brownbird8888 points out that a bridesmaid is not a "BridesSlave":

NTA. Sounds like your SIL wants you not so much as a bridesmaid but as a BridesSlave. She also wants to use you for your professional service that could potentially costs thousand of dollars, free of charge. Opt out asap.

bellePunk agrees, writing:

NTA Her demands are way over the top. Expecting you to design and print invitations for free? As your bridesmaids' duty? Tell her to pound sand.

Avelaide did math and points out that these demands would cost over $5000 which is INSANE:

I just added it up and this totals at least $5000. (I guesstimated that you might charge at least $1000 for all of the design stuff to an actual client, a minimum of $100 per night there, plus a bare minimum of $100 on gas for all that travel.)

If you wouldn't give someone a gift worth that much then you should be comfortable saying you won't spend that much on all this other crap.

I would politely explain that you're still happy to come as a guest but you can't afford to spend this much money. Have a list ready with everything she's asking for and all the costs, because you know she's going to argue about it.

Definitely talk to husband about it beforehand as well.

Keep that list of expenses handy for when she sends other family in to fight for her.

SalamanderDisco offers a suggestion for how she should back out:

NTA. "[29/F], I am your sister-in-law, not your slave. I love you, but I do not have the time, finances or patience to take on this job. You have (understandably) passed on signing my contract, so I will do the same for yours."

Then buy a supportive dress, strap on those orthotic shoes and get your popcorn ready for what is sure to be a highly entertaining wedding.

And Model3107 says this woman "would be the a**hole" to herself if she doesn't back out of this wedding:

YWBTA — to YOURSELF — if you do not back out of this wedding. Make a clean break immediately, weather the fallout now, and the cocktail you sip in quiet contemplation while wearing your own comfortable clothes, as everyone else is dealing with formal wedding pictures, will taste so good as you contemplate the hell that you avoided.

Many commenters think the husband should step in, since it's his sister who's behaving this way.

Clydefr0g8 writes:

NTA why is your husband not shielding you from this craziness? His sister is clearly just trying to use you for free help and to offset her expenses. Everything she is asking for is completely unreasonable. I would give your in laws/anyone else that she may complain to a heads up, then let her know you aren’t able to be a bridesmaid. You can lay it on thick if you want (“I know I won’t be able to meet your expectations of your special day, and it would absolutely kill me to disappoint you!”) as long as she knows the take away is you are not her bridesmaid. Prepare for her to throw a tantrum and just ignore her until she calms down.

And everyone seems to agree that nothing about this list is even close to "normal," as the bride insisted.

From tappytaps:

NTA

"But, she insists that it is normal"

This is not normal. None of it is normal. Not even close. Don't walk away from this...RUN!

I'm in my 40's and have been in a few weddings in my day... These are the "normal" things that were "required"

1. Buy a bridesmaid's dress of the brides choosing (and pay for alterations, if needed).

2. Purchase matching shoes for the dress.

3. Pay for hair/makeup/nails for the wedding day.

4. Make a reasonable contribution to a bridal shower and a bachelorette party (if the bride requests it) Reasonable meaning - something LOCAL and NOT costing thousands of dollars. Of all the weddings I was in, only one bride wanted a bachelorette party and it was a silly party at the home of one of the other bridesmaids and was a ton of fun. I think we each chipped in about $100 for everything.

In the divisive times we live in, it's beautiful to see the internet come together to agree on something: this bride-to-be is a raging a**hole and this woman needs to GTFO of this situation ASAP. United we stand against bridezillas.

The only thing stronger than a server's biceps and capacity to tolerate bullshit is their hearing. Waiters, servers and baristas hear everything—including your private conversations. And they have no reason not to spill your secrets to the other waitstaff and, if we're lucky, the internet. Just another reason to tip your servers, and tip them well.

Someone asked waiters/waitresses/baristas of Reddit: "what is the one conversation you overheard customers having and thought 'I shouldn’t have heard that'?" These 17 people who work in service share the wild customer conversations they weren't supposed to overhear:

1.) From jacobr1020:

I was eating at a restaurant one day and a boyfriend proposed to his girlfriend. It was very sweet, not attention-seeking at all, and seemed very genuine.

She started crying and said yes.

He grinned and said "April Fool!"

She. Was. PISSED!

2.) From TheHarbinger0030:

Working at a grocery store, windexing the deli case, when I hear "Well honey, I guess we're not taking home anything to eat except your p***y."

Took all i had not to turn and stare

3.) From SpacyCats:

Not quite the same, but I was selling a guy some concession items (popcorn, drink candy) and he looks me dead in the eyes as his wife and kids walks away and says:

"We're getting a divorce and this is our last night out together. This is probably the last time I'll see my kids"

I had no idea what to even say.

4.) From Psycho5554:

I was clearing some tables after a wedding, overheard the bride talking to the grooms mother. Trying to justify having cheated on the groom the night before (which seriously seems to happen way too often for both genders, wtf) The part that made it really bad is she kept trashing her now husband and his mothers trying to be as sweet as possible telling her its understandable and she stressed and all that, telling her to give it time. Part of me respects her calmness but seriously, she cheated on your son, don't tell her that's okay! I've seen it so many times before. But this left me livid.

5.) From dooidoo:

Back in high school I was a host for a small sushi restaurant. The host stand was about 2 yards away from the closest bar stool. On one particularly slow night a couple came in to sit at the bar for dinner.

After a happy hour large sake bomb, the woman was talking loud enough for me to hear. Her sister came up in their conversation and took a turn for the worse. She started accusing her husband of always looking at her sister a little too long and said her sister used her obnoxious laugh (?) whenever he was around.

I leave the host stand to do some work around the restaurant fast forward 10 min.

Now both the lady and man are visibly upset when he stands out of his chair and loudly for the whole other 4 people to hear “Yeah I think her sisters hot and I slept with her too” and stormed out. My manager just quickly gave the lady the bill even though she was sitting there crying. By far the most interesting night I had working there.

6.) From CptnClamHamr:

I work at a golf course. There is one coworker who is in her mid-20s. that always says she has no money. One night a bunch of golfers came and have a few drinks after their round. They are all in ther late 40s early 50s. Well I was pouring a drink near them. Then I heard one say her name. So I tuned into the conversation and heard the guy said he has slept with her to pay some of her Bill's. Then 3 out of the 5 golfers with a shocked look on their face said they did too. They all laughed and it was the most expensive sexual experience. Then one said I hope no one tells our wives Now everytime I see them come in with their wives and have to serve them. I feel so awkward. Sorry for being so long but thought this might be a good story.

7.) From Nightshade_Blossom:

Had one chick just came up to my coworker (M) and I (F) and told us about this dude she just fucked. Like down to the littlest detail.

When she left we looked at each other and were like what the hell was that. Never to speak of it again.

8.) From FreakyQuiche:

None of those jobs but in a restaurant last night I overheard a lady aged around 60 say the words “midget in a gimp mask” to those on her table.

9.) From tallestgorl:

I worked as a server a famous men's retreat/encampment and once heard two senators talking about buying their wives sex toys

10.) From bobsbountifulburgers:

If it wasn't for my horse, I wouldn't have spent that year in college

11.) From Wasabi_Lemon:

I work at a small cafe that has outdoor seats close to the counter. As I was collecting some dirty plates from a table, I hear these two elderly women talking to a younger woman about anal and other shit like that. What also sucked was that every time i went to clean a table, the elderly women were still talking about sexual stuff.

One of the things i can remember one of them saying word for word was "Trust me if he wanted to be a virgin he wouldn't have fucked you, now its time for you to cheat on him"

12.) From 1stviolinfangirl:

I work at a “tell-n-dine” diner at my city, it’s where you call in the food and I bring it out to you. Anyway. The phones are hooked up so that we can only take one call at a time. If someone doesn’t put up their phone completely, it won’t let us take someone else’s order. So these people didn’t put up they’re phone properly and weren’t fixing it. Before I went out to fix it for them, my coworker trying to connect to them through the line gets a funny look on her face and stifles a laugh. I go out, they hang up the phone and I come back to my coworker still making the face. I asked what was wrong and she told me that she heard the two on the other line making strange comments to each other, almost one sided and like they were talking to themselves. Here’s the thing, when I went to their table they both had Nintendo switches out and from what I surmised were probably playing super smash bros. So my coworker was hearing the comments they were making while fighting each other.

13.) From Hazardous_Ed:

Once worked as a waiter. I was clearing a table when I heard the following from a table behind me. "Ok, we'll need assault rifles, sidearms, machetes, and full gear. Don't forget four full clips for each weapon" (roughly, been a few years)

That got me curious. I turned to see four guys in military uniform sitting at the table.

14.) From Yriel:

A father talking to his daughter and trying to teach her about human empathy and other people's emotions and right to exist.

15.) From drunkinabookstore:

I was once on the bar at a restaurant I worked in and overheard a woman bragging to her friend how she'd slept with another friend's husband like two hours before the wedding.

16.) From raptor-claw_98:

I was passed by a group of old gents and ladies (65+ from the looks of it) and they were openly discussing what porn they watch... in downtown on a weekend. Just casually, and loudly, discussing it out in the open

17.) From Limp_Distribution:

Not any of those jobs but a chauffeur and I overheard this wonderful line.

“We can get the executives another $100 million but we’ll have to throw the employees under a bus.”

Almost stopped the car right then but had rent to pay.

Even if it's been years since you believed that men had cooties, sometimes it's difficult to understand what is going through the minds of members of the opposite sex.

A Reddit thread asked men, "what’s the hardest thing to explain to women?" and it provides valuable insights.

When dudes say they're just spacing out, believe them.

1. Slowjams reveal that men don't reveal much to their friends.

I think women tend to share more of this stuff with each other. What's going on in their relationships, career, etc. While guys tend to not share this kind of stuff with each other so often. We will every now and then. But a lot of time we tend to kind of keep things on the surface.

I've just had so many of these kind of conversations.

"So how's Jeff doing"

He's doing well

"Is he still going out with Amanda?"

I actually don't know

"Well didn't you guys hangout all day?"

Yea

"What did you talk about?"

Nothing really, just kind of whatever

"Isn't he your friend?"

One of my best friends

2. Seriously, what do you dudes talk about, Freeiheit?

That we don’t know every detail about everyone else in my life. When I mention I hung out with someone my mom will ask my what their wife does for a living and can’t understand that it didn’t come up in conversation.

3. CN4President says there are things only penis-havers understand.

I have to constantly explain to my wife why my 2 year old son is obsessed with his penis. I have to explain why he always wants to touch it and grab it when his diaper is off. She will never understand why our baby and his father share this habit.

4. Don't take Juustopurkeri's erections personally.

You can pop a boner without being aroused. You can get a boner even when you are nervous.

5. Bottleup3 is out to lunch.

It’s not that we’re hiding things or we don’t want to talk to you, but we actually ARE just thinking of nothing in particular sometimes.

6. Believe Zenith2012 when he says that you're beautiful!

When you say "does this outfit look OK?" and we say "yes, you look stunning" and you reply "well, you WOULD say that", half my brain thinks "please believe me because you do look stunning" and the other half thinks "wtf did you ask me for if you aren't going to believe me?"

7. AfterAgent describes men like they're episodes of Seinfeld.

that men can sit for hours talking and talk about nothing

8. Rollthembones1989 doesn't have a preference on the matter.

When we say we don't care, we really don't care. Yes we can have an opinion on something, but when we say we don't care that means our opinion isn't strong enough to sway us either way on something.

9. Ball is life, LukeTheGroundwalker.

As much as were seen as sex crazed pigs we talk so little about women when we get together for drinks or something like that...and when we do the topic doesn't last long...literally cant even remember when was the last time me and my best bud talked about women, were both single too. Just usually talking about our old friends from school and what they're doing, cars, our jobs, sport, or politics occasionally.

10. Deepseadivin isn't mad, you're mad.

That just because I'm quiet in your presence doesn't mean I'm upset. Just means I'm either tired, don't have anything to say, or I'm thinking about something.

11. Just because JordanStPatrick doesn't mean he knows fashion.

From a gay dude's perspective, probably explaining that my sexuality doesn't mean i'm an expert on women's beauty stuff.

I'll go shopping with you and give you my opinion on outfits, but I'm not some Paris fashion wizard because I get naked with other men. Speaking of which, I can do drag makeup. No, Cindy. That does not mean I'll do your makeup. Why? It's Drag makeup, you will look like a clown fucked a real housewife. Is that what you want, Cindy?

12. Racing_in_the_street cares about the hairs.

That just because I’m a guy doesn’t mean I don’t care.

I’ve had women talk to me about guys losing their hair “he’s a guy so he doesn’t care! “ I know a lot of guys who hate being bald or the fact that they are balding and their hair is thinning and hairline is receding! This idea that we don’t care about our looks because we are guys is ridiculous.

13. KingProMemo123 has feelings, too.

We're still a human so that's mean We have feelings too

So please take care when choosing your words when you're arguing with us.

14. Good one, IceColdPhoenixX.

How much compliments mean to us. It’s a different type of happy when a guy gets complimented.

15. Ouch, Reddits_For_NBA.

The feeling of getting kicked in the nuts or straight up right in the shaft that immobilizes you and leaves you in fetal position with the feeling of needing to throw up while at the same time having sharp radiating pain from your a**hole through your neck.

16. Masturbation is a matter of life and death, says STK1369.

If I don't jerk off, I can't think straight. I'll end up doing something stupid like invade Poland, start a megachurch, or buy a timeshare.

17. MyCatIsAnA**hole_ sums up fraternities:

Bro culture. Women just have different relationships with their friends than men do, and it's hard to describe in rational terms how men's friendships work. We harass each other, and are usually obnoxious, but would also break our backs for our bros that we tease relentlessly.

"I've suffered a great many catastrophes in my life. Most of them never happened."

-Mark Twain

If you have anxiety, congratulations, so does everyone who's not a total psychopath. The world is a nightmare. While anxiety itself isn't very funny, these memes are. Sometimes having a sense of humor about your mental state is just the kind of self care you need. Hang in there, take some deep breaths, and enjoy these hilarious memes.

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Coronavirus is really no laughing matter, but making fun of the things we're afraid of makes them seem less scary somehow. I'm sure the Bubonic Plague would've had some pretty "sick" memes if there was internet back in the middle ages. So everyone please, stay healthy, coat your entire body in hand sanitizer, and get ready to laugh at these ridiculous memes.

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No matter how hard we try to understand each other, there are certain things men and women have a hard time grasping when it comes to going through life as a different gender or sex.

Yesterday, the men of the internet had their turn explaining what women might not fully grasp about life as a male. And now women are at it.

"Women of Reddit, what's the hardest thing to explain to a man?" asked a recent Reddit post. Here are the most illuminating answers.

1. Menstruation is a big one.

The feeling of your uterus shedding it’s skin inside of you. - LoisLaneEL

Best description I can give is to imagine something living inside of you, just between your genetalia and belly button, that is carving into you with a knife. Then also, you get bloated, you get acne, you get super emotional, and you still have to go to work - envy313

2. Why does no man understand this?

When we say something feels good that means dont freaking change it.

Dont go faster, dont try to add more, just keep it at the same. - Wateringthejellyfish

3. That photo of your shlong is not a turn-on, no matter how well lit.

I don't think most women admire d*cks as much as men admire breasts. It's just not an attractive part of a male (not for me, anyway). They're very useful, but I'd rather see his face, his muscles, his legs, his butt... - ImaboomerandImOK

4. Women aren't as naturally social as many men think.

Not all of us are these naturally social creatures with 5-6 friends in a group text and a large support circle of acquaintances, family, and DM lurkers. At least some of us are alone and lack friends. I mean, I’m assuming. Maybe I’m the only loser lol. - publius-esquire

5. Women can be just as lonely as men.

I never understood the Reddit comments from men talking about how they lack this emotion support structure that they assume that all women magically have. - AbsurdityPersonified

6. Attractive women aren't the masters of the universe some men seem to think.

Also, being seen as attractive does not necessarily raise your sense of self-worth. It’s an odd contradiction, as we’re implicitly told to look attractive from a young age, so you’d think achieving that goal would make you very happy, and in ads beautiful people all live happy lives. [...] The way you look on the outside changes nothing about how you feel about yourself. - PubliusEsquire

7. "Sex and the City" is just a TV show, not a blueprint for female friend groups.

That not all women discuss you behind your back with their friends and put you down or share your secrets. If I love you, I'm your biggest fan and want to keep the personal stuff between us only. If you shared personal things and confided to me, it stays with me. If your ex did that doesn't mean I would, you obviously mean more to me! - StormzysMum

8. Being a woman can mean cursing your body from time to time.

What it’s like for your body to betray you constantly. It’s hard to explain how my body doesn’t feel like mine anymore but it bleeds and hurts and makes me emotional against my will. When I first learned this would be my reality for my entire adult life I felt a deep devastation and betrayal, which is a feeling I don’t think most men have felt. - Vamand

9. Women are often conditioned to pretend everything is fine at all costs.

“Why do women say they’re fine when they’re not?” Because a lot of us have been raised to keep our needs to ourselves and to not be “needy” or “a nag”. - profaneflying

10. If a woman says she's getting a creepy vibe from a man, don't dismiss her.

Women are taught to always be nice and put our needs at the bottom of the list. Including that of safety and comfort.

Which is one reason why men often don't see the red flags for a predator that we do. Because we've already shut up and given the benefit of the doubt so many times and experienced the escalation that comes from a predator feeling comfortable enough to push further.

So we often see it coming a mile off, while the men in our lives who should care, dismisses it as being too sensitive. - Delicious-Shame

11. And god help you if you're a grown man who still says this to women.

It's not 'that time of the month' everytime we're feeling nervous/sad/anxious ... - emsfrwlwn

12. We aren't Disney princesses.

That we're just people, like you. We're not mysterious, soft creatures. We're not an endless fountain of emotional nurturing, in fact, many of us are just as bad at expressing our emotions or comforting people as you are. - graychl

13. We have a right to shut you down if you won't leave us alone.

Not all attention is flattering - Obsesswithjess00

14. A lot of situations that are commonplace for men are scary for us.

The feeling of being always scared.

Scared at night

Scared in a 1-1 meeting with a male college who is angry

Scared of standing up against sexual harassment

Scared of being called a liar if you call somebody out on there shit or being told “it was just a joke”

Scared with tradies in your house when you’re alone

Scared of the guy on the bus talking to you while staring at anything but your face

Scared on being in a taxi or Uber alone

Just the general feeling that it’s never safe. I live in a safe suburb in a relatively safe city in a relatively safe country. Yet we are always on high alert. - littlehungrygiraffe

15. You don't always have to provide a solution to our problems. Just let us talk.

Sometimes we just want to emote and share our feelings; we don't necessarily need a solution, we just need to have someone empathize with us to make us feel more validated. - tommygunz007

It's rare to see gigantic families with lots of kids these days — well, unless you're a big fan of "19 Kids and Counting."

One man is asking for advice online after he called out his brother for Duggar-like tendencies. The bro has a whopping 12 children, with one — or maybe even more! — on the way. Their family already seems stressed to the breaking point, so the brother couldn't help but react with shock. Now he's wondering if he was too harsh.

The man's older brother is the super-dad with a dozen kids:

Okay, so, long story. I am one of four kids, the second to last. My older brother, M, got married fairly young to his wife, J. They were pregnant pretty quickly after the wedding and had their first kid. In the years following they have had - wait for it - TWELVE kids since. Yes. 12.

The kids are currently aged 14, 13, 12, 12, 10, 8, 7, 6, 5, and then the current youngest are 3 year old triplets.

Three-year-old triplets?! I'm tired, y'all.

Anyway, M and J were over at our parents place, where we all get together once a month without the kids. The older grandkids usually band together and watch the younger ones, watch movies, play games, etc.

After eating, M announced they were pregnant again, with #13. My older sister made a joke about hoping it wasn’t quadruplets this time, as she’s had a set of twins and the triplets. They laughed.

After Superdad and his wife announced their pregnancy, the man couldn't hold in his shock:

I’d had a bit to drink at this point, and without thinking said something like “jeeze you guys are rabbits aren’t you? When do you even find the time to do it?”

Cue the awkward glances, a little chuckle from my younger brother. M and J looked awkward.

Instead of backtracking after an awkward silence, eh doubled down:

Eventually, older sis said something about the comment, and I just kind of kept going with it? I doubled down, and was basically like “well, I mean, how many is too many? How are you even taking care of all of them? There’s a magical thing called birth control now, you know” And looking at it now, that’s none of my business, really, but her pregnancies have been increasingly more difficult with every baby, and they ask for help with the younger ones frequently, to the point where if M is working, J will usually have at least one of the older kids at her house helping out. She’s even kept her oldest four home from school when she needed help with the triplets.

Now he's wondering if he was wrong to speak up.

So tell me, [am I the a-hole]? A lot of it is really none of my business, but like I said, how many is too many?

Most people agree his statement was harsh but fair.

A user named shaggylocks says the guy's a butthead, but it's understandable:

I mean, honestly, you're probably the a-hole since it is none of your business, but I really can't blame you one bit. Geez, guys, you know what's a lot easier and cheaper than another kid? A vasectomy. I'm honestly impressed you were able to hold out until lucky number 13 to say anything to them.

"Everyone sucks here," mongooses said:

You could have had more tact.

Your brother is more of an a-hole, because keeping kids out of school to help care for siblings is not OK! They are children, not co-parents.

Most people are just like, 13 kids? In this economy? Says SlayingAces:

They're a part of the overpopulation issue anyways. I mean, if you think about it, 12 kids? is he seriously so bad in bed he cant pull out? he cant use a condom? they cant use birth control? they can't do all 3? If they're going to you for help, and the older siblings are being hindered in school, then they're TA.

But many agree that it would make sense to step in and ask the brother and sister-in-law to stop expecting their older kids to co-parent:

It really isn't your place to comment, but if they're keeping their children from going to school that really isn't fair to the other children.

So the verdict is: OP is kind of rude, but no one can blame him.

Now let's just pray this couple doesn't have another set of triplets.

The best part of waking up is a meme list on your phone. I'm not sure if that's going to catch on like the Folgers song, but still, it's pretty dang sweet to have so many funny memes right at your fingertips. Technology is awesome sometimes.

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Get ready for your favorite TV shows to be ruined forever...

Jimmy Fallon, host of "The Tonight show" and king of clever hashtags, introduced the #AddAWordRuinATVShow challenge to Twitter and creative minds everywhere definitely delivered.

Sometimes, Twitter isn't all trolls who live in their mom's basements and people who can't understand nuance or satire--there are lots of smart and funny people on there too! Rejoice!

Here are some of the funniest show titles destroyed instantly by as single word...

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Crushes are called "crushes" because more often than not, they crush your soul and your spirit.

People on Reddit shared the most uncomfortable, cringe-inducing interactions they've had with people who tickled their fancy, and they're even more awkward than the phrase "tickled their fancy."

1. Shall I compare thee to a summer's day, linoodl?

We were messaging about the homework in our class when he asked for my opinion on a poem he wrote for his crush. I had some hope that it was me and this was gonna be a cute way for him to tell me. Nope. It was actually a poem for his crush and he used her name in it. I said it was good even though it kinda hurt inside.

2. MagicJasoni did her a favor.

Finally asked a girl out, and she eagerly accepted. About halfway through the date, she turns to me and says: you know what? I've decided to stay with my fiancé.

3. RallyCow's story has a happy ending.

Seniors in high school. He's tall, dark, and handsome, slightly moodly. I'm the aggressively friendly soprano. After a fun day together at a choral festival (he was stage crew), he gave me his number.

Called the next day. We spoke for hours. He brought up that he and his dad had moved here from FL.

Me: oh, really? I always thought the kids would go with the mom in a divorce.

Him: they're not divorced.

Me: (incredulous) what, is she dead?

Him:......... Yeah.

I, too, died right then and there. I tried desperately to salvage the call, but ended up figuring I'd never see him again. Saw him the next day at school. He smiled and patted me on the head saying, "I get it. You had no way to know. We're good."

Married for 20 years now.

4. So does eggedshrek6's story.

My most awkward moment with my crush was when she asked to borrow my ruler for a project since there was no extras beside my extra ruler. Then she asked why there was a mark at 5 inches on it, so i had to explain to her and we got detention. But im in college now and my then crush is now my fiancee.

5. It wasn't meant to be, realme857.

We were at her place, she's sitting on the couch and her purse is next to her. I grab her purse to move it so I can sit next to her and then some tampons fall out. She quickly gets up and puts them away, I've never seen her move so fast before.

Now she's not my wife.

6. Ouch, calteg.

Got paired with the uber-hot cheerleader for a chemistry project. I started tapping my pencil against the top of the desk due to nerves, somehow it flew out of my hand, hit eraser first, then ricocheted into her eye. She had to go to the nurse and hated my guts, all without me saying a single word.

7. Throwaway24february wasn't psyched.

when i was 13 my crush asked me out via Facebook and then said "sike lol". i laughed with him at the time but that shit hurt

8. NastyLittleCuss had a nasty little moment.

Back in High School - I was talking to my crush out in the lunch court, and a bird shat on my face. :(

9. Milkarius meant well.

Was going home chatting with a girl I had a crush on, but hadn't seen her for a while. She told me she lost some weight, so I complimented her! Nice job! Then it hit me that she struggled with anorexia, which was the reason she was gone for a while (in therapy)... I wanted to sink in the ground.

10. Bloody hell, -eDgAR-.

I had a huge crush on this girl, thought she was really cool and I loved her art and I couldn't believe she said said yes. We went to the zoo because it was free and we were just broke teenagers and we had a blast. Afterwards we went to grab some food at this place before having to split off to go home.

Our trains were heading in the opposite directions and the entrances were across the street from each other, so I walked with her to her side to say goodbye. I closed my eyes and awkwardly leaned in to give her a kiss goodbye, and she went in more for a hug. I ended up headbutting her in the face and her nose started bleeding. I was so embarassed and didn't know what to say, so I just asked, "Are you okay?" She replied, "I think so." Still not knowing what to do I just said, "Okay, bye!" and then ran across the street to catch my train.

It was so painfully awkward and embarrassing, I avoided her for weeks after that.

11. Cake would never hurt you like that, WingnuT76.

Back in my teens when after going out for a while, one evening I blurted out that I loved her.

She told me that fat people love cake and look at where that gets them...

12. Yung_Kovacs is dating a method actor.

We’re both actors. They’re was a part in the play where she was supposed to pretend to kick me in the balls. She didn’t pretend. She was very apologetic after and we are now dating.

13. louisianimal96 is a tickle monster.

When I was in 3rd grade i tried to pop up from behind and tickle my crush...she turned around & said “hey wtf” ......I just stared at my hands.

14. Weird flex but okay, SkylineSam.

I was 9, I covered my face in water to make it look like I was sweaty and tough, walked up to her and said:

“Look how much I sweated”

Not my finest moment.

15. crjustice25 isn't the sportiest.

One time as a kid, I decided to go play basketball with this boy I had a crush on, and let me tell you I am NO good at sports. I took the ball to the wrong end of the court, and scored in the wrong hoop. The whole team was mad, and I'm sure they all thought I was an idiot. It hurt all the more to see the disgust on his face. I left the court in shame. This memory still haunts me.

16. DaRealEbonyQueen was Catfished before the internet even existed.

1983. 9th grade. Huge crush on a boy I met in my English class. Got a letter from him saying that I was sweet and kind and he would like to get to know me better. I was on the moon. Later that week, asked him when he’d like to hang out and talk.

He gave me a blank stare.

Showed him the note.

He didn’t write it.

17. SatoshiUSA has millennial problems.

I was a creepy freshman and took a picture of her when she wasn't looking. My stupid a** posted it on Instagram and TAGGED her. It was a private account but still.

Instagram hashtags have made it infinitely easier for people to share wedding photos. Now instead of scouring your friends' social media accounts to see their shots from your wedding day, couples can pick a pithy hashtag and have everything from professional photography shots to drunken selfies in one place.

While you can always go basic and merely combine the last names, some of the most memorable hashtags use wordplay or even include a double entendre. However, if your name is already a double entendre the options are immediately going to tread into NSFW waters.

While trying to find the best hashtag for his upcoming wedding, Tyler Dick's fiance Allison Harned urged him to plug his name into of those wedding hashtag generators, and the results quickly went viral.

Since "dick" is already a loaded last name, the algorithm was quick to create hashtags that would make more sense for Porn Hub than a wedding.

Needless to say, the generator gave them plenty of ideas, none of which were suitable.

With contenders ranging from "can't get enough dick" to "falling in dick" it's clear the Dicks are not be lacking in options.

Originally, Tyler planned to only share the results with his close friends, but after he initially posted in on Facebook he was asked to make the post public so the world at large could bask in his potential wedding hashtags.

While a lot of these would make for pearl clutching wedding hashtags, plenty could serve as Fox sitcom titles ala 2007.

Tyler shared pages upon pages of potential hashtags, none of which have been picked right now, but all of which would cause a splash.

From now on "to have and to dick" should be added to all wedding vows.

"Wedding bells for dick" sounds like it could be a smut erotica about Fabio lounging on a beach, eventually seducing a woman on vacation.

The post has been shared over 22,000 times, and people have been actively arguing over which hashtag should be chosen.

The discussion not only brought people out to share claim their favorite dick jokes, but also inspired a woman about to marry into the "hose family" to share her potential hashtags.

Needless to say, whatever hashtag they pick will surely be easy to remember for everyone who attends.

Every mom has a limit to how much she can and will tolerate from her kids. And every kid will push their mom to that limit, and beyond, again, and again, and again. And again. I don't have kids but based on what I've read and heard online, kids are the world's cutest and most lovable torture devices. How do moms survive? Having a sense of humor seems to help.

Here are 33 hilarious tweets from moms who've managed to spin the challenges of parenthood in to internet gold:

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